skydude2000 3 #26 July 29, 2010 I've had the same doctor my whole life, so maybe it's a bit different. We have small talk about family & stuff whenever I see him. I usually get a friendly handshake every time I go. When I competed in the Triathlon for Sight last year, I had no idea, but he was there, and gave me a big hug after I crossed the finish line. I didn't find that weird at all, but maybe it depends on the situation. YMMVPULL!! or DIE!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The_Don 0 #27 July 29, 2010 Quote Good Lord woman, all that with ONE hand? That is short! check out a few of her other posts! I am NOT being loud. I'm being enthusiastic! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blacklabjumper 0 #28 July 29, 2010 +1 I was thinking the same thing. I thought bhey she is getting better at keeping it short but since she only used one hand that post only counts as a half. LOLRodriguez Brother #1626 Dudiest Skydiver #1962 DPH #-2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiverbry 0 #30 July 29, 2010 If they're handing out the drugs hell they can touch me anywhereBry -------------------------------------------------- Growing old is mandatory.Growing up is optional!! D.S.#13(Dudeist Skdiver) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sdctlc 0 #31 July 29, 2010 If "you" ask it is creepy for you,maybe not someone else but it is obviously that way for you... Want a hug? Scott C "He who Hesitates Shall Inherit the Earth!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #32 July 29, 2010 Quote If "you" ask it is creepy for you,maybe not someone else but it is obviously that way for you... Want a hug? Scott C Hell, she didn't seem to care much for my hug after her famous quote from last year's St Patrick's boogie. "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyflower_bloom 0 #33 July 29, 2010 Quote Quote Good Lord woman, all that with ONE hand? That is short! check out a few of her other posts! THANK YOU Don (and blacklabjumper) lol. i do actually make an effort (sometimes ) and as a single mama, you get used to doing all sortsa stuff with one hand, or even none. you can use all sorts of appendages to accomplish your goals (yes, that sounded wrong) i just mentioned it to apologize for lack of caps etc. 'cause i feel stupid when i don't use caps.. but then again i'm not using them now and have two whole hands at my disposal, so who knows.. getting into bad habits! and normiss, you know you still lurve me... i am getting better! (i started a blog... teehee... maybe that explains it)"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." Gandhi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyflower_bloom 0 #34 July 29, 2010 Quote If they're handing out the drugs hell they can touch me anywhereBry Haha I am with Bry on that one.. good call "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." Gandhi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SivaGanesha 2 #35 July 29, 2010 QuoteNow, I'm as huggy as the next person with my friends and family, but my doctor doing this creeps me out a little... What it seems to me that you are saying is that you don't trust your doctor as much as you trust your friends and family. I think that's what you need to look at--I think the hugs thing is, if you'll pardon my pun, just a symptom of the underlying problem. I think it's a problem if you don't trust your doctor because there is a great deal at stake with your doctor--in some ways more than even with friends and family. It would be one thing if you weren't a huggy person and didn't really like anyone hugging you. But that's not what you're saying--you're saying you generally like hugs but something about this guy hugging you is creeping you out. To me that says loud and clear that you don't trust this guy--and your intuitions in that regard may be quite valid, but if he's not someone you feel you can trust--why are you trusting him with your medical care?"It's hard to have fun at 4-way unless your whole team gets down to the ground safely to do it again!"--Northern California Skydiving League re USPA Safety Day, March 8, 2014 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 3 #36 July 29, 2010 Quote If they're handing out the drugs hell they can touch me anywhereBry Really hard up for that herpes medicine arent ya?"I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyflower_bloom 0 #37 July 29, 2010 Quote Quote If they're handing out the drugs hell they can touch me anywhereBry Really hard up for that herpes medicine arent ya? Oh, take my word for it, Bry gets them *good* drugs.. remember that one cuppa coffee?? Do ya do ya? Uhhh yeah neither do I.. hehe.. I'll take that as a good sign, whatever the hell ya put in there did its job "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." Gandhi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 35 #38 July 29, 2010 Quote What it seems to me that you are saying is that you don't trust your doctor as much as you trust your friends and family. I think that's what you need to look at--I think the hugs thing is, if you'll pardon my pun, just a symptom of the underlying problem. That's incorrect. I trust him, I've just never had a doctor hug me like that after normal office visits. It wasn't like I needed consoling or anything. It's the way he ends every visit, whether he just met me to get all my information and decide which path to go down, or after he gave me steriod injections. With every other doctor I've ever had, there was a certain level of professionalism involved. A shake of the hand or pat on the shoulder, yes, a hug, no. To answer another question, he's about 10 years younger than I am. I know this because he talks about himself and tells me about his life at every visit. I think that's weird too! She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Misternatural 0 #39 July 29, 2010 In a related story, In my 20's I went for a checkup and the Dr. who walked in was a stunning hot blond