Rainbo 0 #1 April 13, 2004 I guess I am destined to never really know or even find the person who can help me figure it out. There were times that I thought I had found the right formula for things to work, but again I was wrong. The one thing I have figured out is that what can make some people feel that they are on top of the world can basically destroy another persons world. This can be true even if that was not the intent. Perhaps that is just the way the whole balance thing works out. I guess it's time for me to look for my balance in places other than where I thought it would be found. I hope that one day I will find in me the ability to look past my own precieved loss and hope the best for those that I have truely cared about, but I do not think it will come easily. Guess I will just not bother wishing for things that are not to be...roaming the wilds isn't all that bad of life, it's just not complete.Rainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #2 April 13, 2004 QuoteThe one thing I have figured out is that what can make some people feel that they are on top of the world can basically destroy another persons world. This can be true even if that was not the intent. Sounds to me like you know exactly what love is. I think you've said it better than I've ever heard it put. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JoeyRamone 0 #3 April 13, 2004 All in time Rainbow....... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lizzieb 0 #4 April 13, 2004 love is a funny thing... you are placing your heart in somebody's hand...and unfortunately that can give them the ability to crush it at any time...it's a scary thing... but also a wonderful thing...to be able to trust that much Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paige 0 #5 April 13, 2004 To love is to be unselfish. Puttin others needs before your own. Communicating, being happy, never feeling like its a chore to be around this person. They should pick you up and not bring you down. Love is only what you make of it and its only as good as the effort you put into it. When you find someone who loves you for you, nothing else will matter. Your flaws and little quirks are cute to them and they embrace you, support you, and encourage you to do things that make you happy and successful in life. What do I know? Absolutely nothing. I haven't scored a decent guy in so long. I'm not really looking but sometimes that's when the best opportunities come along. Keep you eyes and heart open to possibilities. That will mean heartache but it will also eventually lead you to love of another or something else that will make your life better for having it in it.Tunnel Pink Mafia Delegate www.TunnelPinkMafia.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chrisky 0 #6 April 13, 2004 I hear you... This is when i love the moment i step out in the wind the most, and these beautiful days at the dropzone, chilling away... As it soothes this feeling and brings new hope to the words: "Everything will be fine.."The mind is like a parachute - it only works once it's open. From the edge you just see more. ... Not every Swooper hooks & not every Hooker swoops ... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 1 #7 April 13, 2004 True love comes from the inside...when you can love and accept yourself for who you really are...then that is where it all begins....then finding someone who themselves feel the same way....and dont need the constant re-assurance of others to tell them this. You will not find love and happieness from anyone but yourself. Once that is accomplished, and you dont allow yourself to alter that in anyway...then life is love no matter who you are with.She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #8 April 13, 2004 QuoteI hope that one day I will find in me the ability to look past my own precieved loss and hope the best for those that I have truely cared about, but I do not think it will come easily. No, it won't. But you're an awesome guy rainbo. In time things will all make sense. Anytime you need a hug, i'm here for you. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #9 April 13, 2004 Quotewhat's love all about? Very few know. QuoteI guess I am destined to never really know or even find the person who can help me figure it out. Most people don't either. It seems that most people settle. Most people grasp at something for fear of being alone. Most people confuse love and lust. Most people cannot be honest enough for love. Most people aren't happy enough with themselves to be in love. I'm not saying that I'm perfect or that I don't do anything in the list mentioned above, but it's just what I've observed. We all have our own thoughts on love. Nothing is right or wrong, but it seems to work best when couples have similar ideas on love. To me love means that your life with that person comes first. It doesn't mean that you can't do anything without them, it means that when you do something without them, you realize how much cooler it would be with them. It doesn't mean that you try to win them over with gifts all the time, but it does mean that you think of them often enough to pick up laundry detergent while you're at the store because you know they're out. It means that once that stupid giddiness stage (that I hate) is over, you still want to hang out with them often. Love can also suck, though. We all know couples who really loved each other, but they just would never work as a couple. Love also means you have to compromise, and that sucks, too. I know nothing, though. I avoided relationships for 22 years. They seem to do more harm than good. People stress about them way too much. I never saw much good for wasting away my high school and college years with a boyfriend. Maybe I missed out, but it's nice looking back on those years and knowing they were pain/stress free. In my opinion, the population would be happier as a whole if they stayed single longer. When you figure out what love's all about, fill everyone else in!