Essay on "The pussification of the western male"

[bill2 0]

Below is an essay that has been making the internet rounds in the past 2 days since it has been written. It's from the site below, by Kim Du Toit, a transplanted South African living in TX.
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http://www.kimdutoit.com/index.htm

The Pussification Of The Western Male

We have become a nation of women.

It wasn't always this way, of course. There was a time when men put their signatures to a document, knowing full well that this single act would result in their execution if captured, and in the forfeiture of their property to the State. Their wives and children would be turned out by the soldiers, and their farms and businesses most probably given to someone who didn't sign the document.

There was a time when men went to their certain death, with expressions like "You all can go to hell. I'm going to Texas." (Davy Crockett, to the House of Representatives, before going to the Alamo.)

There was a time when men went to war, sometimes against their own families, so that other men could be free. And there was a time when men went to war because we recognized evil when we saw it, and knew that it had to be stamped out.

There was even a time when a President of the United States threatened to punch a man in the face and kick him in the balls, because the man had the temerity to say bad things about the President's daughter's singing.

We're not like that anymore.

Now, little boys in grade school are suspended for playing cowboys and Indians, cops and crooks, and all the other familiar variations of "good guy vs. bad guy" that helped them learn, at an early age, what it was like to have decent men hunt you down, because you were a lawbreaker.

Now, men are taught that violence is bad -- that when a thief breaks into your house, or threatens you in the street, that the proper way to deal with this is to "give him what he wants", instead of taking a horsewhip to the rascal or shooting him dead where he stands.

Now, men's fashion includes not a man dressed in a three-piece suit, but a tight sweater worn by a man with breasts.

Now, warning labels are indelibly etched into gun barrels, as though men have somehow forgotten that guns are dangerous things.

Now, men are given Ritalin as little boys, so that their natural aggressiveness, curiosity and restlessness can be controlled, instead of nurtured and directed.

And finally, our President, who happens to have been a qualified fighter pilot, lands on an aircraft carrier wearing a flight suit, and is immediately dismissed with words like "swaggering", "macho" and the favorite epithet of Euro girly-men, "cowboy". Of course he was bound to get that reaction -- and most especially from the Press in Europe, because the process of male pussification Over There is almost complete.

How did we get to this?

In the first instance, what we have to understand is that America is first and foremost, a culture dominated by one figure: Mother. It wasn't always so: there was a time when it was Father who ruled the home, worked at his job, and voted.

But in the twentieth century, women became more and more involved in the body politic, and in industry, and in the media -- and mostly, this has not been a good thing. When women got the vote, it was inevitable that government was going to become more powerful, more intrusive, and more "protective" (ie. more coddling), because women are hard-wired to treasure security more than uncertainty and danger. It was therefore inevitable that their feminine influence on politics was going to emphasize (lowercase "s") social security.

I am aware of the fury that this statement is going to arouse, and I don't care a fig.

What I care about is the fact that since the beginning of the twentieth century, there has been a concerted campaign to denigrate men, to reduce them to figures of fun, and to render them impotent, figuratively speaking.

I'm going to illustrate this by talking about TV, because TV is a reliable barometer of our culture.

In the 1950s, the TV Dad was seen as the lovable goofball -- perhaps the beginning of the trend -- BUT he was still the one who brought home the bacon, and was the main source of discipline (think of the line: "Wait until your father gets home!").

From that, we went to this: the Cheerios TV ad.

Now, for those who haven't seen this piece of shit, I'm going to go over it, from memory, because it epitomizes everything I hate about the campaign to pussify men. The scene opens at the morning breakfast table, where the two kids are sitting with Dad at the table, while Mom prepares stuff on the kitchen counter. The dialogue goes something like this:

Little girl (note, not little boy): Daddy, why do we eat Cheerios?
Dad: Because they contain fiber, and all sorts of stuff that's good for the heart. I eat it now, because of that.
LG: Did you always eat stuff that was bad for your heart, Daddy?
Dad (humorously): I did, until I met your mother.
Mother (not humorously): Daddy did a lot of stupid things before he met your mother.

Now, every time I see that TV ad, I have to be restrained from shooting the TV with a .45 Colt. If you want a microcosm of how men have become less than men, this is the perfect example.

What Dad should have replied to Mommy's little dig: Yes, Sally, that's true: I did do a lot of stupid things before I met your mother. I even slept with your Aunt Ruth a few times, before I met your mother.

That's what I would have said, anyway, if my wife had ever attempted to castrate me in front of the kids like that. But that's not what men do, of course. What this guy is going to do is smile ruefully, finish his cereal, and then go and fuck his secretary, who doesn't try to cut his balls off on a daily basis. Then, when the affair is discovered, people are going to rally around the castrating bitch called his wife, and call him all sorts of names. He'll lose custody of his kids, and they will be brought up by our ultimate modern-day figure of sympathy: The Single Mom.

You know what? Some women deserve to be single moms.

When I first started this website, I think my primary aim was to blow off steam at the stupidity of our society.

Because I have fairly set views on what constitutes right and wrong, I have no difficulty in calling Bill Clinton, for example, a fucking liar and hypocrite.

But most of all, I do this website because I love being a man. Amongst other things, I talk about guns, self-defense, politics, beautiful women, sports, warfare, hunting, and power tools -- all the things that being a man entails. All this stuff gives me pleasure.

And it doesn't take much to see when all the things I love are being threatened: for instance, when Tim Allen's excellent comedy routine on being a man is reduced to a fucking sitcom called Home Improvement. The show should have been called Man Improvement, because that's what every single plotline entailed: turning a man into a "better" person, instead of just leaving him alone to work on restoring the vintage sports car in his garage. I stopped watching the show after about four episodes.

("The Man Show" was better, at least for the first season -- men leering at chicks, men fucking around with ridiculous games like "pin the bra on the boobies", men having beer-drinking competitions, and women on trampolines. Excellent stuff, only not strong enough. I don't watch it anymore, either, because it's plain that the idea has been subverted by girly-men, and turned into a parody of itself.)

Finally, we come to the TV show which to my mind epitomizes everything bad about what we have become: Queer Eye For The Straight Guy. Playing on the homo Bravo Channel, this piece of excrement has taken over the popular culture by storm (and so far, the only counter has been the wonderful South Park episode which took it apart for the bullshit it is).

I'm sorry, but the premise of the show nauseates me. A bunch of homosexuals trying to "improve" ordinary men into something "better" (ie. more acceptable to women): changing the guy's clothes, his home decor, his music -- for fuck's sake, what kind of girly-man would allow these simpering butt-bandits to change his life around?

Yes, the men are, by and large, slobs. Big fucking deal. Last time I looked, that's normal. Men are slobs, and that only changes when women try to civilize them by marriage. That's the natural order of things.

You know the definition of homosexual men we used in Chicago? "Men with small dogs who own very tidy apartments."

Real men, on the other hand, have big fucking mean-ass dogs: Rhodesian ridgebacks, bull terriers and Rottweilers, or else working dogs like pointers or retrievers which go hunting with them and slobber all over the furniture.

Women own lapdogs.

Which is why women are trying to get dog-fighting and cock-fighting banned -- they'd ban boxing too, if they could -- because it's "mean and cruel". No shit, Shirley. Hell, I don't like the idea of fighting dogs, either, but I don't have a problem with men who do. Dogs and cocks fight. So do men. No wonder we have an affinity for it.

My website has become fairly popular with men, and in the beginning, this really surprised me, because I didn't think I was doing anything special.

That's not what I think now. I must have had well over five thousand men write to me to say stuff like "Yes! I agree! I was so angry when I read about [insert atrocity of choice], but I though I was the only one."

No, you're not alone, my friend, and nor am I.

Out there, there is a huge number of men who are sick of it. We're sick of being made figures of fun and ridicule; we're sick of having girly-men like journalists, advertising agency execs and movie stars decide on "what is a man"; we're sick of women treating us like children, and we're really fucking sick of girly-men politicians who pander to women by passing an ever-increasing raft of Nanny laws and regulations (the legal equivalent of public-school Ritalin), which prevent us from hunting, racing our cars and motorcycles, smoking, flirting with women at the office, getting into fistfights over women, shooting criminals and doing all the fine things which being a man entails.

When Annika Sorenstam was allowed to play in that tournament on the men's PGA tour, all the men should have refused to play -- Vijay Singh was the only one with balls to stand up for a principle, and he was absolutely excoriated for being a "chauvinist". Bullshit. He wasn't a chauvinist, he was being a man. All the rest of the players -- Woods, Mickleson, the lot -- are girls by comparison. And, needless to say, Vijay isn't an American, nor a European, which is probably why he still has a pair hanging between his legs, and they're not hanging on the wall as his wife's trophy.

Fuck this, I'm sick of it.

I don't see why I should put up with this bullshit any longer -- hell, I don't see why any man should put up with this bullshit any longer.

I don't see why men should have become feminized, accept that we allowed it to happen -- and you know why we let it happen? Because it's goddamned easier to do so. Unfortunately, we've allowed it to go too far, and our maleness has become too pussified for words.

