Vallerina 2 #26 March 5, 2004 QuoteHumans, like every other animal on the planet are attracted to each other for the purposes of mating mostly based on appearances. I think this part is wired in the brain differently for some people. Physical attraction will have something to do with it, but the importance that it plays varies. I was always more likely to hang out with "the funny guy" all night. Some of my friends tried to hang out with "the hot guy." Some wanted "the rich guy." Some wanted "the poor tortured soul." Etc. Some guys I was friends with spent all night with "the cool chick." Some spent it desperate for "the hot girl" (only later in the night to take home "whatever girl.") Some hung out with "the funny girl." All of them said that "personality is more important," though. I'm not sure if I can believe that from some guys who use so much of their time focusing in on looks.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
goose491 0 #27 March 5, 2004 I'll step forward with the most honnest answer. You're comparing apples and oranges here. Even the most shallow among us knows that personality is more important then looks for some sort of relationship... the "God, I'd like to hit that!" IS NOWHERE NEAR saying "God, I'd love to call that my girlfriend!" You have to learn that there is a difference. Meaningless sex is much better with a hot one... and peronality isn't necessarily worth much. My Karma ran over my Dogma!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #28 March 5, 2004 QuoteI've never seen you, but just from reading some of your posts...I'd do ya! The charitable attitude of women never ceases to amaze me. Quote Guess you're busy chasing the hotties around! Chasing sounds so exhausting. I like to pick a spot that they may pass and sit down there. Like one of those small dogs chasing cars that he'll never catch. Of course, the obvious problem - what would a small dog do if he ever caught a car? Drag it home and take some pics? Maybe that's the result. If I have some success, I'll drag her home and take some pics. Remember, this was your idea. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nightjumps 1 #29 March 5, 2004 The Impact of Beauty and Its Self-Fulfilling Nature by Mark Snyder, Elizabeth Decker Tanke, and Ellen Berscheid (1977). Experiment Cover Story Male participants were told that they were in an investigation of "how people become acquainted with each other" and each one of them had been assigned a female partner, with whom they were to get acquainted through phone conversations. But before talking, each male was given a photograph of his female partner. Experiment Control The truth is, the girl on the photograph viewed by the male participant was not his female partner in the experiment. For half of the male participants, the picture showed a very attractive woman; for the others, it showed a relatively unattractive woman. But it was the same woman they all later had a conversation. Procedure After the conversation, the male participants were asked to rate their female partner. Independent observers, who had never seen the photograph, were allowed to listen to a tape recording of only the woman's half of the conversation. Results 1. As predicted, the male participants who thought they were talking with an attractive partner rated her as more poised, humorous, and socially adept than did those who thought they were talking with a less attractive woman. 2. Surprisingly, the independent observer, who had no idea whether the woman was attractive or not, also rated her more positively, when her conversation partner was given a beautiful photograph of "hers". They rated her as more attractive, more confident, more animated, and warmer than the woman whose partner thought her to be less beautiful. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tink1717 2 #30 March 5, 2004 I think you misunderstand what the image of a woman means to us. Guys are primarily motivated by what we see. When we see someone from 50 ft out, we don't know anything about them except that they look like the kind of woman we would like to exchange bodily fluids with. It could, and often does, turn out that there is nothing else there that we find interesting. We can't tell if a beautiful woman is a raving lunatic (like my last girlfriend was) until we hear her speak, and than maybe not for a while (it was 8 weeks before I figured out that the last one was a nutball). Meanwhile, men can find women sexually attractive completely apart from their personality, something that women rarely do.Skydivers don't knock on Death's door. They ring the bell and runaway... It really pisses him off. -The World Famous Tink. (I never heard of you either!!) AA #2069 ASA#33 POPS#8808 Swooo 1717 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #31 March 5, 2004 QuoteMeaningless sex is much better with a hot one... and peronality isn't necessarily worth much. I really do not understand this. Wouldn't you want to have sex with whoever is better in bed? Wouldn't that be somebody who you could communicate to easier?There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #32 March 5, 2004 Quote>my question for you is do you drool when you listen to intelligent women speak? Yep! But then again, apparently my criteria for women is that they have to be a) smart b) crazy Oh! And Bill has also helped to restore my faith! I'm sitting here though trying to think why Amy is crazy....There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #33 March 5, 2004 Well, put it this way. Sure, looks matter a lot as attraction matters in any relationship. If I see a picture of a very attractive woman, I'm not going to deny that she is just that, hell, it's how I met my girl. What really gets me going is the personality. Really, there's nothing like sitting around and joking with each other and talking about nothing, being able to just play around, play music (or video games) together, pick on each other, and be able to say that just thinking about every moment makes you smile. Still, sometimes ya can't help but be like "NIIIIIIIICE." when you would look at her. I guess it goes both ways. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #34 March 5, 2004 Val.. did you see the episode of Sex in the City where Miranda was on a chocolate cake binge? She was eating it incessantly (to replace sex in her life, but thats not the point here). She was in a bakery and saw an absolutely fabulous looking triple layered chocolate chocolate cake.. and went to buy it but she didnt because it was $75. So instead she went to the grocery store, bought a betty crocker cake mix and canned frosting, made the cake, ate half the cake in one sitting, thouroughly enjoyed it, then got sick at herself and threw the rest away. Then she took it back out of the trash and started eating it again (it was wrapped in foil). I'd rather be the betty crocker cake. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crzjp20 0 #35 March 5, 2004 Val the trick is to find someone who is beautful and smar, and funny. I got lucky my girl is all three in one. She is the most beautful thing i have ever seen, she is histarical and make me luagh for hour, and she is an honor student at her university. I lucked out, i just hope i can make her happy enough to keep her. That said, i would rather a girl that is funny, and smart than someone like jessica simposn who i would love to have in bed but thats it.... .... i like converstation, i like to be wrapped up in a blanket looking at the stars and just talking and having intelegent conversation. yeah im a hopeless romantic for sure. Anyways Blue Skys-------------------------------------------------- Fear is not a confession of weakness, it is an oportunity for courage. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #36 March 5, 2004 That's funny! Yeah, I agree, though. I wouldn't trade myself in for a younger, hotter model without cellulite if it meant that I'm no where near as cool (and modest) as I am.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rainbo 0 #37 March 5, 2004 I ogle at fast pretty cars and bikes...but I can't afford those either. RainboRainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflybella 0 #38 March 5, 2004 Something else to remember, it takes a 'smart' man to recognize a 'smart' woman. Generally, physically attractive qualities are easily recognized by anyone. I think the guys who so obviously react to a womans' looks probably don't have much depth themselves. Action expresses priority. - Mahatma Ghandi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #39 March 5, 2004 QuoteI'd rather be the betty crocker cake. Quoteate half the cake in one sitting, thouroughly enjoyed it, ...Then she took it back out ...and started eating it again (it was wrapped in foil). I'll bet Freud could write two entire chapters on you. So what is your obsession with tinfoil? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #40 March 5, 2004 Huh. Yes I ogle, and no, I don't want to have sex with them. I find the idea of "hitting it" casual sex pretty repulsive. If my wife didn't like me ogling I'd have to be less conspicuous about it and stop yelling "Yowza!" at random beautiful women. "Yowza! Coconut! Check out that tall blonde midwest chick!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 24 #41 March 5, 2004 QuoteHuh. Yes I ogle, and no, I don't want to have sex with them. What the dude with the camera screwed to his head said.... Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crzjp20 0 #42 March 5, 2004 as a friend once put it, you can look at the menu as long as your not eating-------------------------------------------------- Fear is not a confession of weakness, it is an oportunity for courage. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 24 #43 March 5, 2004 Quoteas a friend once put it, you can look at the menu as long as your not eating Thats what I said the an ex once. She replied yea.. just like you can have a car and still test drive an other! Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #44 March 5, 2004 Doesn't matter who loads the gun so long as the wife pulls the trigger? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 24 #45 March 5, 2004 Deuce, you had to bring up guns again! Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #46 March 5, 2004 You talking boobs? As in "Wow, look at the guns on that diva!" I think us married guys have the best take on all this. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JRock 0 #47 March 5, 2004 What about a Duncan Hines? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydived19006 4 #48 March 5, 2004 QuoteOkay, a similar question? Do you fantasize about a woman when you know nothing about her except for her high iq? I mean, think about it, wouldn't you want a genius with a photographic memory who has read more about the human body and nervous system than you've read porn? A woman like that knows exactly where all of your nerve endings are! Wouldn't sex just one time with her be better than with someone who's hot? (See...that's why women are smart enough to go for doctors...it's not for their money....it's because they know the human body! ) Men don’t fantasize, that’s a chick thing. Men use porno! That is unless their with a woman at the time, then they’re fantasizing about porno.Experience is what you get when you thought you were going to get something else. AC DZ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crwmike 0 #49 March 5, 2004 QuoteI do believe this is a part of the "naughty nurse" fantasy. Gotta figure they know -something- about the human body. Yes, we do! Come on over and I'll show you big boy! Michael Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #50 March 5, 2004 QuoteWhat about a Duncan Hines? What about it? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
