ladyskydiver 0 #1 June 18, 2006 As I was growing up, my mom was always honest with me and told me that I had a blood father and 1 brother (that she knew of) out there somewhere. She was young as was my father when they got together and had me. Over the years, we've tried to find my father and at one point we did. I was 10 years old and talked to my father and my older brother. I was thrilled to have found them, but life happened and contact was lost between us. I kept thinking off and on about them over the years...where were they? What did they look like? What parts of me were due to "nature" vs. "nurture?" As I got older, I started thinking about health history and needing to know not only for me but should I ever have a child. I tried to find them many times. I'd search online and find phone numbers. I'd even call the numbers and ask..."are you ___...were you in ___ in 1968?...etc." And it never was my father. One time I had called Alaska and received a man's voicemail...but how could I leave a message on the phone saying "You might be either my father or brother?" I hung up. Well...earlier this year, my mom just decided to try again and find my father. Within 10 minutes of having phone numbers matching the name, she had my father on the phone. I wasn't sure how to react...what to do...what to say...but I took the phone from my mom and talked with my father for the first time in 20+ years. He cried...I cried...we exchanged contact information and started to keep in touch. We finally set a date to meet for the first time (well...he knew me when I was less than 10 days old but I don't think that counts 'cause I obviously didn't remember him from back then) - and that date was June 9th, 2006. It was easy not to be nervous because I had so much going on with work and school and it was so far away. But...last weekend, my mom and I drove a little over 12 hours to meet him. We checked into the hotel and I didn't expect to sleep but did - for a whole whopping 2 hours - due to the alarm clock having been set 1 hour ahead of time. We got up, got dressed, and went to the restaurant where we were going to meet my father. I knew that my brother and nephew were going to be there as well and was excited. But since the clock had been set 1 hour ahead of time, we had a long wait. The nerves kicked in right before they showed up. The waitress and one of the cooks were giving us an update on the cars pulling into the driveway. And then I saw my father get out of the car and KNEW him. His lovely wife, Carolyn, walked into the restaurant first and, of course, got the first hug. And then for the first time, I hugged my father. Talk about emotion overload. It was so very wonderful to finally have met him. Right after him was my brother. I had always wanted an older brother and now I've got one. It turns out that the phone number that I had called in Alaska was my brother's at the time. I, also, got to meet my nephew, Kyler. Kyler was a bit shy to begin with but warmed up over the course of the weekend. He's a sweetie and makes me a very proud aunt. I spent 2 days with my father, brother, nephew, and step-mom. We talked and talked and when we got tired of talking, we talked some more. Dad, my brother and I shared so much. And then the time came...the time to leave. It was hard to leave as I was just starting to "know" them. The emails are poor substitutes for the in-person, ya know? But the in-person will happen again so for now I'll be content with the contact I have. I'm very happy to have found them and to have the opportunity to get to know them. And the most wonderful thing is that my brother is hoping to move closer to me next year. (Oh...yeah...the trouble we'll cause....) In case you can't tell, I think my brother rocks! I've attached a copy of the family picture from the first meeting.... Back row from left to right: My mom, Carolyn (step-mom), my brother Front row from left to right: Kyler (nephew), my dad (sitting), and me (and no smart ass comments about me wearing makeup )Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KindredSpirit 0 #2 June 18, 2006 Great story! Congrats. "Kicking gravity's ass since 2003!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sharimcm 0 #3 June 18, 2006 Wow Cora! I'm so happy for you. **HUGZ** "I had a dude tip his black cowboy hat to me after I provided him with a condom outside my hotel room at 3-something in the morning." -myself Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peachsouthern 0 #4 June 18, 2006 That is so awesome!!! I can't wait to call you and hear more about it!!! Glad you had such a great time! I know you were looking foward to this for a long time!!!! "There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." - Albert Einstein Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diablopilot 2 #5 June 18, 2006 I'm very happy for you!---------------------------------------------- You're not as good as you think you are. Seriously. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #6 June 18, 2006 Wow, that is wondefully good news Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Squeak 17 #7 June 18, 2006 that's great cora, I'm happy for you how was your mum with it all, did she have any probs?You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites marcandalysse 0 #8 June 18, 2006 Very nice Father's Day story. Good for you Cora! PS you are 'missing' a very hot summer at zhills! Marc and Alysse "The reason angels can fly is that they take themselves so lightly." --GK Chesterton Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ImGunnaJump 0 #9 June 18, 2006 This is a cool outcome! What does your dad and brother think of your skydiving, or did it come up?? Just curious - it always seems to draw such strong reactions, one way or the other, from people - but if you don't care to comment for whatever reason, perfectly fine. Glad everything came together and it all went well."...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites zulu 0 #10 June 18, 2006 Cora, Congrats on finally meeting your family and finding the happiness you so much wanted. Hmmmmmmmm I must say you look............(bring your ear closer) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites akarunway 1 #11 June 18, 2006 Perfect timing for Fathers Day. Congrads. Me, my kids just call me "The Sperm Donor". Cept when they call for money. Then it's "I love you dad", by the way....I hold it true, whate'er befall; I feel it, when I sorrow most; 'Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kenz 0 #12 June 18, 2006 that is so wonderful! congratulations!!! glad to hear it was everything you hoped for and more ;)"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites thegreekone 0 #13 June 18, 2006 I will never forget the day that first call was made and what I heard in your voice. Being at your side that day and privvy to everything else that has happened since then has been such a pleasure. Watching you navigate a fine line between being guarded (smart) and open-minded (courageous) has left me in awe, like a lot of things. The pics of you and your brother and hearing the happiness in your voice when you talk about him makes me so happy for you. .......*PM sent* yer the bestest! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mdrejhon 8 #14 June 18, 2006 In early 2001, my birth mother found me -- my birth aunt found me on the Internet on one of the adoption registries. www.marky.com/adoption. Met my birth mother first, then she led me to my birth father who lives on SaltSpring Island near Vancouver, BC. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ladyskydiver 0 #15 June 18, 2006 Quotethat's great cora, I'm happy for you how was your mum with it all, did she have any probs? Mom had no issues with it at all. She was very happy that she was able to find him for me and to see our first meeting. Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ladyskydiver 0 #16 June 18, 2006 QuoteThis is a cool outcome! What does your dad and brother think of your skydiving, or did it come up?? Just curious - it always seems to draw such strong reactions, one way or the other, from people - but if you don't care to comment for whatever reason, perfectly fine. Glad everything came together and it all went well. Skydiving has come up in email conversations as well as in person. Dad would love for me to stop, because now that he's found me, he doesn't want to lose me. My brother wants me to be safe and come home from the dz unharmed. With him being military and an adventurer himself, he knows that I'm going to do it so he's just showing big brother concern. My mom actually did a tandem and is "tolerant" of it. Tolerant in that she knows I won't quit but is worried from the time I leave to go to the dz to the time I come home from the dz.Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ImGunnaJump 0 #17 June 18, 2006 Quote Skydiving has come up in email conversations as well as in person. Dad would love for me to stop, because now that he's found me, he doesn't want to lose me. Awwwww! That's so sweet - and understandable. It's good to have both - a family that cares, but still doesn't harass you to quit. It's also great that your mom is cool w/finding your dad and is supportive. Much peace and happiness to all of you as you get to know each other."...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Gawain 0 #18 June 18, 2006 Simply amazing!! I'm very glad to read such good news and that everyone was so happy to connect again. That is cool, and I admire you and your family to taking such a courageous step! Congratulations! --MaxSo I try and I scream and I beg and I sigh Just to prove I'm alive, and it's alright 'Cause tonight there's a way I'll make light of my treacherous life Make light! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites riddler 0 #19 June 19, 2006 Good story, Cora. Thanks for sharing, and I hope you stay in contact with them and continue to appreciate each other.Trapped on the surface of a sphere. XKCD Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ACMESkydiver 0 #20 June 19, 2006 Congratulations! ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites blueskyserenity 0 #21 June 19, 2006 That is incredible Cora! Congrats! I like coconuts. You can break them open and they smell like ladies lying in the sun! 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Squeak 17 #7 June 18, 2006 that's great cora, I'm happy for you how was your mum with it all, did she have any probs?You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
marcandalysse 0 #8 June 18, 2006 Very nice Father's Day story. Good for you Cora! PS you are 'missing' a very hot summer at zhills! Marc and Alysse "The reason angels can fly is that they take themselves so lightly." --GK Chesterton Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ImGunnaJump 0 #9 June 18, 2006 This is a cool outcome! What does your dad and brother think of your skydiving, or did it come up?? Just curious - it always seems to draw such strong reactions, one way or the other, from people - but if you don't care to comment for whatever reason, perfectly fine. Glad everything came together and it all went well."...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
zulu 0 #10 June 18, 2006 Cora, Congrats on finally meeting your family and finding the happiness you so much wanted. Hmmmmmmmm I must say you look............(bring your ear closer) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
akarunway 1 #11 June 18, 2006 Perfect timing for Fathers Day. Congrads. Me, my kids just call me "The Sperm Donor". Cept when they call for money. Then it's "I love you dad", by the way....I hold it true, whate'er befall; I feel it, when I sorrow most; 'Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kenz 0 #12 June 18, 2006 that is so wonderful! congratulations!!! glad to hear it was everything you hoped for and more ;)"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thegreekone 0 #13 June 18, 2006 I will never forget the day that first call was made and what I heard in your voice. Being at your side that day and privvy to everything else that has happened since then has been such a pleasure. Watching you navigate a fine line between being guarded (smart) and open-minded (courageous) has left me in awe, like a lot of things. The pics of you and your brother and hearing the happiness in your voice when you talk about him makes me so happy for you. .......*PM sent* yer the bestest! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mdrejhon 8 #14 June 18, 2006 In early 2001, my birth mother found me -- my birth aunt found me on the Internet on one of the adoption registries. www.marky.com/adoption. Met my birth mother first, then she led me to my birth father who lives on SaltSpring Island near Vancouver, BC. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ladyskydiver 0 #15 June 18, 2006 Quotethat's great cora, I'm happy for you how was your mum with it all, did she have any probs? Mom had no issues with it at all. She was very happy that she was able to find him for me and to see our first meeting. Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ladyskydiver 0 #16 June 18, 2006 QuoteThis is a cool outcome! What does your dad and brother think of your skydiving, or did it come up?? Just curious - it always seems to draw such strong reactions, one way or the other, from people - but if you don't care to comment for whatever reason, perfectly fine. Glad everything came together and it all went well. Skydiving has come up in email conversations as well as in person. Dad would love for me to stop, because now that he's found me, he doesn't want to lose me. My brother wants me to be safe and come home from the dz unharmed. With him being military and an adventurer himself, he knows that I'm going to do it so he's just showing big brother concern. My mom actually did a tandem and is "tolerant" of it. Tolerant in that she knows I won't quit but is worried from the time I leave to go to the dz to the time I come home from the dz.Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ImGunnaJump 0 #17 June 18, 2006 Quote Skydiving has come up in email conversations as well as in person. Dad would love for me to stop, because now that he's found me, he doesn't want to lose me. Awwwww! That's so sweet - and understandable. It's good to have both - a family that cares, but still doesn't harass you to quit. It's also great that your mom is cool w/finding your dad and is supportive. Much peace and happiness to all of you as you get to know each other."...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Gawain 0 #18 June 18, 2006 Simply amazing!! I'm very glad to read such good news and that everyone was so happy to connect again. That is cool, and I admire you and your family to taking such a courageous step! Congratulations! --MaxSo I try and I scream and I beg and I sigh Just to prove I'm alive, and it's alright 'Cause tonight there's a way I'll make light of my treacherous life Make light! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites riddler 0 #19 June 19, 2006 Good story, Cora. Thanks for sharing, and I hope you stay in contact with them and continue to appreciate each other.Trapped on the surface of a sphere. XKCD Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ACMESkydiver 0 #20 June 19, 2006 Congratulations! ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites blueskyserenity 0 #21 June 19, 2006 That is incredible Cora! Congrats! I like coconuts. You can break them open and they smell like ladies lying in the sun! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mailin 0 #22 June 19, 2006 I remember you saying how much you wanted this - I'm so happy for you JenArianna Frances Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites guppie01 0 #23 June 19, 2006 That is so wonderful, thanks for sharing. Here's to many more beautiful memories!!!! g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites FrenchyDiver 0 #24 June 19, 2006 That is a wonderful story. Thank you for sharing Hispas Brothers President HISPA #2, Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
ladyskydiver 0 #15 June 18, 2006 Quotethat's great cora, I'm happy for you how was your mum with it all, did she have any probs? Mom had no issues with it at all. She was very happy that she was able to find him for me and to see our first meeting. Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #16 June 18, 2006 QuoteThis is a cool outcome! What does your dad and brother think of your skydiving, or did it come up?? Just curious - it always seems to draw such strong reactions, one way or the other, from people - but if you don't care to comment for whatever reason, perfectly fine. Glad everything came together and it all went well. Skydiving has come up in email conversations as well as in person. Dad would love for me to stop, because now that he's found me, he doesn't want to lose me. My brother wants me to be safe and come home from the dz unharmed. With him being military and an adventurer himself, he knows that I'm going to do it so he's just showing big brother concern. My mom actually did a tandem and is "tolerant" of it. Tolerant in that she knows I won't quit but is worried from the time I leave to go to the dz to the time I come home from the dz.Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ImGunnaJump 0 #17 June 18, 2006 Quote Skydiving has come up in email conversations as well as in person. Dad would love for me to stop, because now that he's found me, he doesn't want to lose me. Awwwww! That's so sweet - and understandable. It's good to have both - a family that cares, but still doesn't harass you to quit. It's also great that your mom is cool w/finding your dad and is supportive. Much peace and happiness to all of you as you get to know each other."...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gawain 0 #18 June 18, 2006 Simply amazing!! I'm very glad to read such good news and that everyone was so happy to connect again. That is cool, and I admire you and your family to taking such a courageous step! Congratulations! --MaxSo I try and I scream and I beg and I sigh Just to prove I'm alive, and it's alright 'Cause tonight there's a way I'll make light of my treacherous life Make light! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
riddler 0 #19 June 19, 2006 Good story, Cora. Thanks for sharing, and I hope you stay in contact with them and continue to appreciate each other.Trapped on the surface of a sphere. XKCD Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #20 June 19, 2006 Congratulations! ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blueskyserenity 0 #21 June 19, 2006 That is incredible Cora! Congrats! I like coconuts. You can break them open and they smell like ladies lying in the sun! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mailin 0 #22 June 19, 2006 I remember you saying how much you wanted this - I'm so happy for you JenArianna Frances Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #23 June 19, 2006 That is so wonderful, thanks for sharing. Here's to many more beautiful memories!!!! g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FrenchyDiver 0 #24 June 19, 2006 That is a wonderful story. Thank you for sharing Hispas Brothers President HISPA #2, Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites