aprilcat 0 #1 June 7, 2004 Another spill-over from the Women's Forum and my own Private-Idaho...once I break up with a guy I see them 'different' and can't 'repeat'. I'm friends with MOST of my exes (cept the hubby)... but really... Personally, I feel its better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all...THEN if they try to say 'oops' and come back... you burn down their village~~April P.S. BLEAH!!! Camelot II, the Electric Boogaloo! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NightJumper 0 #2 June 7, 2004 QuotePersonally, I feel its better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all... I agree because the way I view it is that you didn't loose anything but gained a wonderful love for that time that will forever be part of you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
akarunway 1 #3 June 7, 2004 Fuck them ho'sI hold it true, whate'er befall; I feel it, when I sorrow most; 'Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #4 June 7, 2004 I voted "loved and lost" because each love, even if it doesn't work out, teaches you something, so when you do finally meet the right person, you know what you want, and you know what not to do. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
seekfun 0 #5 June 7, 2004 It is always better to have loved and lost than to never have loved. When we love and lose, we learn two thing: 1. We learn more about what we need out of a relationship 2. We learn more about what others need from us And, hopefully there are more positive things to reflect upon than negative ones. Kelly and I loved and lost. I wouldn't trade the time for anything. My memories of her / us are treasures. But, now, I'm better prepared to find what I need to be happy. - topher "...there is a there out there..." - Tom Robbins Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #6 June 7, 2004 Losing at love teaches me how dumb i was for thinking it would work. Like what the F@Q was i thinking ? Reminds me that being in a "love daze" can be real...... Real stupid. If you are in love now, take a step back and ask yourself "is this how I want to spend the rest of my life ? Being single is better than being in a living hell or disfunctional relationship.And it is not better to love and lose if your heart is gets scarred so bad that you think love will never happen again. Be wise with your love. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #7 June 7, 2004 It's definitely better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Despite perhaps having a broken heart every once in a blue moon due to a relationship not working, I do not regret having loved totally and completely with all my heart. At least, I have known and shared some beautiful, intimate experiences. I have felt totally alive and experienced my emotions to the fullest. For the most part, I have amazing memories of men who have shared themselves and their love with me and who gave me their heart as willingly as I gave mine. What can be more beautiful and more rewarding than loving someone? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #8 June 7, 2004 Instead of loving and losing, why not save yourself for "the perfect one" who will make your life perfect and never-ever hurt you? The Backstreet Boys songs, and most fairytales, are about that person so expect a short waiting period during the search. Hopefully, they will like your cat also. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tinkerbelle 5 #9 June 7, 2004 I have trouble with this one 'cause the one true love in my life, Shawn Gloyer, the pilot of the King Air in Hawaii, died and left me broken hearted. I have tried to love since, but no one will ever compare to my Shawn. So having loved him essentially left me a widow at 30, and ensured I would never be as happy with another man. I still talk about him all the time, which drives the men I have loved since crazy, 'cause they just can't compete with a dead guy. No one will ever measure up, so whomever I am with will never be as good as the true love of my life. And I will always wish I was with my Shawn instead. I also loved a couple men before Shawn, but lost track of them while pursuing my education. They have both since gotten married and had kids, so I can't have them either. Had I never been in love, I wouldn't know what I was missing so I would still be happy with my little black book I had in college, always feeling that a boyfriend was just a waste of time and got in the way of my exploring life 'cause not as many doors open for a guy and a girl as easily as they open for just a single girl. I used to be happy alone, now I pine for my lost loves. All that other stuff sounds great, but I honestly think I would have been better off had I not experienced the exstacy of true love 'cause now I wouldn't miss it so much! Tink Rehab is for quitters. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #10 June 7, 2004 I tend to go back and forth on this. I'm so glad for the happy times i've spent with past loves, but the pain when the relationship breaks up really sucks. It takes a long time to get over losing love...i'm still not sure if it's really worth it or not. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aprilcat 0 #11 June 7, 2004 Instead of loving and losing, why not save yourself for "the perfect one" who will make your life perfect and never-ever hurt you? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I don't think God dates.~~April Camelot II, the Electric Boogaloo! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #12 June 7, 2004 I voted "better to have never loved at all." I guess love is like tobacco - once you quit it, there's always that thought that you want it. You never get over it - true love, that is. A person who has never really loved has no concept of what he or she is missing. It means a life of lowered expectations, which has the overall positive of being content. A person who has loved and lost may never find that again, and it's something that cannot be forced. Even happy memories can be extraordinarily painful. Edited to add: I just read Tinkerbelle's post. She said it better than I can. Hopefully, she said it better than I will ever have to. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aprilcat 0 #13 June 7, 2004 Thats so sad, Tink....I hope that you finally find closure. I'm sure there is another good man out there for you but if you make him measure up to your lost love, he may not even want to TRY to compete. Bless your heart. ~~April Camelot II, the Electric Boogaloo! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydived19006 4 #14 June 7, 2004 QuoteInstead of loving and losing, who will make your life perfect and never-ever hurt you? The Backstreet Boys songs, and most fairytales, are about that person so expect a short waiting period during the search. Hopefully, they will like your cat also. I searched all my life for the “perfect woman”, at long last I found her! Problem was that she was searching for the perfect manExperience is what you get when you thought you were going to get something else. AC DZ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
