JENNR8R 0 #1 May 7, 2006 It's my opinion that anyone over the age of two has "baggage." Apparently, there must be differing views of what the definition of "baggage" is. How would you define it?What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy ones? -- Monday. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
adventurechick 0 #2 May 7, 2006 Baggage- emotional ties he/she can't get over or get past.... like dating a guy who only talks about his ex all the time and always compares you to them.... that to me would be baggage. PMS #449 TPM #80 Muff Brother #3860 SCR #14705 Dirty Sanchez #233 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #3 May 7, 2006 Everyone has "baggage"... it's just how much "baggage" and if it runs their life that's an issue...Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LisaH 0 #4 May 7, 2006 QuoteEveryone has "baggage"... it's just how much "baggage" and if it runs their life that's an issue... The only baggage I have are suitcases Be yourself! MooOOooOoo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #5 May 7, 2006 QuoteQuoteEveryone has "baggage"... it's just how much "baggage" and if it runs their life that's an issue... The only baggage I have are suitcases but you still have some... I don't have any baggage worth speaking of myself either... I'm just a chickenshit... Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #6 May 7, 2006 QuoteIt's my opinion that anyone over the age of two has "baggage." Apparently, there must be differing views of what the definition of "baggage" is. How would you define it? I agree with you there. We all have baggage of some sort or another. For me "baggage" is anything that would prevent a person from having a healthy, intimate, loving relationship with another person. An example.... someone who cannot trust their SO due to their own personal history even though their SO gave them absolutely no indication they are untrustworthy.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gregzilla 0 #7 May 7, 2006 Yes, everyone has "Baggage". It's simply a question of degree. The pertinent issue is, are you attracted to someone because of the lack of apparent baggage or despite the baggage they have. "Just remember that when mortal men play superheroes, gravity is their kryptonite." Dudiest Skydiver # 3760 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 24 #8 May 7, 2006 I think the term has now become synomym with people on the dating scene with children.Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kbordson 8 #9 May 7, 2006 QuoteI think the term has now become synomym with people on the dating scene with children. It has... which is sad to refer to children as "baggage".... but I do understand the complication that they would add to the relationship. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #10 May 7, 2006 Yes, children can be a problem.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #11 May 7, 2006 QuoteQuoteI think the term has now become synomym with people on the dating scene with children. It has... which is sad to refer to children as "baggage".... but I do understand the complication that they would add to the relationship. I imagine its not as big a problem if both parties have children but yeah that's an example of "baggage" especially when they're under 22 and have three children each with a different man. Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
twibbles 0 #12 May 7, 2006 QuoteQuoteI think the term has now become synomym with people on the dating scene with children. It has... which is sad to refer to children as "baggage".... but I do understand the complication that they would add to the relationship. I always thought children can be more of a "present" then baggage.... Eugene "In the beginning the Universe was created. This has made a lot of people very angry and been widely regarded as a bad move." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JENNR8R 0 #13 May 7, 2006 QuoteI think the term has now become a synonym with people on the dating scene with children. Well, there you go... You just proved my point about "baggage" having different meanings. The person that I quoted has already responded on this thread about what it meant to him. He didn't mention children.What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy ones? -- Monday. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bloody_trauma 2 #14 May 8, 2006 wait... are we talking about... like... fun bags?Fly it like you stole it Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PRSKY71 0 #15 May 8, 2006 To me it has always meant having unresolved emotional "issues." Unfortunately, I have many of those! Character cannot be made except by a steady, long continued process. -- Phillips Brooks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #16 May 8, 2006 Generalization from a specific case to a larger similar group. Racism - "a (insert racial group) did something to me, so they are all going to do it." Sexism- "a (insert gender) did something to me, so they are all going to do it." Relationship baggage - "I had a really bad relationship, so I expect all of that sex to commit the same sins." The oddest thing about that is that a person of the same sex can be just as damaging, but it generates no baggage. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JENNR8R 0 #17 May 8, 2006 deepthoughts... What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy ones? -- Monday. