Scoop 0 #1 August 28, 2006 OK... hypothetically ... if a girl has been cheating on her partner with you and they end up breaking up, could you trust her? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
McDuck 0 #2 August 28, 2006 I supopse that depends on many factors in both of your personalities. However, you'll always ponder this when she's not right at your side. Kevin - Sonic Beef #5 - OrFun #28 "I never take myself too seriously, 'cuz everybody know fat birds don't fly." - FLC Online communities: proof that people never mature much past high school. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #3 August 28, 2006 Well........every relationship is differen't BUT you would at least have to realize she is predisposed to cheating. I'd say the chances are good she will sooner or later. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
leroydb 0 #4 August 28, 2006 every situation is differnt... stranger things have happend,.... but I would say probally not. Depends on what you are looking for.Leroy ..I knew I was an unwanted baby when I saw my bath toys were a toaster and a radio... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #5 August 28, 2006 Depends more on the person than the fact she cheated on her BF IMO. "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
leroydb 0 #6 August 28, 2006 valid point to a degree, you do have to look at why she cheated on her BF. Maybe the relationship was already over and she didnt have the huudspa to end it?Leroy ..I knew I was an unwanted baby when I saw my bath toys were a toaster and a radio... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #7 August 28, 2006 It is very hard to judge anyone, I would say sure trust but keep in mind you could be next. Did she do it because she was unhappy?,because she was angry with her BF?, he cheated?, she needs more sex?, more men? see what I am getting at? She might be a wonderful person, a slut in denial, or just untrustworthy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Scoop 0 #8 August 28, 2006 Yeah, my understanding is he was a controlling weirdo. Wasn't allowed to go to work on occasions, had to have holiday same time as him, freaked out when she went out with friends. He is also about 15 years older than her. So I don't think it would have worked long term anyway. Hmm, difficult one. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Randy_H 0 #9 August 28, 2006 sound like bad news bro! If she is just a way to pass the time and you don't get your heart caught up in it, then no worries...BUT...if you get sucked in, watch out... Remember, she once felt the way she now feels about you with that other dude and something changed and caused her to seek attention elsewhere while using him as her spare tire. Next time, that spare tire could very well be you! Like I said, if you don't let your heart get caught up in her, then you should be fine.010010010110010101100001011101000111000001110101011100110111001101111001 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #10 August 28, 2006 QuoteYeah, my understanding is he was a controlling weirdo. Something I have learned to beware of..........If a girl right off the bat starts telling you how terrible her last boyfriend was. ......it may or MAY NOT be true. I have seen manipulative women that will use this to make themselves out as a victim to suck you in. Be careful. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #11 August 28, 2006 talk it all out with her ahead of time if you really want her. ok? hey if she swings thats cool too as long as their are no hidden suprises. If she is monogamous that is cool as well you just need to know each others expectations. BTW congrats on finding one that isn't a pentioner! At least Andy can't keep taking the piss out of you Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Michele 1 #12 August 28, 2006 Quote Wasn't allowed to go to work on occasions, had to have holiday same time as him, freaked out when she went out with friends. But she found time to meet - and cheat - with you...right? So maybe there's another side to this, or maybe she's using a justification to cheat. In any event, he wasn't quite as controlling as she's letting on. So be careful, and be very aware. Ciels- Michele ~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek While our hearts lie bleeding?~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy_Copland 0 #13 August 28, 2006 You disgust me, giving up engineering to be a bloke with a massive tit on his head Congrats btw Anyway, dont trust her but who says you still cant have fun? Personally i wouldnt go there. You have to decide if shes gonna be a bit of fun or something serious. No relationship can work without trust!1338 People aint made of nothin' but water and shit. Until morale improves, the beatings will continue. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisamariewillbe 1 #14 August 28, 2006 Something I have learned to beware of..........If a guy or his mom right off the bat starts telling you how terrible his last girlfriend was. ......it may NOT be true. I have seen manipulative/abusive men that will use this to make themselves out as a victim to suck people in with hopes of getting pity. Happens to both men and women.Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pawl 0 #15 August 28, 2006 Quote However, you'll always ponder this when she's not right at your side. Very well said "Africa is not for sissies" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #16 August 28, 2006 The more important question is, can you trust yourself? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,167 #17 August 28, 2006 Probably not. And she'll be hooked up with someone who will go out with someone else's wife/girlfriend. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #18 August 28, 2006 I'd have a tough time trusting the person. Which is why I probably wouldn't get involved in the first place with someone who was cheating to be with me. Bad juju all around. Being able to trust and not always wonder what the other person is up to when they're not with you is the foundation (at least for me) of a healthy, drama-free relationship. Being with someone who cheated to start up with me would mean we started with a really shaky foundation. "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #19 August 28, 2006 If I rob a bank with some one, can I trust them not to steal my half of the booty from me? Who cares, you're both criminals. So the moral of the story is, if you're going to do something immoral, do it alone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisamariewillbe 1 #20 August 28, 2006 Quoteif you're going to do something immoral, do it alone. Thats just masturbastion... solo sex is fine, not immoral at all Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stitch 0 #21 August 28, 2006 QuoteOK... hypothetically ... if a girl has been cheating on her partner with you and they end up breaking up, could you trust her? Depends..........is she a skydiver??"No cookies for you"- GFD "I don't think I like the sound of that" ~ MB65 Don't be a "Racer Hater" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #22 August 28, 2006 Absolutely not. If she'll do it to him she'll do it to you. And hooking up with someone you know has a bf/gf is pretty scummy too. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #23 August 28, 2006 Confucius he say... A wise man learns from other peoples mistakes, a fool from his own. Hey I don't know what it means either. (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Scoop 0 #24 August 28, 2006 Hmmm, as it happens I hear some news on the grapevine of her whereabouts last night. No it wasn't with her ex... no it wasn't with me either WHERES THE CUTAWAY!? Well, I've invited her to have a chat about things as rumours are one thing I don't like and you can't trust. So time for a proper discussion. It makes things worse that I'm currently her supervisor (but that in itself isn't an issue) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StreetScooby 5 #25 August 28, 2006 Quote It makes things worse that I'm currently her supervisor (but that in itself isn't an issue) ACHK! Cut away, dude, cut away now.We are all engines of karma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
