happythoughts 0 #51 February 22, 2008 QuoteWhen my first wife and I were dating, she smacked my face-I asked her not to, she did it again-I told her not to, she did it again. I find it disturbing that no one has posted a response that says she was wrong to strike you. Where is the outrage? If you said that you had struck her in the face, there would be a crowd of women with torches and a rope approaching your house. If women want to end violence, they need to quit teaching it as acceptable to other women also. Some men learn about violence from the beatings received from their mothers. It can be part of that cycle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #52 February 22, 2008 Quote I agree. But if he has anger issues, it may not be isolated to a drunken mistake. I lived it.. step-father #2...my mother put up with it till he broke a wine bottle over my head while I was trying to make him stop hitting her. I was 4 years old.. THAT finally woke her up and we left. I grew up.. and I do NOT make a good victim anymore... I have seen FAR too many assholes blame it on the booze..... great way to treat their families that they supposedly love. LOVE does not have to hurt and more women need to learn that at a farr younger age Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The_Don 0 #53 February 22, 2008 BIG TIME AGREE. Adults do NOT! hit or abuse others! I am NOT being loud. I'm being enthusiastic! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #54 February 22, 2008 QuoteI find it disturbing that no one has posted a response that says she was wrong to strike you. Where is the outrage? For some reason it seems to be socially acceptable for a woman to hit a man but not the other way around. Which I find to be total and utter bullshit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #55 February 22, 2008 QuoteFor some reason it seems to be socially acceptable for a woman to hit a man but not the other way around. Which I find to be total and utter bullshit. Agreed!! ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diablopilot 2 #56 February 22, 2008 Quote It is not appropriate to hit people. EVER! I dunno.....I can think of two times that is may be..... One. In self defense, only enough to remove ones self from the danger. Two. What's wrong with a good spanking? Is hair pulling out too?---------------------------------------------- You're not as good as you think you are. Seriously. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindsey 0 #57 February 22, 2008 I've been bitch-slapped a time or two that was probably worthwhile.-- A conservative is just a liberal who's been mugged. A liberal is just a conservative who's been to jail Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #58 February 22, 2008 Quote Quote For some reason it seems to be socially acceptable for a woman to hit a man but not the other way around. Which I find to be total and utter bullshit. Agreed!! And that's why I heart you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DFWAJG 4 #59 February 22, 2008 QuoteQuoteIt is not appropriate to hit people. EVER! I was with you until you said EVER. Some people are just monsters. The only way to stop them it to put them to sleep. If someone was hurting a loved one would you try to talk him/her into a calm state or would you react with a knock out punch? I'd call the police and have his ass arrested. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #60 February 22, 2008 Quote Quote When my first wife and I were dating, she smacked my face-I asked her not to, she did it again-I told her not to, she did it again. I find it disturbing that no one has posted a response that says she was wrong to strike you. Where is the outrage? Go read my posts again.My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #61 February 22, 2008 Quote I'd call the police and have his ass arrested. I understand why you would say that but in the mean time will you jsut sit there and wiat for him to finish beating your loved one? The cops are never close enough to help WHILE the crime is happening. if they were there would be no violence.My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cloudseeker2001 0 #62 February 22, 2008 Quote It is not appropriate to hit people. EVER! What about a crack on the ass at the exact right moment???????? "Some call it heavenly in it's brilliance, others mean and rueful of the western dream" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cloudseeker2001 0 #63 February 22, 2008 Quote Quote I find it disturbing that no one has posted a response that says she was wrong to strike you. Where is the outrage? For some reason it seems to be socially acceptable for a woman to hit a man but not the other way around. Which I find to be total and utter bullshit. If you are woman enough to hit a man, you better be man enough to take a hit! I have seen some very nasty beatings that a woman has inflicted and while the man did not, for whatever reason, defend himself. The one that stands out the most in my memory was about, damn, 17 years ago, and after this chick beat the shit out of him, she broke a bottle and sliced up his face like cleaning a fish! "Some call it heavenly in it's brilliance, others mean and rueful of the western dream" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
k_marr08 0 #64 February 22, 2008 I believe that once someone has snapped and used violence toward a significant other, the couple should split, EVEN if the person who acted in violence is really really sorry -- down on his/her knees begging for forgiveness, offering relentless apologies and gifts, etc. In my experience, a significant other who hit me didn't really want to but snapped, and felt like crap afterwards, but couldn't help it because he was a sick person (not psychologically sound, he had serious anger issues). unfortunately, the first time this happened (like this experience involving your friend) it didn't seem like a huge deal, I had never seen irrationality out of him prior to it (or for months after), but I left anyway -- then he demonstrated that he was very sorry and would do his best to "change," so I took him back. The next time it happened, I was deep into the relationship and at that point, too weak/unknowing/involved/scared to get out, and it took a LONG time and a LOT of courage (and a decent amount of beatings) to finally, eventually leave for good. The experience ended up making me a stronger person in the long run...though I hate that it happened that way. So my best advice, coming from my own personal experience, is for your friend to get out now, while it's still fairly easy. He may seem very sorry (or not, not sure how he feels about it) but that doesn't mean he won't snap again. And the circumstances may be completely different, but they might not. She deserves to be treated with respect, and there are many men out there who will do so. "I believe the risks I take are justified by the sheer love of the life I lead" - Charles Lindbergh Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #65 February 22, 2008 I'm proud to say I've never hit a woman, not even my wife. There have been times I wanted to, yes, but chose to channel that anger elsewhere. She has hit me but I've never hit her. One time we had a big fight and she snapped and hit me 3 or 4 times in rapid fire across my chest and I grabbed her and set her down on the bed, then proceeded to smash a 3 foot by foot and half hole in the wall with my fists and forearms... That was 5 or 6 years ago when we were still sort of newly married. Nowadays we handle things a lot better. I've learned to avoid having to make repairs to the house... If I get mad, I take the axe outside and pound on a huge pine tree stump. I just have a mental block on hitting women for some reason. I'm glad I do. "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jasonRose 0 #66 February 22, 2008 Did she deserve it??? Some day I will have the best staff in the world!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #67 February 22, 2008 "drunk" is an excuse. Once you hit, you can never, ever act like you haven't or won't again. Odds are, he's hit before, too. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #68 February 22, 2008 hitting is like herpes.it's only a matter of time before you have another break out. If I found out someone I was dating had herpes I'd be out of there in a heart beat. The only good thing about hitting is you don't have to take the beatings with you.Disclaimer: No, I don't have herpes OR hit people. My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #69 February 22, 2008 hey what happened to the music video clip that was posted in here. I saw it at work but it seems to have vanished (or i just cant see it)?You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jasonRose 0 #70 February 22, 2008 If a guy hits a girl, she should hit him back!!! Some day I will have the best staff in the world!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #71 February 22, 2008 Quote hey what happened to the music video clip that was posted in here. I saw it at work but it seems to have vanished (or i just cant see it)? Probably the same thing that happened to my jesus post. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #72 February 22, 2008 did you hit jesus?My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shell666 0 #73 February 22, 2008 QuoteOk, so i was talking to someone about this earlier today and we totally disagree. If a guy hits a girl cause he was mad/frustrated at her, but he was incredibly drunk at the time, is it possible to be an isolated incident and will never happen again? Or should it be considered a "he hit once, he'll hit again" kinda thing? It's not acceptable. Either way. Replace it all with a girl hitting a guy. I've experienced it both ways, but not many people have from the "other side" where a girl abuses a guy. I know a "guy" that has had his "girl" hit him while she was drunk and he never hit back. He pushed her away to stop the violent outburst. They had "her" friends over at the house that night. She called the cops about it and he ended up in jail, because HER friends said HE pushed her. I still have the pictures of the scratches on his face from that night. I picked him up from jail the next day. He's still with her. She's hit him more than once in that time. Once a violent person, always a violent person. I wish HE'D leave HER. Goes both ways.'Shell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
k_marr08 0 #74 February 22, 2008 Quote If a guy hits a girl, she should hit him back!!! easier said than done if the guy is bigger, stronger, a better fighter, and has adrenaline/rage on his side OH! and getting even more angry and violent because you hit him back but yes, that became my style, I wasn't a very good learner.. "I believe the risks I take are justified by the sheer love of the life I lead" - Charles Lindbergh Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #75 February 22, 2008 Quote did you hit jesus? No. I made a post with a picture that must have offended a mod, because the next thing I know... it disappeared. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
