tinfoil 0 #1 June 24, 2005 Ok, here's the lead up. I went home for a few weeks and recently returned to my apartment. While I was at home my roommate was here and; ate most of the food that we had. When I left there wasn’t much, but you could go 3 days or so without eating the same thing twice. Now it’s kinda limited to Chunky soup and stale crackers. She’s said she can't afford to go grocery shopping, but last night she bought weed for the second time this week. Now she says that if I don't go shopping with her, she only going to buy food for herself. It's pretty important to keep on good terms with the roommate because there are still 10 months left in the lease. But at the same time I don't think it's unreasonable to ask her to replace the food she ate while I was gone. Also, we’re both students so money is limited for both of us. While I wait for her to wake up and have to talk to her about it, what would you do? I'm tempted to pay $20, and let her cover the rest. “- - Sumo is the greatest of sports. It has power, grace, speed and cluture. And most importantly, two fat bastards smacking the shit out of each other. ” Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #2 June 24, 2005 If she can afford to buy weed, she can afford to buy food. Next roommate you get, sit down and sign a contract. Doesn't matter how good of friends you are.May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ashtanga 0 #3 June 24, 2005 If she keeps smoking weed she will keep eating the food. Munchies...Munchies...Munchies... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 1 #4 June 24, 2005 QuoteIf she can afford to buy weed, she can afford to buy food. Next roommate you get, sit down and sign a contract. Doesn't matter how good of friends you are. Im with Mar on this one... Maybe if she stopped smoking dope she wouldnt need to eat as much food? On a serious note, that was way uncool to eat all the food and expect you to pay up. I call bullshit. If something had been discussed before hand fine, but that doesnt seem to be the case. these things need to be discussed and addressed. Good luck She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rwieder 0 #5 June 24, 2005 QuoteBut at the same time I don't think it's unreasonable to ask her to replace the food she ate while I was gone. your right, it's not out of line. unless your married to her or she is kin folk i'd expect her to fend for herself. QuoteAlso, we’re both students so money is limited for both of us. While I wait for her to wake up and have to talk to her about it, what would you do? i would simply ask her to replace the food she consumed while you were gone. QuoteI'm tempted to pay $20, and let her cover the rest. buy a small dorm refrigirator, put you stuff in it and put a pad lock on it. buy an old army surplus foot locker as well, put your sundries in it and lock it as well. but to answer your question in the poll, you should stand up for your self. good luck.-Richard- "You're Holding The Rope And I'm Taking The Fall" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #6 June 24, 2005 Reading this post... I'm just glad I don't have food problems with my roommates... Now if only I can teach him to shut doors... ...Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DJL 232 #7 June 24, 2005 QuoteIf she can afford to buy weed, she can afford to buy food. C'mon, they're in COLLEGE. That's like saying that if she can afford books then she can afford food. This is a rookie roommate issue. Sharing groceries NEVER works unless you're chipping in for one lasange that you split. You can't keep track of who had how many pringles or this or that. You need to buy your own food, then if one of you runs short on an ingredient you ask before doing or tell later with the intent to replace it. My roomate and I have shared a kitchen for several years. We don't touch each other's food unless it's an emergency, but we share beer and cheese. You don't need to have a contract or lock up your food, just be a normal respectful human. As for this instance, blow it off as a minor issue because you'll just come off as being petty. Now, if all of this is well established and your roommate takes your belongings, then that shit just shouldn't fly..."I encourage all awesome dangerous behavior." - Jeffro Fincher Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chrissay 0 #8 June 24, 2005 I had a roommate like that once. She was the biggest mooch in the world. She would eat everyones food and drink whatever we had in the fridge. After she drank a lot of our milk or juice she would add water to it so we wouldn't notice that some was gone! We physically took her to the grocery store and would make her replace what she had taken from us, we didn't play the mooch game. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #9 June 24, 2005 Quote...We physically took her to the grocery store and would make her replace what she had taken from us, we didn't play the mooch game. and then I would smoke all her weed. My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterrig 1 #10 June 24, 2005 QuoteOk, here's the lead up. I went home for a few weeks and recently returned to my apartment. While I was at home my roommate was here and; ate most of the food that we had. When I left there wasn’t much, but you could go 3 days or so without eating the same thing twice. Now it’s kinda limited to Chunky soup and stale crackers. She’s said she can't afford to go grocery shopping, but last night she bought weed for the second time this week. Now she says that if I don't go shopping with her, she only going to buy food for herself. It's pretty important to keep on good terms with the roommate because there are still 10 months left in the lease. But at the same time I don't think it's unreasonable to ask her to replace the food she ate while I was gone. Also, we’re both students so money is limited for both of us. While I wait for her to wake up and have to talk to her about it, what would you do? I'm tempted to pay $20, and let her cover the rest. _________________________________ O.K.! Here's the deal. you admitted that, you were back home for a few weeks. Your roomie, was obviously considering the 'spoilage factor' of the food. Had she not eaten it... it would have spoiled. That would be wasting money. I do think, she shoulda' shared the weed with you, though. Sit down with her and try to calmly work-out a 'game' plan in regard to the groceries. A situation like yours can get to the knit-pickin' phase, real fast. Don't let it continue without talking with her about it. If, she continues her ways... shop for yourself and tell her so. If she touches your grub, you're gonna rip her arm off and beat her with it! Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #11 June 24, 2005 Stand up for yourself. Fuck her. Irresponsability leads to disaster which usually leads to learning. If she still doesn't learn then its not your problem, her life will spiral. If she gets crazy about it, tell her you'll narc. You can always find another roommate to sublease.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #12 June 24, 2005 I think that's why my old college roommate and I didn't share food. It was just much simpler to be responsible for our own food then to try to figure out who ate how much.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #13 June 24, 2005 QuoteReading this post... I'm just glad I don't have food problems with my roommates... Reading this post... I'm just glad I don't have roommates... I'm used to not having any food around, growing up with two brothers that ate like horses, my mom would give me food to hide in my bedroom from them.... Maybe that's what you need to do... start putting locks on the cupboards and keep a stash of twinkies under your bed... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ashtanga 0 #14 June 24, 2005 Or you can tell her to stop smoking weed and start doing cocaine and meth and then she will never eat. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
daniel_owen_uk 0 #15 June 24, 2005 QuoteQuote...We physically took her to the grocery store and would make her replace what she had taken from us, we didn't play the mooch game. and then I would smoke all her weed. Glad I wasn't the only one thinking that __________________ BOOM Headshot Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rebecca 0 #16 June 24, 2005 QuoteIrresponsability leads to disaster which usually leads to learning. I thought that was fear leads to anger leads to the dark side... ? Either way dude, it's pretty clear cut. Use the force and tell her to be a good roommate. Hide your snack food. you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chrissay 0 #17 June 24, 2005 QuoteQuoteQuote...We physically took her to the grocery store and would make her replace what she had taken from us, we didn't play the mooch game. and then I would smoke all her weed. Glad I wasn't the only one thinking that LOL I tell you that was one of the most interesting roommate situations I have had. If guys don't think girls are violent, they are wrong! There were quite a few times I had to peel one of my roomates off the other. I got thrown right through a closet one time. My one roommate had the other by the neck against the wall another time. Yep, those were the days Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #18 June 24, 2005 Quote -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Quote -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- If she can afford to buy weed, she can afford to buy food. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- C'mon, they're in COLLEGE. That's like saying that if she can afford books then she can afford food. WTH, are you comparing buying weed to buying books? You don't have to have weed to attend college, but you do need to have the books if you expect to make a descent grade in the class. It's all about priorities. The roommate spent her money on drugs and not on food. There are student loans, government grants, and work study that can be done to help pay for the books. There are also some classes that you can check the book out at the library if you can't afford to buy the book, oh and don't forget about buying used books. I don't think any of those would apply to buying weed.May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
seejanefall 0 #19 June 24, 2005 Is she expecting to share your underware when she doesn't have money for laundry too?? Whenever I had a roommate in college we each had separate shelves for our own food & different areas of the fridge. There were certain things we'd share expenses on, like TP or milk. Other than that, you're ROOMMATES not a married couple. _____________ PMS #394 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sistaluv 0 #20 June 24, 2005 Awh man this topic.....I just dealt with my own situation like this and I'm not a mother and don't have kids and no need to buy anyone anything unless I want to!!! Same kinda sitch as you but I "had" 3 bedroom house and I evicted everyone and their boyfriends and gave up my place to so theres no more leeches.....I'm not hostile at all ya think...lol Enough is enough!! Didn't need to give up the place but I decided I want to travel. Blue Skies and Terminal Memories 4 Life Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bmcd308 0 #21 June 24, 2005 I'm with DJL on this one. You guys are roommates. You are in college. Unless you feel like your roomie really does systematically take advantage of you, blow it off. And before you decide that your roomie does take advantage of you in one area, make sure that you consider others as well. For example, are you hitting out of roomie's bag? If so, that is an example of roomie hooking you up. Do roomie's parents buy a kitchen load of food every three months when they visit? Does roomie do your math homework? Stuff tends to even out over time, so don't let one thing get in the way of what could be a great and lasting friendship. On the other hand, don't let yourself get run over, either. You gotta be the one to draw the line. Brent ---------------------------------- www.jumpelvis.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bmcd308 0 #22 June 24, 2005 >>Fuck her. << While this is normally great advice in lots of situationis where women are involved, I am not sure it will solve the food issue. ---------------------------------- www.jumpelvis.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darius11 12 #23 June 24, 2005 Dude just buy your own food and have her buy her own food. No one eats the others food from now on. That should workI'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gravitational 0 #24 June 24, 2005 Just roommates or roommates with benefits? If'n there's benefits, suck it up and go load up the fridge. No bene's, lock it all up and let her starve. Weed before food is a really bad choice anyway.------ Michael Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #25 June 24, 2005 I'm so glad I never had to deal with roommates. I've always lived alone or with a female companion. Live within your means and live alone. Then you wouldn't have to deal with a roommate eating your food. "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