At this point, I could have gone two ways: the first would be to say, "...and I don't know if we'll get it back. The process has become too entrenched, the cultural zeitgeist of men as girls has become part of the social fabric, and there's not much we can do about it."

But I'm not going to do that. To quote John Belushi (who was, incidentally, a real man and not a fucking woman): "Did we quit when the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor?"

Well, I'm not going to quit. Fuck that. One of the characteristics of the non-pussified man (and this should strike fear into the hearts of women and girly-men everywhere) is that he never quits just because the odds seem overwhelming. Omaha Beach, guys.

I want a real man as President -- not Al Gore, who had to hire a consultant to show him how to be an Alpha male, and french-kiss his wife on live TV to "prove" to the world that he was a man, when we all knew that real men don't have to do that shit.

And I want the Real Man President to surround himself with other Real Men, like Rumsfeld, and Ashcroft, and yes, Rice (who is more of a Real Man than those asswipes Colin Powell and Norman Mineta).

I want our government to be more like Dad -- kind, helpful, but not afraid to punish us when we fuck up, instead of helping us excuse our actions.

I want our government of real men to start rolling back the Nanny State, in all its horrible manifestations of over-protectiveness, intrusiveness and "Mommy Knows Best What's Good For You" regulations.

I want our culture to become more male -- not the satirical kind of male, like The Man Show, or the cartoonish figures of Stallone, Van Damme or Schwartzenegger. (Note to the Hollywood execs: We absolutely fucking loathe chick movies about feelings and relationships and all that feminine jive. We want more John Waynes, Robert Mitchums, Bruce Willises, and Clint Eastwoods. Never mind that it's simplistic -- we like simple, we are simple, we are men -- our lives are uncomplicated, and we like it that way. We Were Soldiers was a great movie, and you know why? Because you could have cut out all the female parts, and it still would have been a great movie, because it was about Real Men. Try cutting out all the female parts in a Woody Allen movie -- you'd end up with the opening and closing credits.)

I want our literature to become more male, less female. Men shouldn't buy "self-help" books unless the subject matter is car maintenance, golf swing improvement or how to disassemble a fucking Browning BAR. We don't improve ourselves, we improve our stuff.

And finally, I want men everywhere to going back to being Real Men. To open doors for women, to drive fast cars, to smoke cigars after a meal, to get drunk occasionally and, in the words of Col. Jeff Cooper, one of the last of the Real Men: "to ride, shoot straight, and speak the truth."

In every sense of the word. We know what the word "is" means.

Because that's all that being a Real Man involves. You don't have to become a fucking cartoon male, either: I'm not going back to stoning women for adultery like those Muslim assholes do, nor am I suggesting we support that perversion of being a Real Man, gangsta rap artists (those fucking pussies -- they wouldn't last thirty seconds against a couple of genuine tough guys that I know).

Speaking of rap music, do you want to know why more White boys buy that crap than Black boys do? You know why rape is such a problem on college campuses? Why binge drinking is a problem among college freshmen?

It's a reaction: a reaction against being pussified. And I understand it, completely. Young males are aggressive, they do fight amongst themselves, they are destructive, and all this does happen for a purpose.

Because only the strong men propagate.

And women know it. You want to know why I know this to be true? Because powerful men still attract women. Women, even liberal women, swooned over George Bush in a naval aviator's uniform. Donald Trump still gets access to some of the most beautiful pussy available, despite looking like a medieval gargoyle. Donald Rumsfeld, if he wanted to, could fuck 90% of all women over 50 if he wanted to, and a goodly portion of younger ones too.

And he won't. Because Rummy's been married to the same woman for fifty years, and he wouldn't toss that away for a quickie. He's a Real Man. No wonder the Euros hate and fear him.

We'd better get more like him, we'd better become more like him, because if we don't, men will become a footnote to history.

[Michele 1]

Whooooooooooooooooooo-boy.

What a load of bullshit.

Ciels-
Michele

~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek
While our hearts lie bleeding?~

[Nightingale 0]

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Whooooooooooooooooooo-boy.

What a load of bullshit.

Ciels-
Michele

yep... that is one insecure guy!

[wmw999 2,167]

The thing about the internet is that it gives a whole lot of people with some very extreme ways of stating their views a voice. It's written down, and it's accessible -- that makes it seem more popular than it is.

Kind of like the neo-Nazi stuff you find, too. I find it interesting that it's neither an American nor a European who's using all those "we's" in there.