weegegirl 2 #15 June 7, 2004 love rocks. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflir29 0 #16 June 8, 2004 QuoteFuck them ho's I keep trying to remember that but then there are times like this weekend where I meet a chick and can't get anything but "Uhhhh.....Hi....." out of my mouth. Dammitt.....why do they have to be so beautiful, lucious, and tasty!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites NightJumper 0 #17 June 8, 2004 QuoteDammitt.....why do they have to be so beautiful, lucious, and tasty!!!! Because that is just the way sheep are! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites dzdiva 7 #18 June 8, 2004 Ummm...so what does that say about me? When we met you had no problem chatting! J/K...just relax and be yourself."It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Zenister 0 #19 June 8, 2004 Quotelike this weekend where I meet a chick and can't get anything but "Uhhhh.....Hi....." out of my mouth. had that very experience myself, but somehow managed to babble my way thru it, without giving to much away..i think..... there are certainly some experiences i would wipe from time if i had a choice...they make me worry to much about what might happen with someone else...and thats not fair or productive....____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Amazon 7 #20 June 8, 2004 Better to have loved.... As a confirmed serial monogamist.. well ok sometimes polyandrous its far better to love a lot..then to sit at home worrying about life.. how about just get out and live it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflir29 0 #21 June 8, 2004 QuoteWhen we met you had no problem chatting! True.....but I was also quickly consuming mass amounts of beer. When I met this one I was totally sober and it was like 1PM. I think I actually talked her up fairly well but I certainly didn't feel like it. Thank God we had something to talk about. (Military) Besides.......I had been talking to you forever on here so it wasn't really anything new. Never met this one before. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Squeak 17 #22 June 8, 2004 QuoteThats so sad, Tink....I hope that you finally find closure. I'm sure there is another good man out there for you but if you make him measure up to your lost love, he may not even want to TRY to compete. Bless your heart. ~~April QuoteI tend to go back and forth on this. I'm so glad for the happy times i've spent with past loves, but the pain when the relationship breaks up really sucks. It takes a long time to get over losing love...i'm still not sure if it's really worth it or not. Well from aprils quote how do you know it's "the one" if you don't love 1st??? Sunny, the pain may be great but when you do find the one, t will be worth every bit of itYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Unstable 8 #23 June 8, 2004 Relationships can, and SHOULD be a learning experience..... To love and to lose, can only mean that next time will yield Improvement!!! Hell, I'm GLAD to have lost some of those I "loved" Because losing them only allowed me to be in much more satisfying relationships...=========Shaun ========== Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites sunshine 2 #24 June 8, 2004 QuoteSunny, the pain may be great but when you do find the one, t will be worth every bit of it Thanks squeak. I hope you're right. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites dbattman 0 #25 June 8, 2004 Ah, screw it. Give me a drink. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 1 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
freeflir29 0 #16 June 8, 2004 QuoteFuck them ho's I keep trying to remember that but then there are times like this weekend where I meet a chick and can't get anything but "Uhhhh.....Hi....." out of my mouth. Dammitt.....why do they have to be so beautiful, lucious, and tasty!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NightJumper 0 #17 June 8, 2004 QuoteDammitt.....why do they have to be so beautiful, lucious, and tasty!!!! Because that is just the way sheep are! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dzdiva 7 #18 June 8, 2004 Ummm...so what does that say about me? When we met you had no problem chatting! J/K...just relax and be yourself."It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #19 June 8, 2004 Quotelike this weekend where I meet a chick and can't get anything but "Uhhhh.....Hi....." out of my mouth. had that very experience myself, but somehow managed to babble my way thru it, without giving to much away..i think..... there are certainly some experiences i would wipe from time if i had a choice...they make me worry to much about what might happen with someone else...and thats not fair or productive....____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #20 June 8, 2004 Better to have loved.... As a confirmed serial monogamist.. well ok sometimes polyandrous its far better to love a lot..then to sit at home worrying about life.. how about just get out and live it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #21 June 8, 2004 QuoteWhen we met you had no problem chatting! True.....but I was also quickly consuming mass amounts of beer. When I met this one I was totally sober and it was like 1PM. I think I actually talked her up fairly well but I certainly didn't feel like it. Thank God we had something to talk about. (Military) Besides.......I had been talking to you forever on here so it wasn't really anything new. Never met this one before. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #22 June 8, 2004 QuoteThats so sad, Tink....I hope that you finally find closure. I'm sure there is another good man out there for you but if you make him measure up to your lost love, he may not even want to TRY to compete. Bless your heart. ~~April QuoteI tend to go back and forth on this. I'm so glad for the happy times i've spent with past loves, but the pain when the relationship breaks up really sucks. It takes a long time to get over losing love...i'm still not sure if it's really worth it or not. Well from aprils quote how do you know it's "the one" if you don't love 1st??? Sunny, the pain may be great but when you do find the one, t will be worth every bit of itYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Unstable 8 #23 June 8, 2004 Relationships can, and SHOULD be a learning experience..... To love and to lose, can only mean that next time will yield Improvement!!! Hell, I'm GLAD to have lost some of those I "loved" Because losing them only allowed me to be in much more satisfying relationships...=========Shaun ========== Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #24 June 8, 2004 QuoteSunny, the pain may be great but when you do find the one, t will be worth every bit of it Thanks squeak. I hope you're right. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dbattman 0 #25 June 8, 2004 Ah, screw it. Give me a drink. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
