Squeak 17 #26 October 21, 2011 QuotePeople will rarely admit to regrets in public since it's an admission of a mistake in judgement. Find somebody who has lived a long enough life, loosen them up over a few drinks and if they trust you enough to tell you, you'll usually find out they do have a regret or two. i think less so for people who are happy in their own skin. Regrets get you nowhere, and are just manifestations of self pity. All my bad choices helped shape me into the person i am today, and I'm fine with that person.You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quade 3 #27 October 21, 2011 QuoteQuotePeople will rarely admit to regrets in public since it's an admission of a mistake in judgement. Meh... We all make mistakes and occasionally exercise poor judgement... Not sure why some people don't accept this is a normal part of life. Which is fine for a person to realize for themselves, but are frequently unable to count on the same realization from others, which is why most people won't admit their mistakes or regrets.quade - The World's Most Boring Skydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #28 October 21, 2011 QuoteQuoteQuotePeople will rarely admit to regrets in public since it's an admission of a mistake in judgement. Meh... We all make mistakes and occasionally exercise poor judgement... Not sure why some people don't accept this is a normal part of life. Which is fine for a person to realize for themselves, but are frequently unable to count on the same realization from others, which is why most people won't admit their mistakes or regrets. you really should to resist judging people by your own poor standard. Everyone makes mistakes not everyone regetsYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,412 #29 October 22, 2011 Were it not for chicks making decisions they would later regret, my life would have been soo much less fun. "There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 14 #30 October 22, 2011 Ya gotta love a girl who makes bad choices. . . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oldwomanc6 38 #31 October 22, 2011 Quote Quote People will rarely admit to regrets in public since it's an admission of a mistake in judgement. Meh... We all make mistakes and occasionally exercise poor judgement... Not sure why some people don't accept this is a normal part of life. And then there is the "I regret it, but I don't think I would change it". There are many things that I wish I had done differently, but if I could erase them, I wouldn't be the same person I am. I like who I am! I wouldn't be who I am if I had made different decisions. I regret hurting others, that is all. Even that was never done intentionally. lisa WSCR 594 FB 1023 CBDB 9 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
amstalder 0 #32 October 22, 2011 Quote Quote Quote People will rarely admit to regrets in public since it's an admission of a mistake in judgement. Meh... We all make mistakes and occasionally exercise poor judgement... Not sure why some people don't accept this is a normal part of life. And then there is the "I regret it, but I don't think I would change it". There are many things that I wish I had done differently, but if I could erase them, I wouldn't be the same person I am. I like who I am! I wouldn't be who I am if I had made different decisions. I regret hurting others, that is all. Even that was never done intentionally. This x 100. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Marinus 0 #33 October 22, 2011 QuoteRegrets get you nowhere, and are just manifestations of self pity. Regret can prevent you from making the same mistake twice. And while regret can be a manifestation of self pity, it isn't always that. If I regret something it's most often a manifestation of guilt, preferably if that what I regret can't be fixed. I think your remark is true for some cases, but certainly not all. Regret isn't a sign there's something wrong with you, just like the lack of regret isn't always a sigh you're unable to learn from your mistakes or that you lack conscience. As for myself: I don't have a lot of regrets, but I've some regrets. As far as I'm concerned I should regret those things. This doesn't mean that I let those regrets take over my life, but they hurt like they should. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #34 October 22, 2011 QuoteQuoteQuotePeople will rarely admit to regrets in public since it's an admission of a mistake in judgement. Meh... We all make mistakes and occasionally exercise poor judgement... Not sure why some people don't accept this is a normal part of life. Which is fine for a person to realize for themselves, but are frequently unable to count on the same realization from others, which is why most people won't admit their mistakes or regrets. That's exactly what I meant. I don't see why people have this pressure not to admit to having made mistakes. I don't see why they shouldn't admit it to themselves and I don't see why they shouldn't admit it to others and I don't see why others wouldn't get that making mistakes is normal. The whole song and dance seems a little ridiculous to me. I get into trouble all the time for saying stuff I theoretically should keep to myself but I just can't stand bullshit. At least people can trust that when I say something I mean it - even if it's not PC."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 6 #35 October 22, 2011 Quote Quote Quote Quote People will rarely admit to regrets in public since it's an admission of a mistake in judgement. Meh... We all make mistakes and occasionally exercise poor judgement... Not sure why some people don't accept this is a normal part of life. Which is fine for a person to realize for themselves, but are frequently unable to count on the same realization from others, which is why most people won't admit their mistakes or regrets. you really should to resist judging people by your own poor standard. Everyone makes mistakes not everyone regrets I had a football coach in college who 'ingrained' something in my head that I always hear him screaming if I ever catch myself dwelling on the past. "Looking back wastes time~Looking back keeps ya from seein' where you're going~Looking back is for losers!" It was directed at the running backs and we'd hear it all the time reviewing game films, I just liked it and applied it a different way...once you really get behind that idea and live it, you go UP two steps on the happiness ladder! Everyone makes mistakes, if ya turn it and learn from it, that's a positive...so no regrets! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pincheck 0 #36 October 22, 2011 Yes i have made mistakes in my life do i regret them no and why ?,there are a number of reasons for this. Perhaps it basically goes back to the way My parents raised me ?. Stand on your own to feet and roll with it. Get on with life its too damn short to cry over spilled milk, that and they helped shaped who i am Christ. Learn from mistakes is about it, and enjoy life. As you get older you do realize there is more to life than money, I have kids anyway they spend it for me Live life how you want to live it, not how other wish you to live Billy-Sonic Haggis Flickr-Fun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #37 October 22, 2011 Regrets, I've had a few. But then again, too few to mention. (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #38 October 23, 2011 I greatly regret not knowing enough Farsi to truly have told my grandmother how much I loved her and how much she means to me over the phone when she was about to pass away from cancer. I greatly regret not always telling my mom I love her when I say goodby. I regret not hugging all my friends after every time I land and can walk away. At the moment I greatly regret not having spoken with my accountant sooner. We try to live a life empty of regret, and that's what I like about you skydivers. Your impetuousness is truly admirable quality that perhaps others just don't seem to get. Maybe I have a rosey view of you guys and gals since no one has screwed me out of a deal, stolen my stuff or laid any drama on me. But as a guy who jumps about every other week or so or as Skygod permits, I have no regrets of being a part of this small community.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #39 October 23, 2011 Quote Yes i have made mistakes in my life do i regret them no and why ?,there are a number of reasons for this. Perhaps it basically goes back to the way My parents raised me ?. Stand on your own to feet and roll with it. Get on with life its too damn short to cry over spilled milk, that and they helped shaped who i am Christ. Learn from mistakes is about it, and enjoy life. As you get older you do realize there is more to life than money, I have kids anyway they spend it for me Live life how you want to live it, not how other wish you to live Thank you You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Krip 2 #40 October 23, 2011 Hi N I'm even 10 yr's older then Mr twardo so I've had a lot more chances to be happy or sad than you all. Everyone makes poor decisions and good ones in a lifetime . Looking back at the big picture and the roads I've traveled I don't regret anything.IOW's don't sweat the small stuff, Don't worry be happy and think for yourself. R. One Jump Wonder Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #41 October 23, 2011 Quote I'm even 10 yr's older then Mr twardo . Gotta call BS on that . NO ONE is older that father time (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #42 October 23, 2011 Quote Live life how you want to live it, not how other wish you to live Yep... If you spend all your time living up to other people's expectations you end-up disappointing yourself."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Krip 2 #43 October 23, 2011 Quote Quote I'm even 10 yr's older then Mr twardo . Gotta call BS on that . NO ONE is older that father time Hi S I can live with that for nowWould you believe me of I told you I'm 25 and look like Shah's dream girl ROne Jump Wonder Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #44 October 23, 2011 Quote Quote Quote I'm even 10 yr's older then Mr twardo . Gotta call BS on that . NO ONE is older that father time Hi S I can live with that for nowWould you believe me of I told you I'm 25 and look like Shah's dream girl R (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peregrinerose 0 #45 October 23, 2011 Why regret anything? The positive choices I've made have worked out well, and the mistakes I've made, I've learned from, so that ends up as a positive too. Life's too short to look backwards. Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
charlie5 0 #46 October 24, 2011 Actually now that I've thought about it and how a chain of decisions leads to where you are in life, had I not made some decisions I regret, I probably wouldn't be skydiving now. So I regret them, but I wouldn't change them, I can only use those bad decisions to help make better ones in the future. So yeah, all those past decisions somehow lead up to me skydiving, so it balanced out. The feather butts bounce off ya like raindrops hitting a battle-star when they come in too fast...kinda funny to watch. - airtwardo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #47 October 24, 2011 It's amazing to think how seemingly small choices have massively impacted my life... Conversely, some big decisions I lost much sleep over turned out not to be so life-changing after all... Chances are if I wiped out all the mistakes I've made, I merely would have made *different* mistakes... Some of little consequence and some not. I would possibly be living a totally different life - maybe better and maybe worse but it's imposible to tell which. I would have developped according to a different set of circumstances and would likely still stand by my choices since I would have nothing to compare them with. All in all, I think if you dwell too much on the "what if's" it becomes counter-productive... Because the different decision(s) would not have led you to the path you imagine, it would simply have brought you somewhere else."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
