anonymous100 0 #1 February 7, 2006 I'm a regular poster but have to be anonymous because this is a matter I'm embarrassed to be dealing with, so I apologize for the anonymity. Here's the situation: My SO wants to have a threesome (as if that's different from any other guy). His obsession with it though comes from the fact that I previously had a threesome with 2 men (over 7 years ago...long before I met my current SO). I even intensely regret doing it, but for some reason it weighs heavily on my current SO. I want to do it to make him happy but due to jealousy issues I just don't know if I can handle it. I keep thinking "he wouldn't do this for me with another guy, so why should I do this for him with another girl?" Any and all thoughts would be appreciated. Have you done it? If so, was it for you or for someone else? Or if you have advice on overcoming jealousy issues, that would also be appreciated. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
leapdog 0 #2 February 7, 2006 I apologize for the joking in advance. I'm not touching that one with a 10 foot pole and the other guy pushing. Seriously, if there were a jealousy issue or you think there will be one- don't do it. Gunnery Sergeant of Marines "I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #3 February 7, 2006 QuoteI keep thinking "he wouldn't do this for me with another guy, so why should I do this for him with another girl?" and there is your answer....... ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #4 February 7, 2006 I would love to see how many new user names come out of this one. . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #5 February 7, 2006 QuoteI keep thinking "he wouldn't do this for me with another guy, so why should I do this for him with another girl?" There is your answer.. pure and simple.. what is good for you Goosie.. is good enough for his GANDER Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #6 February 7, 2006 Ok, I haven't done it (in fact I haven't done anything...) but I think you've answered you're own question. Quote even intensely regret doing it... You need to explain that to you're SO... and if he still "really wants it..." then well... Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yamtx73 0 #7 February 7, 2006 I'd highly recommend against it, jealousy is already an issue and I don't see that changing. There are so many things other than jealousy to consider here. There is a very real possibility it would have a detrimental affect on your relationship. What happened before you two were together is irrelevant to your current relationship. If he can't accept that then you need to sit down and have a long talk and consider where you really stand with each other.The only naturals in this sport shit thru feathers... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sundevil777 94 #8 February 7, 2006 Have him check out the movie The Sex Monster http://www.thesexmonster.com/ Maybe he'll not be so willing to risk it. It should be pretty good to just fantasize about it together. No risk and the fantasy can be perfect. It could be very destructive. edited to fix a wrong link.People are sick and tired of being told that ordinary and decent people are fed up in this country with being sick and tired. I’m certainly not, and I’m sick and tired of being told that I am Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #9 February 8, 2006 Quote I'd highly recommend against it, jealousy is already an issue and I don't see that changing. There are so many things other than jealousy to consider here. There is a very real possibility it would have a detrimental affect on your relationship. What happened before you two were together is irrelevant to your current relationship. If he can't accept that then you need to sit down and have a long talk and consider where you really stand with each other. perfect Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #10 February 8, 2006 QuoteI'm a regular poster but have to be anonymous because this is a matter I'm embarrassed to be dealing with, so I apologize for the anonymity. Here's the situation: My SO wants to have a threesome (as if that's different from any other guy). His obsession with it though comes from the fact that I previously had a threesome with 2 men (over 7 years ago...long before I met my current SO). I even intensely regret doing it, but for some reason it weighs heavily on my current SO. I want to do it to make him happy but due to jealousy issues I just don't know if I can handle it. I keep thinking "he wouldn't do this for me with another guy, so why should I do this for him with another girl?" Any and all thoughts would be appreciated. Have you done it? If so, was it for you or for someone else? Or if you have advice on overcoming jealousy issues, that would also be appreciated. My advice is to *not* do it. I'll PM you. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skinnyshrek 0 #11 February 8, 2006 Well, i would suggest you get a video guy to record the episode. Then, let DZ.commers deceide if it was inappropriate. http://www.skydivethefarm.com do you realize that when you critisize people you dont know over the internet, you become part of a growing society of twats? ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yamtx73 0 #12 February 8, 2006 I've seen this sort of thing cause problems before, it just isn't worth it. He may get to enjoy his fantasy but at what cost to the relationship? She said she did it before and regrets it, that says alot.The only naturals in this sport shit thru feathers... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Broke 0 #13 February 8, 2006 Tell him that "I just don't feel comfortable with this," and explain why. After that. If he really loves you he won't bring it up again. If he dosen't care. Get a guy who's worth your time.Divot your source for all things Hillbilly. Anvil Brother 84 SCR 14192 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #14 February 8, 2006 Quote If he dosen't care. Get a guy who's worth your time. Can I second this statement?Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #15 February 8, 2006 OMG Mom! Stop posting on here! -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #16 February 8, 2006 QuoteOMG Mom! Stop posting on here! Shannon, you slay me. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skinnyshrek 0 #17 February 8, 2006 Don't lie...Ok folks, The annonymous person is shannon. She called jello jay to fly out there for this 3some. can't you see them flirting with each other on the dublin thread.......... I can't believe your in hiding asking for advice?http://www.skydivethefarm.com do you realize that when you critisize people you dont know over the internet, you become part of a growing society of twats? ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JeepDiver 0 #18 February 8, 2006 I say go for it. More than likely the realtionship is falling apart anyway. I've never had jealousy issues considering all the many, many, many, many, threesome, foursomes & outright orgies I've been involved in over the years. Some of my fondest memories are still captured on video tape. My college days wore me out for a few years but was able to recover by going through a 12 step program. I've completely recovered. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Broke 0 #19 February 8, 2006 There is a Magic Oven Mitt hereDivot your source for all things Hillbilly. Anvil Brother 84 SCR 14192 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skinnyshrek 0 #20 February 8, 2006 The only problem with orgies is you don't know who to thank on the way outhttp://www.skydivethefarm.com do you realize that when you critisize people you dont know over the internet, you become part of a growing society of twats? ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #21 February 8, 2006 QuoteDon't lie...Ok folks, The annonymous person is shannon. She called jello jay to fly out there for this 3some. can't you see them flirting with each other on the dublin thread.......... I can't believe your in hiding asking for advice? Oh honey, I learned long ago that threesomes were a bad idea. (unless it's someone neither of you know and they're totally hot and you'll never see them again and it doesn't cost that much). -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #22 February 8, 2006 QuoteThe only problem with orgies is you don't know who to thank on the way out The host and hostess. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #23 February 8, 2006 QuoteQuoteThe only problem with orgies is you don't know who to thank on the way out The host and hostess. Walt Or host and host in shrek's case. -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisamariewillbe 1 #24 February 8, 2006 QuoteOr host and host in shrek's case MUAUAHAHAHAA Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RhondaLea 3 #25 February 8, 2006 Sex is voluntary. Pleasing your partner doesn't mean doing something that makes you feel bad, especially when it will inevitably destroy your relationship because it made you feel bad. Fantasy has a place, but bringing it into real life is most often a very bad idea, unless both you and your partner have a very well-defined sense of who you are and what you can handle. The alt.polyamory faq has some good information, particularly the supplemental faq on how to fuck up. You might want to read that for an idea of what can go wrong. http://www.polyamory.org/If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
