mardigrasbob 0 #1 October 1, 2004 Lets hear from the victims! What would you do. How would you feel. Fantasies! -------- Smores anyone? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dzdiva 7 #2 October 1, 2004 Hmmm...I'm thinkin' about a wood chipper and a bottle of wine!"It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tweak 0 #3 October 1, 2004 Just had to let her go!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites RoysPlayThing 0 #4 October 1, 2004 I wouldn't want to work it out or go to couseling or anything.. I would just cutaway... I don't need someone in my life like that. I wouldn't waste another moment, because he would turn out to be someone I don't want anymore... that simple. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Squeak 17 #5 October 1, 2004 After the Rage, I don't know what I'd do. 16 years together is a whole load of life to just throw away, so I'd need some time to get my thoughts and temper in checkYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites girlygirl 0 #6 October 1, 2004 QuoteLets hear from the victims! What would you do. How would you feel. Fantasies! -------- Smores anyone? Let'em have each other! Who cares!! I'll find someone else. They can be each other's problem. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mattjw916 2 #7 October 1, 2004 QuoteLets hear from the victims! What would you do. How would you feel. Fantasies! Divorce... move on... there are plenty of playthings to exploit out there...NSCR-2376, SCR-15080 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites VanillaSkyGirl 6 #8 October 1, 2004 QuoteLet'em have each other! Who cares!! I'll find someone else. They can be each other's problem. That's exactly how I feel. I'd just move on to bigger and better things... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Fast 0 #9 October 1, 2004 QuoteQuoteLet'em have each other! Who cares!! I'll find someone else. They can be each other's problem. That's exactly how I feel. I'd just move on to bigger and better things...~D Where troubles melt like lemon drops Away above the chimney tops That's where you'll find me. Swooping is taking one last poke at the bear before escaping it's cave - davelepka Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites peacefuljeffrey 0 #10 October 1, 2004 Whoa-ho-ho-ho, you're talkin' about if we were married? I can see differences in response depending on if I was married to the girl or not. But not what you'd think: I believe I would be more likely to divorce a wife who had cheated than to break up with a girlfriend who had cheated -- because the wife has broken a much more serious commitment, and I think I would find that unforgivable. I can't say for sure, though, because I have never been married, and I don't yet know the depth of love that married people (ostensibly) feel. I thought I felt love that strongly once with my college girlfriend, but we were from the same hometown and went to far distant schools, and never lived together. So I don't know love in that kind of proximity/closeness/intimacy. Like being on the toilet when she comes in to brush her teeth or something. Never been in that close a situation, so I can't know if I would feel the love that strongly to want to patch it up after an affair. But I'm thinking, if we're supposed to be married and in love, and she screwed around, then WHAT LOVE?! I voted "divorce." -Jeffrey-Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites spectrefish 0 #11 October 1, 2004 I'd be mad if there was no prior agreement. I would just cutaway and vanish. If there was some sort of agreement made then it would be no problem. But to have someone cheat on you without your knowledge is unfair and possibly dangerous to your health. Why should the other person get some on the side when you are holding your end of the bargain by just looking and daydreaming? That seems a little possessive and selfish to me! umop ap!sdn w,I Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mardigrasbob 0 #12 October 1, 2004 QuoteLike being on the toilet when she comes in to brush her teeth or something. Dude that is first week shit. Women care more about hygiene because they have to. I leave you with a poem. You know the honeymoon is over and the romance is a dying flower when she comes in to take a shit while you're still in the shower Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mcrocker 0 #13 October 1, 2004 QuoteHmmm...I'm thinkin' about a wood chipper and a bottle of wine! Just make sure you freeze the body fully before you introduce Mr. Wood Chipper. You want the chipper to make a sharp cracking sound, not a squishy/mushy sound while chewing through the body. Personally, I prefer some quick lime and a deep hole. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mcrocker 0 #14 October 1, 2004 Been there, bought the T-shirt. Divorce, went our seperate ways, in a *much* better place right now. I haven't seen her since the court house (4 years ago) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites RevJim 0 #15 October 1, 2004 Been there, had that done to me, twice. Chose option 2. Still regret it, and that was even before I started jumping. Still with her. I can forgive anything, and have, but we NEVER forget. 