Newbie 0 #1 October 3, 2003 I don't get why I read so much about people cheating on eachother. Here's the question for the skydivers. If you're S.O. cheats on you, what do you do and why? "Skydiving is a door" Happythoughts Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #2 October 3, 2003 f their sister...or mom if she's hot Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflygoddess 0 #3 October 3, 2003 Well I have had three SOs cheat on me and well I am single... I did leave them after I knew and it hurt me really bad and it was very hard for me to move on and not drag those insecurities to the next relationship. However, I will never cheat because I know the pain it causes. Some people just have no clue how much it really does effect the other or just simply do not care. Scarey thought. I just hope that eventually they will stop and grow up and take a look at the pain they have caused and are either upfront about their intentions and feelings, without lying just to get what they want, or finally settle down and be with one person. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casie 0 #4 October 3, 2003 I for one have never cheated on a SO! My last boyfriend I'm certain did cheat on me, however I could never prove it! I obviously didn't trust him. I too have insecurity issues I'm trying to get over. I would never intentionally hurt someone, it's too horrible of a feeling/experience to have to go thru! Some people just need to grow up & get over themselves. You can't have your cake & eat it tooo!~Porn Kitty WARNING: Goldschlager causes extreme emotional outbursts! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pegasus 0 #5 October 3, 2003 Well I grew up in a cheating household, watched my dad do it and so on...it was adventually the stick that broke the marriage. It caused alot of pain, & I dont think my mom ever fully got over it, even though it was sixteen years ago and she is remarried. My s/o has different views about sex than I do, however out of respect for me he doesnt cross that line, flirts alot...but never crosses it. I on the same hand, flirt, but on a totally harmless basis. I take alot of pride by knowing that no other man has touched my body in a sexual nature in 6.5 years. Fidelity is becoming heard of less & less. I hope to instill these morals in my children for the furture. I have a t-short that says it best... "one husband, one wife for life, it may not be popular, but it is possible..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 212 #6 October 3, 2003 Why bother cheating? If you have not the self control to not "cheat" then you need not have an SO.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Luv2Fall 0 #7 October 3, 2003 Quotef their sister...or mom if she's hot Hmmmmmmm......grudge fucks. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #8 October 3, 2003 Seriously.....I don't allow it to be an issue. A) I wouldn't ever cheat B) I don't worry about if someone is cheating on me. I'll assume that they aren't instead of getting suspicious and trying to figure out or prove that they are. Used to be the jealous type, but jealousy is such a useless emotion that only causes pain, and it's usually misplaced anyway. Somehow broke myself of that problem. Probably by staying single for a long time and not relying on a relationship. C) If I was confronted with a cheating gf, I'd dump her, and move on. No reason to continue an exclusive relationship that isn't exclusive. And I've learned that you can love anyone. If you lose your current love, another will come along. There's no such thing as a soul mate, and I don't fear being alone. Cheating is only an issue if you're jealous and make it one by being suspicious all of the time. Or if when someone cheats on you, you're afraid to break it off because you don't want to lose what you once thought you had with them or don't want to be alone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #9 October 3, 2003 What? Call her on it? No way. You don't change her, you just lose your turn in the rotation. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zennie 0 #10 October 3, 2003 QuoteIf you're S.O. cheats on you, what do you do and why? Give them a chance to end the relationship & fix any problems in the marriage through counselling. When they refuse, file for divorce. - Z "Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #11 October 3, 2003 Almost every girl I've been in a serious relationship with has cheated on me, and that's why it was ended. Sad thing is, it was them that broke it off after they knew I found out. What can I say, either I'm too damn trusting, or the girls I date are too damn easy. Shit, I need a hug. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #12 October 3, 2003 (((((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))))) Those "ladies" did you a favor. You are better off without them. Anyone who "cheats" should really not be in a relationship. Period. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casie 0 #13 October 3, 2003 ****HUGZ**** comin your way!~Porn Kitty WARNING: Goldschlager causes extreme emotional outbursts! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChasingBlueSky 0 #14 October 3, 2003 QuoteI don't get why I read so much about people cheating on eachother. Here's the question for the skydivers. If you're S.O. cheats on you, what do you do and why? Look, Reach, Arch, Pull, CUTAWAY. There are no excuses, there are no good reasons. You cheat, you are single again - not too hard to understand._________________________________________ you can burn the land and boil the sea, but you can't take the sky from me.... I WILL fly again..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #15 October 3, 2003 I've never cheated and would never cheat. it doesn't make any sense to me... if you want to be with someone other than the person you're with, break up and move on. I had a guy cheat on me once... he cheated during the first few weeks after we'd decided to make things exclusive, and he fessed up close to a year later... he called me at two AM (when we'd spent the entire day together... he could've just come clean then, if he really felt the need to do so, rather than wake me up in the middle of the night) and told me, and then took off on a family holiday to France for three weeks... ya see... the thing is, I'm a redhead. I have the temper to match. Had he told me in person, I probably would've slapped him one or hollered a bit and been over it, and we could've moved on. However, the bastard gave me three weeks to stew about it, which pissed me off even more... well, that, and the fact that he didn't have the courtesy to fess up in person. So, when he got home, we bumped into each other at the renaissance faire and had a rather spectacular breakup scene right in the middle of Maybower Commons, between the foodcourt and the stage... I think more people were turning around to watch our little show than were watching the show on the stage! LOL. Later on that evening, the bastard, to get his revenge, slipped LSD into my drink, which, of course, ruined any hope of reconciliation, not that there was much hope there to begin with. A mutual friend came rushing over about half an hour later and told me what the guy'd done, but by then there wasn't a lot I could do about it... so the rest of the evening made for an interesting trip, to say the least. I don't do drugs. He did. It was something we were always fighting about. sigh. why do I always end up dating assholes? live and learn, I guess. -N- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinjackflash 0 #16 October 3, 2003 QuoteAlmost every girl I've been in a serious relationship with has cheated on me, and that's why it was ended. Sad thing is, it was them that broke it off after they knew I found out. What can I say, either I'm too damn trusting, or the girls I date are too damn easy. Shit, I need a hug. I'm not gonna hug ya man (like you wanted one from me anyhow :-) I will say though, coming out of a second marriage recently, we tend to pick the same people every time... Even when we don't want to. Girls who get the crap beat out of them, often choose another wife beater the second time around, and don't even know they did until it's too late. Same thing for cheaters, etc....etc...etc... We are attracted to certain personality traits, and with those profiles, usually come the things that we don't like. Cheating, Abuse, etc...etc... Really Really Sucks. Why have exclusivity, if your not going to be exclusive? Beats me, unbelievable but it occurs all the time. Peace, Keep trying, jackIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clownburner 0 #17 October 3, 2003 Maybe you should study the Kama Sutra, so they're too tired to cheat on you. 7CP#1 | BTR#2 | Payaso en fuego Rodriguez "I want hot chicks in my boobies!"- McBeth Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 212 #18 October 3, 2003 QuoteQuoteIf you're S.O. cheats on you, what do you do and why? Give them a chance to end the relationship & fix any problems in the marriage through counselling. When they refuse, file for divorce. Didn't know it was a marriage...thoght it was just a S.O..... But, does that make a difference. I mean w/ just a g/f there's no "legal" promise. Not to say that it wasn't a commitment, rather(and I know I'll get flamed for this) the church didn't bless the union, and the state didn't ratify the legalities of it. So, would you give the same advice, or now say, kick 'er to the curb?I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinjackflash 0 #19 October 3, 2003 QuoteLater on that evening, the bastard, to get his revenge, slipped LSD into my drink, which, of course, ruined any hope of reconciliation, not that there was much hope there to begin with. A mutual friend came rushing over about half an hour later and told me what the guy'd done, but by then there wasn't a lot I could do about it... so the rest of the evening made for an interesting trip, to say the least. I don't do drugs. He did. It was something we were always fighting about. sigh. why do I always end up dating assholes? live and learn, I guess. -N- JEEZ OH PEEZ? ASSHOLES? WTF? I did drugs for years, through teenage and early twenties. HAD A DAMN GOOD TIME NEVER EVER SLIPPED ANYONE ANYTHING!!! SHIT DAMN ASSHOLES? HOW ABOUT COMPLETE FREAKS! WOW Glad your ok, I'd kick someones ass clear around the world for dropping a surprise in on me. Damn. jackIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zennie 0 #20 October 3, 2003 QuoteSo, would you give the same advice, or now say, kick 'er to the curb? I've always been more than willing to give someone a second chance. It would depend on whether they were willing to end the fling and how confident I felt that they wouldn't do something like that again. If I'm not convinced that the other person will follow through on both counts, it's pull red handle time... - Z "Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #21 October 3, 2003 QuoteQuoteLater on that evening, the bastard, to get his revenge, slipped LSD into my drink, which, of course, ruined any hope of reconciliation, not that there was much hope there to begin with. A mutual friend came rushing over about half an hour later and told me what the guy'd done, but by then there wasn't a lot I could do about it... so the rest of the evening made for an interesting trip, to say the least. I don't do drugs. He did. It was something we were always fighting about. sigh. why do I always end up dating assholes? live and learn, I guess. -N- JEEZ OH PEEZ? ASSHOLES? WTF? I did drugs for years, through teenage and early twenties. HAD A DAMN GOOD TIME NEVER EVER SLIPPED ANYONE ANYTHING!!! SHIT DAMN ASSHOLES? HOW ABOUT COMPLETE FREAKS! WOW Glad your ok, I'd kick someones ass clear around the world for dropping a surprise in on me. Damn. jack He wasn't an asshole because he did drugs. I have some good friends who use, but they're responsible about it. I don't have a problem with that... but if they offer it to me, they respect me when I say no, and don't ask again. My choices are different than theirs, and we're both okay with that. With the ex-bf, what we'd fought about wasn't so much the drugs themselves, but him putting pressure on me to use them also, and him standing me up because he was too wasted to remember to call and cancel plans, or DRIVING under the influence of LSD, or smoking pot around my eight year old cousin. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Newbie 0 #22 October 3, 2003 If you catch them do you give them another chance or pull the "red handle" as you guys say... My FJC taught me it was a silver handle, so what's the red one? "Skydiving is a door" Happythoughts Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #23 October 3, 2003 red handle is cutaway silver handle is reserve Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #24 October 3, 2003 Dropping LSD in a drink, that could get someone hurt, or even killed. I'd put him in jail where he belongs. I'm glad you broke that one off Nightinggale, for your sake sweetie. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveNFlorida 0 #25 October 3, 2003 QuoteI don't get why I read so much about people cheating on eachother. Here's the question for the skydivers. If you're S.O. cheats on you, what do you do and why? Leave them. That simple. Because if they'd do it once, they aren't ready to commit, and they'd do it again. I wouldn't bother to try to get them back for something like that... besides, what goes around comes around. Angela. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
