k-dubjumps 0 #1 July 2, 2009 Ever had one or both? How'd it work out for you? Did he/she start to fall for you or vise versa? Did it get too complicated or did it work out great? Discuss. Here is how I define the two: Fuck buddy: Come over, get it on, say good-bye until next time. Friend with benefits: Like a fuck buddy, but you're friends outside of the bedroom. Maybe you hang out every now and then, grab a bite or drink, etc., but you're not in a relationship.Adrenaline is my crack DPH #3 D.S. #16 FAG #12 Muff Brother #4406 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #2 July 2, 2009 Edited: realized I didn't answer the question ... time to get my head out of the gutter ... O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rlucus 0 #3 July 2, 2009 Have had both... Fuck buddys just work out better. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #4 July 2, 2009 Sometimes feeling develop, sometimes they don't. The problem lies within the fact that some people equate sex with being in love, instead of understanding it is just sex. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #5 July 2, 2009 Quote Sometimes feeling develop, sometimes they don't. The problem lies within the fact that some people equate sex with being in love, instead of understanding it is just sex. Hmm.. Easy to become fond of someone who makes you happy on a regular basis!! I have a theory that friends with benefits is usually a case of 1 person loves the other but settles for just sex as the other is not so interested.. I haven't ever tested this theory, though.."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DARK 0 #6 July 2, 2009 have had both fuck buddies works out way better in my experience friends with benefits can be ok but iv found the feelings will develop on one side or the other eventually so someone gets hurt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #7 July 2, 2009 QuoteHave had both... Fuck buddys just work out better. My longest relationship before getting married was with a fuck buddy. It was a one night stand that lasted about a year. She was great. To this day I still miss her and her tallents.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,397 #8 July 2, 2009 Quote I have a theory that friends with benefits is usually a case of 1 person loves the other but settles for just sex as the other is not so interested.. I haven't ever tested this theory, though.. We are always prepared to donate our time to experiments to advance the knowledge of science."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #9 July 2, 2009 Once upon a time I had a FWB. She wanted more. I didn't. I couldn't trust her and told her so. She understood. We are still friends to this day but the benefits are a thing of the past.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nigel99 144 #10 July 2, 2009 Quote Sometimes feeling develop, sometimes they don't. The problem lies within the fact that some people equate sex with being in love, instead of understanding it is just sex. you could always become friends with Shah - I don't think he's got that problemExperienced jumper - someone who has made mistakes more often than I have and lived. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #11 July 3, 2009 QuoteI have a theory that friends with benefits is usually a case of 1 person loves the other but settles for just sex as the other is not so interested.. I haven't ever tested this theory, though.. I agree with that ... it makes perfect sense ... O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
k-dubjumps 0 #12 July 3, 2009 Quote Quote I have a theory that friends with benefits is usually a case of 1 person loves the other but settles for just sex as the other is not so interested.. I haven't ever tested this theory, though.. I agree with that ... it makes perfect sense ... O I don't agree with that. Well, not completely. I'm sure its that way for some, but I've been in fwb situations where we were very up front about not wanting a full on relationship for what ever reason. It was great, we really were friends with benefits. I made it a point to have a come to Jesus every now and then to make sure we were still on the same page. If I new something more wasn't going to happen, then I wasn't going to expect it to. I know not everyone can emotionally handle fwb relationships. I seriously doubt I would have been able to 10 years ago. I'd be a dumb girl and fall.Adrenaline is my crack DPH #3 D.S. #16 FAG #12 Muff Brother #4406 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #13 July 3, 2009 Is a fuck buddy someone you would rather not be seen with?And a FWB you tell everyone "Oh we're just good friends"? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #14 July 3, 2009 Quote Is a fuck buddy someone you would rather not be seen with?And a FWB you tell everyone "Oh we're just good friends"? “Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 14 #15 July 3, 2009 Quote Is a fuck buddy someone you would rather not be seen with? Maybe she doesn't want to be seen with you.I have no idea what anything is called anymore. When I was single they were just called girlfriends(es). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #16 July 4, 2009 Quote And a FWB you tell everyone "Oh we're just good friends"? People are going to believe whatever they want anyway. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #17 July 6, 2009 Quote Quote Quote I have a theory that friends with benefits is usually a case of 1 person loves the other but settles for just sex as the other is not so interested.. I haven't ever tested this theory, though.. I agree with that ... it makes perfect sense ... O I don't agree with that. Well, not completely. I'm sure its that way for some, but I've been in fwb situations where we were very up front about not wanting a full on relationship for what ever reason. It was great, we really were friends with benefits. Yes, but just because you were laid back about it, doesn't mean he didn't have a big crush on you!! You'll never really know, will you? "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiverbry 0 #18 July 6, 2009 -------------------------------------------------- Growing old is mandatory.Growing up is optional!! D.S.#13(Dudeist Skdiver) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #19 July 6, 2009 Quote Quote Sometimes feeling develop, sometimes they don't. The problem lies within the fact that some people equate sex with being in love, instead of understanding it is just sex. Hmm.. Easy to become fond of someone who makes you happy on a regular basis!! I have a theory that friends with benefits is usually a case of 1 person loves the other but settles for just sex as the other is not so interested.. I haven't ever tested this theory, though.. + 1 Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
k-dubjumps 0 #20 July 7, 2009 Quote Yes, but just because you were laid back about it, doesn't mean he didn't have a big crush on you!! You'll never really know, will you? You may be on to something there! He did get a little concerned last night when I told him that I have to move in the near future due to the house I'm renting being listed for sale. His response was, "well, don't go too far away"Adrenaline is my crack DPH #3 D.S. #16 FAG #12 Muff Brother #4406 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgigirlie 0 #21 July 7, 2009 I've had both and each worked out great. The F.W.B. situation lasted a full two years, but was more F.W.B. for a year and a half and F.B. for 6 months. Every now and then one of us would start dating someone. We'd just quit doing it and start up again when we were both single. "If you can't be a good example, then you'll just have to be a horrible warning." ~Catherine Aird Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 622 #22 July 7, 2009 Fully agreed with your perspective on this. Having friends like this is quite fun usually. I have also had relationships that turned out I was only a FB. I just didn't know it! Some people really should be honest with themselves! Speaking of which...I should have "worked from home" today!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #23 July 7, 2009 Quote Quote Yes, but just because you were laid back about it, doesn't mean he didn't have a big crush on you!! You'll never really know, will you? You may be on to something there! He did get a little concerned last night when I told him that I have to move in the near future due to the house I'm renting being listed for sale. His response was, "well, don't go too far away" AHA!! So my theory *does* have some merit!! If you're going to break his heart, at least do it gently.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hungarianchick 0 #24 July 7, 2009 I never had either. Call me weird but I don't enjoy sex unless there is mutual emotional involvement. "I love cooking with wine. Sometimes I even put it in the food." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #25 July 7, 2009 QuoteI never had either. Call me weird but I don't enjoy sex unless there is mutual emotional involvement. Nothing weird about it; emotionless sex is fun ... once or twice, than it leaves you with an empty feeling. If there is no chemistry, it can get boring too ... if there is chemistry, some kind of attachment will develop ... To answer the OP's question - I've had both ... it's not a sustainable form of relationship for me ... I'm not interested in going there again ... O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