3 strikes? Let's just hope it never comes to that.It's your life, live it! Karma RB#684 "Corcho", ASK#60, Muff#3520, NCB#398, NHDZ#4, C-33989, DG#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lightningbugirl 0 #16 October 1, 2004 well.... he can look at different menus all he wants but if he decides to eat out then he doesn't get to eat at home ever, EVER again... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites christoofar 0 #17 October 1, 2004 So you're saying he can go to the titty bars? ROCK ON! ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites caress 0 #18 October 1, 2004 Well I couldn't find an answer that suited me. I'd definetly sit down and talk with him about it. I will always do everything possible to keep my marriage intact. If he's cheating, I'm not doing my part somewhere, and I am leaving my signifigant other wanting something more. That means it is my job as a wife to get out of him what the empty space is and love him enough to fill it. I love my hubby more than anything, I will continue to be his very best friend that he can talk to about anything. I feel that would be the correct action for me.-Caress I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites antifnsocial 0 #19 October 1, 2004 QuoteSo you're saying he can go to the titty bars? ROCK ON! looking at a menu once in awhile is fine, he just better not forget he has ala carte at homePlease feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lightningbugirl 0 #20 October 1, 2004 specials once in awhile too, lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites peacefuljeffrey 0 #21 October 1, 2004 QuoteQuoteHmmm...I'm thinkin' about a wood chipper and a bottle of wine! Just make sure you freeze the body fully before you introduce Mr. Wood Chipper. You want the chipper to make a sharp cracking sound, not a squishy/mushy sound while chewing through the body. And if you're really lucky, your wood chipper will be cursed, and instead of blood, flesh and bone, their net worth in MONEY will come out the other side! (Yes, big "Friday the 13th: the Series" fan here!) -Jeffrey-Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lawrocket 3 #22 October 1, 2004 SeeYa! The only thing to work out would be the child custody... My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites FallinWoman 1 #23 October 1, 2004 QuoteIf he's cheating, I'm not doing my part somewhere, and I am leaving my signifigant other wanting something more. That means it is my job as a wife to get out of him what the empty space is and love him enough to fill it. I a gree that I would sit down and discuss the problem, possibly with a professional. But I wouldn't immediately internalize the problem. I would agree that there is something wrong BETWEEN the two of us if he was cheating, but I would not agree that it was my fault and something that I alone needed to fix. ~Anne I'm a Doll!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Unstable 8 #24 October 1, 2004 Quote------------------------------------------------------------------------Quote ------------------------------------------------------------------------ If he's cheating, I'm not doing my part somewhere, and I am leaving my signifigant other wanting something more. That means it is my job as a wife to get out of him what the empty space is and love him enough to fill it. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ I a gree that I would sit down and discuss the problem, possibly with a professional. But I wouldn't immediately internalize the problem. I would agree that there is something wrong BETWEEN the two of us if he was cheating, but I would not agree that it was my fault and something that I alone needed to fix. I agree & Disagree. Yes, if one partner is cheating, than it is a problem that most likely started out between the two of them. However, Understand that each case is unique and it's probably not a good idea to put such blanket rules down, especially when dealing with all sorts of different people. **Sigh** I have been a victim of this - So I'll voice out. IMHO, Screw 'em. If they are going to cheat, let them cheat to their hearts content, I'm just not going to be there for that person any more. Pardon me for sounding cocky, but i am willing to do anything for the girl I love - and i deserve somebody who is going to be as loyal to me as I am to them. This isn't just about me - if one partner is loyal and the other one is not, than the loyal partner deserves so much more. I just hope that if a girl is going to cheat on me, it happens early on before the relationship gets too far....=========Shaun ========== Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Unstable 8 #25 October 1, 2004 Looking at the results so far, it feels really good to see that the vast majority of people (or at least from the sample polled here..) still value relationship... rock on!=========Shaun ========== Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 1 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. 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RoysPlayThing 0 #4 October 1, 2004 I wouldn't want to work it out or go to couseling or anything.. I would just cutaway... I don't need someone in my life like that. I wouldn't waste another moment, because he would turn out to be someone I don't want anymore... that simple. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #5 October 1, 2004 After the Rage, I don't know what I'd do. 16 years together is a whole load of life to just throw away, so I'd need some time to get my thoughts and temper in checkYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
girlygirl 0 #6 October 1, 2004 QuoteLets hear from the victims! What would you do. How would you feel. Fantasies! -------- Smores anyone? Let'em have each other! Who cares!! I'll find someone else. They can be each other's problem. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mattjw916 2 #7 October 1, 2004 QuoteLets hear from the victims! What would you do. How would you feel. Fantasies! Divorce... move on... there are plenty of playthings to exploit out there...NSCR-2376, SCR-15080 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #8 October 1, 2004 QuoteLet'em have each other! Who cares!! I'll find someone else. They can be each other's problem. That's exactly how I feel. I'd just move on to bigger and better things... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fast 0 #9 October 1, 2004 QuoteQuoteLet'em have each other! Who cares!! I'll find someone else. They can be each other's problem. That's exactly how I feel. I'd just move on to bigger and better things...~D Where troubles melt like lemon drops Away above the chimney tops That's where you'll find me. Swooping is taking one last poke at the bear before escaping it's cave - davelepka Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacefuljeffrey 0 #10 October 1, 2004 Whoa-ho-ho-ho, you're talkin' about if we were married? I can see differences in response depending on if I was married to the girl or not. But not what you'd think: I believe I would be more likely to divorce a wife who had cheated than to break up with a girlfriend who had cheated -- because the wife has broken a much more serious commitment, and I think I would find that unforgivable. I can't say for sure, though, because I have never been married, and I don't yet know the depth of love that married people (ostensibly) feel. I thought I felt love that strongly once with my college girlfriend, but we were from the same hometown and went to far distant schools, and never lived together. So I don't know love in that kind of proximity/closeness/intimacy. Like being on the toilet when she comes in to brush her teeth or something. Never been in that close a situation, so I can't know if I would feel the love that strongly to want to patch it up after an affair. But I'm thinking, if we're supposed to be married and in love, and she screwed around, then WHAT LOVE?! I voted "divorce." -Jeffrey-Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
spectrefish 0 #11 October 1, 2004 I'd be mad if there was no prior agreement. I would just cutaway and vanish. If there was some sort of agreement made then it would be no problem. But to have someone cheat on you without your knowledge is unfair and possibly dangerous to your health. Why should the other person get some on the side when you are holding your end of the bargain by just looking and daydreaming? That seems a little possessive and selfish to me! umop ap!sdn w,I Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mardigrasbob 0 #12 October 1, 2004 QuoteLike being on the toilet when she comes in to brush her teeth or something. Dude that is first week shit. Women care more about hygiene because they have to. I leave you with a poem. You know the honeymoon is over and the romance is a dying flower when she comes in to take a shit while you're still in the shower Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mcrocker 0 #13 October 1, 2004 QuoteHmmm...I'm thinkin' about a wood chipper and a bottle of wine! Just make sure you freeze the body fully before you introduce Mr. Wood Chipper. You want the chipper to make a sharp cracking sound, not a squishy/mushy sound while chewing through the body. Personally, I prefer some quick lime and a deep hole. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mcrocker 0 #14 October 1, 2004 Been there, bought the T-shirt. Divorce, went our seperate ways, in a *much* better place right now. I haven't seen her since the court house (4 years ago) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RevJim 0 #15 October 1, 2004 Been there, had that done to me, twice. Chose option 2. Still regret it, and that was even before I started jumping. Still with her. I can forgive anything, and have, but we NEVER forget. 3 strikes? Let's just hope it never comes to that.It's your life, live it! Karma RB#684 "Corcho", ASK#60, Muff#3520, NCB#398, NHDZ#4, C-33989, DG#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lightningbugirl 0 #16 October 1, 2004 well.... he can look at different menus all he wants but if he decides to eat out then he doesn't get to eat at home ever, EVER again... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
