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I have no suggestions for the situation on hand. However, if you get a chance, pick up this month's copy of National Geographic. The main article is on the "Science of the Teenage Brain." I found it very interesting, and Zep's situation makes me think of some of the points from the article.

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA I have used references to that movie for years to describe some peoples desire to be in that perfect little world. I've never heard of it. I'll have to check it out.

I think it's a good idea; the benefits out weigh the risks. Hep C is another good one. We paid out of pocket for that one for our kids many years ago. I think insurance covers that now. I don't agree. I don't think the shots prevent against enough of the strains to make it effective in preventing contraction of the virus. Most people who are sexually active will contract the virus at some point. However, while many people likely contract the virus, most never even know it, since your immune system typically gets rid of the lower risk strains within a few years.

ME, Ill be the arbiter I guess it's a good thing I'm already married then. I probably wouldn't have passed.

30 day trial period. You don;t like it, return it. Shouldn't the trial period be the relationship BEFORE marriage? Isn't that was dating is about? Maybe instead of having a 2 year expiration on marriages it would be a better idea to have terms on how long you have to be together before you can get married, and likewise, living together should be a requirement. That's when you really get to know someone. I 100% agree with the first statement. However the rest, not so much. I would've been pretty pissed if I was told I couldn't get married because I hadn't been with my spouse long enough, or because we hadn't lived together first. Who gets to determine how long is long enough? And what about those who aren't comfortable with moving in together before getting married? Yeah, it sucks that people are abusing the institution of marriage, but it isn't our place to determine who can and can't get married. I do think it should be harder to get divorced, but that's just me. I think people give up on marriage too easily.

Um, CONGRATS!!!! It feels like you guys just had your first. (Yeah, I'm talking like I've actually met you in person, deal with it ) Okay, I'm done with the thread jack. We just celebrated our first anniversary. I have no intention of ever being divorced. I think a lot of people give up too easily.

I love it. Great comparison. Glitch, if you trust your friends to take care of her, I agree 100% with everyone else who said yes.

LOVE your story, Squeak

A friend invited me along, and it was something I always wanted to do. I have to say, though, it isn't necessarily skydiving that makes me happy to be a part of this community. It's the people.

Ahhhhh. He does look like Shah!!!

Not only good for her for saying no, but good for her for taking action!

+1 Being "just friends," is a choice. Whazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzup?? Did you seriously just say that to your sister?!?!?!?!?!?! Whole new level of EEEEEWWWWWW. Agreed.

You must be totally different in real life from your online personna. I was thinking the same thing. I was in the airport a few days ago waiting in the obnoxious line to check-in, and I saw a couple and their young daughter. After observing him for awhile, I seriously thought "Shah must be a total troll, he's not single at all!" This man resembled you just the slightest bit, and had a general attitude of "I'm better than you" (but please tell me you aren't cocky enough to wear white faux alligator skin boots with a matching European carry-all ). His wife was stunning, as was his daughter, but he was completely controlling of his wife's actions. Anytime she would go to do something or interact with the airport employees, he would completely cut her off and redirect her; barely even let her pick her own seat in the boarding area. Anyways, I'm sure the dynamics of their relationship work for them, and you really aren't as much as an ass as you come across on here. However, watching that couple and being reminded of you entertained me for a little bit in the middle of a pretty shitty travel experience.

+1 Being "just friends," is a choice.

Wow, compared to the $300 we spent for 1.5 hours of electrical work on our minivan? We should've flown your mechanic over. That was after $500+ replacing misdiagnosed parts that were just fine. Our car seats are okay. But some of those skanky fabric chairs in the control room? Yeeeech! I had to swap mine out last night 'cause of the smell in it. Nothing like fear sweat to stink up the room. Found out today that he's not even the cheapest guy in the area. Also found out that these guy know nothing of newer or American made cars, so that will keep us from buying a forever car while we're here. And, yummy , you should bring fabreeze to work with you!

I love leather seats. My next new vehicle will have air conditioned seats. I don't care if it has four wheels, as long as it has A/C seats. My dad bought a new truck last year. Nobody told me that it had A/C seats the first time I rode in it. That was an extremely bizarre feeling.

+1

Very good point, and repair prices are going way up. A coworker's Escalade is costing $700+ for a speedometer replacement. jeez. Yeah, I don't want to leave Korea... Our hoppdie had an electrical problem that was affecting the power windows and A/C. Cost us a whopping $100 for the guy to chase wires for three hours and fix the problem. And I'm with the OP, I want leather seats (and I'm from the south). I hate the way cloth seats smell after a few months to a year of owning the car. The trick is to go for the tan leather, not black, and to keep a towel handy on sunny/hot days.

Perhaps you should get a part-time job. Most DZs need a little slave labor, too!

Yeah dont get that at all, I would never think of "keeping track" or my wifes spending. to enter into a relationship with this as a concern, to me means there's already a communication issue I, too don't understand the "keeping track of". Mike and I have only joint accounts which we have equal access to. We don't differentiate "his and her money". But, we each have different management of some of the accounts. For instance, Mike manages the acct. that paychecks are deposited into and bills get paid from. I manage the acct. which gets X dollars a month for gas, groceries, and going out, and goofing off. When he was active duty and gone all the time, I managed all the money. I guess the important thing is if you are both comfortable with whatever system you work out, no one should tell you that you are wrong. We might not understand it, but as long as one partner isn't using money as a power play in a marriage, who are the rest of us to criticize? eta: I guess i don't understand how committed you are to each other if you keep your assets separate. Unless you have dependent children from a previous marriage/relationship. My sis-in-law has a handicapped son who will never be independent. She made sure his care will be taken care of if something happens to her. Then she remarried (they lived together for over a dozen years), so even that reason can be legally worked out. It's possible he didn't mean "I have to track when she spends MY money!" We operate out of separate (but joint) accounts, so that it's easier to track who spent what. For us, it's not to keep a tally, but to spot fraud quicker. But I could be wrong, and Dave could've meant it like it's coming across.

Yeah.....first date....rock climbing....drinks and aaahh.....well I dont' kiss and tell. But i was pissed she was wearing granny panties! Need to teach that girl a lesson about undies! Either go commando....or go thong! If the date involved rock climbing, why in the world would you expect her to go commando or thong??? Most women don't want those below her to see all her goods while on a rock face. But I'm glad you had a good time

Me, too

+1 OP, it's not our place to judge your situation. We don't know either of your experiences, beliefs, etc. If you legitimately like this woman, then treat her with respect and go for it. You WILL receive shit for this; just expect it, and brush it off.

Funny ... I was just contemplating starting a thread about this; I keep meeting people (i.e. guys) that have somehow "lost" their wedding rings. A skydiver friend explained this to me with a succinct sentence: “skydiving men are cheating bastards … while skydiving women are attention whores” . O WOW.

I'm guilty of losing a necklace on a jump. Never had any issues with it before that jump, but I forgot to take off a ring and didn't realize it til we were in the plane. Stuck it on the necklace, and lost it all. That was a sad day, but I certainly learned my lesson. Glad the girl found her necklace. Hope this guy/gal come looking for his/her ring!