I guess it all boils down to luck. I married the perfect woman nearly 30 years ago. We only knew each other about 5 months before we got married. We have had our ups and downs over the years. I don't do anything special to keep it going. It is a lot of give and take on both our parts. I know I am not the easiest person to live with and neither is she. But we have never had an issue we couldn't overcome. Going into the relationship, we did not have a firm set rules or standards, other than be faithful and to be there for the other person when they need you. I can honestly say, I am not the same person I was when I married her, and she isn't either... we have both grown and changed over the years. I guess the trick is adapting to your partners changes and hoping that she adapts to yours. I hope you didn't take my comment as a poke at you personally. I have been reading these threads for a while and this just looked like one that you would have written. I do wish you the best. tagline..... what's a tagline?