Remster 24 #101 April 19, 2004 QuoteI'm glad I found myslef a woman with low standards! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I love you Remi. Just to make sure nobody here misunderstands these posts.... I didnt mean Jess was that woman. I mean, come on, my woman may have low standards, but I sure dont!Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #102 April 19, 2004 I hate you Remi.Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 24 #103 April 19, 2004 There. The world makes sense again. I love you too JessRemster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #104 April 19, 2004 Whoa...what's happening to this thread? Is this a hijack attempt? _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vertifly 0 #105 April 19, 2004 You may be able to say that it's been a healthy 3 years since being in a serious relationship of about 8-years. I'm just one of those dudes who has been to the puppet show and seen the strings. Know what I mean? Boy, this is really a tough question but an excellent one!!! As many of you at/close-to my age would agree that after the first time around (especially if you got started early), you begin growing more and more particular with time. I must admit, when I became single again (about two or three years ago), being selective was not a priority. Have I had some moments since then!?! With time, a healed heart comes back one inch thicker - that's all. My list seems bitchy but it is what it is... My list: 1. Is she enjoying her life and comfortable with herself? A sign of confidence and self interest. 2. Do her values on things support mine and is she a giving person? Not just to me, but others as well. I believe that I am a generous person and have found that this is important for me to have around. 3. Does she treat me like an adult (a minor nightmare on this one)? oh my 4. I have an extremely busy life planned; do her plans conflict with mine? 5. Is she seemingly honest? 6. Is there evidence of emotional maturity? (most girls do not have a problem with this) 7. Physically fit? (this is just a preference thing; I believe that I am fit enough to prefer a minimum level of interest in health) 8. Confident, flirtatious, sexual, comfortable with intimacy, and playful? 9. Do they know how to clean? (i am already this way and prefer mutual respect here also) 10. Is she in debt up to her eyeballs? I've never really thought much about the importance of dating a skydiver. I just don't consider the physical possibilties or restrictions of things. I always hoped to find someone with the desire for living life to the fullest. Someone with inner intensity. Skydiving fits well for me because of the intesity demanded by it; and my partner should easily identify with this feeling at the very least. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skycat 0 #106 April 20, 2004 Hmm....lets see... 1) Does not drive me nuts. 2) Can put up a tent 3) Can pack a parachute (bunus points for the reserve) 4) Likes being called Pookie Bear 5) Willing to climb a mountain or 2 6) Does dishes (bonus points for being able to cook) 7) puts the toilet seat down (cat likes to drink out of it) 8) Makes girly parts tingle That pretty much covers it. I'm not that picky. Fly it like you stole it! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Andrewwhyte 1 #107 April 20, 2004 QuoteAnother one is that it'd be nice if he's "mechanically inclined". I'm ready to turn the plumbing projects over "If the women don't find you hansom they should at least find you handy" -Red Green Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites IMGR2 0 #108 April 20, 2004 One that doesn't think I'm an ass. And let me tell you, thats like finding a needle in a haystack. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites sdgregory 0 #109 April 20, 2004 QuoteQuote 4. How does he deal w/small dishonesty? Minor dishonesty is fine . Does anyone else find this disturbing? Dishonesty is dishonesty, there isn't a grade of it, two words---Don't lie--- Period!!! Hope I didn't read into that too much. Sorry if I have offended anyone. Wait, I'm not supposed to lie, hell no, I'm not sorry, if that offended you, you are a freakin' liar!!! Yes I find it disturbing. Even so called white lies are lies. Besides if you too afraid to be truthfull over the little things, how can you be honest at crunch time? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Nightingale 0 #110 April 20, 2004 Well, I'd say its ok to lie if she asks "Does this make my butt look fat?" because there's just no good answer to questions like that! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites sunshine 2 #111 April 20, 2004 QuoteOne that doesn't think I'm an ass. And let me tell you, thats like finding a needle in a haystack Damn you have high standards. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites RkyMtnHigh 0 #112 June 23, 2004 Just felt like bringing this thread back up again..anything new to add to your list? _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites piisfish 135 #113 June 23, 2004 QuoteMine is constantly evolving... 1) Gotta be a skydiver 2) Makes me laugh and vice versa 3) Smart. 