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tigra 0 #10 April 13, 2004 Rainbo, I hear ya and you know where you can find a few shoulders to lean on, etc. You know how we feel! maura Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SarahC07 0 #11 April 13, 2004 Quoteyou are placing your heart in somebody's hand...and unfortunately that can give them the ability to crush it at any time...it's a scary thing... but also a wonderful thing...to be able to trust that much Heh, nicely said. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lovelife22 0 #12 April 13, 2004 QuoteTo love is to be unselfish. Puttin others needs before your own. Communicating, being happy, never feeling like its a chore to be around this person. They should pick you up and not bring you down. Absolutely well said!!!! Love is UNCONDIONAL! Being able to let go of past hurts, baggage, and willing to give yourself fully to someone who gives back without reproach...it IS out there. Patience, time, going through heartache, will all bring you closer to your "True companion". Sometimes it takes a million heartbreaks to get you to that ONE amazing person. But, I beleive it will be ALL worth it in the end. Be yourself...love yourself...and that real amazing powerful love will come. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SarahC07 0 #13 April 13, 2004 Quote***I avoided relationships for 22 years. They seem to do more harm than good. People stress about them way too much. I never saw much good for wasting away my high school and college years with a boyfriend. Maybe I missed out, but it's nice looking back on those years and knowing they were pain/stress free. Okay, so i've only avoided relationships for 18 years but.. I think along the same lines as you. During the sadder times in my life, I begin to wonder if avoiding relationships was (and is) worth it. Maybe one day I will understand... and maybe I won't... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites eeneR 1 #14 April 13, 2004 QuoteBeing able to let go of past hurts, baggage, and willing to give yourself fully to someone who gives back without reproach The problem is most people dont deal with these things, they just run ahead and drop them. Only to have them slowly manifest in the minds and in there souls, causing them become heavier and heavier, and have major self issues.... Taking the time and allowing your self to morn is a good thing. Not doing that just makes matters worse in the long run, i know cause i tried that once, and i'm still recovering from the damage. Kevin, you know that I know that you know that I know....She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites sunshine 2 #15 April 13, 2004 QuoteOkay, so i've only avoided relationships for 18 years but.. I think along the same lines as you. During the sadder times in my life, I begin to wonder if avoiding relationships was (and is) worth it. Maybe one day I will understand... and maybe I won't... You do whats right for you. Everyone is different. I think to myself that i should not have dated some of the guys i did, but then i realize everything i've done up until this point has made me who i am today. And you know what? I like who i am. You can't dwell on the past, all you can do is learn from it. Even the relationships that have gone bad, had some fun times and good memories. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #16 April 13, 2004 QuoteDuring the sadder times in my life, I begin to wonder if avoiding relationships was (and is) worth it. Maybe one day I will understand... and maybe I won't... I'm actually the oposite. During the sadder times in my life, I was glad that no one was there. I don't like to burden people with my problems. I also didn't want to become accustomed to "leaning on" someone as a way to make myself feel better. I've been through enough crap to know that I definitely do not need a special someone to ever make me feel better. I can do it all by myself. However, during some of the happier times I've had, I thought that it would've been cool to have a special someone to share it with. Sure, I shared these moments with my friends, but it's different sharing a moment with someone who is not just a friend but is your partner as well.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Rainbo 0 #17 April 13, 2004 This is so true. I have lost before but in the process gained. My biggest gain in life came from a failed relationship, that being my two beautiful children. They can teach a lesson, if yoou want to unbderstand unconditional love yoou need only to look into the eyes of your children. From that perspective I am a very lucky person. I do not think that you can find that looking into the eyes of another adult, maybe someone will prove me wrong. But at this time I do feel a loss. I know in time that will pass and I will be "me" again.Rainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #18 April 13, 2004 Quoteif yoou want to unbderstand unconditional love yoou need only to look into the eyes of your children. From that perspective I am a very lucky person. I do not think that you can find that looking into the eyes of another adult, maybe someone will prove me wrong. Actually, I hope adults don't have unconditional love for one another. That would make people doormats. You can't treat me however you want and still expect me to love you unconditionally!!! I won't love someone that lies to me or doesn't give me respect. QuoteBut at this time I do feel a loss. I know in time that will pass and I will be "me" again. Supposedly, time heals all wounds. But, I've also been told that there are things you may never fully get over.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites RoadRash 0 #19 April 13, 2004 Val, I agree with everything you just said and on your point-of-view of relationships. To tell you the truth, I think I am just now figuring out what love is all about, and as everyone always says to me...All in due time...Don't chase it, let it find you... ~R+R...I think it found me...~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ Fly the friendly skies...^_^...})ii({...^_~... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SarahC07 0 #20 April 13, 2004 Well, let me add... I am glad that I get through the sadder times in my life without having a special someone there. It's comforting to know that I can take care of myself... but there have been times, only a few, where I questioned myself.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #21 April 13, 2004 QuoteHave you ever thought of becoming an inspirational speaker...? Haha! I'm too opinionated for that! Quoteand as everyone always says to me...All in due time...Don't chase it, let it find you... From my days at Purdue, it seemed to chase me all over Harry's! I never dated in college because I was too concerned with where my career was going. Plus, it's difficult enough for one person to find a job. Imagine trying to find a job somewhere for someone! I thought I would wait to date until I got older and settled in somewhere. I kinda messed that one up...seeing as I'm not settled...and I'm dating someone not where I am... Quotebut there have been times, only a few, where I questioned myself.... I can understand that. I questioned why I broke up with certain guys over one small disagreement. I thought, "Well, if I would've talked it out with them..." But, everything works out for the best, right?There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Rainbo 0 #22 April 13, 2004 Please do not misunderstand my point. Iwould not want to treat anyone like that or be treated that way myself. The phrase may not be appropriate, but, there is something that I can truly say I found in my children that I have yet to find in an adult, I thought I did but appearently not. It is hard to describe but one day you will understand what I am saying. This is the part of love that I am able to understand.Rainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #23 April 13, 2004 QuotePlease do not misunderstand my point. Iwould not want to treat anyone like that or be treated that way myself. Oh! No!!! I'm sorry if that's how it came out!!! I don't think you would lie/disrespect your partner! Sorry if that's how it came out! I was saying that I will love somebody, but if they cross me, that love is gone. Hence, it's conditional. QuoteI can truly say I found in my children that I have yet to find in an adult, I thought I did but appearently not. It is hard to describe but one day you will understand what I am saying. This is the part of love that I am able to understand. I definitely understand having unconditional love for one's children. I don't have children of my own, but I spend a significant amount of time around my brother, his wife and their kids, and I really see what you are talking about. Kids can lie/disrespect their parents, and they're still loved. If someone I'm dating lied/disrespected me, they would not be loved.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites craichead 0 #24 April 13, 2004 QuoteIt means that once that stupid giddiness stage (that I hate) is over, you still want to hang out with them often. Funny...Andy and I still haven't left that stupid giddiness stage. You must hate us. Have we done our "Who's yer monkey?!" routine for you yet? _Pm__ "Scared of love, love and aeroplanes...falling out, I said takes no brains." -- Andy Partridge (XTC) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #25 April 13, 2004 QuoteFunny...Andy and I still haven't left that stupid giddiness stage. You must hate us I despise both of you. I still get excited, but I'm not giddy all the time. I'm not a giddy person, and I don't like it when I am. It doesn't feel like me. I like not being giddy but still getting excited! But, you two make everyone sick...so you do as you please! There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 1 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
SarahC07 0 #13 April 13, 2004 Quote***I avoided relationships for 22 years. They seem to do more harm than good. People stress about them way too much. I never saw much good for wasting away my high school and college years with a boyfriend. Maybe I missed out, but it's nice looking back on those years and knowing they were pain/stress free. Okay, so i've only avoided relationships for 18 years but.. I think along the same lines as you. During the sadder times in my life, I begin to wonder if avoiding relationships was (and is) worth it. Maybe one day I will understand... and maybe I won't... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 1 #14 April 13, 2004 QuoteBeing able to let go of past hurts, baggage, and willing to give yourself fully to someone who gives back without reproach The problem is most people dont deal with these things, they just run ahead and drop them. Only to have them slowly manifest in the minds and in there souls, causing them become heavier and heavier, and have major self issues.... Taking the time and allowing your self to morn is a good thing. Not doing that just makes matters worse in the long run, i know cause i tried that once, and i'm still recovering from the damage. Kevin, you know that I know that you know that I know....She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #15 April 13, 2004 QuoteOkay, so i've only avoided relationships for 18 years but.. I think along the same lines as you. During the sadder times in my life, I begin to wonder if avoiding relationships was (and is) worth it. Maybe one day I will understand... and maybe I won't... You do whats right for you. Everyone is different. I think to myself that i should not have dated some of the guys i did, but then i realize everything i've done up until this point has made me who i am today. And you know what? I like who i am. You can't dwell on the past, all you can do is learn from it. Even the relationships that have gone bad, had some fun times and good memories. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #16 April 13, 2004 QuoteDuring the sadder times in my life, I begin to wonder if avoiding relationships was (and is) worth it. Maybe one day I will understand... and maybe I won't... I'm actually the oposite. During the sadder times in my life, I was glad that no one was there. I don't like to burden people with my problems. I also didn't want to become accustomed to "leaning on" someone as a way to make myself feel better. I've been through enough crap to know that I definitely do not need a special someone to ever make me feel better. I can do it all by myself. However, during some of the happier times I've had, I thought that it would've been cool to have a special someone to share it with. Sure, I shared these moments with my friends, but it's different sharing a moment with someone who is not just a friend but is your partner as well.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rainbo 0 #17 April 13, 2004 This is so true. I have lost before but in the process gained. My biggest gain in life came from a failed relationship, that being my two beautiful children. They can teach a lesson, if yoou want to unbderstand unconditional love yoou need only to look into the eyes of your children. From that perspective I am a very lucky person. I do not think that you can find that looking into the eyes of another adult, maybe someone will prove me wrong. But at this time I do feel a loss. I know in time that will pass and I will be "me" again.Rainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #18 April 13, 2004 Quoteif yoou want to unbderstand unconditional love yoou need only to look into the eyes of your children. From that perspective I am a very lucky person. I do not think that you can find that looking into the eyes of another adult, maybe someone will prove me wrong. Actually, I hope adults don't have unconditional love for one another. That would make people doormats. You can't treat me however you want and still expect me to love you unconditionally!!! I won't love someone that lies to me or doesn't give me respect. QuoteBut at this time I do feel a loss. I know in time that will pass and I will be "me" again. Supposedly, time heals all wounds. But, I've also been told that there are things you may never fully get over.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoadRash 0 #19 April 13, 2004 Val, I agree with everything you just said and on your point-of-view of relationships. To tell you the truth, I think I am just now figuring out what love is all about, and as everyone always says to me...All in due time...Don't chase it, let it find you... ~R+R...I think it found me...~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ Fly the friendly skies...^_^...})ii({...^_~... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SarahC07 0 #20 April 13, 2004 Well, let me add... I am glad that I get through the sadder times in my life without having a special someone there. It's comforting to know that I can take care of myself... but there have been times, only a few, where I questioned myself.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #21 April 13, 2004 QuoteHave you ever thought of becoming an inspirational speaker...? Haha! I'm too opinionated for that! Quoteand as everyone always says to me...All in due time...Don't chase it, let it find you... From my days at Purdue, it seemed to chase me all over Harry's! I never dated in college because I was too concerned with where my career was going. Plus, it's difficult enough for one person to find a job. Imagine trying to find a job somewhere for someone! I thought I would wait to date until I got older and settled in somewhere. I kinda messed that one up...seeing as I'm not settled...and I'm dating someone not where I am... Quotebut there have been times, only a few, where I questioned myself.... I can understand that. I questioned why I broke up with certain guys over one small disagreement. I thought, "Well, if I would've talked it out with them..." But, everything works out for the best, right?There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rainbo 0 #22 April 13, 2004 Please do not misunderstand my point. Iwould not want to treat anyone like that or be treated that way myself. The phrase may not be appropriate, but, there is something that I can truly say I found in my children that I have yet to find in an adult, I thought I did but appearently not. It is hard to describe but one day you will understand what I am saying. This is the part of love that I am able to understand.Rainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #23 April 13, 2004 QuotePlease do not misunderstand my point. Iwould not want to treat anyone like that or be treated that way myself. Oh! No!!! I'm sorry if that's how it came out!!! I don't think you would lie/disrespect your partner! Sorry if that's how it came out! I was saying that I will love somebody, but if they cross me, that love is gone. Hence, it's conditional. QuoteI can truly say I found in my children that I have yet to find in an adult, I thought I did but appearently not. It is hard to describe but one day you will understand what I am saying. This is the part of love that I am able to understand. I definitely understand having unconditional love for one's children. I don't have children of my own, but I spend a significant amount of time around my brother, his wife and their kids, and I really see what you are talking about. Kids can lie/disrespect their parents, and they're still loved. If someone I'm dating lied/disrespected me, they would not be loved.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
craichead 0 #24 April 13, 2004 QuoteIt means that once that stupid giddiness stage (that I hate) is over, you still want to hang out with them often. Funny...Andy and I still haven't left that stupid giddiness stage. You must hate us. Have we done our "Who's yer monkey?!" routine for you yet? _Pm__ "Scared of love, love and aeroplanes...falling out, I said takes no brains." -- Andy Partridge (XTC) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #25 April 13, 2004 QuoteFunny...Andy and I still haven't left that stupid giddiness stage. You must hate us I despise both of you. I still get excited, but I'm not giddy all the time. I'm not a giddy person, and I don't like it when I am. It doesn't feel like me. I like not being giddy but still getting excited! But, you two make everyone sick...so you do as you please! There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
