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Beautiful = Messed up?

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Agreed!
Beautiful girls get away with allot more foolishness because guys are willing to tolerate their foolishness in hopes of getitng laid.
Take my ex-wife (please!).
She was a buxom, beauty queen when she was a teenager and got the silver spoon treatment in her twenties. She was still in pretty good shape when I met her in her forties, but then she let her physical fitness and health slide. Then she wondered why I would not tolerate her foolishness any more?????
She believed that the world owed her a living, that she could order everyone else around and that she did not have to lift a finger to earn a living.

That reminds me of another romantic mistake I made with a single-mom. She raised her pre-teen daughter to believe that she could make any mess she wanted and all she had to do has flash doe-eyes and all would be forgiven. The daughter got quite confused when I said "No! You are not forgiven. Now clean up your mess."

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You know it's funny.
I'm not good looking, well I don't think I'm good looking. Growing up I was one very goofy looking kid and I don't think I have gotten any better as an adult. Dating was all a game for me, I thought I lacked looks and had to use being funny or smart to get dates. And in a way that's how I met and married my X wife.

I never thought I was ever good enough for her. I did my best to dress well and eat well and work out so that she would stay interested in me. Not a good way to live. But her and I split and now that I'm dating....I have to admit I really do feel uncomfortable when a girl says she finds me attractive. I brush it off with some smart ass joke.
Now am I messed up?

Well.....stepping back and looking at myself and my behavior I would have to say yes. I have no idea how to take a compliment about my appearance.

So maybe in a way, we are all just a little messed up. Those of us who got all the attention in the world due to our looks or in some cases being the only viable partner in a large group, think the only good looking single girl at the DZ. Or those of us who never thought we were good looking trying to be more.....who for god knows what reason are now OK looking...maybe in a way we are all a little messed up.

Strange world hu? [:/]

Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

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She was a buxom, beauty queen when she was a teenager and got the silver spoon treatment in her twenties. She was still in pretty good shape when I met her in her forties, but then she let her physical fitness and health slide. Then she wondered why I would not tolerate her foolishness any more?????



there's a better point -

if one is gorgeous during their formative years I suspect has a greater chance of them having issues than for a 'late bloomer'

as for that specific point - pretty much every popular kid from my youth was an early bloomer - the genetics seemed in their cases to result in a lot of fat before any of them turned 30.

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when someone is wrong or obnoxious, there are two responses.

"i will not tolerate that"
"i will put up with anything, or agree"

for very attractive or rich people, there is always someone
who will agree with them that is standing 25ft away.

some people are messed up because we train them to be.
it is too easy to agree with attractive-but-crazy for an evening.

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Growing up I was one very goofy looking kid



:|

Shah as a kid

I wish brother, I was much worse.
My nose grew in first, then I wore rather ugly glasses then well.....let's put it this way. Looking at old photos of myself is a two prozac event!
Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

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She was a buxom, beauty queen when she was a teenager and got the silver spoon treatment in her twenties. She was still in pretty good shape when I met her in her forties, but then she let her physical fitness and health slide. Then she wondered why I would not tolerate her foolishness any more?????



Please tell me you are joking?? Are you saying letting herself slide a bit is foolishness?? Or that you aren't putting up with it anymore because she may not be quite as beautiful? Either way, that is total crap. Sounds like the poor woman spent her entire youth trying to be what men wanted her to be. You do know it's normal to gain weight at menopause right? Maybe she just wanted to enjoy life a little. Let the poor woman have a cheeseburger!!

It's this crap that make women crazy. I'm glad I'm not good looking and don't have to put up with this logic. I'm normal!

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I'm not any kind of math expert, but here is some figuring that I did.

Considering your equation of:

Beautiful = Messed up

then

Crack whores = messed up

But seriously?

Crack whores = beautiful

This math just does not work out.

"Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham

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" ... Please tell me you are joking?? Are you saying letting herself slide a bit is foolishness?? ...

