rhino 0 #26 August 16, 2002 I feel for you.. All you can do is hang for as long as you can. Their comes a time when the giving and patience runs out for the benefit of self preservation. If you love someone then things tend to be even harder.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
scottbre 0 #27 August 16, 2002 There's nothing more stupid and inaccurate than lumping half of the world's population into a single rough stereotype. "Your mother's full of stupidjuice!" My Art Project Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #28 August 16, 2002 Quote'Are you taken or is there a chance we could end up shagging?' I prefer the direct approach myself..... QuoteMany of them can't help it and don't realise they're doing it. Heheheehee....over time I came to realize that my ex-wife wasn't quite as mean and vicious as I had first thought. She just has the decision making skills of a 7 year old. (Really, I'm not saying that to be mean..it's true) She also cannot mentally connect her actions with the consequences. Of course, when I started reading about "Border Line Personality Disorder" and "Bi Polar Disorder" is when things got a little more scary. It's funny...after studying this stuff I see little pieces of it in a lot of people. Especially women..... It was more fun when I was ignorant and just played the games.....now it's just scary.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhino 0 #29 August 16, 2002 Simple.. That is her way of saying she isn't available. This would usually be triggered by something the "commentee" did to provoke the "commentor". She may be interested then a red flag goes up and she fires the reserve "boyfriend comment" Just a guess. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #30 August 16, 2002 agreed, however one finds that occasionally the BF comment comes up so often that it seems shes trying to remind HERSELF that she has one, even when WE are being "perfectly harmless"____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #31 August 16, 2002 Quotetrying to remind HERSELF that she has one, even when WE are being "perfectly harmless That's the case quite a bit I think..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma 0 #32 August 16, 2002 Ok...so what if (hypothetically) a woman is talking to a gorgeous man who (in other circumstances) she would love to sleep with, and the topic of 'her boyfriend' doesn't come up? Wouldn't the gorgeous man in question wonder why it didn't crop up at some point, and feel that either a/ she has led him on because she just enjoyed flirting with him or b/ she might actually have an illicit fling with him behind her boyfriend's back? Dodgy ground. Probably best to mention the boyfriend asap, just to be on the safe side? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #33 August 16, 2002 Quotejust to be on the safe side? She will only do that if that's where she wanted to be though. All too often it isn't.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SudsyFist 0 #34 August 16, 2002 QuoteHaving said that, isn't 'playing games' utter bollocks? emma, i was going to write you another deranged love letter after reading this, but i'm short on time and i'm running out to get SOME AIR! (and whaddya mean, "lesser sex"? michele? i want some answers! ) steve Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pammi 0 #35 August 16, 2002 Taken or no, a good flirt with a hot guy is still a good time...gotta throw in the 'boyfriend/husband' clause just to keep things clear. I'm thinking it's dirtier to flirt WITHOUT mentioning said 'significant other'! Then again, you know what I've still gotten on occassion? "You're married? BUT, is it happily?!" Translation: "Wanna f*** anyway?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhino 0 #36 August 16, 2002 Even if she is reminding herself it is our job as REAL MEN, to respect her wishes and to protect her from herself. Don't you think You do that for a lady and real respect is earned. My opinion.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #37 August 16, 2002 true, a mention or two in such circumstances would tell the observant that she is taken and the rest is just fun and pleasantries. .however, (not so hypothetically since it happend recently to me) sometimes it seems that the absent BF (who isnt really due to be seen in the near future) is mentioned so often in other wise innocent conversation that he either; a: walks on water and all mles should bow before him or b: is under serious threat of being temporarily forgotten if not focused on..____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #38 August 16, 2002 QuoteTaken or no, a good flirt with a hot guy is still a good time...gotta throw in the 'boyfriend/husband' clause just to keep things clear. I'm thinking it's dirtier to flirt WITHOUT mentioning said 'significant other'! Then again, you know what I've still gotten on occassion? "You're married? BUT, is it happily?!" Translation: "Wanna f*** anyway?" Thanks Pammi! Yes! "Someone else besides my poor put-upon wife finds me attractive! I'M NOT DEAD! BAMM! "Yeah, my wife loves to come here with our twin girls when she picks them up from Most Holy Rosary where they are in first grade. Is your Husband on the way? That other one gets a laugh every time. "Married?" "Oh, yeah" "Happily?" "Happily enough that I'm not going to break up my family to find out how firm your mattress is? Definitely." Question: Is being married better than being single? Answer: It sure was this morning. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflir29 0 #39 August 16, 2002 QuoteQuestion: Is being married better than being single? Answer: It sure was this morning. Just depends on what day it is really.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Emma 0 #40 August 16, 2002 Quotejust to be on the safe side? -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- She will only do that if that's where she wanted to be though. All too often it isn't.... All too often? You get a lotta laydeeeez tryin to get you on the wild side? If safe was so great, we wouldn't all jump out of perfectly good aeroplanes, huh? The 'my boyfriend' comment is like a Cypres...It makes it safer, but flirting with a gorgeous man is still dangerous if you're not careful...We just mitigate the risks... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites nws01 0 #41 August 16, 2002 Q. Why do they call a womans "time of the month" P.M.S.? A. Because Mad Cow Disease was already taken. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflir29 0 #42 August 16, 2002 QuoteBecause Mad Cow Disease was already taken. Do you know my ex-wife? I used to call her and by the time "Hello" came out of her mouth I could tell. She really hated that...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites MarkM 0 #43 August 16, 2002 QuoteThere's nothing more stupid and inaccurate than lumping half of the world's population into a single rough stereotype. Yeah. The sad thing is the most interesting people around are those that live outside the stereotypes. By lumping people together as "guys are this" or "girls are that" you can close your mind off to exploring some truly fascinating people. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites billvon 2,478 #44 August 16, 2002 >So one asks, well are you saying that means you want to run for the > hills sometimes... and he replies, well yea... Would you rather he lie to you? He may love you, want to be with you etc. but not want the kind of relationship you two have. It's better to know that, and decide if you want to deal with it or not, than to just wake up one morning and find him gone. There are no relationship "norms," nothing that he HAS to live up to. Heck, he could go out with seven women, one each day of the week. As long as all eight people are happy with that, the relationship works. The one thing that absolutely _doesn't_ work is trying to tell all seven women they're the only ones, even if that's what they want to hear. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Jessica 0 #45 August 16, 2002 QuoteSo one asks, well are you saying that means you want to run for the hills sometimes... and he replies, well yea... I feel for you, but don't ask questions you're not prepared to hear an answer to that you might not like. Sounds to me that you were fishing for him to say "No way! I'm totally happy with you here forever and I never question a single thing about monogamy!" (The only reason I know this is because I've done it.) Some men are silly; they think if you ask a question it's because you want to know the answer. Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflir29 0 #46 August 16, 2002 QuoteSome men are silly; they think if you ask a question it's because you want to know the answer. Jessica....the more I come to know you.....the more I like about you.... Now...if we can just get you over this door phobia..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites goose491 0 #47 August 16, 2002 QuoteThere's nothing more stupid and inaccurate than lumping half of the world's population into a single rough stereotype. Stupid??? Inaccuarate??? Big words... Hey take that one up with the holly father... He's the one that did it. One person is vastly different from any other yes.. but -providing we're talking guy girl relationship- there is still a guy side and a girl side. The similarities are remarkable in how ALL men treat their women and vice-versa... We are still animals with programmed instincts which go waaaaaay back. It's not a "stereotype" when we say stuff like "men want their space" and "women don't want their men to have space" it's human nature. This is Discovery channel-type stuff man. My Karma ran over my Dogma!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites scottbre 0 #48 August 16, 2002 QuoteHey take that one up with the holly father... Is he married to the mistletoe mother? QuoteThe similarities are remarkable in how ALL men treat their women and vice-versa... QuoteIt's not a "stereotype" when we say stuff like "men want their space" and "women don't want their men to have space" it's human nature. Hehe, ok, if you say so. Guess we'll just have to disagree on this issue. Some things are so rediculous that you can't even explain why they are "Your mother's full of stupidjuice!" My Art Project Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites GrumpySmurf 0 #49 August 16, 2002 Rest assured my friend, *EVERY* relationship is temporary - either a) they leave thier S/O or b) one of them dies. So patience (or encourage 'b' to occur sooner rather than later) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflir29 0 #50 August 16, 2002 Quoteor encourage 'b' to occur sooner rather than later) Trust me...I so wanted to help that process along. Unfortunately, even if I didn't do it.....I would still be the prime suspect..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 Next Page 2 of 3 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. 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freeflir29 0 #39 August 16, 2002 QuoteQuestion: Is being married better than being single? Answer: It sure was this morning. Just depends on what day it is really.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma 0 #40 August 16, 2002 Quotejust to be on the safe side? -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- She will only do that if that's where she wanted to be though. All too often it isn't.... All too often? You get a lotta laydeeeez tryin to get you on the wild side? If safe was so great, we wouldn't all jump out of perfectly good aeroplanes, huh? The 'my boyfriend' comment is like a Cypres...It makes it safer, but flirting with a gorgeous man is still dangerous if you're not careful...We just mitigate the risks... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nws01 0 #41 August 16, 2002 Q. Why do they call a womans "time of the month" P.M.S.? A. Because Mad Cow Disease was already taken. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflir29 0 #42 August 16, 2002 QuoteBecause Mad Cow Disease was already taken. Do you know my ex-wife? I used to call her and by the time "Hello" came out of her mouth I could tell. She really hated that...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites MarkM 0 #43 August 16, 2002 QuoteThere's nothing more stupid and inaccurate than lumping half of the world's population into a single rough stereotype. Yeah. The sad thing is the most interesting people around are those that live outside the stereotypes. By lumping people together as "guys are this" or "girls are that" you can close your mind off to exploring some truly fascinating people. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites billvon 2,478 #44 August 16, 2002 >So one asks, well are you saying that means you want to run for the > hills sometimes... and he replies, well yea... Would you rather he lie to you? He may love you, want to be with you etc. but not want the kind of relationship you two have. It's better to know that, and decide if you want to deal with it or not, than to just wake up one morning and find him gone. There are no relationship "norms," nothing that he HAS to live up to. Heck, he could go out with seven women, one each day of the week. As long as all eight people are happy with that, the relationship works. The one thing that absolutely _doesn't_ work is trying to tell all seven women they're the only ones, even if that's what they want to hear. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Jessica 0 #45 August 16, 2002 QuoteSo one asks, well are you saying that means you want to run for the hills sometimes... and he replies, well yea... I feel for you, but don't ask questions you're not prepared to hear an answer to that you might not like. Sounds to me that you were fishing for him to say "No way! I'm totally happy with you here forever and I never question a single thing about monogamy!" (The only reason I know this is because I've done it.) Some men are silly; they think if you ask a question it's because you want to know the answer. Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflir29 0 #46 August 16, 2002 QuoteSome men are silly; they think if you ask a question it's because you want to know the answer. Jessica....the more I come to know you.....the more I like about you.... Now...if we can just get you over this door phobia..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites goose491 0 #47 August 16, 2002 QuoteThere's nothing more stupid and inaccurate than lumping half of the world's population into a single rough stereotype. Stupid??? Inaccuarate??? Big words... Hey take that one up with the holly father... He's the one that did it. One person is vastly different from any other yes.. but -providing we're talking guy girl relationship- there is still a guy side and a girl side. The similarities are remarkable in how ALL men treat their women and vice-versa... We are still animals with programmed instincts which go waaaaaay back. It's not a "stereotype" when we say stuff like "men want their space" and "women don't want their men to have space" it's human nature. This is Discovery channel-type stuff man. My Karma ran over my Dogma!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites scottbre 0 #48 August 16, 2002 QuoteHey take that one up with the holly father... Is he married to the mistletoe mother? QuoteThe similarities are remarkable in how ALL men treat their women and vice-versa... QuoteIt's not a "stereotype" when we say stuff like "men want their space" and "women don't want their men to have space" it's human nature. Hehe, ok, if you say so. Guess we'll just have to disagree on this issue. Some things are so rediculous that you can't even explain why they are "Your mother's full of stupidjuice!" My Art Project Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites GrumpySmurf 0 #49 August 16, 2002 Rest assured my friend, *EVERY* relationship is temporary - either a) they leave thier S/O or b) one of them dies. So patience (or encourage 'b' to occur sooner rather than later) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites freeflir29 0 #50 August 16, 2002 Quoteor encourage 'b' to occur sooner rather than later) Trust me...I so wanted to help that process along. Unfortunately, even if I didn't do it.....I would still be the prime suspect..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 Next Page 2 of 3 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
freeflir29 0 #42 August 16, 2002 QuoteBecause Mad Cow Disease was already taken. Do you know my ex-wife? I used to call her and by the time "Hello" came out of her mouth I could tell. She really hated that...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MarkM 0 #43 August 16, 2002 QuoteThere's nothing more stupid and inaccurate than lumping half of the world's population into a single rough stereotype. Yeah. The sad thing is the most interesting people around are those that live outside the stereotypes. By lumping people together as "guys are this" or "girls are that" you can close your mind off to exploring some truly fascinating people. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 2,478 #44 August 16, 2002 >So one asks, well are you saying that means you want to run for the > hills sometimes... and he replies, well yea... Would you rather he lie to you? He may love you, want to be with you etc. but not want the kind of relationship you two have. It's better to know that, and decide if you want to deal with it or not, than to just wake up one morning and find him gone. There are no relationship "norms," nothing that he HAS to live up to. Heck, he could go out with seven women, one each day of the week. As long as all eight people are happy with that, the relationship works. The one thing that absolutely _doesn't_ work is trying to tell all seven women they're the only ones, even if that's what they want to hear. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #45 August 16, 2002 QuoteSo one asks, well are you saying that means you want to run for the hills sometimes... and he replies, well yea... I feel for you, but don't ask questions you're not prepared to hear an answer to that you might not like. Sounds to me that you were fishing for him to say "No way! I'm totally happy with you here forever and I never question a single thing about monogamy!" (The only reason I know this is because I've done it.) Some men are silly; they think if you ask a question it's because you want to know the answer. Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #46 August 16, 2002 QuoteSome men are silly; they think if you ask a question it's because you want to know the answer. Jessica....the more I come to know you.....the more I like about you.... Now...if we can just get you over this door phobia..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
goose491 0 #47 August 16, 2002 QuoteThere's nothing more stupid and inaccurate than lumping half of the world's population into a single rough stereotype. Stupid??? Inaccuarate??? Big words... Hey take that one up with the holly father... He's the one that did it. One person is vastly different from any other yes.. but -providing we're talking guy girl relationship- there is still a guy side and a girl side. The similarities are remarkable in how ALL men treat their women and vice-versa... We are still animals with programmed instincts which go waaaaaay back. It's not a "stereotype" when we say stuff like "men want their space" and "women don't want their men to have space" it's human nature. This is Discovery channel-type stuff man. My Karma ran over my Dogma!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
scottbre 0 #48 August 16, 2002 QuoteHey take that one up with the holly father... Is he married to the mistletoe mother? QuoteThe similarities are remarkable in how ALL men treat their women and vice-versa... QuoteIt's not a "stereotype" when we say stuff like "men want their space" and "women don't want their men to have space" it's human nature. Hehe, ok, if you say so. Guess we'll just have to disagree on this issue. Some things are so rediculous that you can't even explain why they are "Your mother's full of stupidjuice!" My Art Project Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GrumpySmurf 0 #49 August 16, 2002 Rest assured my friend, *EVERY* relationship is temporary - either a) they leave thier S/O or b) one of them dies. So patience (or encourage 'b' to occur sooner rather than later) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #50 August 16, 2002 Quoteor encourage 'b' to occur sooner rather than later) Trust me...I so wanted to help that process along. Unfortunately, even if I didn't do it.....I would still be the prime suspect..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
