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Adventures in dating - a chronicle of a first date

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Not dissing the techniques - most of which a just plain common sense - but playing games on a date usually doesn't work.
"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse."
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Ok, how many guys at your DZ? How many single half way decent live close to you have a good job and understand your love of the sport guys are at your DZ? I'm willing to bet at least one!



Sometimes it's better not to date people at your home dz.


Or at a major dz that you liked to go to and was convienant while you were home visiting friends/family B|
"I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly
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Ok, how many guys at your DZ? How many single half way decent live close to you have a good job and understand your love of the sport guys are at your DZ? I'm willing to bet at least one!



Sometimes it's better not to date people at your home dz.


Or at a major dz that you liked to go to and was convienant while you were home visiting friends/family B|



Sounds like you're speaking from experience!! :D:D
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Ok, how many guys at your DZ? How many single half way decent live close to you have a good job and understand your love of the sport guys are at your DZ? I'm willing to bet at least one!



Sometimes it's better not to date people at your home dz.


Or at a major dz that you liked to go to and was convienant while you were home visiting friends/family B|



Sounds like you're speaking from experience!! :D:D


What makes you think that?:)

Its ok, shes got to work during the week, I'll just have to get my jumping done then!
"I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly
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Ok, how many guys at your DZ? How many single half way decent live close to you have a good job and understand your love of the sport guys are at your DZ? I'm willing to bet at least one!



Sometimes it's better not to date people at your home dz.

So you go into it knowing it's going to fail?
Really?
Wow...way to go!

Or at a major dz that you liked to go to and was convienant while you were home visiting friends/family B|

Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

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'Tis better to have loved and lost than it is to never have loved at all:P.



Refering to the DZ or the chick?:P
"I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly
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It's actually Joe, but whatever ;)

No I agree totally. In fact, K-dubs date is a classic example of coaching or self help gone wrong. This guy apparently researched it, then fucked up the application or it didnt even apply at all. As you mentioned each situation is unique.



I knew that... guess I am not a good multi-tasker!
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So you go into it knowing it's going to fail?
Really?
Wow...way to go!



Nope, it's just similar to the term, "don't piss in your own pool".
She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

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So you go into it knowing it's going to fail?
Really?
Wow...way to go!



Nope, it's just similar to the term, "don't piss in your own pool".


Yeah....but there is not one guy...she has known for months if not years....who she knows inside and out, knows his bad and good and shares the same passion as her.....and she is going out on a blind date?
And with a dorky guy never the less....
WOW! You ladies make it too easy sometimes.
One it gives dumb asses like this guy a chance to get in with what appears to be with a very nice girl.

And two....proves women have no clue what they want.

Theory...and this is just a theory. A woman will go out of her way to date a moron just so she can have something to bitch about to her friends.
(I actually had a girl tell me she was upset because she had nothing bad to say about her date with me...and was a little upset by that.)

The guy is a dumb ass...zero class....and this is comming from me. MOVE ON! Find a nice guy you know and hint that you would really like if he invited you over for dinner at his place.

Wow!
Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

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I initially try to look for basic compatibility stuff and then move on to stuff like is he cheap and wants me to pay for everything (yes, I have had that happen).

Dating is not easy!



Ugh ... I'm glad I'm not alone. I ran into this more than once and got me thinking that perhaps I need to start driving a different car, lie about my employment situation when it comes up in the conversation and hide/downplay any other signs that I do OK for myself :( ...

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I initially try to look for basic compatibility stuff and then move on to stuff like is he cheap and wants me to pay for everything (yes, I have had that happen).

Dating is not easy!



Ugh ... I'm glad I'm not alone. I ran into this more than once and got me thinking that perhaps I need to start driving a different car, lie about my employment situation when it comes up in the conversation and hide/downplay any other signs that I do OK for myself :( ...

O


Why lower yourself to other people's insecurities? It's not worth it and you don't deserve it.

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Well here is the gig and I hate to be mean or rude...but it would be nice to fine some one of sound mind and body who had an education and made about as much as I did.
It's not that I want to be rich it's about having a good life.
But hey stuff comes up and people loose jobs or are inbetween jobs and if a guy can't see that....why stay for more than 30seconds?
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So you go into it knowing it's going to fail?
Really?
Wow...way to go!



Nope, it's just similar to the term, "don't piss in your own pool".

Yeah....but there is not one guy...she has known for months if not years....who she knows inside and out, knows his bad and good and shares the same passion as her.....and she is going out on a blind date?
And with a dorky guy never the less....
WOW! You ladies make it too easy sometimes.
One it gives dumb asses like this guy a chance to get in with what appears to be with a very nice girl.

And two....proves women have no clue what they want.

Theory...and this is just a theory. A woman will go out of her way to date a moron just so she can have something to bitch about to her friends.
(I actually had a girl tell me she was upset because she had nothing bad to say about her date with me...and was a little upset by that.)

The guy is a dumb ass...zero class....and this is comming from me. MOVE ON! Find a nice guy you know and hint that you would really like if he invited you over for dinner at his place.

Wow!


There are plenty of dumb asses with zero class at plenty of DZs.:P They aren't all wuffos. And besides, there aren't any men at my DZ that I would consider dating, and if there was I would think really long and hard about it.
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>It's not that I want to be rich it's about having a good life.

Sounds like you equate "having a good life" to having money - which may be what's turning off some people. (The attitude "we need X money for us to work well together.")

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True (secondhand) story -

Talked to a friend of mine a while back. "I hate men," she said.

"OK, what happened?"

"Well, I was seeing this guy last week and . . ." She had met this guy at the gym and he'd come over to her place. Things were sort of awkward; no fooling around, not too much mutual attraction. So he left.

"Doesn't sound like that much of a problem," I said.

"Well, he called me the next day and said he wanted to see me. So I said OK. He drove over and asked if I would come down to his car for a minute." She then began a story in which she walked down to his car in bare feet with only her housekeys. He drove her to his house over her protestations. They went to his place, where he did a lot of cocaine and started watching porn. She wanted nothing to do with either.

"So you left then, right?" I asked.

"Well, I didn't have any shoes on or my cellphone so what was I going to do?" she answered.

The story then continued. He wanted to have sex with her; she refused. So he called his old girlfriend. She came over and they had sex in the bedroom.

"So you left then, right? Right?" I asked.

"No, haven't you been listening? No shoes. And besides by this time he was drunk too so he couldn't drive me home anyway." She stayed the night (sleeping in the same bed with him and his girlfriend) then had him drive her home the next morning.

"OK, I can see where the guy hating thing came from, but you know, part of this is some poor planning on your part," I said.

"Well, maybe. But that's not the worst part. The third time I went out with him . . ."

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"Well, maybe. But that's not the worst part. The third time I went out with him . . ."



Dear GOD - someone should cut out her ovaries!! What is WRONG with people?? Lack of self-respect?? [shakes head..]
"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse."
- Chris Hadfield
« Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. »
- my boss

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Him: 11:40 pm - I want a friend and someone to fuck my brains out.



Reminds me of the movie "Taxi Driver".

Robert DeNiro gets a crush on Cybil Shepard, and works up his nerve to ask her out. She finally accepts. Where does Robert take her on this first date? To a porno movie.

Cybill storms out, the relationship is over. DeNiro is crushed, goes crazy, and ends up shooting people over a hooker (Jodie Foster).

Make like Cybil Shepard - get out before it's too late.

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"Well, maybe. But that's not the worst part. The third time I went out with him . . ."



Dear GOD - someone should cut out her ovaries!! What is WRONG with people?? Lack of self-respect?? [shakes head..]


:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

She had to give him one more chance... :P

"I made him promise not to watch porn, do blow, and bang his ex in front of me..."
Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting
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"Well, maybe. But that's not the worst part. The third time I went out with him . . ."



Dear GOD - someone should cut out her ovaries!! What is WRONG with people?? Lack of self-respect?? [shakes head..]


:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

She had to give him one more chance... :P

"I made him promise not to watch porn, do blow, and bang his ex in front of me..."


Wow.. That kinda cuts down the options for the 3rd date... [:/]
Remster

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>I do hope you at least tried to explain all that is wrong with her aproach ...

I gave it a shot, but there's only so much you can tell someone who's 25 and hasn't been in many relationships. Some things you have to learn on your own.

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