swedishcelt 0 #126 June 10, 2005 QuoteYeah ? ...I said that once and found out we had nothing in common, I was 29 she was 21. Ended in a really messy breakup, to the point where she checked in for therapy. I swore I'd never hurt someone like that again. Now I'm 31 going through it all again, except shes 18 ! I haven't agreed to relationship (because of above) but she's drop dead gorgeous and has a really cute personality. I get on well with her folks and friends but I just know its not going to work. Do I just say sod it, go for it, you only live once and it might workout. My mates all think I'm either nuts or gay for not taking the opportunity. Why would age matter in the least? It had to have been something other than age that caused you two to veer off the course of love. Many people though far apart in numbers are very close in spirit and heart. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tintin 0 #127 June 10, 2005 Many people though far apart in numbers are very close in spirit and heart. ------------------------------------------------------------ Your talking idealism here, finding that soul mate etc. In my experience finding that person is becoming a myth, hence 31 and single. Therefore as the ideal women, for me anyway, may not exist, I've started the 'give it ago' approach. But you're right, thats probably what killed the last relationship. ------------------------------------------------- Please forgive the sp errors, I have dyslexia. Don't laugh ... the last time i went to a toga party, I went dressed as a goat !! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BRYANGOESBOOM 0 #128 June 10, 2005 I agree w/ your friends If you know its not going to work out ......then it wont Not only will you look better, feel better, and fuck better; you'll have significantly increased your life expectancy. --Douva Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jenfly00 0 #129 June 10, 2005 QuoteNever really paid much attention to age. I tend to stick to people around my age, but older men can be better At 18, my second and to this day most amazing lover I've known was more than 20 years my senior. We were exclusively involved for just short of two years. A simply amazing man. I thought he was great at the time. Almost a decade and a half (and a few lovers :) later, I appreciate who he was and what he shared all the more. It was my only relationship with a significantly older man, but ...WOW! jen----------------------- "O brave new world that has such people in it". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tintin 0 #130 June 10, 2005 Cheers Bryan, but your supposed to say it will all be fine, give it a go, who's the daddy etc. Then when it goes wrong and it comes to breaking up I'll tell her ' Sorry baby but this dude on DZ.Com called Bryan, he said it would all work out ...SO BACK OFF BITCH AND GO STALK HIM !' Get the idea..wanna try again ? ------------------------------------------------- Please forgive the sp errors, I have dyslexia. Don't laugh ... the last time i went to a toga party, I went dressed as a goat !! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BRYANGOESBOOM 0 #131 June 10, 2005 HA hey ive had my fair share of the CRAZY chicks had this one girl follow me on my 4.5 hr drive to work once always have your mace ready I say give it a shot whats the worse that could happen ??? Not only will you look better, feel better, and fuck better; you'll have significantly increased your life expectancy. --Douva Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #132 June 10, 2005 QuoteMany people though far apart in numbers are very close in spirit and heart. ------------------------------------------------------------ Your talking idealism here, finding that soul mate etc. In my experience finding that person is becoming a myth, hence 31 and single. Therefore as the ideal women, for me anyway, may not exist, I've started the 'give it a go' approach. But you're right, thats probably what killed the last relationship. Anyone who knows me will tell you that I am far from an idealist. However, at 34 and definitely single, I refuse to give up hope. Maybe I am a romantic. I will just be me and if it happens it happens. Life does with us as it will anyways, we don't have any control over who loves us or when it will happen. We are only in control of whether we are worthy to be loved or not. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aerohaga 0 #133 June 10, 2005 My husband is 17 years older than me. I was 36 and he was 53 when we married. My sister on the other hand, dates guys younger than my daughter! Her most recent is 25. She is a year older than his mother~For my part, I know nothing with any certainty, But the sight of the stars makes me dream. -Vincent Van Gogh Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #134 June 10, 2005 QuoteFunny you say that because I don't feel that at "30+" it's been an issue at all..."much older" probably not..."much younger"...absolutely!!! especially if they have their shit together and are mature for their age...mmmmm...eye candy Who needs batteries when you have the Energizer Bunny? My age ranges has been -13 to +10 just because that's how it worked out. Last guy I dated was 23...I'm 36. He was definitely energizer bunny/eye candy. Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tintin 0 #135 June 10, 2005 I just wrote pages in rely to this, but thankfully I lost my connection. The jist was ... Totally agree with you. Life's pretty short. Light relationship. Never works. The ONE. I'm Buggard. Keep the faith. ------------------------------------------------- Please forgive the sp errors, I have dyslexia. Don't laugh ... the last time i went to a toga party, I went dressed as a goat !! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 212 #136 June 10, 2005 Quotei LOVE older men!!!! You just made 90% of Dizzy dot com - read your profile!I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MissBuffDiver 0 #137 June 11, 2005 Wow!!! When I was 40, he was 22. The best student ever! Just kidding. Kinda. We spent 5 yrs trying to out teach each other. He wanted kids I could not give him, so he went off to start a family. We are still very good friends and his kids are beautiful. Sandy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #138 June 11, 2005 Younger, yes. Older, no....any older than me and it would be necrophilia. I have to take excception to the ladies who say they would date a much older guy. Just don't see it, just don't see it anywhere other than the rare occasion.My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NoShitThereIWas 0 #139 June 13, 2005 I have always dated men older than me. The oldest was probably my ex husband who was 38 when we met and I was 25. I think it all depends on the people involved and the maturity levels too. I have never dated a guy younger than me. My boyfriend now is a little over 2 years older than me. By far closer in age to me than anyone else since high school. I like our age difference, we have fun together and that is all that matters.Roy Bacon: "Elvises, light your fires." Sting: "Be yourself no matter what they say." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #140 June 13, 2005 I'm thinking I'm too picky as it is to throw any sort of age difference into the mix when it comes to dating, etc... I think I typically go for younger women versus older women...Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meux 0 #141 June 13, 2005 Wendy, That is hilarious, thanks for the clicky thingy. I pretend to give a shit because I care. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guru312 0 #142 June 14, 2005 Quotei LOVE older men!!!! Oh, yeah!? That's interesting... The mother of my twelve year old daughter is 30 days older than my oldest daughter. My two grand children are 1.5 years older and 1.5 years younger than my twelve year old daughter. You wouldn't be visiting New Jersey any time soon, would you? I'm a grandfather looking for a friend with benefits...Guru312 I am not DB Cooper Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