Wendy W.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

[Remster 24]

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What a load of bullshit.

I dont knwo Michele. I dont think its all bullshit. There probably is some horse manure and pig shit in there too.....

Remster

[DShiznit 0]

I'd like to read it, but my attention span is WAY too short for that.

[Michele 1]

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I'd like to read it, but my attention span is WAY too short for that.

Here's the jist of it...

"Men used to be real men. Then women came along and stopped letting us conk them over the head and drag them around by their hair. Now men are all pussywhipped. I miss the real men."

That help?

And yes, Remster, there is a whole lot of shit floating around in there. Different kinds of feces, all mixed together. What a shit-pile.

Ciels-
Michele

~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek
While our hearts lie bleeding?~

[rehmwa 2]

Pretty quick on the gun you guys. Bill2 didn't make any statement in support or denial or analysis of the thing. He just posted it - you all are passing judgement.

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Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants

[andy2 0]

i only read about 10 words of the essay and could tell it was stupid shit. For some reason I thought of those spam emails you get that are like, "Please submit to us your credit card numbers so we can tranfer an account balance in Zaire to your account! The account is estimated at 1.2 billion dollars!"

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let my inspiration flow,
in token rhyme suggesting rhythm...

[Michele 1]

Hi, Rehma...

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Pretty quick on the gun you guys. Bill2 didn't make any statement in support or denial or analysis of the thing. He just posted it - you all are passing judgement.

I know I didn't pass any judgment on Bill....just on the piece. I don't think anyone is passing any judgment on Bill - rather, the comments are directed at the author of the article. Maybe I missed something somewhere, though...but I know I didn't make any comments about Bill.

Ciels-
Michele

~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek
While our hearts lie bleeding?~

[FliegendeWolf 0]

I apologize for not bothering to read past the fourth or fifth paragraph, but I only have room for so much tripe in my life, and no room for misogynistic tripe. Am I correct in assuming that the overall thesis of this "essay" continued to be "Remember the good old days?"

Well, there were no such days. Get over it.

A One that Isn't Cold is Scarcely a One at All

[Remster 24]

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you all are passing judgement.

On the author, you bet ya.

On bill2, not directly, but with posts like that, he sure could pass for a big hairy troll.....

Remster

[rehmwa 2]

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didn't pass any judgment on Bill2....just on the piece

I can see that.


I love a good rant regardless of the quality or lack of quality of the content (take Amazon's rant earlier - which see only went to discussion after you responded)

One paragraph on Home Improvement caught me though. Is it just me, or is that sitcom and Everybody Loves Raymond (for another example) really not funny. I mean, the characters are very very mean to the lead male. And those segments are when the canned laughter hits.

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Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants

[Michele 1]

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I can see that.

O.K., but then I'm not really clear on your original comment. Would you elaborate?

Edited: I see you did elaborate. Thanks. I still stand by my original assessment of the piece - and that is it is a piece of bullshit.

Ciels-
Michele

~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek
While our hearts lie bleeding?~

[rehmwa 2]

Elaborate - I thought you guys were slamming on the poster, not the author. You cleared it up.

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Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants

[happythoughts 0]

One of the first lessons in website promotion is posting to chat spots like rec.something.

I looked at his site. He should invest in a webmaster since he is selling products and has a paypal set up to take donations to the cause. The "I'm a eunuch and I'd like to make a pitiful cry to express my anger so here's $10..." people. There is a $16 lunchbox for sale.

One source of humor. A mug is $15, the large mug is $14.

[rehmwa 2]

Michele - Cripes - I just noticed you're posting... How are you? How did the procedure go? You were going to take time off and then set up a note.

I don't know you from Eve, but still - skydiving is a big family to me and I'm sure many others are interested. How about a separate post with what you're comfortable with for the masses?

Be well....

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Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants

[Michele 1]

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One source of humor. A mug is $15, the large mug is $14.

One independent confirmation of his apparently deepseated confusion! ROFL!!!

Ciels-
Michele

~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek
While our hearts lie bleeding?~

[Michele 1]

LOL, you are a sweetie. I put up a post called "The Positives and The Negatives..."...and I am going into the office right now - wayyyyyy too bored staring at the walls....but I doubt I'll be there for long. And I am going marketing, because I need to get some stuff into this house. So I am recovering, and making my way back to the land of the living. Thank goodness for that, you know?

Ciels-
Michele

~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek
While our hearts lie bleeding?~

[bill2 0]

On the author, you bet ya.

On bill2, not directly, but with posts like that, he sure could pass for a big hairy troll.....