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #18 May 8, 2006 QuoteIt's my opinion that anyone over the age of two has "baggage." Apparently, there must be differing views of what the definition of "baggage" is. How would you define it? The lawrocket dictionary for "baggage" defines it as "personal knowledge derived from participation." My thesaurus would list "experience, familiarity, knowledge, awareness" as synonyms. Baggage is a great thing. I'll put it this way - I didn't enter into a "successful relationship" with a woman until I was 31. Nobody here who is presently single (unless widowed) has ever had a "successful relationship" unless you define success as having learned something. I learned something from every relationship I've had. Some may have called it baggage. I called them learning events. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JENNR8R 0 #19 May 8, 2006 Nobody here who is presently single (unless widowed) has ever had a "successful relationship" unless you define success as having learned something. Quote I define a "successful relationship" as having two wonderful sons with a man who was my husband for 26 years and is now a friend. What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy ones? -- Monday. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bozo 0 #20 May 8, 2006 QuoteNobody here who is presently single (unless widowed) has ever had a "successful relationship" unless you define success as having learned something. Quote I have. And I brought tons of baggage to the relationship......of course I married a saint who offsets the fact that i'm an asshole. :o) bozo bozo Pain is fleeting. Glory lasts forever. Chicks dig scars. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lawrocket 3 #21 May 8, 2006 QuoteNobody here who is presently single (unless widowed) has ever had a "successful relationship" unless you define success as having learned something. Quote I define a "successful relationship" as having two wonderful sons with a man who was my husband for 26 years and is now a friend. That's why I specifically quoted "successful relationship." I tend to look at them the same way you do, although I'd like to remain married to my wife forever. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites JENNR8R 0 #22 May 8, 2006 I'd like to remain married to my wife forever. Quote That happily ever after scenario was what I was going for, too. However, I don't think his girlfriend would like it. What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy ones? -- Monday. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites happythoughts 0 #23 May 8, 2006 "Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it." True. If events occur, good or bad, there are often "warning signals". Signs that things are moving in a particular direction. You can learn those signals through personal experience or the experiences of others. However, baggage is the mis-application of that knowledge. I was divorced. I cannot ascribe all the negative aspects of my ex-wifes behavior to all other women. That is baggage. If I see a behavior, or the signs of future behavior, that is using past knowledge in that new individual case. I would encourage people to not repeat mistakes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpingbean001 0 #24 May 8, 2006 Here! Here! I agree. And I absolutely HATE people who use absolutes. All men are like this.... ALL women think this way....Bullshoit!!! Deal with your issue and look at the human race again with open eyes!! I have had my share of crap, but if I chose to sit back and whimper and think all people are the same, then I would have robbed myself and others of great life experiences. I firmly believe in learning from your history, like you said misapplication of that lesson can keep you trapped or missing out on something good! I believe in introspection and 'red flags' but not in labeling or discreditting without proof or more info to back up that thought, etc. You know what I mean! I love when people have not let bad experiences imprison them! That is so cool!Let's have fun! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites downwardspiral 0 #25 May 8, 2006 QuoteQuoteI think the term has now become a synonym with people on the dating scene with children. Well, there you go... You just proved my point about "baggage" having different meanings. The person that I quoted has already responded on this thread about what it meant to him. He didn't mention children. Yeah I'm in a bit of a quandry concerning children and single mothers. I personally don't want to have children. Yet the likelyhood of that happening seems very small. There is someone I am interested in pursuing a relationship with. She's smart, beautiful, skydives, and doesn't want children! Unfortunately, she won't come back to California. Perhaps one day if the stars allow it.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0 Go To Topic Listing
