KolinskyDC 0 #1 March 25, 2004 The thread on quitting things you love for skydiving made me wonder. If you met someone who was the person of your dreams, but the fact that they would not be with you if you continued to skydive, which would you choose. Or if the person you are with right now, spouse or significant other, gave you and ultimatum, which would you choose. This is hypothetical, so do not give me the answer that they would never make me choose, just pretend they did. If this had been done before, sorry, but just play along anyway. Melissa "May the best of your past be the worst of your future" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
weegegirl 2 #2 March 25, 2004 honestly, if they were the person of my "dreams" ... they would (are) definately be a skydiver. without a doubt. but... if that were not the case () i would choose skydiving. i would not sacrifice my own dreams and passion for someone else's selfish needs. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
samhussey 0 #3 March 25, 2004 Depends on the relationship. Besides you can go into a relationship, and maybe the S/O will change their mind. Or you could break up due to something unrelated and go back to the sky. Best stick with the relationship, and then see what happens. The sky is always there, but that person might not be. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
karenmeal 0 #4 March 25, 2004 Skydiving is such a permanent part of my life, the SO would go in a heartbeat! When I began skydiving I was dating a guy who came out and did one tandem, he didn't want to continue jumping.. so I broke up with him! Its really a simply choice in my book... "Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyyhi 0 #5 March 25, 2004 My opinion is this. . .if the person loves you and you love them, they will not hinder your dreams and you will not hinder theirs. You compliment each other and everything flows from that - a person putting an ultimatum on you is doing it for their own selfish reasons and does not truly love you. . .therefore should not be the person of your dreams. . .________________________________________ Take risks not to escape life… but to prevent life from escaping. ~ A bumper sticker at the DZ FGF #6 Darcy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #7 March 25, 2004 It depends. One skydiver's wife overheard many instructors telling this guy to take up bowling. He was very unaware in the sky, and he was dangerous. She understood that this sport probably just wasn't for him. She was on the instructors' side. If I were him, I would've picked the relationship.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bkdice 0 #8 March 25, 2004 QuoteMy opinion is this. . .if the person loves you and you love them, they will not hinder your dreams and you will not hinder theirs. You compliment each other and everything flows from that - a person putting an ultimatum on you is doing it for their own selfish reasons and does not truly love you. . .therefore should not be the person of your dreams. . . Exactly! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites goose491 0 #9 March 25, 2004 If the person of my dreams gave me an Ultimatum at all, I would have been mistaken as to her being the person of my dreams. She'd be promptly kicked to the curb. My Karma ran over my Dogma!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jerry81 10 #10 March 25, 2004 If it would actually come to that, I have one word: DOOR!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Tonto 1 #11 March 25, 2004 Been there, done that, many, many times. Skydiving has always won - at least for the last 19 years. I don't date whuffo's. tIt's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites KolinskyDC 0 #12 March 25, 2004 QuoteQuoteMy opinion is this. . .if the person loves you and you love them, they will not hinder your dreams and you will not hinder theirs. You compliment each other and everything flows from that - a person putting an ultimatum on you is doing it for their own selfish reasons and does not truly love you. . .therefore should not be the person of your dreams. . . I agree completely. Over the last 9 months since I began skydiving I have noticed that when I start dating someone, it just does not end up working for the simple fact that when I am not working or spending time with my son, I am at the DZ, and just did not have time to invest in a relationship. I literally found myself on a couple of dates after spending the whole weekend at the DZ jumping and drinking, then driving an hour and a half home on Sunday and getting out on a date and start nodding off while sitting at a restaurant That made my date feel wonderful. I have not dated a skydiver yet, but I think that is probably inevitable. I am curious how do skydivers make relationships work with non-skydivers? Melissa "May the best of your past be the worst of your future" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites pa2themd 0 #13 March 25, 2004 the person of my dreams would never give me that ultimatium, and if they did then they are the person of my dreams!!! "Most of us can read the writing on the wall; we just assume it's addressed to someone else!" Ivern Ball Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #14 March 25, 2004 I cant be with someone who doesnt understand that skydiving is a big big part of my life. Therefore, most likely, if I was given an ultimatum like that, I'd say goodbye to them. I started before I met them, and I'll continue when they're gone. And like others have said.... if he was the man of my dreams... he wouldnt be making me choose. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites goose491 0 #15 March 25, 2004 That's a great point Val. I'd have to consider it if the ultimatum was ever presented to me. However, I think at this point, I've decided that the sport is for me. My Karma ran over my Dogma!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Rdy2skydive 0 #16 March 25, 2004 Recently a few non-skydiving friends told me that I was just skydiving until I met the right guy. Once I met him I would definitely want to quit skydiving. Hmmmm. I don't think so. I like to think that the man of my dreams would support me in anything I wanted to do. In the past, I've never regretted walking away from relationships, but I've always regretted the things I gave up to try to make those relationships work. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skybytch 259 #17 March 25, 2004 QuoteI don't date whuffo's. Same here. Kinda limits the number of fish in the pool and extends the amount of time I'm "single" - but I think the relationship would be better and last longer because we'd share the same passion. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Nightingale 0 #18 March 25, 2004 if someone would try to restrict my lifestyle, they wouldn't be the person of my dreams. so no, I wouldn't give up skydiving for a relationship. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites JUDYJ 0 #19 March 25, 2004 QuoteIf it would actually come to that, I have one word: DOOR!!! AMEN!!! I mean DOOR!!! *********************************** IF you are going to be Stupid - you better be tough! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Casurf1978 0 #20 March 25, 2004 Well said. You going up to Elsi this weekend? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Kramer 0 #21 March 25, 2004 I kinda gotta agree with what weegee said. I think for most of the people on here, the "person of our dreams" would be someone who didn't mind if we were a skydiver...thus negating this ultimatum. The FAKE KRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMER!!!!!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Orchid 0 #22 March 25, 2004 I totally agree with Skyyhi. When starting a relationship with someone, you should let each other know what's important in your life...if the person supports you...great then you'll know that person truely loves you for who you are not what you do. Does that make sense...? Personally, ultimatum are for the weak/selfish/controlling individual(s). It doesn't work with me. ^_~"Love is doing small things with great love." Lacrosse: Legally beating men with sticks since 1492 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites BETO74 0 #23 March 25, 2004 exactly my feeings........well saidhttp://web.mac.com/ac057a/iWeb/AC057A/H0M3.html Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mccordia 73 #24 March 25, 2004 I wonder what people would answer if you asked this in a Bowling forum (Ultimatum...relationship of bowling) heheheJC FlyLikeBrick I'm an Athlete? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites yoink 321 #25 March 25, 2004 I was chatting to some of my whuffo mates about this recently... they just couldn't understand it... "How can you choose a sport over someone you care for?" People who don't jump don't understand how much of a part of you skydiving becomes... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 Next Page 1 of 4 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. 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goose491 0 #9 March 25, 2004 If the person of my dreams gave me an Ultimatum at all, I would have been mistaken as to her being the person of my dreams. She'd be promptly kicked to the curb. My Karma ran over my Dogma!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jerry81 10 #10 March 25, 2004 If it would actually come to that, I have one word: DOOR!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tonto 1 #11 March 25, 2004 Been there, done that, many, many times. Skydiving has always won - at least for the last 19 years. I don't date whuffo's. tIt's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KolinskyDC 0 #12 March 25, 2004 QuoteQuoteMy opinion is this. . .if the person loves you and you love them, they will not hinder your dreams and you will not hinder theirs. You compliment each other and everything flows from that - a person putting an ultimatum on you is doing it for their own selfish reasons and does not truly love you. . .therefore should not be the person of your dreams. . . I agree completely. Over the last 9 months since I began skydiving I have noticed that when I start dating someone, it just does not end up working for the simple fact that when I am not working or spending time with my son, I am at the DZ, and just did not have time to invest in a relationship. I literally found myself on a couple of dates after spending the whole weekend at the DZ jumping and drinking, then driving an hour and a half home on Sunday and getting out on a date and start nodding off while sitting at a restaurant That made my date feel wonderful. I have not dated a skydiver yet, but I think that is probably inevitable. I am curious how do skydivers make relationships work with non-skydivers? Melissa "May the best of your past be the worst of your future" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pa2themd 0 #13 March 25, 2004 the person of my dreams would never give me that ultimatium, and if they did then they are the person of my dreams!!! "Most of us can read the writing on the wall; we just assume it's addressed to someone else!" Ivern Ball Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #14 March 25, 2004 I cant be with someone who doesnt understand that skydiving is a big big part of my life. Therefore, most likely, if I was given an ultimatum like that, I'd say goodbye to them. I started before I met them, and I'll continue when they're gone. And like others have said.... if he was the man of my dreams... he wouldnt be making me choose. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
goose491 0 #15 March 25, 2004 That's a great point Val. I'd have to consider it if the ultimatum was ever presented to me. However, I think at this point, I've decided that the sport is for me. My Karma ran over my Dogma!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rdy2skydive 0 #16 March 25, 2004 Recently a few non-skydiving friends told me that I was just skydiving until I met the right guy. Once I met him I would definitely want to quit skydiving. Hmmmm. I don't think so. I like to think that the man of my dreams would support me in anything I wanted to do. In the past, I've never regretted walking away from relationships, but I've always regretted the things I gave up to try to make those relationships work. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 259 #17 March 25, 2004 QuoteI don't date whuffo's. Same here. Kinda limits the number of fish in the pool and extends the amount of time I'm "single" - but I think the relationship would be better and last longer because we'd share the same passion. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #18 March 25, 2004 if someone would try to restrict my lifestyle, they wouldn't be the person of my dreams. so no, I wouldn't give up skydiving for a relationship. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JUDYJ 0 #19 March 25, 2004 QuoteIf it would actually come to that, I have one word: DOOR!!! AMEN!!! I mean DOOR!!! *********************************** IF you are going to be Stupid - you better be tough! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casurf1978 0 #20 March 25, 2004 Well said. You going up to Elsi this weekend? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kramer 0 #21 March 25, 2004 I kinda gotta agree with what weegee said. I think for most of the people on here, the "person of our dreams" would be someone who didn't mind if we were a skydiver...thus negating this ultimatum. The FAKE KRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMER!!!!!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Orchid 0 #22 March 25, 2004 I totally agree with Skyyhi. When starting a relationship with someone, you should let each other know what's important in your life...if the person supports you...great then you'll know that person truely loves you for who you are not what you do. Does that make sense...? Personally, ultimatum are for the weak/selfish/controlling individual(s). It doesn't work with me. ^_~"Love is doing small things with great love." Lacrosse: Legally beating men with sticks since 1492 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BETO74 0 #23 March 25, 2004 exactly my feeings........well saidhttp://web.mac.com/ac057a/iWeb/AC057A/H0M3.html Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mccordia 73 #24 March 25, 2004 I wonder what people would answer if you asked this in a Bowling forum (Ultimatum...relationship of bowling) heheheJC FlyLikeBrick I'm an Athlete? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yoink 321 #25 March 25, 2004 I was chatting to some of my whuffo mates about this recently... they just couldn't understand it... "How can you choose a sport over someone you care for?" People who don't jump don't understand how much of a part of you skydiving becomes... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