woman. Ok I am sitting there wearing that sheer butt crack smock they give you. Talk about power differential- I started babbling like a fool and I must have been obviously smitten...because she kept looking down there to see if i was getting a boner. Awkward Beware of the collateralizing and monetization of your desires. D S #3.1415 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jimmytavino 16 #40 July 29, 2010 it sure DOES sound weird.... i mean the part where he talks about Himself,,, instead of about You... my Doc. is a real good guy... a few years older than me, and i've been going to him for 30 years now... I learned early that my willingness to extend my hand in greeting, when he finallybasically he's dealing with all sorts of sick people who may or may not have just rubbed their runny noses on the back of their hand,,, or somethin', and DUH!!!! maybe he's just "germ-adverse".. makes sense... so the last few years. i make sure that i have a smile or a grin, for him,, regardless of how lousey i may feel at that moment, and he responds in kind.. Now IF HE were to throw a HUG on me,,, it could lead me to think that my feeling that he's a bit MORE than wishy-washy,, is correct..... so far so good.. NOW in your situation skymama, since he's a specialist whom you've only just begun to visit, for PROFESSIONAL reasons... he should treat your neck and shoulder and arm,,, only.... BUTit HAS to be tough to resist offering a hUg (),,, to a sweetheart such as yourself,...but there IS a time and a place,,, for everything.. here's hoping that his DOCTORING skills are sufficient to help you find relief, from pain and discomfort ..jimmytavino rochester ny Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kasch 0 #41 July 29, 2010 Quote Good Lord woman, all that with ONE hand? the lady has talented hands!Sex with sith is like sex with a stripper. A lot of flashing lights and waving of glowing sabers, but in the end you end up with something dark and wrinkely. DPH# "-13" TSK# "-13" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kasch 0 #42 July 29, 2010 Quote To answer another question, he's about 10 years younger than I am. I know this because he talks about himself and tells me about his life at every visit. I think that's weird too! He either has a crush on you or wants you to adopt him. Sex with sith is like sex with a stripper. A lot of flashing lights and waving of glowing sabers, but in the end you end up with something dark and wrinkely. DPH# "-13" TSK# "-13" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Southern_Man 0 #43 July 29, 2010 QuoteNo I would not be OK with that even if it was a female Dr. thats is way creepy to me. Matbe Brandon (aka wildcard) can give us his professional opinion. But definitely creepy. My .02 Brandon hugging you is creepy whether he is your doctor or not."What if there were no hypothetical questions?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildcard451 0 #44 July 29, 2010 QuoteQuoteNo I would not be OK with that even if it was a female Dr. thats is way creepy to me. Matbe Brandon (aka wildcard) can give us his professional opinion. But definitely creepy. My .02 Brandon hugging you is creepy whether he is your doctor or not. I wondered why you jumped when I tickled your butt. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpwally 0 #45 July 29, 2010 Yeah,,,i wonder what the other hand was doing,,, smile, be nice, enjoy life FB # - 1083 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sickandtwisted 0 #46 July 29, 2010 Skymama, Can we play Doctor? Skymama stalker #69!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pyrodude 0 #47 July 29, 2010 Something just doesn't sound right about this. Maybe his motives are pure, but that kind of interaction with a patient under the circumstances you describe sounds inappropriate. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyflower_bloom 0 #48 July 29, 2010 Quote Quote Good Lord woman, all that with ONE hand? the lady has talented hands! "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." Gandhi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #49 July 29, 2010 Normally our instincts are right.. If it feels creepy to you, it's probably because he's being creepy! He may not realise he has crossed the line, but chances are he's pushing his luck.. Creepy. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SivaGanesha 2 #50 July 29, 2010 QuoteI trust him... Then talk about it directly with him. If you trust him then there is no reason to believe that this is anything more than a genuine misunderstanding...in which case I think it's only fair to discuss this with him face to face. If he's 10 years younger than you then he is fairly young as doctors go...and may be trying to establish his own style of treating people. In general I've noticed that people who are younger are more 'huggy' than older generations...even when the older folks were younger. Sometimes 'professionalism' translates into 'uptightness' (which IMHO is sometimes a cause of physical pain BTW) making it difficult to communicate the underlying human cause of medical, etc, problems. The fact that older doctors do things differently doesn't necessarily mean the older doctors are right. Sometimes younger folks have good ideas about how to do things. But if it makes you uncomfortable he should be willing to listen to you and change his behavior...direct communication should always be your first step and nothing you've said suggests otherwise in this case. Some of the responses you've received on here seem less than helpful and, even if they were intended tongue in cheek, don't take into account that this may be just a younger doctor trying to make the doctor-patient relationship a little less stiff."It's hard to have fun at 4-way unless your whole team gets down to the ground safely to do it again!"--Northern California Skydiving League re USPA Safety Day, March 8, 2014 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
