lightningbugirl 0 #1 May 30, 2005 Wouldn't it be great if like the Jim Cary movie we could just erase certain parts of our life and make them go away? I would totally erase some relationships and even experiences. Think of how at peace and 'unf@%&ed" up we would be if we could do that. So much more trusting and fun and light. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
indyz 1 #2 May 30, 2005 I dunno. Who I am today is the sum of everything that I have experienced, good and bad. I like who I am, and wouldn't want to give that up just to get rid of some bad memories. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #3 May 30, 2005 I would do it in a heartbeat. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LilZilla 2 #4 May 30, 2005 In the movie, Jim erased every memery he had of that chick including the good ones. Theres always something you'll gain from any kind of experience. Its what builds your personality and makes you stronger. Surely not everything from your relationship must of been bad. Wouldn't you what to keep at least some of the better times or memories? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #5 May 30, 2005 I understand the sacrifice. I'm willing to take it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bob.dino 0 #6 May 30, 2005 Yup. I'd rather have a heart with some scars than never have loved. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dzdiva 7 #7 May 30, 2005 If given the choice I wouldn't do it. As far as my relationships go, each one has taught me something about me and what it is I want. Some have been good and some I now refer to as "the incidents". It sucks to get hurt, but I got through it a stronger and better person than I was before.As far as my experiences in life, they have made me who I am today. The good and the bad ones. I'm a pretty awesome person and it's due in part to what I have experienced. I live my life with no regrets."It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #8 May 30, 2005 HA! The entire 60's and most of the 70's have been erased...or was it just that it was never recorded? My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #9 May 30, 2005 It's hard to say. My one marriage was a complete disaster. As a by-product though.......my life has taken some turns that would NEVER have happened without all the bad shit. As great as things are going for me at the moment........I'd have to say it's all turned out OK. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
justaflygirl 0 #10 May 30, 2005 Yes & No, if I erased some parts, I would loose a valuable life lesson and perhaps one day go thru something else that was similar to what was erased. But if I could retain the knowledge of te life lesson, and earse the hurt and bad memories, then absoultely.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Douva 0 #11 May 30, 2005 QuoteYes & No, if I erased some parts, I would loose a valuable life lesson and perhaps one day go thru something else that was similar to what was erased. But if I could retain the knowledge of te life lesson, and earse the hurt and bad memories, then absoultely.... DING...DING...DING...That is correct! Somebody tell the woman what she's won.I don't have an M.D. or a law degree. I have bachelor's in kicking ass and taking names. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
soulshine 0 #12 May 30, 2005 QuoteWouldn't it be great if like the Jim Cary movie we could just erase certain parts of our life and make them go away? I would totally erase some relationships and even experiences. Think of how at peace and 'unf@%&ed" up we would be if we could do that. So much more trusting and fun and light. Did you watch that movie carefully? In the end he realized what a mistake he made by trying to erase the relationship. Personally, I have hurt men and I have been hurt by them. That is life. Relationships, for me, are one hell of a ride. I'll keep all the memories I have of past relationships because they help me with future relationships. I have learned that it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. I learned that the hard way but it is a lesson I hope I never forget. Bombing for peace is like fucking for virginity! ~DEVIOUS BEEF~~FGF #69~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ham 0 #13 May 30, 2005 I have no regrets and wouldn't want to change any of the good or bad experiences. I still smile and laugh when I think about all the good times. I always try to remind myself of all that I have learned from the bad. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Dagny 0 #14 May 30, 2005 I haven't always made the best choices in life and in relationships in the past, but I've learned from every event - good, bad, and ugly. I wouldn't change that for anything, because I really feel that it makes me stronger, better able to handle adversity, and better equipped to make good choices in the future. Whether I'm learning from something I've said or done or from something that's been done or said to me, I think there is always a lesson to be taken away from it...even if it's just to recognize my inner strength. I think it makes me a better, wiser person able to love myself and someone else more openly and without reservation or selfishness. And, that makes me a better friend and better partner. My goal is to keep moving forward and to be the best person I can be today, tomorrow, and in the future. If I had a choice to erase, I wouldn't take it.Take me, I am the drug; take me, I am hallucinogenic. -Salvador Dali Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites aerohaga 0 #15 May 30, 2005 QuoteYup. I'd rather have a heart with some scars than never have loved. It's better to have loved and lost than to have lived with that psycho asshole forever!!For my part, I know nothing with any certainty, But the sight of the stars makes me dream. -Vincent Van Gogh Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumper03 0 #16 May 30, 2005 QuoteWouldn't it be great if like the Jim Cary movie we could just erase certain parts of our life and make them go away? I would totally erase some relationships and even experiences. Think of how at peace and 'unf@%&ed" up we would be if we could do that. So much more trusting and fun and light. Reminds me of a Kenny Chesney song that has made me apply a large portion of thinking and meditation to this very thing - The applicable lyrics - "...all I want right now is to forget every single thing I regert, and drown out these embers, but I remember...." I sympathize with you - there are things I don't want to remember - things I wish I could erase. But if we erase those memories, what's to stop us from making the same mistake again? Those who don't learn from their failures are doomed to repeat them. I think the price we pay by remembering is paid back by keeping us from making the same mistakes again. I've decided not to waste my payment and to drive on. Once you learn how the river flows - you can navigate it and enjoy the ride so much better.Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Nightingale 0 #17 May 30, 2005 I've had some relationships that I've looked back on and asked myself "WTF was I thinking?!" However, each one of those relationships was a learning experience for me, helping me understand what I wanted out of a relationship and what I didn't want. We wouldn't be "at peace" if we could erase some events in our life. We'd never learn anything if we got rid of unpleasantness and pain. If we couldn't remember making mistakes, we'd just make them all over again. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpchikk 0 #18 May 30, 2005 This is a toughie. Relationships and the past make you the person that you are today. I think I would like to be able to fast forward through the pain after a relationship. I say sometimes that I wish this didn't happen or that didn't happen, but it's mainly because the pain is still a very poignant, very REAL feeling. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites masterrig 1 #19 May 30, 2005 I met a lot of folks in my life. Some good... some not so good. I've had relationships that were good and some went sour. From everyone I've ever met, I learned something. I believe, all those things helped to form me and my personality. I've learned to separate grain from chaf. Over the years, those things that I didn't like or caused me dis-comfort, have just become a blurr in my memory. Seems as though, all the good has stayed in the fore-front. We can't live in a bubble and experience life. You gotta take the good with the bad. You have to learn how to deal with it all. I don't believe, anything I've experienced, would I want erased. Things happen to us for a reason. The meaning of life, is just one thing. Chuck Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Douva 0 #20 May 30, 2005 QuoteRelationships, for me, are one hell of a ride. But sometimes you have to ask yourself if the ride is worth the fare.I don't have an M.D. or a law degree. I have bachelor's in kicking ass and taking names. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
Dagny 0 #14 May 30, 2005 I haven't always made the best choices in life and in relationships in the past, but I've learned from every event - good, bad, and ugly. I wouldn't change that for anything, because I really feel that it makes me stronger, better able to handle adversity, and better equipped to make good choices in the future. Whether I'm learning from something I've said or done or from something that's been done or said to me, I think there is always a lesson to be taken away from it...even if it's just to recognize my inner strength. I think it makes me a better, wiser person able to love myself and someone else more openly and without reservation or selfishness. And, that makes me a better friend and better partner. My goal is to keep moving forward and to be the best person I can be today, tomorrow, and in the future. If I had a choice to erase, I wouldn't take it.Take me, I am the drug; take me, I am hallucinogenic. -Salvador Dali Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aerohaga 0 #15 May 30, 2005 QuoteYup. I'd rather have a heart with some scars than never have loved. It's better to have loved and lost than to have lived with that psycho asshole forever!!For my part, I know nothing with any certainty, But the sight of the stars makes me dream. -Vincent Van Gogh Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #16 May 30, 2005 QuoteWouldn't it be great if like the Jim Cary movie we could just erase certain parts of our life and make them go away? I would totally erase some relationships and even experiences. Think of how at peace and 'unf@%&ed" up we would be if we could do that. So much more trusting and fun and light. Reminds me of a Kenny Chesney song that has made me apply a large portion of thinking and meditation to this very thing - The applicable lyrics - "...all I want right now is to forget every single thing I regert, and drown out these embers, but I remember...." I sympathize with you - there are things I don't want to remember - things I wish I could erase. But if we erase those memories, what's to stop us from making the same mistake again? Those who don't learn from their failures are doomed to repeat them. I think the price we pay by remembering is paid back by keeping us from making the same mistakes again. I've decided not to waste my payment and to drive on. Once you learn how the river flows - you can navigate it and enjoy the ride so much better.Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #17 May 30, 2005 I've had some relationships that I've looked back on and asked myself "WTF was I thinking?!" However, each one of those relationships was a learning experience for me, helping me understand what I wanted out of a relationship and what I didn't want. We wouldn't be "at peace" if we could erase some events in our life. We'd never learn anything if we got rid of unpleasantness and pain. If we couldn't remember making mistakes, we'd just make them all over again. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #18 May 30, 2005 This is a toughie. Relationships and the past make you the person that you are today. I think I would like to be able to fast forward through the pain after a relationship. I say sometimes that I wish this didn't happen or that didn't happen, but it's mainly because the pain is still a very poignant, very REAL feeling. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterrig 1 #19 May 30, 2005 I met a lot of folks in my life. Some good... some not so good. I've had relationships that were good and some went sour. From everyone I've ever met, I learned something. I believe, all those things helped to form me and my personality. I've learned to separate grain from chaf. Over the years, those things that I didn't like or caused me dis-comfort, have just become a blurr in my memory. Seems as though, all the good has stayed in the fore-front. We can't live in a bubble and experience life. You gotta take the good with the bad. You have to learn how to deal with it all. I don't believe, anything I've experienced, would I want erased. Things happen to us for a reason. The meaning of life, is just one thing. Chuck Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Douva 0 #20 May 30, 2005 QuoteRelationships, for me, are one hell of a ride. But sometimes you have to ask yourself if the ride is worth the fare.I don't have an M.D. or a law degree. I have bachelor's in kicking ass and taking names. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