4) Doesn't mind that I hate to cook 5) Has a strong connection with his family - parents, siblings 6) Takes care of his kids if he has any - ie if he doesn't have custody he pays his child support, looks forward to visits and keeps in close contact with them - but I'd prefer that his kids be already grown or if they aren't they don't live with him full time 7) Either already has all the kids he wants or doesn't want any 8) Gotta be a good kisser 9) Lives alone and kinda likes it that way 10) Single - ie the divorce is final or he's never been married 11) Wants to get married at some point but is in no great rush to do so 12) Open and honest about his baggage 13) Has dreams and plans for his future 14) My height or taller (yeah, I know, that's superficial but I like to look up to my man ) 15) Shares or at least tolerates my addictions 16) Shares many of my interests but has interests of his own as well 17) Doesn't have a "can't miss" TV show - I hate TV 18) Willing and able to talk about the serious stuff without changing the subject.. and willing and able to get me back on the subject when I change it 19) Loves to travel and experience new things 20) Understands that my son is always going to be one of the most important people in my life and doesn't resent the time I spend with him 21) Has a soft mustache Hey Lisa, my only doubt is #14, how tall are you ?? Otherwise I'm the man scissors beat paper, paper beat rock, rock beat wingsuit - KarlM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Lainey 0 #114 June 23, 2004 someone who is honest can admit when they are wrong has passion in life a sense of humour intelligence someone i'm physically attracted to who isn't abusive has respect for family and culture is faithful has good morals respects my passions/tastes/lifestyle/friends etc. oh and has a million dollars it's funny because I have already told my parents i'm marrying a poor bum who treats me well... I always seem to be attracted to broke dorks. . And you shed not a single tear for the things that you didn't need 'Cause you knew you were finally free - Death Cab For Cutie Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SkydiveNFlorida 0 #115 June 23, 2004 QuoteYou forgot : #14: Do they have an arbitrary list they use to nitpick every aspect of our relationship? Here is my list: 1. Am I better off *with* this person, or *without* them? Isn't that much simpler? haha! I like this list the best so far. I didn't know people really sat around while single writing lists of expectations for their next relationship.... no offense, but maybe that's why you're single? Good luck finding Mr. (in your eyes) Perfect, because as far as I know there is no such thing. Try simplifying it a bit, a few qualities you look for is one thing, a comprehensive list that excludes most of the population is another. I hope this isn't taken too harshly, jmho. Angela. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kellysalt77 0 #116 June 23, 2004 he must be: 1) a skydiver 2) an animal lover 3)a non-smoker there are more important things but i don't worry about those unless i want the relationship to be long term Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites RkyMtnHigh 0 #117 June 24, 2004 Not sure what your age is or what your relationship track record is, but after enough bad eggs, you begin to look for consistent red flags and what you want and what you don't want. I hope you never have to deal with it. Furthermore, Bob's a friend of mine from my home dz and was just being his normal sarcastic self on that post.. _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites benny 0 #118 June 24, 2004 Quotesomeone who is honest can admit when they are wrong has passion in life a sense of humour intelligence someone i'm physically attracted to who isn't abusive has respect for family and culture is faithful has good morals respects my passions/tastes/lifestyle/friends etc. oh and has a million dollars it's funny because I have already told my parents i'm marrying a poor bum who treats me well... I always seem to be attracted to broke dorks. . How you doin? Never go to a DZ strip show. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SkydiveNFlorida 0 #119 June 24, 2004 QuoteNot sure what your age is or what your relationship track record is, but after enough bad eggs, you begin to look for consistent red flags and what you want and what you don't want. I hope you never have to deal with it. Furthermore, Bob's a friend of mine from my home dz and was just being his normal sarcastic self on that post.. 22, but i've been through my share of relationships, been engaged and unengaged, etc. I understand red flags, but I think that you really need to take people as individuals. Your Mr. Right might not meet all of your requirments, or even half of them. Just saying, try to keep it open:) I could easily say I don't like it when men are into silly sci-fi movies, watch tv, keep a cluttered up house, etc... but, hell, I didn't make up a list so I ended up with a wonderful guy with those traits. But, his greatness in other areas more than makes those things easy to overlook:D So, if he doesn't get along well with his mom, maybe she's a nutty u-know-what. If he doesn't get along with his ex-girlfriends, maybe he has a track record of picking girls that don't take breakups well. And, don't you have an addictive personality yourself? hehe. You ARE an adrenaline junkie, are you not?? I am not trying to be insulting, I am sorry if you took the post offensively. I am just saying that you can't make love fit a mold. You never know what you're gonna get, but if you keep an open mind, it may be someone you didn't expect to love on your list... maybe even a non-religious person! Angela. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites d_squared431 0 #120 June 24, 2004 I live in such a seasonal place that I had to narrow the list down to just..... 1)Has a job 2)Has a car 3)Makes me laugh 4)Likes to travel. 5)Enjoys life and all it has to offer. TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites pa2themd 0 #121 June 24, 2004 QuoteMine is constantly evolving... 1) Gotta be a skydiver 2) Makes me laugh and vice versa 3) Smart. 4) Doesn't mind that I hate to cook 5) Has a strong connection with his family - parents, siblings 6) Takes care of his kids if he has any - ie if he doesn't have custody he pays his child support, looks forward to visits and keeps in close contact with them - but I'd prefer that his kids be already grown or if they aren't they don't live with him full time 7) Either already has all the kids he wants or doesn't want any 8) Gotta be a good kisser 9) Lives alone and kinda likes it that way 10) Single - ie the divorce is final or he's never been married 11) Wants to get married at some point but is in no great rush to do so 12) Open and honest about his baggage 13) Has dreams and plans for his future 14) My height or taller (yeah, I know, that's superficial but I like to look up to my man ) 15) Shares or at least tolerates my addictions 16) Shares many of my interests but has interests of his own as well 17) Doesn't have a "can't miss" TV show - I hate TV 18) Willing and able to talk about the serious stuff without changing the subject.. and willing and able to get me back on the subject when I change it 19) Loves to travel and experience new things 20) Understands that my son is always going to be one of the most important people in my life and doesn't resent the time I spend with him 21) Has a soft mustache Yeah I like this list...being a single mom too!! Except the moustache part, that isn't mandatory, I prefer a shadow or goatie myself! I miss sharing the inbetween moments and kisses....my all time favourite!!! Oh yes and I have a daughter not a son! "Most of us can read the writing on the wall; we just assume it's addressed to someone else!" Ivern Ball Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites champu 1 #122 June 24, 2004 She has to be able to pull off at least one really cool card trick. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ladyskydiver 0 #123 June 24, 2004 Angela, honey, lighten up a bit. You're still young and as time goes on, people evolve - and their needs/wants/desires change. People make lists - doesn't mean they stick to them. There are some things that people consider non-negotiable in their lists and others that are considered negotiable. And, no-one is looking for "Perfect" - there is no such thing, and it would totally suck to have someone who's "Perfect" in a relationship with a human (read: non-perfect). QuoteSo, if he doesn't get along well with his mom, maybe she's a nutty u-know-what. If he doesn't get along with his ex-girlfriends, maybe he has a track record of picking girls that don't take breakups well. You're right...there's, also, the flip side of the coin - maybe he's the reason that he doesn't get along with his mom or ex-girlfriends. Be aware...people are multi-faceted creatures and there is always 3 sides to any story - his side, her side, and the truth (which is usually a blend of both his and her sides).Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites JRock 0 #124 June 24, 2004 Mine are similar.... One that is a deal breaker.... if they don't love dogs....they gots to go. I was talking to an ex (who was not a dog lover so she got the boot boot boot.....) a few months ago and she asked me how the dating scene was and I told her I had just broken with this girl. The first words out of her mouth were.... what? didnt she like your dogs.. ha Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites RkyMtnHigh 0 #125 June 24, 2004 Good one! I forgot about my baby Kozmo (in avatar)..If he doesn't love my puppy, he can keep on truckin'... _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 5 6 Next Page 5 of 6 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. 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skycat 0 #106 April 20, 2004 Hmm....lets see... 1) Does not drive me nuts. 2) Can put up a tent 3) Can pack a parachute (bunus points for the reserve) 4) Likes being called Pookie Bear 5) Willing to climb a mountain or 2 6) Does dishes (bonus points for being able to cook) 7) puts the toilet seat down (cat likes to drink out of it) 8) Makes girly parts tingle That pretty much covers it. I'm not that picky. Fly it like you stole it! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andrewwhyte 1 #107 April 20, 2004 QuoteAnother one is that it'd be nice if he's "mechanically inclined". I'm ready to turn the plumbing projects over "If the women don't find you hansom they should at least find you handy" -Red Green Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IMGR2 0 #108 April 20, 2004 One that doesn't think I'm an ass. And let me tell you, thats like finding a needle in a haystack. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sdgregory 0 #109 April 20, 2004 QuoteQuote 4. How does he deal w/small dishonesty? Minor dishonesty is fine . Does anyone else find this disturbing? Dishonesty is dishonesty, there isn't a grade of it, two words---Don't lie--- Period!!! Hope I didn't read into that too much. Sorry if I have offended anyone. Wait, I'm not supposed to lie, hell no, I'm not sorry, if that offended you, you are a freakin' liar!!! Yes I find it disturbing. Even so called white lies are lies. Besides if you too afraid to be truthfull over the little things, how can you be honest at crunch time? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #110 April 20, 2004 Well, I'd say its ok to lie if she asks "Does this make my butt look fat?" because there's just no good answer to questions like that! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #111 April 20, 2004 QuoteOne that doesn't think I'm an ass. And let me tell you, thats like finding a needle in a haystack Damn you have high standards. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #112 June 23, 2004 Just felt like bringing this thread back up again..anything new to add to your list? _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piisfish 135 #113 June 23, 2004 QuoteMine is constantly evolving... 1) Gotta be a skydiver 2) Makes me laugh and vice versa 3) Smart. 4) Doesn't mind that I hate to cook 5) Has a strong connection with his family - parents, siblings 6) Takes care of his kids if he has any - ie if he doesn't have custody he pays his child support, looks forward to visits and keeps in close contact with them - but I'd prefer that his kids be already grown or if they aren't they don't live with him full time 7) Either already has all the kids he wants or doesn't want any 8) Gotta be a good kisser 9) Lives alone and kinda likes it that way 10) Single - ie the divorce is final or he's never been married 11) Wants to get married at some point but is in no great rush to do so 12) Open and honest about his baggage 13) Has dreams and plans for his future 14) My height or taller (yeah, I know, that's superficial but I like to look up to my man ) 15) Shares or at least tolerates my addictions 16) Shares many of my interests but has interests of his own as well 17) Doesn't have a "can't miss" TV show - I hate TV 18) Willing and able to talk about the serious stuff without changing the subject.. and willing and able to get me back on the subject when I change it 19) Loves to travel and experience new things 20) Understands that my son is always going to be one of the most important people in my life and doesn't resent the time I spend with him 21) Has a soft mustache Hey Lisa, my only doubt is #14, how tall are you ?? Otherwise I'm the man scissors beat paper, paper beat rock, rock beat wingsuit - KarlM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lainey 0 #114 June 23, 2004 someone who is honest can admit when they are wrong has passion in life a sense of humour intelligence someone i'm physically attracted to who isn't abusive has respect for family and culture is faithful has good morals respects my passions/tastes/lifestyle/friends etc. oh and has a million dollars it's funny because I have already told my parents i'm marrying a poor bum who treats me well... I always seem to be attracted to broke dorks. . And you shed not a single tear for the things that you didn't need 'Cause you knew you were finally free - Death Cab For Cutie Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveNFlorida 0 #115 June 23, 2004 QuoteYou forgot : #14: Do they have an arbitrary list they use to nitpick every aspect of our relationship? Here is my list: 1. Am I better off *with* this person, or *without* them? Isn't that much simpler? haha! I like this list the best so far. I didn't know people really sat around while single writing lists of expectations for their next relationship.... no offense, but maybe that's why you're single? Good luck finding Mr. (in your eyes) Perfect, because as far as I know there is no such thing. Try simplifying it a bit, a few qualities you look for is one thing, a comprehensive list that excludes most of the population is another. I hope this isn't taken too harshly, jmho. Angela. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kellysalt77 0 #116 June 23, 2004 he must be: 1) a skydiver 2) an animal lover 3)a non-smoker there are more important things but i don't worry about those unless i want the relationship to be long term Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #117 June 24, 2004 Not sure what your age is or what your relationship track record is, but after enough bad eggs, you begin to look for consistent red flags and what you want and what you don't want. I hope you never have to deal with it. Furthermore, Bob's a friend of mine from my home dz and was just being his normal sarcastic self on that post.. _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
benny 0 #118 June 24, 2004 Quotesomeone who is honest can admit when they are wrong has passion in life a sense of humour intelligence someone i'm physically attracted to who isn't abusive has respect for family and culture is faithful has good morals respects my passions/tastes/lifestyle/friends etc. oh and has a million dollars it's funny because I have already told my parents i'm marrying a poor bum who treats me well... I always seem to be attracted to broke dorks. . How you doin? Never go to a DZ strip show. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveNFlorida 0 #119 June 24, 2004 QuoteNot sure what your age is or what your relationship track record is, but after enough bad eggs, you begin to look for consistent red flags and what you want and what you don't want. I hope you never have to deal with it. Furthermore, Bob's a friend of mine from my home dz and was just being his normal sarcastic self on that post.. 22, but i've been through my share of relationships, been engaged and unengaged, etc. I understand red flags, but I think that you really need to take people as individuals. Your Mr. Right might not meet all of your requirments, or even half of them. Just saying, try to keep it open:) I could easily say I don't like it when men are into silly sci-fi movies, watch tv, keep a cluttered up house, etc... but, hell, I didn't make up a list so I ended up with a wonderful guy with those traits. But, his greatness in other areas more than makes those things easy to overlook:D So, if he doesn't get along well with his mom, maybe she's a nutty u-know-what. If he doesn't get along with his ex-girlfriends, maybe he has a track record of picking girls that don't take breakups well. And, don't you have an addictive personality yourself? hehe. You ARE an adrenaline junkie, are you not?? I am not trying to be insulting, I am sorry if you took the post offensively. I am just saying that you can't make love fit a mold. You never know what you're gonna get, but if you keep an open mind, it may be someone you didn't expect to love on your list... maybe even a non-religious person! Angela. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #120 June 24, 2004 I live in such a seasonal place that I had to narrow the list down to just..... 1)Has a job 2)Has a car 3)Makes me laugh 4)Likes to travel. 5)Enjoys life and all it has to offer. TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pa2themd 0 #121 June 24, 2004 QuoteMine is constantly evolving... 1) Gotta be a skydiver 2) Makes me laugh and vice versa 3) Smart. 4) Doesn't mind that I hate to cook 5) Has a strong connection with his family - parents, siblings 6) Takes care of his kids if he has any - ie if he doesn't have custody he pays his child support, looks forward to visits and keeps in close contact with them - but I'd prefer that his kids be already grown or if they aren't they don't live with him full time 7) Either already has all the kids he wants or doesn't want any 8) Gotta be a good kisser 9) Lives alone and kinda likes it that way 10) Single - ie the divorce is final or he's never been married 11) Wants to get married at some point but is in no great rush to do so 12) Open and honest about his baggage 13) Has dreams and plans for his future 14) My height or taller (yeah, I know, that's superficial but I like to look up to my man ) 15) Shares or at least tolerates my addictions 16) Shares many of my interests but has interests of his own as well 17) Doesn't have a "can't miss" TV show - I hate TV 18) Willing and able to talk about the serious stuff without changing the subject.. and willing and able to get me back on the subject when I change it 19) Loves to travel and experience new things 20) Understands that my son is always going to be one of the most important people in my life and doesn't resent the time I spend with him 21) Has a soft mustache Yeah I like this list...being a single mom too!! Except the moustache part, that isn't mandatory, I prefer a shadow or goatie myself! I miss sharing the inbetween moments and kisses....my all time favourite!!! Oh yes and I have a daughter not a son! "Most of us can read the writing on the wall; we just assume it's addressed to someone else!" Ivern Ball Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
champu 1 #122 June 24, 2004 She has to be able to pull off at least one really cool card trick. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #123 June 24, 2004 Angela, honey, lighten up a bit. You're still young and as time goes on, people evolve - and their needs/wants/desires change. People make lists - doesn't mean they stick to them. There are some things that people consider non-negotiable in their lists and others that are considered negotiable. And, no-one is looking for "Perfect" - there is no such thing, and it would totally suck to have someone who's "Perfect" in a relationship with a human (read: non-perfect). QuoteSo, if he doesn't get along well with his mom, maybe she's a nutty u-know-what. If he doesn't get along with his ex-girlfriends, maybe he has a track record of picking girls that don't take breakups well. You're right...there's, also, the flip side of the coin - maybe he's the reason that he doesn't get along with his mom or ex-girlfriends. Be aware...people are multi-faceted creatures and there is always 3 sides to any story - his side, her side, and the truth (which is usually a blend of both his and her sides).Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JRock 0 #124 June 24, 2004 Mine are similar.... One that is a deal breaker.... if they don't love dogs....they gots to go. I was talking to an ex (who was not a dog lover so she got the boot boot boot.....) a few months ago and she asked me how the dating scene was and I told her I had just broken with this girl. The first words out of her mouth were.... what? didnt she like your dogs.. ha Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #125 June 24, 2004 Good one! I forgot about my baby Kozmo (in avatar)..If he doesn't love my puppy, he can keep on truckin'... _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