bozo 0 #20 May 8, 2006 QuoteNobody here who is presently single (unless widowed) has ever had a "successful relationship" unless you define success as having learned something. Quote I have. And I brought tons of baggage to the relationship......of course I married a saint who offsets the fact that i'm an asshole. :o) bozo bozo Pain is fleeting. Glory lasts forever. Chicks dig scars. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lawrocket 3 #21 May 8, 2006 QuoteNobody here who is presently single (unless widowed) has ever had a "successful relationship" unless you define success as having learned something. Quote I define a "successful relationship" as having two wonderful sons with a man who was my husband for 26 years and is now a friend. That's why I specifically quoted "successful relationship." I tend to look at them the same way you do, although I'd like to remain married to my wife forever. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites JENNR8R 0 #22 May 8, 2006 I'd like to remain married to my wife forever. Quote That happily ever after scenario was what I was going for, too. However, I don't think his girlfriend would like it. What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy ones? -- Monday. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites happythoughts 0 #23 May 8, 2006 "Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it." True. If events occur, good or bad, there are often "warning signals". Signs that things are moving in a particular direction. You can learn those signals through personal experience or the experiences of others. However, baggage is the mis-application of that knowledge. I was divorced. I cannot ascribe all the negative aspects of my ex-wifes behavior to all other women. That is baggage. If I see a behavior, or the signs of future behavior, that is using past knowledge in that new individual case. I would encourage people to not repeat mistakes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpingbean001 0 #24 May 8, 2006 Here! Here! I agree. And I absolutely HATE people who use absolutes. All men are like this.... ALL women think this way....Bullshoit!!! Deal with your issue and look at the human race again with open eyes!! I have had my share of crap, but if I chose to sit back and whimper and think all people are the same, then I would have robbed myself and others of great life experiences. I firmly believe in learning from your history, like you said misapplication of that lesson can keep you trapped or missing out on something good! I believe in introspection and 'red flags' but not in labeling or discreditting without proof or more info to back up that thought, etc. You know what I mean! I love when people have not let bad experiences imprison them! That is so cool!Let's have fun! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites downwardspiral 0 #25 May 8, 2006 QuoteQuoteI think the term has now become a synonym with people on the dating scene with children. Well, there you go... You just proved my point about "baggage" having different meanings. The person that I quoted has already responded on this thread about what it meant to him. He didn't mention children. Yeah I'm in a bit of a quandry concerning children and single mothers. I personally don't want to have children. Yet the likelyhood of that happening seems very small. There is someone I am interested in pursuing a relationship with. She's smart, beautiful, skydives, and doesn't want children! Unfortunately, she won't come back to California. Perhaps one day if the stars allow it.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0 Go To Topic Listing
lawrocket 3 #21 May 8, 2006 QuoteNobody here who is presently single (unless widowed) has ever had a "successful relationship" unless you define success as having learned something. Quote I define a "successful relationship" as having two wonderful sons with a man who was my husband for 26 years and is now a friend. That's why I specifically quoted "successful relationship." I tend to look at them the same way you do, although I'd like to remain married to my wife forever. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites JENNR8R 0 #22 May 8, 2006 I'd like to remain married to my wife forever. Quote That happily ever after scenario was what I was going for, too. However, I don't think his girlfriend would like it. What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy ones? -- Monday. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites happythoughts 0 #23 May 8, 2006 "Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it." True. If events occur, good or bad, there are often "warning signals". Signs that things are moving in a particular direction. You can learn those signals through personal experience or the experiences of others. However, baggage is the mis-application of that knowledge. I was divorced. I cannot ascribe all the negative aspects of my ex-wifes behavior to all other women. That is baggage. If I see a behavior, or the signs of future behavior, that is using past knowledge in that new individual case. I would encourage people to not repeat mistakes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpingbean001 0 #24 May 8, 2006 Here! Here! I agree. And I absolutely HATE people who use absolutes. All men are like this.... ALL women think this way....Bullshoit!!! Deal with your issue and look at the human race again with open eyes!! I have had my share of crap, but if I chose to sit back and whimper and think all people are the same, then I would have robbed myself and others of great life experiences. I firmly believe in learning from your history, like you said misapplication of that lesson can keep you trapped or missing out on something good! I believe in introspection and 'red flags' but not in labeling or discreditting without proof or more info to back up that thought, etc. You know what I mean! I love when people have not let bad experiences imprison them! That is so cool!Let's have fun! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites downwardspiral 0 #25 May 8, 2006 QuoteQuoteI think the term has now become a synonym with people on the dating scene with children. Well, there you go... You just proved my point about "baggage" having different meanings. The person that I quoted has already responded on this thread about what it meant to him. He didn't mention children. Yeah I'm in a bit of a quandry concerning children and single mothers. I personally don't want to have children. Yet the likelyhood of that happening seems very small. There is someone I am interested in pursuing a relationship with. She's smart, beautiful, skydives, and doesn't want children! Unfortunately, she won't come back to California. Perhaps one day if the stars allow it.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0 Go To Topic Listing
