Nataly

I did and do listen. I took in all of the information, and as anyone does weighed in ALL of the information before me and chose to give higher importance to what the people closest to me were saying. You HAVE to do this in life, otherwise you'd never believe in anything and/or would develop a paranoia about *eveything*. If everyone listened to every nay-sayer, no one in their right mind would EVER get married, buy a house, have children... And yet despite all the reasons NOT to do these things, some people choose to believe that against all odds, things might work out. And, occasionally (thank goodness), they do. So YES, there were signs. Signs I did not see at first (partly through ignorance, and partly through choice - as you rightly pointed out). Again, it is a good lesson to be more careful in future... I am learning a lot from the experience... I think it's *great* that there are people like you who don't sugar-coat their views. You should CONTINUE to do this. But again, when someone devotes so much time and effort to manipulating you, it is a little too easy in hindsight to say "you should have listened to the minority who thought things were going a little fast." That is the equivalent to saying we should have listened to the people who warned us about the housing crisis... Because those folks existed. But billions of people were wrong and a handful were right. And in that handful there were nutcases who were just paranoid and they did not in fact have the first clue what they were talking about (but they happened to be right). So yes. Hindsigt is 20/20. There warning signs WERE there. It took me about 3 months to start really seeing them and a further 2 months to start really believing it and I am still discovering things that are scary and unpleasant to deal with. Last night was another rude awakening and the police had to get involved and although I have heard time and time again that domestic violence and/or harassment is an issue that is largely ignored by the police, I can assure you that *living* it is something else entirely. You hear about women who get killed by their partners and seeing how little the police cared/reacted last night is a frightening experience. (He knocked on my door and would not leave and hovered around in the village all night and at no point did the police come despite being called out. And he is a *known* violent offender.) Not fun. This morning I am afraid to leave the house and hop on my bike to get to work. Also not fun. So yeah. Keep telling me what an idiot I was for not listening... It's NOT nice, but it actually is helpful... Maybe not at this point for me, but perhaps for someone else. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Your question is not about running but about an injury (IMO)... My advice is to ask a sports doctor and not other runners... But *do* try to find a specialist that is also a runner. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Lol! Neat idea! Would give me a chance to practice my Swedish (Yes, I actually *do* speak Swedish

That rush into commitment is one of the indicators of an abusive partner, I've read. Once again, glad you're out and okay.

1st line (roughly translated by my friend): "I will put a terrifying, scandalous, horrible end and then I will go" 2nd line: "I saw you with him and it made me want to push" Not sure if that meant "push him" or "push her" or might even mean "to scream" ("pousser un cri"). Weird! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Jeeze - No wonder you're making it sound like you've been with him for six years rather than 6 months. . . Sorry for your loss. Like I said, it all happened very fast and was really INTENSE... So it kinda *felt* like 6 years!! Lolol! Even I am surprised at the speed at which he got into every part of my life (and into my head/heart)... "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

You are so good to Nat. She's lucky to have you. Indeed!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

That would *not* make me feel better... And would not make most of the men on here feel better either!! (He was rather... Um... Blessed in that department.) "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

We did not get hitched. We were going to - and now I am rather glad we didn't get that far. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

No, you miss what you THOUGHT he was, and what THAT meant to you. It's upsetting because you have to realize all over again he was actually a wanker, and the guy you thought you were with didn't really exist. So, we go back to: you're better off realizing early enough that he was, in fact, a WANKER, and you're best to be rid of him.

... You find a sweater he used to wear, and it smells of him, and you miss him SOOOOOO much. Pffff... Fuck. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Although the loss of a family pet is pretty devastating, it's life. People have real problems and real tragedies but that does not stop the world from carrying on. She can do the exam. At the same time as everyone else. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Thanks guys. Hard to come to terms with, but as many have pointed out both here and in my "real life" (!), better to find out sooner rather than later. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Hahahahahahahahaha!!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Haha! Reminds me of Rick Mercer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KwEDgpSWxo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gFgPX0hnNfA&ebc=ANyPxKoim_X8mYOXOJH_ukjjutih5fyz-kNsX_T8HUb-UMgMkBjclT9fR8m27mWz0xrNLgIAYNM_7oIVCwuOKbZxM-M3iY1vaw "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I am not a vet, but I *do* have one cat who has eaten her fair share of weird and wonderful things..! By this point, when she does it I just feed her a little more wet food than usual and I keep a close eye on her to ensure she is still pooping/purring like she normally would. If not, *then* I take her for an x-ray... So far (thank goodness) she has never had any issues

Sorry to hear that, but this is why getting a tattoo to commemorate a wedding or S.O. is never a good idea. Meh... I *could* remove it, but I don't think I will - I still really like it

Bump!! Well, I was wrong. It felt very right - like a dream. Until it turned into a nightmare. Shit happens. I'm not returning the ring, though!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I've never been able to really understand why bullies attack the way they do or whether they are *fully* aware of what they are doing... Obviously everyone is different and not all bullies can be lumped into just one category. I do know that there are some toxic people out there and that sometimes it's impossible (or not worthwhile) to understand the "why" (or let alone expect for things to change or improve). Glad the situation seems to have worked out for the better for Nigel. Well done for sticking up for yourself

My entire family was reunited for the first time in about 20 years... Aunts, uncles, cousins, bothers, sisters... It was pretty magical (and a little bit fucked up!!! ). "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

It surely isn't... And I feel weak and crappy even thought I started eating again. My stomach shrank so much I have to eat very small portions several times a day, because for the time being I am incapable of having a regular amount of food. I'm certain the weight will come back pretty quickly but starving like that really does a number on your body. Not good. I will NEVER understand anorexia - it was fucking torture, and being this thin is NOT attractive. Lucky for me Xmas is coming up The weirdest thing was I didn't poop for more than 2 weeks. Well, it's not so weird because there was no food to get rid of but it certainly *felt* strange...! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Bump! WOW... Now can't believe I wrote this... Nearly 3 weeks after the surgery now... Yesterday was the first day where I felt well following the second emergency operation. In the two weeks following surgery I ate a grand total of one little jar of baby food (apple sauce)... I lost nealy 20 lbs and only weighed 122 in the first place (ie - before the surgery). I'm a little over 5'6" so for me 103 lbs is very skinny. But hell I just could NOT eat anything. Horrible operation. Horrible. No regrets but DAYUM I'm glad it's all over. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Why are your tonsils removed anyway? lol!! want to know. hihihi Recurring infections. On a regular basis my whole life and more recently for the past 6 months I always thought swollen tonsils was a symptom your body was fighting some kind of problem... But as it turns out, it's the other way around - it's simply my tonsils that are fucked and have been causing me problems for years and years and years... "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I have never had pumpkin pie but have always imagined it would taste like you describe!!! I am willing to believe, however, that V is capable of making it delicious anyway! John - any chance your gorgeous half could share her secrets? By PM will do if it is really top secret - I promise not to tell "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Haha - he is under strict instructions NOT to shake me around!! Which has been agony, but to be honest I do NOT want any more pain than I already have so we are both behaving... "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss