Coreece 190 #101 March 2, 2011 Quote I mean how do you say no to a cute girl who has a beer in hand and is saying "Look, how about we go out next week?" "Sorry, I don't drink that piss water...but thanks anyway." Then I turn around and continue watching the football game. If she pours the beer over my head, then I know I'm in love and that she is the one for me. I will know that she demands respect and she'll know that I demand premium beer and not to bother me when I'm watching football... Btw...cute girls who bring you beer are called waitresses...Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
npgraphicdesign 2 #102 March 2, 2011 Quote You know, just because someone is a single mom does not mean they are a loser who has to find someone to take care of them. I'm a single mom and I sure as hell don't need anyone to take care of me. I've been raising my daughter 100% by myself for 7 years now. It would be great to find someone to share my life with because I have a great life and that's the only thing that's missing. But I certainly don't need to be taken care of. Actually, I've been told I'm intimidating because I've been able to successfully (so far) raise a happy, healthy child by myself while getting a Ph.D. and publishing research in top journals. The fact that I'm self-sufficient and successful somehow makes me less attractive. I have no idea what men want. They whine about how women are out to get everything from men. But they want nothing to do with a woman who is successful, smart, moderately attractive (and a size 4 ). Oh, and apparently the fact that I'm a skydiver (more like former skydiver) is also intimidating to non skydiving men. I give up, I'm going happily along with my full and busy life as a single woman. You don't sound intimidating at all. Seems that a lot of men don't want to date someone smarter or more accomplished because they're afraid of being shown up or being viewed in a negative light compared to their partner. There's a difference between someone who is cold/calculating/manipulative & intelligent (in a negative way) and know how to take advantage of people or someone who is smart and intelligent without using that knowledge to take advantage of someone. The same can be said for both men and women, and I'm not implying that women are 'out to get guys', because there are plenty of guys that do the same thing, and they're just out to collect trophies for themselves. As to what men want? I think that both men and women are in the same boat...and both don't know what they want until a certain point. That point could be reached through dating multiple people and finding out what you like in each partner, what you can overlook (everyone has undesirable traits that others just may need to put up with), and what you absolutely must have for a successful relationship. Or, the more rare occurrence is that you meet that one person that you click with perfectly from the start, you know they are THE ONE, based on a combination of what you see your friends/famlly go through and personal ideals. And that argument of personality vs. looks (or in Shah's lingo, size 0 vs. everything/everyone else ), physical attraction is important because 99.9% of the time, that's what draws us to a person, unless your first introduction to them isn't visual (internet, introduction via phone with the help of some friends, arranged marriage, etc.). But that attraction can either be quantified by someones personality/traits, or it can be completely overshadowed and if the person is lacking any semblance of a personality, in which case, the physical appearance will not even matter. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #103 March 2, 2011 Quote Quote I agree completely. Making dating mistakes is fairly common and it doesn't mean you come out of it as "damaged goods." Many people take time to get to know what they want and what kind of partner is really good for them. If later on in life they re-visit a relationship they ignored in the past, *both* people can feel like they've won the lottery. We don't all get it right the first time - in fact, most of us don't. Actually, for women, it does make you damaged goods. The more sexual partners a woman has the less able she is to commit to another man and form a bond with him. Here is a nice picture to illustrate that. Well I have a friend that is happily married now to a really famous ex porn star, she was in some movies that most guys would be weirded out by.(gangbang girl movies) They have been married now for 16 years, so please tell me how her fucking literally thousands of guys made her less desirable?She is a very sweet girl and a great mom as well, sure she has a kinky side but that is just a bonus. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #104 March 2, 2011 Quote I've never asked my husband if he'd enjoy my having a girlfriend Wendy P. So you made him join in eh? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #105 March 2, 2011 Quote so please tell me how her fucking literally thousands of guys made her less desirable? Um, fucking literally thousands of guys? ...I thought that would be obvious.Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #106 March 2, 2011 Quote Quote so please tell me how her fucking literally thousands of guys made her less desirable? Um, fucking literally thousands of guys? ...I thought that would be obvious. What she does not look any less pretty? It was her JOB, get over it. Look if a woman with skills like that and looks as well chose you over that many guys with cocks like a pony, money in piles and lavish lifestyles would you not be flattered? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #107 March 2, 2011 Quote Quote Quote so please tell me how her fucking literally thousands of guys made her less desirable? Um, fucking literally thousands of guys? ...I thought that would be obvious. What she does not look any less pretty? It was her JOB, get over it. I'll make this very easy: There are two beautiful women who are perfect matches for you, but one has had sex with 1765 men, 25 of which were at the same time. The other is a virgin...who do you pick? It's similar to choosing between two perfect candidates for a job, but one doesn't have that college degree.Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #108 March 2, 2011 Not that I know her, but make sure you don't express the same attitude towards Nicole and her husband OK? They might not appreciate your ideology. I know you were not really bad, but please consider that others may be very happy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #109 March 2, 2011 Quote Quote so please tell me how her fucking literally thousands of guys made her less desirable? Um, fucking literally thousands of guys? ...I thought that would be obvious. I'm jeleous of her husband. How many guys do you know who bitch about their wives having the sex drive of a dead and decomposing nun? Here you have a girl, who not only knows what she is doing but enjoys it! And think of all the fringe benefits? All her cute hot friends are single and looking for "normal" guys....well I bet you have a few "normal" friends who would love to be set up on a date with one of these great girls. Nope nothing wrong with that at all! More power to him for being scure in his love for his wife and more power to her for having a viable sex drive and loving her husband. (I want to see how this will be tweaked to indicate I dislike girls..."Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #110 March 2, 2011 Quote Quote Quote Quote so please tell me how her fucking literally thousands of guys made her less desirable? Um, fucking literally thousands of guys? ...I thought that would be obvious. What she does not look any less pretty? It was her JOB, get over it. I'll make this very easy: There are two beautiful women who are perfect matches for you, but one has had sex with 1765 men, 25 of which were at the same time. The other is a virgin...who do you pick? It's similar to choosing between two perfect candidates for a job, but one doesn't have that college degree. the one I got along with the best regardless of how many guys she admitted to having sex with. Virgins are really overrated and can be really boring. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 35 #111 March 2, 2011 Quote So, what's a guy to do? Not saying I've given up on finding someone, but it's becoming a lot tougher. I asked your age so find out if how to answer this question. Since you replied that you're only 31, I'll reply for you to just relax...you have plenty of time. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #112 March 2, 2011 Quote Not that I know her, but make sure you don't express the same attitude towards Nicole and her husband OK? They might not appreciate your ideology. Well I wouldn't appreciate them bringing up their sex life and asking my opinion on it and then getting all offended... Quote I know you were not really bad, but please consider that others may be very happy. I never considered they weren't. ...and I never said that I couldn't fall in love or be happy with such a person. It's just not a quality I desire in a woman...excuuuuuse me.Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #113 March 2, 2011 QuoteHow many guys do you know who bitch about their wives having the sex drive of a dead and decomposing nun? nun... QuoteHere you have a girl, who not only knows what she is doing but enjoys it! having sex with thousands of men is not a prerequisite for knowing what you're doing. There are women out there that have had sex thousands of times with less than 25 men and not at the same time that could be just as experienced...not that I judge a woman based on her performance.Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #114 March 2, 2011 If a girl of that industry and past brought me a beer and asked if I was free next week for dinner. I would not say no. But that's me As long as she's cute. Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #115 March 2, 2011 Quote Quote Quote Quote Quote so please tell me how her fucking literally thousands of guys made her less desirable? Um, fucking literally thousands of guys? ...I thought that would be obvious. What she does not look any less pretty? It was her JOB, get over it. I'll make this very easy: There are two beautiful women who are perfect matches for you, but one has had sex with 1765 men, 25 of which were at the same time. The other is a virgin...who do you pick? It's similar to choosing between two perfect candidates for a job, but one doesn't have that college degree. the one I got along with the best regardless of how many guys she admitted to having sex with. Virgins are really overrated and can be really boring. +1 and the other girl may teach even an old dog some new tricks.. “Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Arvoitus 1 #116 March 2, 2011 Quote Ah come on man. It's 2011 not 1911. A girl can have and should have as many sexual partrners as she wants in her life. As long as we play safe and no one gets hurt....who cares! Sex doesn't make us bad people, the number of sexual partners doesn't make us bad people. I think you may be thinking that the correlation of your study implies causation, see I told you I B smart. Well as any good engineer, scientist of very very very smart person knows correlation does not imply causation. And I think you are saying that as well. Since you are accounting for other variables as well. And please don't call any girl a slut. I mean heck I'm sure there are girls here who want to feed me to the dogs but I will never call any girl a slut just because she has an active sex drive. If anything, I'm going to be very jeleous of her life parther becasue he is one very lucky guy! Even though I may have come off as judgmental I don't give a flying fuck what other people do sexually. All I wanted to point out is that there is a significant statistical correlation on how slutty a woman is and how likely a man dumb enough to marry said woman, is to be ass raped in divorce court. And slut is just another word with a certain meaning. Like deadbeat. Quote Quote Quote I agree completely. Making dating mistakes is fairly common and it doesn't mean you come out of it as "damaged goods." Many people take time to get to know what they want and what kind of partner is really good for them. If later on in life they re-visit a relationship they ignored in the past, *both* people can feel like they've won the lottery. We don't all get it right the first time - in fact, most of us don't. Actually, for women, it does make you damaged goods. The more sexual partners a woman has the less able she is to commit to another man and form a bond with him. Here is a nice picture to illustrate that. Well I have a friend that is happily married now to a really famous ex porn star, she was in some movies that most guys would be weirded out by.(gangbang girl movies) They have been married now for 16 years, so please tell me how her fucking literally thousands of guys made her less desirable?She is a very sweet girl and a great mom as well, sure she has a kinky side but that is just a bonus. Its not about desirability but how likely a man is to get hurt marrying certain types of women. And obviously there is always going to be variation like the woman you're talking about. But if you're a man and dumb enough to marry, you have to realize you're signing a legally binding financial contract that may well ruin you. And knowing how to reduce the likelihood of being fucked is always a good thing.Your rights end where my feelings begin. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #117 March 2, 2011 Quotethe one I got along with the best regardless of how many guys she admitted to having sex with. That wasn't the senario... QuoteVirgins are really overrated and can be really boring. Ok, so then sexual experience does matter in your decision...thanks.Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #118 March 2, 2011 Ah man no need to call names. It's bad Karma. And for the record if any one asks Shah Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 2,400 #119 March 2, 2011 >6) Girl is worried, I'm a single mom. I've been dating tools for most of my life.... >oh my god! I need a life raft....must find life raft...must find partner NOW! Or (more likely) 6) Girl takes stock of her life, re-evaluates what's important to her. Realizes that the dangerous good-looking tools aren't the best choice for her. Asks herself - who do I really want to be with? These sexy loser guys who don't like me very much, or a guy I've known a long time who likes me for who I am? That's growing up, not "looking for a life raft." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 2,400 #120 March 2, 2011 >Actually, for women, it does make you damaged goods. No more so than it is for men. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 2,400 #121 March 2, 2011 >Look Sandi all I'm saying is that I don't want to be anyones plan B. So you are looking for a sub-size-8, non-engineering, hardworking woman who is willing to help support you - and has never met you before? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 2,400 #122 March 2, 2011 >There are two beautiful women who are perfect matches for you, but one has had sex >with 1765 men, 25 of which were at the same time. The other is a virgin...who do you >pick? That's easy - the one who has had sex before. The one who has never had sex with anyone is not going to understand much about it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #123 March 2, 2011 Quote So you are looking for a sub-size-8, non-engineering, hardworking woman who is willing to help support you - and has never met you before? Asking for too much you think How about, a nice stable well educated girl who is active and outgoing can make dinner once a week and who has a viable sex drive and doesn't want to have kids NOW..or maybe ever and enjoyes to travel and live life and thinks I'm cute. Now I know I'm asking too much.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missbrz 0 #124 March 2, 2011 I'll make this very easy: There are two beautiful women who are perfect matches for you, but one has had sex with 1765 men, 25 of which were at the same time. The other is a virgin...who do you pick? It's similar to choosing between two perfect candidates for a job, but one doesn't have that college degree. Wouldn't the one who has had lots of sex be the one with the college degree & thus more likely to get the job? I mean she's the one putting in all that work to study it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #125 March 2, 2011 QuoteThe other is a virgin... Yeah not that one....virgins....oh my god the freaking drama! KILL ME NOW!Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