JENNR8R 0 #22 May 8, 2006 I'd like to remain married to my wife forever. Quote That happily ever after scenario was what I was going for, too. However, I don't think his girlfriend would like it. What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy ones? -- Monday. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites happythoughts 0 #23 May 8, 2006 "Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it." True. If events occur, good or bad, there are often "warning signals". Signs that things are moving in a particular direction. You can learn those signals through personal experience or the experiences of others. However, baggage is the mis-application of that knowledge. I was divorced. I cannot ascribe all the negative aspects of my ex-wifes behavior to all other women. That is baggage. If I see a behavior, or the signs of future behavior, that is using past knowledge in that new individual case. I would encourage people to not repeat mistakes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpingbean001 0 #24 May 8, 2006 Here! Here! I agree. And I absolutely HATE people who use absolutes. All men are like this.... ALL women think this way....Bullshoit!!! Deal with your issue and look at the human race again with open eyes!! I have had my share of crap, but if I chose to sit back and whimper and think all people are the same, then I would have robbed myself and others of great life experiences. I firmly believe in learning from your history, like you said misapplication of that lesson can keep you trapped or missing out on something good! I believe in introspection and 'red flags' but not in labeling or discreditting without proof or more info to back up that thought, etc. You know what I mean! I love when people have not let bad experiences imprison them! That is so cool!Let's have fun! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites downwardspiral 0 #25 May 8, 2006 QuoteQuoteI think the term has now become a synonym with people on the dating scene with children. Well, there you go... You just proved my point about "baggage" having different meanings. The person that I quoted has already responded on this thread about what it meant to him. He didn't mention children. Yeah I'm in a bit of a quandry concerning children and single mothers. I personally don't want to have children. Yet the likelyhood of that happening seems very small. There is someone I am interested in pursuing a relationship with. She's smart, beautiful, skydives, and doesn't want children! Unfortunately, she won't come back to California. Perhaps one day if the stars allow it.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
happythoughts 0 #23 May 8, 2006 "Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it." True. If events occur, good or bad, there are often "warning signals". Signs that things are moving in a particular direction. You can learn those signals through personal experience or the experiences of others. However, baggage is the mis-application of that knowledge. I was divorced. I cannot ascribe all the negative aspects of my ex-wifes behavior to all other women. That is baggage. If I see a behavior, or the signs of future behavior, that is using past knowledge in that new individual case. I would encourage people to not repeat mistakes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpingbean001 0 #24 May 8, 2006 Here! Here! I agree. And I absolutely HATE people who use absolutes. All men are like this.... ALL women think this way....Bullshoit!!! Deal with your issue and look at the human race again with open eyes!! I have had my share of crap, but if I chose to sit back and whimper and think all people are the same, then I would have robbed myself and others of great life experiences. I firmly believe in learning from your history, like you said misapplication of that lesson can keep you trapped or missing out on something good! I believe in introspection and 'red flags' but not in labeling or discreditting without proof or more info to back up that thought, etc. You know what I mean! I love when people have not let bad experiences imprison them! That is so cool!Let's have fun! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #25 May 8, 2006 QuoteQuoteI think the term has now become a synonym with people on the dating scene with children. Well, there you go... You just proved my point about "baggage" having different meanings. The person that I quoted has already responded on this thread about what it meant to him. He didn't mention children. Yeah I'm in a bit of a quandry concerning children and single mothers. I personally don't want to have children. Yet the likelyhood of that happening seems very small. There is someone I am interested in pursuing a relationship with. She's smart, beautiful, skydives, and doesn't want children! Unfortunately, she won't come back to California. Perhaps one day if the stars allow it.www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
