MikeMcLean 0 #1 April 3, 2009 QuoteTheir results, along with a review of S&M literature suggests couples that practice S&M experience reduced levels of stress and feel an increase in relationship closeness. http://icanhaz.com/a_spankingIt wouldn't hurt you to think like a fucking serial killer every once in a while - just for the sake of prevention Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyBastard 0 #2 April 3, 2009 well, spanking your mother is pretty intimate.Dude #320 "Superstitious" is just a polite way of saying "incredibly fucking stupid". DONK! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #4 April 3, 2009 I imagine there's a certain level of trust if you're letting someone spank you...... so I believe that. What about restraints??Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diablopilot 2 #5 April 3, 2009 What about them? ---------------------------------------------- You're not as good as you think you are. Seriously. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #6 April 3, 2009 they're fun! “Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MikeMcLean 0 #7 April 3, 2009 Quote I imagine there's a certain level of trust if you're letting someone spank you...... so I believe that. What about restraints?? I would assume that from the "level of trust" standpoint restraints would improve intimacy also. I would know from experience that is the case It wouldn't hurt you to think like a fucking serial killer every once in a while - just for the sake of prevention Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 24 #8 April 3, 2009 Best quote ever: QuoteArguably, laboratory mice would have been easier to control, but miniature gags and paddles are a tough findRemster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 212 #9 April 3, 2009 QuoteI imagine there's a certain level of trust if you're letting someone spank you...... so I believe that. What about restraints?? That is also what a safe word is for.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Orchid 0 #10 April 3, 2009 ...most definitely... "Love is doing small things with great love." Lacrosse: Legally beating men with sticks since 1492 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Heatmiser 0 #11 April 3, 2009 Sure....I only get in trouble if I spank other people's lovers. What you say is reflective of your knowledge...HOW ya say it is reflective of your experience. Airtwardo Someone's going to be spanked! Hopefully, it will be me. Skymama Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #12 April 3, 2009 I need a spankin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #13 April 3, 2009 Quote ...most definitely... WHEN-DO-YOU-COME-TO-VISIT!? i'll sort you out with everything you'll need.. “Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnRich 4 #14 April 3, 2009 So people who enjoy inflicting pain on their partner, are more "intimate" than those who believe in not hurting their partner. Uh-huh... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 2,435 #15 April 3, 2009 >So people who enjoy inflicting pain on their partner, are more "intimate" >than those who believe in not hurting their partner. Yep. Basically anything sexual you do with a partner that you both enjoy increases intimacy. Even if it's something that someone else disapproves of. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #16 April 3, 2009 nicely said! “Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #17 April 3, 2009 Sure. Especially during intercourse as it just pushes "things" in just a little bit more. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #18 April 3, 2009 Quote>So people who enjoy inflicting pain on their partner, are more "intimate" >than those who believe in not hurting their partner. Yep. Basically anything sexual you do with a partner that you both enjoy increases intimacy. Even if it's something that someone else disapproves of. The rest of your answer seems to contradict the "yep." I don't think JohnRich meant "those who believe in not hurting their partner" to mean "those who do nothing sexually with a partner that they both enjoy." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 212 #19 April 3, 2009 Perhaps it would have been better if he had used the words, "It's Likely", there are no absolutes in life, except death, and it does seem that technically he was speaking in an absolute. Lighten up . . . This isn't speakers corner. I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 2,435 #20 April 3, 2009 >I don't think JohnRich meant "those who believe in not hurting their partner" >to mean "those who do nothing sexually with a partner that they both enjoy." True. But people who do _anything_ sexual together that they both enjoy (whether it involves pain, or french maid's uniforms, or other people seeing them, or whatever) are in general more intimate with each other. Substitute any of those into the original statement, and yes, in general those people are more intimate with each other. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missg8tordivr 0 #21 April 3, 2009 Nothing wrong with a little spanking *** F LORIDA! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyDekker 1,147 #22 April 3, 2009 Wish I had the picture of my handprint on this computer Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #23 April 3, 2009 QuoteTrue. But people who do _anything_ sexual together that they both enjoy (whether it involves pain, or french maid's uniforms, or other people seeing them, or whatever) are in general more intimate with each other. Substitute any of those into the original statement, and yes, in general those people are more intimate with each other. Perhaps. I just think you mis-read John's question. But then I think he may have inferred more from the article than what was actually meant. I think he interpreted it to mean that all couples who participate in _S&M_ are more intimate than all of the other couples who don't, and of course that is not true. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #24 April 3, 2009 Quote>I don't think JohnRich meant "those who believe in not hurting their partner" >to mean "those who do nothing sexually with a partner that they both enjoy." True. But people who do _anything_ sexual together that they both enjoy (whether it involves pain, or french maid's uniforms, or other people seeing them, or whatever) are in general more intimate with each other. Substitute any of those into the original statement, and yes, in general those people are more intimate with each other. Most of that comes from the fact they openly discuss sex and their desires. Chances are if they can talk about that, they discuss most of the "normal" things better too.Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
