When A Girl Tells You No

[LuckyMcSwervy 0]

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but i sharted on exit once as we were building outside the otter and all i could think was "do i stay or do i jump, do i stay or jump?!!!!" amazing all the scenarios that ran through my head in the 3 second count. Thank goodness i was wearing boxer briefs or i could have had the worst splatter of all time. first one to land, tossed the undies and was on the next load, no one ever knew... Until now!

I forgot to ask if that's the reason for your head down in your avatar pic?? Hmmmm????

Always be kinder than you feel.

[Hausse 0]

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That's because sex and sushi are not the same word.

True, but for many of us one usually leads to the other.

Aaahhhh Sake...

[LuckyMcSwervy 0]

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Should have asked her to go to lunch the next day or sometime soon. It's less of a commitment than dinner. And yeah getting rejected does get easier.

LOL - I figured your daytime lunch reasoning is the natural light is better to run the video.

Always be kinder than you feel.

[shortyj 0]

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So, at lunch I saw this girl I like and I asked her out to dinner. As usual when I ask someone out, she told me no. Does it ever get to a point that it doesn't make you feel lower than whale crap when a girl turns you down?

What are you crazy! No don't quit asking. And don't feel like crap there is no reason to.

Playtime is essential.

[Nutz 0]

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Better yet, tell her to bring a six pack of good beer, a dozen condoms, and maybe her girlfriend, and you can watch porn together.

That pretty much only works at the dropzone.

Huh, that works on a dropzone? I been goin to the wrong dropzones.

And that guy that logged the "Shart"

"Don't! Get! Eliminated!"

[piratemike 0]

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Should have asked her to go to lunch the next day or sometime soon. It's less of a commitment than dinner. And yeah getting rejected does get easier.

I second that on all points.

[BDashe 0]

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Better yet, tell her to bring a six pack of good beer, a dozen condoms, and maybe her girlfriend, and you can watch porn together.

That pretty much only works at the dropzone.

Huh, that works on a dropzone? I been goin to the wrong dropzones.

And that guy that logged the "Shart"

+1 Nutz. Who ever said sharting isnt classy? When i said suit, desk and office I meant stained beater (and undies...ew), lawn chair, and sidewalk.

Lucky: what you don't see is my mod on the backside of my jumpsuit- i put the old timey butt window in complete with rig splatter guard (head up disposal) for just such an occasion. The 170 mph air bidet.

Nutz- use everything I just said as a pick up line and you're sure to win her heart.

So there I was...

Making friends and playing nice since 1983

[skittles_of_SDC 0]

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Should have asked her to go to lunch the next day or sometime soon. It's less of a commitment than dinner. And yeah getting rejected does get easier.

LOL - I figured your daytime lunch reasoning is the natural light is better to run the video.

I didn't even think of that. What are you doin' for lunch tomorrow?

[LuckyMcSwervy 0]

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Should have asked her to go to lunch the next day or sometime soon. It's less of a commitment than dinner. And yeah getting rejected does get easier.

LOL - I figured your daytime lunch reasoning is the natural light is better to run the video.

I didn't even think of that. What are you doin' for lunch tomorrow?

Always be kinder than you feel.

[Broke 0]

I know this has been posted before, but I think it is topical

http://www.break.com/index/she-has-a-boyfriend.html

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[happythoughts 0]

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So, at lunch I saw this girl I like and I asked her out to dinner. As usual when I ask someone out, she told me no. Does it ever get to a point that it doesn't make you feel lower than whale crap when a girl turns you down?

First off, why feel rejected. She didn't reject You. She doesn't know You. She rejected appearances. No different than "no thanks" to a dance at a club.

However, in the future, chat. Make casual non-date conversation. Let her know that you are a fun person and had fun this weekend.

So... attractive women have attractive women friends.
Don't ask her out again. Become pals with her and date her friends.

Instead of one woman, you get to date 5 women.

Get over it. Go have fun.

[skittles_of_SDC 0]

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So, at lunch I saw this girl I like and I asked her out to dinner. As usual when I ask someone out, she told me no. Does it ever get to a point that it doesn't make you feel lower than whale crap when a girl turns you down?

First off, why feel rejected. She didn't reject You. She doesn't know You. She rejected appearances. No different than "no thanks" to a dance at a club.

However, in the future, chat. Make casual non-date conversation. Let her know that you are a fun person and had fun this weekend.

So... attractive women have attractive women friends.
Don't ask her out again. Become pals with her and date her friends.

Instead of one woman, you get to date 5 women.

Get over it. Go have fun.

haha. Thats the same advice I got from a female friend of mine recently after I got shot down by a girl in one of my classes.

[galvar2439 0]

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I only get asked out to dinner by schmucks. Do I know you?

ZZZIIING!

So i just broke up with this woman who wasn't even my girlfriend!

Hellfish #782, POPS #10664

[galvar2439 0]

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But it was a VERY nice Truck Stop and I did offer to take you to the Strip Club afterwards.

And we will go to the strip club next time you visit. (which i hope is soon)

You never asked me to the Booby club. WTF?

So i just broke up with this woman who wasn't even my girlfriend!

Hellfish #782, POPS #10664

[galvar2439 0]

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So, at lunch I saw this girl I like and I asked her out to dinner. As usual when I ask someone out, she told me no. Does it ever get to a point that it doesn't make you feel lower than whale crap when a girl turns you down?

First off, why feel rejected. She didn't reject You. She doesn't know You. She rejected appearances. No different than "no thanks" to a dance at a club.

However, in the future, chat. Make casual non-date conversation. Let her know that you are a fun person and had fun this weekend.

So... attractive women have attractive women friends.
Don't ask her out again. Become pals with her and date her friends.

Instead of one woman, you get to date 5 women.

Get over it. Go have fun.

haha. Thats the same advice I got from a female friend of mine recently after I got shot down by a girl in one of my classes.

DAMN DUDE, sounds like your an expert on hearing "no", just sayin.

So i just broke up with this woman who wasn't even my girlfriend!

Hellfish #782, POPS #10664

[JohnMitchell 14]

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If I wasn't into skydiving and I met a guy who did, I would think it was totally cool.

Here's the time line on those relationships.

Phase 1- "Wow, you skydive!"

Phase 2- "Wow, you skydive a lot."

Phase 3- "It's either me or skydiving."

[JohnMitchell 14]

"Cold Call" sales are some of the toughest, and, let's face it, you're trying to sell yourself to this woman you don't know. First of all, present yourself well. Be confident, even if you have to fake it. Smile, be friendly, let them know you don't usually just walk up and ask women out, but you really wanted a chance to meet her ( because she's so amazingly beautiful, of course. She'll think that, at least). I wouldn't even try to close on a date right then. Ask for her number so that you can call later and ask her out. When you call her, it's now the 2nd time you've met, and it should be a little more relaxed. Why, then you can even let it slip that you're a MIG ace war hero skydiver type and all that. People usually don't buy anything right away. Same with first dates. Get the number, close the deal later. And don't ever sound desperate or depressed. That's the kiss of death.

Of course, I haven't asked a girl out in about 25 years or so, so this could be a dated approach. But hey, I ended up with Vskydiver.

[happythoughts 0]

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haha. Thats the same advice I got from a female friend of mine recently after I got shot down by a girl in one of my classes.

I can't say that it is good or bad advice. It does sound like it works for some other people.

Bottom line. It may be you... or 10,000 other reasons.
She could have many other good non-you reasons.
A bad day, a current b/f, a recent bad relationship, other complications (kids, parents, bills, cats). It may not be about you.

Go about your life and enjoy it. Let them find you, or not, but enjoy your life in the mean time.

Besides, you don't have to date someone to have them in your life. Everyone can use a couple of friends.

This weekend, buy a stack of steaks, throw a party, invite.
Other people will find you.

[vskydiver 0]

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"Cold Call" sales are some of the toughest, and, let's face it, you're trying to sell yourself to this woman you don't know. First of all, present yourself well. Be confident, even if you have to fake it. Smile, be friendly, let them know you don't usually just walk up and ask women out, but you really wanted a chance to meet her ( because she's so amazingly beautiful, of course. She'll think that, at least). I wouldn't even try to close on a date right then. Ask for her number so that you can call later and ask her out. When you call her, it's now the 2nd time you've met, and it should be a little more relaxed. Why, then you can even let it slip that you're a MIG ace war hero skydiver type and all that. People usually don't buy anything right away. Same with first dates. Get the number, close the deal later. And don't ever sound desperate or depressed. That's the kiss of death.

Of course, I haven't asked a girl out in about 25 years or so, so this could be a dated approach.

That isn't how you asked me out.

[skittles_of_SDC 0]

My brother can't get his wireless router to work so if he still doesn't have it working by Friday I may try to convince him to let me head out to Illinois State to set it up and then I can try to work my magic with some real college girls.

[AMax 0]

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If I wasn't into skydiving and I met a guy who did, I would think it was totally cool.

Here's the time line on those relationships.

Phase 1- "Wow, you skydive!"

Phase 2- "Wow, you skydive a lot."

Phase 3- "It's either me or skydiving."

so true :))

[Hausse 0]

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If I wasn't into skydiving and I met a guy who did, I would think it was totally cool.

Here's the time line on those relationships.

Phase 1- "Wow, you skydive!"

Phase 2- "Wow, you skydive a lot."

Phase 3- "It's either me or skydiving."

so true :))

Hehe I just entered a Phase 1 today (altough she first confused skydiving with scuba diving). Hurray for me!!!

[Bolas 5]

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WRONG: Um...you're probably busy or not interested or have a boyfriend or husband or something but, would you, um, maybe, want to, you know, sometime, I don't know, have dinner?

I agree the approach is kinda lame, but asking if they're seeing someone isn't a bad question:
* It puts them in the position to tell the truth or lie. Your conscious is clean unless evidence to the contrary mounts up.
* It shows you aren't interested in being the "other" or the "transition." Anyone who thinks "they'll be different" is delusional.
* It gives them an easy out. Sure, I'd like to know the "real" reason, but does it really matter?

This may prevent some trouble later.

Maybe shorten it to "If you're not seeing someone..."

Of course, this only applies to "cold calls" otherwise do a little "research."

Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting
If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh.

[Frenchy68 0]

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before you drop a couple hundred on a night out and get your hopes up.

I agree. You should always have sex with a prospective date first to make sure you are compatible.

"For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return."

[Nightingale 0]

Asking if she's available is not a bad thing. Assuming she wouldn't be (and stumbling over words and assuming she's not interested anyway, etc) shows a lack of confidence, which is unattractive.