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I don't count 50 or 60 pounds as "a bit."

Trust me, I understand about gaining weight as we age.
At age 53, I six feet tall and close to 200 pounds. For most of my adult life, I have weighed more like 185 pounds.
The last couple of times I exceeded 200 pounds was during prolonged recovery from spinal injuries. This is the first time in my life I have exceeded 200 pounds and been pain-free. Mind you, I am not proud of 200 pounds, so rode my bike to work then exercised for another half hour in the gym. Co-workers are teasign me into another hour in the gym tomorrow.

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I'm not any kind of math expert, but here is some figuring that I did.

Considering your equation of:

Beautiful = Messed up

then

Crack whores = messed up

But seriously?

Crack whores = beautiful

This math just does not work out.



Prime example of why women will never have 50/50 representation in STEM fields.
Your rights end where my feelings begin.

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I'm not any kind of math expert, but here is some figuring that I did.

Considering your equation of:

Beautiful = Messed up

then

Crack whores = messed up

But seriously?

Crack whores = beautiful

This math just does not work out.



Prime example of why women will never have 50/50 representation in STEM fields.


Oh c'mon now...

Try using a Venn Diagram :P


1. Draw a large circle which represents Messed Up(MU).
2. Then, inside the MU circle, draw a smaller circle which represents Crack Whores(CW)- because ALL crack whores are messed up.
3. Now draw a circle that overlaps part of the MU circle but does NOT encompass or overlap the CW circle at all. This is the circle for Beautiful People(BP). The part that overlaps with MU-represents the BP that are MU. The part of the BP circle that is outside the MU circle represents the BP that are NOT messed up. (Overlap the BP circle into the MU circle as much as you see fit.)


As to why women aren't representin' in the STEM fields...hmmn... that's a topic for a whole other thread entirely ;)
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Prime example of why women will never have 50/50 representation in STEM fields.



Oh for fucks sake! Really? That's where you went with the crack whore?

My intention was to post something stupid and ridiculous because this is a ridiculous and sexist thread that doesn't really merit much thoughtful consideration.

"Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham

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I have also found that a huge percentage have been raped at some time and that has had a terrible consequence for them.



right ill bite on this

if you leave aside the fact that one rape is too much what, to you, constitutes a 'huge percentage'

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My intention was to post something stupid and ridiculous because this is a ridiculous and sexist thread that doesn't really merit much thoughtful consideration.



Although I understood exactly what parallels you were establishing, I don't think that the OP was truly trying to be "ridiculous" with the initial post.

He was wondering about his personal experience and even stated "I am not propounding this as a universal constant." as the first thing in his initial post.

OTHERS in this thread though are just using it as further justification of their superior beliefs founded on shallow principles and personal bias. In those cases, it's a slim chance that ANYONE (male or ugly/bitchy female) would be able to teach them logic. Their argument is NOT based on truth values. It's based on "I'm right and you're just a [insert] beautiful and fucked up girl [/insert] / OR [insert] ugly girl that no one would want to date anyway [/insert]"

Laws of Boolean algebra don't apply to such ignorant arguments.

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I have also found that a huge percentage have been raped at some time and that has had a terrible consequence for them.



right ill bite on this

if you leave aside the fact that one rape is too much what, to you, constitutes a 'huge percentage'



Although I was offended by that statement, I chose to just ignore that. It just showed to me his lack of understanding about the truth of rape issues. He believes that only the beautiful women are raped or that it is a lust issue. Would pointing out the truth change anything? I chose to be superficial about the "not important" part of the thread.... rather than try to educate someone about something that is truly important. Right or wrong, I didn't want to have someone with minimal or no knowledge about the true trauma of rape telling me that I was wrong. Because this is the bonfire, I wanted to just keep it lighter.

But... you are right and lets go there.

Rape is an act of VIOLENCE AND POWER, not passion. It's an attempt to hurt and humiliate, using sex as the weapon. Rapists act without considering their victim's physical appearance, dress, age, race, gender, or social status. Assailants seek out victims who they perceive to be vulnerable.

If you want to learn more or even verify my statements:
List of RAPE MYTHS - Sociology of Rape. University of Minnesota Duluth

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Here is an example.
I was dating this GORGEOUS Hungarian girl, green eyes, red hair, amazing legs....porno quality sex. Long story short she was a little nutty. She did not believe in American medication and thus had her family from Hungary sending her the usual stuff you and I take for granted.
Was it messed up? SURE! Did I forgive her? YOU BET YOUR ASS I DID!
Why? What part of gorgeous with porno quality sex don't you get?
:)

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The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

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I see where you're coming from, but I can't really agree here. Here's why:

1. It's easy to blame "society," but when it comes down to it, nobody can tell me what that means. Certainly "society" is not a single person controlling social standards, and surely it is not an emergent property of peoples in an area. I think it's the whipping boy of a culture of those who need to explain away their problems.

2. If this were true, what property would make it exclusive to attractive women? By your theory I would expect unattractive women- and men- to be affected MORE.

3. Why don't men seem to display this behavior? Unless you're implying that men are somehow less vulnerable to insecurity (and I don't think you are).

4. Who is really teaching a need to "fit in"? I was always taught to embrace the "things that make me special," a concept that I find to be pretty universal. Even if we WERE teaching people to "fit in," wouldn't being less attractive than those enhanced beauties make you... fit in?

I think we need to accept that, sometimes, the victims have few to blame but themselves. Once we acknowledge that, we can help them.



The reason only women bitch and whine about this issue, about how the society is shaping people and forcing crazy beauty ideals on young women and blaa, blaa, blaah is simple.

Women are herd animals. Women cannot function as individuals. Women always have a peer group they adhere to. Women are all about everybody doing the same thing and getting along. Nobody, in womens opinion, should ever do their own thing and go their own way.

Think about it. How many women you know who do their own thing and risk potential social isolation due to going their own way. Not that many right. Now think about how many men you know who do that.

Hell the whole history of the mankind is built on the fact that men went out of their way to go against the grain of the society Galileo Galilei, Christopher Columbus etc.

I know theres bound to be a response from some chick saying 'well i'm not like that'. I don't care. Women in general are like that and just because you aren't doesn't mean dick all.



Wow, that seems like a pretty strong generalization.

While I stand by my original feelings on the issue, I submit that all people are "herd animals" in this way.

I'm not arguing that attractive women are crazy, or that women in general are any more crazy than men. I'm simply saying that people in general (including these "messed up beautiful women") have a tendency to blame others for their own problems.
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I have also found that a huge percentage have been raped at some time and that has had a terrible consequence for them.



right ill bite on this

if you leave aside the fact that one rape is too much what, to you, constitutes a 'huge percentage'



Although I was offended by that statement, I chose to just ignore that. It just showed to me his lack of understanding about the truth of rape issues. He believes that only the beautiful women are raped or that it is a lust issue. Would pointing out the truth change anything? I chose to be superficial about the "not important" part of the thread.... rather than try to educate someone about something that is truly important. Right or wrong, I didn't want to have someone with minimal or no knowledge about the true trauma of rape telling me that I was wrong. Because this is the bonfire, I wanted to just keep it lighter.

But... you are right and lets go there.

Rape is an act of VIOLENCE AND POWER, not passion. It's an attempt to hurt and humiliate, using sex as the weapon. Rapists act without considering their victim's physical appearance, dress, age, race, gender, or social status. Assailants seek out victims who they perceive to be vulnerable.

If you want to learn more or even verify my statements:
List of RAPE MYTHS - Sociology of Rape. University of Minnesota Duluth



If rape is about power and violence then why is there porn of it?

If its in no way a sexual act then why are there simulated rapes made for purely pornographic purposes?
Your rights end where my feelings begin.

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