Nataly 38 #1 August 4, 2009 That "tap" thread made me think of something that was sent to me via messenger at work today... I asked my counterpart in another division whether he could help me by running a report. He said sure, no problem. I gushed and said thanks SO MUCH (I don't know how to do the report and I'm completely swamped at the moment) and put a smiley at the end.. He responded with: "I like girls who are happy with small things!" And I'm like.. WHAT??!! Did he just write something implying what I thought he did??! I didn't know what to say!! I just typed: "Ha ha ha. Dude, I'm NOT going to comment on that." Wish I'd thought of something funnier, but it really took me off guard! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
k-dubjumps 0 #2 August 4, 2009 You could have said something like "apparently it wasn't as big as I thought it was" Adrenaline is my crack DPH #3 D.S. #16 FAG #12 Muff Brother #4406 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #3 August 4, 2009 Quote You could have said something like "apparently it wasn't as big as I thought it was" Yep - could have done.. In the moment it didn't occur to me, but then I didn't want to encourage him either.. (I really don't fancy him.) Maybe I'm a bit old-fashioned in this respect, but I just think you should be professional at work. I used to be in the military and enjoyed a dirty joke as much as the next person, but somehow it seems inappropriate in an office.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #4 August 4, 2009 I'd lock the message/text and forward it to my work email address. Document, document, document. You never know...Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #5 August 4, 2009 Quote I'd lock the message/text and forward it to my work email address. Document, document, document. You never know... I don't think it was that bad.. Just came as such a surprise. I only rarely flirt, but *never* at work. Everyone just sees me as a boring accountant, and that's the way I like it! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fossg 0 #6 August 4, 2009 Lucky has a good point Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Misternatural 0 #7 August 4, 2009 you should have forwarded your pack thread and said "I have enough friends, get in line buddy" sorry I kid, I kid...Beware of the collateralizing and monetization of your desires. D S #3.1415 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #8 August 4, 2009 Quote Lucky has a good point Well, I think it should be ok, because when I read it I said out loud (without thinking) "oh my god!!!", which prompted my work colleagues to come see what I was looking at.. So I'm guessing he'll get teased about it and not try that again!!"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #9 August 4, 2009 Quote you should have forwarded your pack thread and said "I have enough friends, get in line buddy" sorry I kid, I kid... Naughty!! *Totally* inappropriate, but funny to think about!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Misternatural 0 #10 August 4, 2009 yeah I know what you mean I try to keep this place and my other transactions separate. But sometimes I just can't take the bullcrap professionalism all the time, it is such a selling out of who we really are i think.....and the skydiver leaks out and I say stuff like "Well we either do the work now or pay later...it's going to take a whole day-when I could be watching free internet porn instead" ......No freekin sense of humor at all!!Beware of the collateralizing and monetization of your desires. D S #3.1415 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #11 August 4, 2009 QuoteLucky has a good point Thanks. The reason I said this is because #1, this is what we train other court employees at work and B) my Dad's wife was the victim of a serial sexual harasser and this is how things started. Innocuous comments here and there, leading up to an assault when no one else was around. Just keep that kinda stuff in mind, that's all.Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slcooper 0 #12 August 4, 2009 Quote Quote You could have said something like "apparently it wasn't as big as I thought it was" Yep - could have done.. In the moment it didn't occur to me, but then I didn't want to encourage him either.. (I really don't fancy him.) Maybe I'm a bit old-fashioned in this respect, but I just think you should be professional at work. I used to be in the military and enjoyed a dirty joke as much as the next person, but somehow it seems inappropriate in an office.. I completely understand where you are coming from, I'm an accountant too, and believe me things are a bit more conservative here in the US. I have to hold my tongue every day! Maybe we should started a thread for things you want to say at work and can't! For example, last week my boss replies to an email from a guy named Bobby and called him Booby by mistake, I didn't say a word but was DYING laughing on the inside. Why would anyone jump out of a perfectly good airplane? Cause the door was open! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #13 August 4, 2009 Quote Quote Quote You could have said something like "apparently it wasn't as big as I thought it was" Yep - could have done.. In the moment it didn't occur to me, but then I didn't want to encourage him either.. (I really don't fancy him.) Maybe I'm a bit old-fashioned in this respect, but I just think you should be professional at work. I used to be in the military and enjoyed a dirty joke as much as the next person, but somehow it seems inappropriate in an office.. I completely understand where you are coming from, I'm an accountant too, and believe me things are a bit more conservative here in the US. I have to hold my tongue every day! Maybe we should started a thread for things you want to say at work and can't! For example, last week my boss replies to an email from a guy named Bobby and called him Booby by mistake, I didn't say a word but was DYING laughing on the inside. *Excellent*!! I work for L'Oreal, and when we launched (yet another) waterproof mascara, I almost peed myself when I heard our divisional manager boast that now we could all enjoy water-sports without fear of runny mascara!!! It literally *hurt* not to laugh out loud!! But I didn't. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
anthonyfellows 0 #14 August 4, 2009 Quote He responded with: "I like girls who are happy with small things!" Maybe you are the one with the dirty mind. He could have just been innocently flirting with you. How do you know that he didn't mean "I like girls who appreciate the little things I do for them" ?Serious relationships turn into work after a few weeks and I already got a fucking job :) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ H.A.F. = Hard As Fuck ... Goddamn Amateurs Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slcooper 0 #15 August 4, 2009 Quote Quote Quote Quote You could have said something like "apparently it wasn't as big as I thought it was" Yep - could have done.. In the moment it didn't occur to me, but then I didn't want to encourage him either.. (I really don't fancy him.) Maybe I'm a bit old-fashioned in this respect, but I just think you should be professional at work. I used to be in the military and enjoyed a dirty joke as much as the next person, but somehow it seems inappropriate in an office.. I completely understand where you are coming from, I'm an accountant too, and believe me things are a bit more conservative here in the US. I have to hold my tongue every day! Maybe we should started a thread for things you want to say at work and can't! For example, last week my boss replies to an email from a guy named Bobby and called him Booby by mistake, I didn't say a word but was DYING laughing on the inside. *Excellent*!! I work for L'Oreal, and when we launched (yet another) waterproof mascara, I almost peed myself when I heard our divisional manager boast that now we could all enjoy water-sports without fear of runny mascara!!! It literally *hurt* not to laugh out loud!! But I didn't. I would have lost it on that one!!!! I work for Cameron, we are always getting injury reports (sent company wide). The guys who write them obviously have a dirty mind cause they are always written with a double meaning when possible. I will copy and paste a couple tomorrow.Why would anyone jump out of a perfectly good airplane? Cause the door was open! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thrillstalker 0 #16 August 4, 2009 Quote Quote Lucky has a good point Thanks. The reason I said this is because #1, this is what we train other court employees at work and B) my Dad's wife was the victim of a serial sexual harasser and this is how things started. Innocuous comments here and there, leading up to an assault when no one else was around. Just keep that kinda stuff in mind, that's all. plus with the economy, never know when some job security might be needed."Never grow a wishbone, where your backbone ought to be." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cloudseeker2001 0 #17 August 4, 2009 Quote Quote He responded with: "I like girls who are happy with small things!" Maybe you are the one with the dirty mind. He could have just been innocently flirting with you. How do you know that he didn't mean "I like girls who appreciate the little things I do for them" ? I agree.....what he said can go either way, but I know a few people at work that say things like that all the time and it is not ment in a "dirty" context. You could be very mistaken. And where I work, most of these people say things that could have all kinds of meanings but they really do not realize it. Men included. "Some call it heavenly in it's brilliance, others mean and rueful of the western dream" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SivaGanesha 2 #18 August 4, 2009 Quote That "tap" thread made me think of something that was sent to me via messenger at work today... I asked my counterpart in another division whether he could help me by running a report. He said sure, no problem. I gushed and said thanks SO MUCH (I don't know how to do the report and I'm completely swamped at the moment) and put a smiley at the end.. He responded with: "I like girls who are happy with small things!" And I'm like.. WHAT??!! Did he just write something implying what I thought he did??! I didn't know what to say!! I just typed: "Ha ha ha. Dude, I'm NOT going to comment on that." Wish I'd thought of something funnier, but it really took me off guard! It sounds like in your initial message you thanked him overly profusely for something that was, in fact, a small thing from a professional point of view. I'm sure there was some confusion as to your intent on his side as well. I think your followup should have cleared the air that nothing beyond a professional thank-you was implied or intended. "It's hard to have fun at 4-way unless your whole team gets down to the ground safely to do it again!"--Northern California Skydiving League re USPA Safety Day, March 8, 2014 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thedude325 0 #19 August 4, 2009 Quote That "tap" thread made me think of something that was sent to me via messenger at work today... I asked my counterpart in another division whether he could help me by running a report. He said sure, no problem. I gushed and said thanks SO MUCH (I don't know how to do the report and I'm completely swamped at the moment) and put a smiley at the end.. He responded with: "I like girls who are happy with small things!" And I'm like.. WHAT??!! Did he just write something implying what I thought he did??! I didn't know what to say!! I just typed: "Ha ha ha. Dude, I'm NOT going to comment on that." Wish I'd thought of something funnier, but it really took me off guard! You would be abhorred with our antics on sexual harassment Sundays at my workplace. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #20 August 4, 2009 Quote Quote Quote He responded with: "I like girls who are happy with small things!" Maybe you are the one with the dirty mind. He could have just been innocently flirting with you. How do you know that he didn't mean "I like girls who appreciate the little things I do for them" ? I agree.....what he said can go either way, but I know a few people at work that say things like that all the time and it is not ment in a "dirty" context. You could be very mistaken. And where I work, most of these people say things that could have all kinds of meanings but they really do not realize it. Men included. OMG - I never even thought of that!! He does have a bit of a reputation, though.. Still, I cringe to think how embarrassing that could have been if I'd responded differently (for instance by telling him off) & it turned out that I had simply misunderstood him Oh dear!!"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davjohns 1 #21 August 4, 2009 I don't know the personalities involved or the workplace atmosphere. But when I first read your post, my thought was that he appreciated a woman who showed gratitude for small favors. I didn't see the sexual implication until you pointed it out.I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nutz 0 #22 August 4, 2009 Where will this end. I don't know what to say, it makes me kind of angry that you are upset by this. "Don't! Get! Eliminated!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #23 August 4, 2009 Whoa!!! Maybe UK is more lose on the sexual harassment thing - in US, the guy would get fired for that!!! O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 35 #24 August 4, 2009 If you just look at the sentence, he really didn't say anything bad. It's just our dirty minds who take it that way. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #25 August 4, 2009 Quote If you just look at the sentence, he really didn't say anything bad. It's just our my dirty minds who take it that way. there, fixed it for you! “Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