Remster
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Well, thanks to all of you for not passing judgement on me. and no Remster, I'm not a troll. I read this essay a couple of days ago, and noticed that it was being mentioned on several other websites. I do think that is over the top in several places, but in a couple of others it is right on. The increasing use of Ritalin in schools these days for little boys is simply unjustified; I had 2 nephews on it simply because they could not sit quietly in grade school. Well that's common to most little boys and I don't think they should be penalized for that, at the very least they should not be drugged every day. Also, in the show Home Improvement and so many commercials, the man is always seen as completely hopeless and stupid. I cook as well as my wife, and so do many male friends of mine. I do most of the laundry in our house, and don't screw up the clothes. Men are not idiots that have to have our lives sorted out by women just so we can survive. I realize that many shows depict women as idiots also; I don't agree with that either. Too many shows/commercials run off of stereotypes, and that is wrong.

I wasn't trolling here, just putting something out for discussion. Like many other political/social discussions on this forum, there are different aspects to consider, not just one correct perspective.

[rehmwa 2]

Everybody Love Raymond - Is_not_funny. Watch it and notice that everyone is just plain MEAN to the guy. Same thing with home Improvement.

Apparently that's what's funny nowadays.


A good or funny rant is usually because it is WAY over the top. Which this one is. It really needs to be disected to sort the good from the bad. I'm not starting, this would be like dissecting an elephant.

Aww Shucks, the pretty lady called me a sweetie

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Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants

[BikerBabe 0]

blah blah blah.

what a load of crap.

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asswipes Colin Powell

Never meddle in the affairs of dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup!

[FliegendeWolf 0]

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Everybody Love Raymond - Is_not_funny. Watch it and notice that everyone is just plain MEAN to the guy. Same thing with home Improvement.

Well, nobody is tying you to the couch making you watch TV. TV isn't real life; it's TV. If you don't like it, you are free to turn it off!

A One that Isn't Cold is Scarcely a One at All

[happythoughts 0]

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Is it just me, or is that sitcom and Everybody Loves Raymond (for another example) really not funny. I mean, the characters are very very mean to the lead male. And those segments are when the canned laughter hits.

True. There is a lot of tv shows that have stupid/ineffective male roles. There is a lot of the "dumb blonde" roles out there too though.

This guy talks about history. How about every role that Suzanne Sommers has ever played? Crissy on Three's Company? Zsa Zsa Gabor on Green Acres? Lots of history.

Shows seem to have a target of derision. On the "Men Suck" (Lifetime) channel tonight... "That sorry bastard who..." However, there are other channels.

My personal pet peeve? Ross on Friends. I have never seen a man apologize for being a man like he does. He infuriates me so much that I cannot watch the show.

The only show that ever achieved fairness? Married With Children. Everybody. Men, women, kids, neighbors, feminists, non-feminists...

[Vallerina 2]

I've read this before, but it's always good for a laugh! I love it when people come out and pretend to be so "unique."

One example of that:

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Because I have fairly set views on what constitutes right and wrong, I have no difficulty in calling Bill Clinton, for example, a fucking liar and hypocrite.

Way to go, buddy! You just said the same thing that millions of people have already! We're all shocked and stunned!

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power tools -- all the things that being a man entails. All this stuff gives me pleasure.

Power tools??? He defines his manhood by talking about power tools??? Does he think that I should define my womanhood by talking about non-stick cookware? Well, if he wants to be defined by simple objects, then more power to him.

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Yes, the men are, by and large, slobs. Big fucking deal.

Really? Interesting....If someone keeps their simple life based on power tools disorderly, how can he be expected to keep organization of anything larger?

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because I didn't think I was doing anything special.

Finally! Something I agree with!!!!

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which prevent us from hunting, racing our cars and motorcycles, smoking, flirting with women at the office, getting into fistfights over women, shooting criminals and doing all the fine things which being a man entails.

Man! At least when I feel low because I have no life, I can turn to him and see what he wants to define his life by to make myself feel better! So, is he basically saying that he has no balls, and he does what he thinks society wants him to do??? He doesn't like having to pretend to be civil (he probably wasn't any good at it anyways), and now he feels that his tiny mind had been brainwashed, and he's had enough! It's time for him to go out there and make a statement at what a "man" he is! Most real men I know don't feel the need to make such a statement, but whatever floats his boat I guess.

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And finally, I want men everywhere to going back to being Real Men. To open doors for women,

Well, I'm sorry that he's a weak minded individual who does what he thinks will make him fit into society. He is definitely not a "man" for that fact alone.

There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning