wmw999 2,122 #1 January 11, 2006 I broke up with a guy almost 5 years ago who called me obsessively for about 3 years after the breakup. In the beginning, tens of times, and he'd send 100 emails at a time (either "I love you" or "I hate you."). He'd fill the answering machine. Police intervention cooled it for awhile, but not forever. Never threatened in any way (and, knowing the guy, it was unlikely). Finally, he got another girlfriend, and it cut way back. Whether or not I had a boyfriend made no difference, although it did drop off somewhat after my BF called and said STOP. Cut to today. I have had one hang-up from him in the last month (that's not bad). This morning there's a message: "Wendy, I need to talk something over with you, I need your advice. I have the potential for a job in Michigan, and I'm wondering if I should even go on the interview." Anyone who can figure out what my likely advice would be is not as clueless as they think Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
j0nes 0 #2 January 11, 2006 do you live in Michigan? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,122 #3 January 11, 2006 Nope, Texas. Michigan would put him far away. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mnealtx 0 #4 January 11, 2006 Quote"How can I miss you if you won't go away?" Also known as "yes, absolutely...this is a GREAT opportunity for you!" Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #5 January 11, 2006 Tell him to go fuck himself either way... or change your phone number. 3 years of harrassment is way too long. "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
McDuck 0 #6 January 11, 2006 Asking for advice in here can sometimes be like being one of those tin BB-gun targets at the carnival. Depending on your intended level of involvement, you could not return the call to further impress upon him your desire to get on with your own life, and not give him the impression that he can drag you back into his with this particular tactic; or you could weigh in on this and risk causing him to believe there is reason to continue calling and bugging you on a regular basis.Kevin - Sonic Beef #5 - OrFun #28 "I never take myself too seriously, 'cuz everybody know fat birds don't fly." - FLC Online communities: proof that people never mature much past high school. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
j0nes 0 #7 January 11, 2006 why don't you just give him the URL to this thread? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #8 January 11, 2006 Don't respond. If you respond, then he'll just keep on calling. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 0 #9 January 11, 2006 I agree completely. Trolls and stalkers are best ignored. Acknowledging them only enables them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterrig 1 #10 January 11, 2006 WoW! This guy's got a real 'addiction' to you. Out of curiosity, can't the phone company do anything about 'phone harrassment'? I don't know, I've never been in your situation. Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
j0nes 0 #11 January 11, 2006 QuoteI don't know, I've never been in your situation. nobody has ever stalked chuck. does this surprise anyone? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,122 #12 January 11, 2006 Don't worry. I have no intention of responding. It took a long time to stop feeling sorry for him in any but the most detached way (I'm a real sucker). Now I think this is a riot. It's right up there with the message he left a couple of years ago: I hate you, you're a horrible person My ex-wife's baby (from long after the marriage) is sick and she wants me to help with the medical bills why are women so crazy? It's like a whole 'nother little world... Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterrig 1 #13 January 11, 2006 The guy has no 'grip' on reality, does he? Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #14 January 11, 2006 Quote Anyone who can figure out what my likely advice would be is not as clueless as they think Wendy W. I'm thinkin' your advice will be something like, "I know this guy waltappel, and he has an ex-girlfriend that I think would be perfect for you!" Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #15 January 11, 2006 GIVE HIS NUMBER TO US ! We'll take care of this. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Channman 2 #16 January 11, 2006 Wendy, It seems you left him with a deep hurt/squished his heart Go for it, it will be the best job you ever had line might help. If he takes it you and your current boy friend can join the witness protection program and go into hiding. Yea sounds a little crazy but think of it as an adventure. Good luck and get an unlisted number, and some mace. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,122 #17 January 11, 2006 Um, Channing? He currently lives in Houston. I live in Houston. My boyfriend lives with me in Houston. Ex-BF is thinking about a job in Michigan, and wants my advice. My fairly obvious advice would be for him to move to Michigan. Where it's far away and phone calls will be more expensive. I'd probably never hear from him again (except when he wanted some advice on whether it's cold). Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #18 January 11, 2006 I'm clueless. I left my many messages of advice and encouragement and affection from my many skydiving friends in my message account here, and didn't password protect them. Never thought they could be interpreted the wrong way. Pretty clueless. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #19 January 11, 2006 I can see you having that effect on someone. Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,122 #20 January 11, 2006 QuoteI can see you having that effect on someone.You are so in trouble!!! I'll just give you a quick uppercut and you'll bite that tongue-in-cheek right off Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #21 January 11, 2006 QuoteQuoteI can see you having that effect on someone.You are so in trouble!!! I'll just give you a quick uppercut and you'll bite that tongue-in-cheek right off Wendy W. I was being serious!!!! Sushi in March?Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #22 January 11, 2006 QuoteQuoteQuoteI can see you having that effect on someone.You are so in trouble!!! I'll just give you a quick uppercut and you'll bite that tongue-in-cheek right off Wendy W. I was being serious!!!! Sushi in March? Hey Wendy, I've got to agree with the guy. I could see how a guy could get really addicted to you. As for the bad vibes and harrassment, who knows where that came from, but the addiction thing I can see as being great taste in ladies just taken a little too far. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 6 #23 January 11, 2006 QuoteGIVE HIS NUMBER TO US ! We'll take care of this. *** We have a WINNER! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,122 #24 January 11, 2006 thanks Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 259 #25 January 11, 2006 That sucks, JP. Would it help if I sent you a PM saying "you're an asshole and I hate you"? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