christoofar 0 #17 October 1, 2004 So you're saying he can go to the titty bars? ROCK ON! ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caress 0 #18 October 1, 2004 Well I couldn't find an answer that suited me. I'd definetly sit down and talk with him about it. I will always do everything possible to keep my marriage intact. If he's cheating, I'm not doing my part somewhere, and I am leaving my signifigant other wanting something more. That means it is my job as a wife to get out of him what the empty space is and love him enough to fill it. I love my hubby more than anything, I will continue to be his very best friend that he can talk to about anything. I feel that would be the correct action for me.-Caress I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antifnsocial 0 #19 October 1, 2004 QuoteSo you're saying he can go to the titty bars? ROCK ON! looking at a menu once in awhile is fine, he just better not forget he has ala carte at homePlease feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lightningbugirl 0 #20 October 1, 2004 specials once in awhile too, lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacefuljeffrey 0 #21 October 1, 2004 QuoteQuoteHmmm...I'm thinkin' about a wood chipper and a bottle of wine! Just make sure you freeze the body fully before you introduce Mr. Wood Chipper. You want the chipper to make a sharp cracking sound, not a squishy/mushy sound while chewing through the body. And if you're really lucky, your wood chipper will be cursed, and instead of blood, flesh and bone, their net worth in MONEY will come out the other side! (Yes, big "Friday the 13th: the Series" fan here!) -Jeffrey-Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #22 October 1, 2004 SeeYa! The only thing to work out would be the child custody... My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FallinWoman 1 #23 October 1, 2004 QuoteIf he's cheating, I'm not doing my part somewhere, and I am leaving my signifigant other wanting something more. That means it is my job as a wife to get out of him what the empty space is and love him enough to fill it. I a gree that I would sit down and discuss the problem, possibly with a professional. But I wouldn't immediately internalize the problem. I would agree that there is something wrong BETWEEN the two of us if he was cheating, but I would not agree that it was my fault and something that I alone needed to fix. ~Anne I'm a Doll!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Unstable 8 #24 October 1, 2004 Quote------------------------------------------------------------------------Quote ------------------------------------------------------------------------ If he's cheating, I'm not doing my part somewhere, and I am leaving my signifigant other wanting something more. That means it is my job as a wife to get out of him what the empty space is and love him enough to fill it. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ I a gree that I would sit down and discuss the problem, possibly with a professional. But I wouldn't immediately internalize the problem. I would agree that there is something wrong BETWEEN the two of us if he was cheating, but I would not agree that it was my fault and something that I alone needed to fix. I agree & Disagree. Yes, if one partner is cheating, than it is a problem that most likely started out between the two of them. However, Understand that each case is unique and it's probably not a good idea to put such blanket rules down, especially when dealing with all sorts of different people. **Sigh** I have been a victim of this - So I'll voice out. IMHO, Screw 'em. If they are going to cheat, let them cheat to their hearts content, I'm just not going to be there for that person any more. Pardon me for sounding cocky, but i am willing to do anything for the girl I love - and i deserve somebody who is going to be as loyal to me as I am to them. This isn't just about me - if one partner is loyal and the other one is not, than the loyal partner deserves so much more. I just hope that if a girl is going to cheat on me, it happens early on before the relationship gets too far....=========Shaun ========== Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Unstable 8 #25 October 1, 2004 Looking at the results so far, it feels really good to see that the vast majority of people (or at least from the sample polled here..) still value relationship... rock on!=========Shaun ========== Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
