Do you tell your friend?

[skymama 35]

So, you found out an acquaintance/friend is shacking up with someone you know has herpes. You'll also friends with the infected person and don't want to piss them off by telling their business. Do you tell your friend the risk or do you just stay out of it and hope that the infected person tells the truth?

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[JohnMitchell 16]

Wow, no easy questions tonight, SkyMama?

I'm saying my friends will do the right thing on their own, I hope. I guess there's a lot of options in those situations, right?

[stitch 0]

How do 2 people shake up ?

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[d_squared431 0]

Not my place or business to tell someones personal medical history to anyone else.

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[skymama 35]

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How do 2 people shake up ?

Fixed it. It's been a looong day!

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[Sapphire 0]

Wow - that's a hard one! I wouldn't want someone telling my business, but I'd sure want to know! I'd hope the person who is infected knows they need to do the right thing and has done so already... maybe talk to them?

It's really a crappy situation to be in really... good luck, whatever you decide!

"One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar" ~ Helen Keller

[iluvtofly 0]

Well hopefully the infected friend tells the other person. If not I would give my infected friend holy hell until they did.

[Amazon 7]

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So, you found out an acquaintance/friend is shacking up with someone you know has herpes. You'll also friends with the infected person and don't want to piss them off by telling their business. Do you tell your friend the risk or do you just stay out of it and hope that the infected person tells the truth?

Tell them since the other person is putting other peoples health at risk....period.

There are WAY to many idiots out there that think because THEY got it...its their right to pass it along to everyone else as well

[theonlyski 3]

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So, you found out an acquaintance/friend is shacking up with someone you know has herpes. You'll also friends with the infected person and don't want to piss them off by telling their business. Do you tell your friend the risk or do you just stay out of it and hope that the infected person tells the truth?

Tell them since the other person is putting other peoples health at risk....period.

There are WAY to many idiots out there that think because THEY got it...its their right to pass it along to everyone else as well

Its common knowledge, if you get an STD and give it to someone else, then you dont have it anymore, because you gave it to someone else...

Herpes and AIDS are like a fruitcake... you dont really want to get it, and you would rather give it to someone who might enjoy it!

"I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly
DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890
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[Andy9o8 1]

Would you be egregiously betraying a confidence if you told?

[davjohns 1]

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So, you found out an acquaintance/friend is shacking up with someone you know has herpes. You'll also friends with the infected person and don't want to piss them off by telling their business. Do you tell your friend the risk or do you just stay out of it and hope that the infected person tells the truth?

If you don't tell, do you become part of the 'lie by omission'? In my world, you do.

You don't want to tell their business? If they are having sex with someone else, it is more than one person's business.

Hope? Hope is not a method.

I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet..

But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course.

[MF42 0]

Best course is talk to the infected friend first.

Matt

[skymama 35]

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Would you be egregiously betraying a confidence if you told?

I'll have to find that out, I was asked to post this.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[LisaH 0]

A person's health is more important than someone getting pissed at you for telling.

If I were in this situation, I'd say something.

Be yourself!
MooOOooOoo

[LuckyMcSwervy 0]

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A person's health is more important than someone getting pissed at you for telling.

If I were in this situation, I'd say something.

+ 1

Always be kinder than you feel.

[The_Don 0]

Yep. That's my vote.

I am NOT being loud.
I'm being enthusiastic!

[airtwardo 7]

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Yep. That's my vote.

I'd sure wanna know, and if a 'friend' of mine knew and didn't TELL me...

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[LuckyMcSwervy 0]

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Yep. That's my vote.

I'd sure wanna know, and if a 'friend' of mine knew and didn't TELL me...

Doesn't anyone provide a doctor's note that they're healthy anymore?? Or was that so 1990s??

Always be kinder than you feel.

[The_Don 0]

Met my wife 20 years ago next Monday. Guess it worked , no note required ..

I am NOT being loud.
I'm being enthusiastic!

[ChrisL 2]

I dont think its hard actually. (I mean decision-wise)

The "right" thing to do is to tell your infected friend that they have to do the right thing and let their partner know the truth. Then tell them that if they do not do so, then you will do it for them.

They forfeit the right to that privacy when they knowingly put another person at risk without giving that person the right to make an informed choice.

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My mighty steed

[LongWayToFall 0]

If you knowingly infect someone with an STD, I thought you are liable for a suit?

[Nataly 38]

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The "right" thing to do is to tell your infected friend that they have to do the right thing and let their partner know the truth. Then tell them that if they do not do so, then you will do it for them.

+1

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- Chris Hadfield
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- my boss

[freefallfreak 0]

If a friend of mine willingly told me he/she had a STD it then becomes MY business. Of course I'd tell but only after giving the original person a chance to inform their partner on their own. I'll be damned if I'd let a friend knowingly catch something from someone that hides this kind of information from others.

TripleF

"Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up."

[DFWAJG 4]

Another way to approach it is to tactfully ask your non-infected friend how he/she is handling birth control. You can tactfully let the person know that it may be a good idea to use condoms in addition to already said birth control. You can also tactfully mention that sometimes, someone may say he/she is clean of disease, but may not be.

[Squeak 17]

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So, you found out an acquaintance/friend is shacking up with someone you know has herpes. You'll also friends with the infected person and don't want to piss them off by telling their business. Do you tell your friend the risk or do you just stay out of it and hope that the infected person tells the truth?

How do YOU know that they aren't already aware of it.
Are you so privy their everyones private info that you know the intimate details of their relationship?

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