MarkM 0 #26 March 5, 2002 QuoteNext question - what possible reasons could there be for a guy in the above hypothetical situation to NOT give an answer either way?Probably one of two reasons:1> He really isn't that interested to begin with, but doesn't want to say anything to upset you.2> He doesn't know he's suppose to give you an answer, because the way you asked the question wasn't something a man has the communication skills to pick up on. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #27 March 5, 2002 P.S. I'm off this weekend cielos azules y cerveza fría-Kevin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sebazz1 2 #28 March 5, 2002 QuoteCome to Texas me and Skycat will find you somebody.......Lisa should have no problem finding a new man..........Relationships shouldn't have to be hard. Sounds like you would have to go too far out of your way this weekend. Have fun & good luck whatever you do...........Sebazz............ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #29 March 5, 2002 QuoteLisa should have no problem finding a new man..........No kidding.. I think she's gotten more offers than Paula did and she showed her boobies!!!My happiest married friends keep reminding me that when it's right, it won't be "WORK". One can only hope they're rightMake up your own ending,let me know just how you feel.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
westcoastchica 0 #30 March 5, 2002 i'm sorry, i lag so hard when it comes to keeping up with these posts, but i just saw this and i had to say something...lisa, i know we have only met once in person, but i feel like i know you for some reason and you are worth so much more tahn anything this stupid situation could provide you with. eewww. that fact that it has been 3 months and you were willing to drive out to nowhereville just for a weekend with him and he was still considering working as an option...ewww. eewww ewww ewwww. cut away girlfriend. you are way better than that. if it was meant to be, let his butt come after you.this is all easier said than done, i know. but respect the bytch inside and seek out a true match for you. find someone who would do the same for you as you would for them. would this guy drop his project and drive that far for a weekend with you? it doesn't sound like it. mind you, i know nothing about him or what is really going on in this situation...but i do know how much you are worth, and thus, i defend my ranting with that... now, don't be grossed out by this suggestion, but, if i was single, i would be looking at match.com right now. i have a friend who met her fiance on there and another friend who is going on her first date from it this weekend. i have seen the guys on there when i was helping my friend look, and some of them are worth the effort of an e-mail. the greatest part is, you can set your search to find guys within a certain distance of your zip code. (hint: set the miles to something less than 400. ) but, if it's not up your alley, i understand...of course, you're adventurous...i could see you giving it a shot.anyway, lisa, you are a prize, demand one in return.lara Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FallingILweenie 0 #31 March 5, 2002 it depends...how long had it been since the guy got to skydive? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pammi 0 #32 March 5, 2002 Lisa- Be careful! Been there, done that...bf far away thing. Turns out the whole "you assume he's also not having sex" may not necessarily be true. Actually had the guy look me in the eye and ask if I was, I wasn't, then promise the same to me DURING the act, then go home and f*** someone else. Not saying that's what's going on here at all, I wouldn't know of course, but be careful!As to the match.com thing...not so crazy an idea :) I met Merrick thru a classified! Both of us had ads cuz we were bored and frustrated with the 'pickings' in our towns...talked thru emails and on the phone for a long time, then finally met and have been together ever since. It can happen! There are fruitloops everywhere, not just online! (for those who are scared of internet meetings)Good luck!!Closing pin jewelry Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #33 March 5, 2002 Well...make sure you are communicating exactly what you want. If he is still wishy washy there is probably a reason. It could be that he does want to see you but doesn't want you to drive all that way. It could be he has a hot date this weekend. Who knows. I'm divorced....and haven't been laid in 2 + months....what the hell would I know about relationships!!! "I only have a C license, so I don't know shit..right?"-Clay Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Beachbum 0 #34 March 5, 2002 agree with earlier posts ... could be he's just not that interested, and his way of letting you know that ... or he already has something else lined up for the weekend ... or ... worst case ... his work means more to him than you do ... also agree with the advice ... cutaway time .. good luck!about the online stuff ... all I can say is be very cautious .. especially long distance ... I use ICQ a bit (not out looking for women .. to talk to friends and family), and got messaged by someone who I ended up talking to for over a year ... finally she came for a visit, which went quite well ... then I get a letter from her husband ... she'd told me she got divorced 5 years before ... and she knew VERY well from discussions that I'm not the type to screw around with married women ... As long as you are happy with yourself ... who cares what the rest of the world thinks? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #35 March 6, 2002 QuoteI'm not the type to screw around with married womenMe either....unless Merrick is at work...."I only have a C license, so I don't know shit..right?"-Clay Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 259 #36 March 6, 2002 *looks at red handle* Ah well, his loss. *kachink!* Thanks all for the kind words btw... too bad all of you offering live too far away too! pull and flare,lisa---Mondays suck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airdrew20012001 0 #37 March 6, 2002 Shyster,I would say yes.Drewfus McDoofus Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bill2 0 #38 March 6, 2002 As to the match.com thing...not so crazy an idea :) I met Merrick thru a classified! Both of us had ads cuz we were bored and frustrated with the 'pickings' in our towns...talked thru emails and on the phone for a long time, then finally met and have been together ever since. _________________________________smart move Pammi. I met my wife when she posted an ad in the local newspaper. We hit it off immediately 4 years ago, and got married in May 2000. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpinJohn 0 #39 March 6, 2002 Cut that baglock away! You deserve better! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zinger 0 #40 March 6, 2002 3 Months??? I'd be at your doorstep within 6 weeks even if I had to walk.. 3 Months?? lol Wow!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AndyMan 7 #41 March 6, 2002 Do you have to cuttaway?I'm in the same situation. My GF moved to Cleveland 8 monthes ago. About 4 monthes ago we decided to see other people. We still talk about weekend road trips. Occaisionally, they've actually happened. She wanted me to head her way last weekend, actually. I went to SDC instead.Her opinion is that the weekend trips will end if either of us gets laid.I say why not as long as we're not seeing anyone else ...?The weird part is the complete lack of closure. We simply haven't been able to decide what event signifies the end of the relationship - or rather the point at which we really are just friends. We don't even know if that event's come and gone yet.I supose it's a weird situation, but it hasn't stopped me from dating.Too much information? LOL_AmICQ: 5578907MSN Messenger: andrewdmetcalfe at hotmail dot com Yahoo IM: ametcalf_1999 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rgoper 0 #42 March 6, 2002 lisa:i'm posting this WITHOUT reading the other replies, i'd tell her to do whatever made her day! no one can have someone be willed to do what they really don't want to do, and have them enjoy it!Richard"Gravity Is My Friend" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shark 0 #43 March 6, 2002 Skybytch,I guess this is a situation in which you can be somewhat indecisive. In my case cutting away was the easy option, but instead, I kind of let my "cypres" fire; the relationship kinda fizzed out. In my case, the blonde in question lived in Seattle. So, logistically it was pretty difficult unless one of us made the big move. Now how could I leave dropzone heaven??!!Shark Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jabeln79 0 #44 March 6, 2002 Im in kind of a similar situation accept maybe fipped around. I was seeing a girl this summer who was staying in town. at the end of summer she went back to school. SInce then she always wants me to come down and see her. But THe weekends i have to save for jumping. SO i dont really get to see her unless she comes up hear. Is it sad to give up sex for jumps. I personally would rather spend a couple days at the DZ then drive all the way down there just for one day of sex. Anybody else out there that would give up sex for skydiving, or am i just crazy.Blue Skies Joe "When they say jump you say how high" RATM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lazerq3 0 #45 March 6, 2002 DUDE!!! Save the sex for a rainy day!!!!! If the sky is blue...get out and jump!!!!jason Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jabeln79 0 #46 March 6, 2002 Thanks I was scaring myself for a minute there. At least someone else sees it my way JUmp first then if you can find time, have sexBlue Skies Joe "When they say jump you say how high" RATM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MarkM 0 #47 March 6, 2002 QuoteAnybody else out there that would give up sex for skydiving, or am i just crazy.Not really crazy, I don't date. But then I gave up trying to be a "normal" person a long time ago.The sky has no expections. It won't judge you or ask you to commit to more than you're ready for. It's just there. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
riggerrob 561 #48 March 6, 2002 Jeff Foxworthy tone of voice ..."You might be a skydiver if you would rather jump than have sex." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #49 March 7, 2002 lisa,the answer is taring you right in the face......ask viking out!!!!!!!!!! "i may not go to heven, i hope you go to hell"-C.C. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jfields 0 #50 March 7, 2002 Good call, Wingnut.Besides, Lisa, god only knows what he can do, considering that freaky arch of his. Put him to the test.If I was that flexible, I can think of a number of things to do....Hey! I wasn't thinking of that! Justin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
