ntrprnr 0 #1 May 10, 2007 The IM went like this: Hey. You there? Yeah, 'sup? I got some news News? Let me guess... Engaged? Good guess. Fuck! I was right? I mean, congratulations! That's awesome! Thanks... It's cool. I'm excited... I wanted to tell you... I'm glad you did! That's just awesome! i knew it was coming, to be honest...and we did a bit of legwork prior to announcing it officially (ie: looked a couple of venues, etc). Yeah, I figured - you guys have been together what, a year now? Yeah, just about a year Well, I'm really psyched for you! That's great to hear. And so on, and so on. I'm over her, and I'm really happy for her. I really am. Truly. So why does closure feel like I've been punched in the stomach?_______________ "Why'd you track away at 7,000 feet?" "Even in freefall, I have commitment issues." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
2fat2fly 0 #2 May 10, 2007 Now there's a "No going back" event that's beyond your control-yeah, you can be truely happy for her and still hurt. You're over her, but not completely at peace with it. Now the deep healing starts and luckily, it's not a long process. Man, you gotta get dumped a lot to have this process dialed in like I do I am not the man. But the man knows my name...and he's worried Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jkm2500 0 #3 May 10, 2007 Peter, The punch in the gut is probably the realization that it truly is over. Just be glad that you only lived with her, and didnt have kids and everything else that is involved with married life. She probably wasn't over you either, thus the IM telling you that she is engaged. Your reaction probably took her off guard, (since I don't know the whole situation) she was probably trying to get the last word in. If the break-up was amicable, and without a whole lot of drama, then most people probably believe that eventually it will work out. They carry on some level of hope that things will go back to the way that they were. Speaking from my experience, with the first ex-wife the break-up was fairly amicable and there was no drama. I was still heart-broken when she let me know that she was getting married. It was devastating because I knew that it was over. We had a kid together, and I had hoped that things would work out. Or, the other idea is. You are just a little dejected that she didn't want you. It may be a little of both. Drink a few beers, it takes the edge off the pain. Then go make some jumps. It doesn't solve the problem, but you will feel better. Now, before somebody takes my man-card away, I will be getting back to business as usual....The primary purpose of the Armed Forces is to prepare for and to prevail in combat should the need arise. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #4 May 10, 2007 I don't have an answer... but... alas... I'm sure it does suck... ScottLivin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 27 #5 May 10, 2007 She gave good head, didnt she? Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhreeZone 15 #6 May 10, 2007 Is this the hottie that I met when I was in town?Yesterday is history And tomorrow is a mystery Parachutemanuals.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ntrprnr 0 #7 May 10, 2007 No. She wasn't a relationship. dude - You were in town three months ago. If she was, and we'd since broken up and she'd met someone and gotten engaged, I'd probably be thanking my lucky stars I got out of the way of THAT train wreck. :) Just ran 5 miles. That helped. A lot. Thanks to everyone for the comments. They mean a lot._______________ "Why'd you track away at 7,000 feet?" "Even in freefall, I have commitment issues." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pop 0 #8 May 10, 2007 Bro, I feel your pain....I felt it before. 7 ounce wonders, music and dogs that are not into beer Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterblaster72 0 #9 May 10, 2007 Quote Just ran 5 miles. That helped. A lot. Over your achilles injury that fast? Way to heal man! Be humble, ask questions, listen, learn, follow the golden rule, talk when necessary, and know when to shut the fuck up. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
marks 0 #10 May 10, 2007 Quote I'm over her, and I'm really happy for her. I really am. Truly. I hear ya bro. really, I do. I swear!. I am right there with ya. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #11 May 10, 2007 I read through all this and thought, fuck me I"m in the womens forum again Go Get a lap dance pete You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #12 May 11, 2007 Quote Bro, I feel your pain....I felt it before. Yes of course, I hear you. Feel better Peter, we've all been through something similar I would bet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TylerDurden 0 #13 May 11, 2007 Hitting bottom isn't a weekend retreat. It's not a goddamn seminar. Stop trying to control everything and just let go! LET GO! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #14 May 11, 2007 I remember having a similar conversation with an ex but it was over the phone...she's now married with an adorable little girl, and her brother is still one of my best friends. Really bro, it'll pass...give it a couple days. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jewels 0 #15 May 11, 2007 I once got one of those calls . . . the night before my birthday. Argh! On the other hand, now it really is your new chapter. It'll get better. TPM Sister #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChrisL 2 #16 May 11, 2007 Quote So why does closure feel like I've been punched in the stomach? Easy. Because you are not over her and are not happy for her. Duh __ My mighty steed Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JAC 0 #17 May 11, 2007 Quote I once got one of those calls . . . the night before my birthday. Argh! On the other hand, now it really is your new chapter. It'll get better. Same thing happened to me!!! As if I wanted to here that the night before. Some peoples timing is unbelievable. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #18 May 11, 2007 Peter, that's nothing... I had an ex IM me after about a year. She just wanted to tell me she was getting married. She was getting married to one of my best friends from high school. It wasn't so bad, I wasn't still pining for her anymore. They're since divorced and my friend thinks I had a hand in it. So I lost a best bud and an ex gf. "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TypicalFish 0 #19 May 11, 2007 Quote The IM went like this: Hey. You there? Yeah, 'sup? I got some news News? Let me guess... Engaged? Good guess. Fuck! I was right? I mean, congratulations! That's awesome! Thanks... It's cool. I'm excited... I wanted to tell you... I'm glad you did! That's just awesome! i knew it was coming, to be honest...and we did a bit of legwork prior to announcing it officially (ie: looked a couple of venues, etc). Yeah, I figured - you guys have been together what, a year now? Yeah, just about a year Well, I'm really psyched for you! That's great to hear. And so on, and so on. I'm over her, and I'm really happy for her. I really am. Truly. So why does closure feel like I've been punched in the stomach? OUCH. Been there, done that. Nothing to do but power through and handle it with dignity (which you did)."I gargle no man's balls..." ussfpa on SOCNET Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jewels 0 #20 May 11, 2007 Quote Quote I once got one of those calls . . . the night before my birthday. Argh! Same thing happened to me!!! As if I wanted to here that the night before. Some peoples timing is unbelievable. At least I genuinely believe that the timing wasn't intentional. I just hadn't talked to him in about a year, so when the phone rang I thought we were just catching up (no "oh good, he's back" thoughts). Um, yeah, no. I doubt he even remembered it was my birthday, but it still sucked. I hate moments like that. At least they pass.TPM Sister #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #21 May 15, 2007 Could it be that she's letting you know the deadline is nearing and she wants you to pull a Dustin Hoffman in 'The Graduate'? Let it go Bro...she had Steak but wanted Hamburger! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jerm 0 #22 May 16, 2007 Quote I'm over her, and I'm really happy for her. I really am. Truly. i feel the same way about my ex. Quote So why does closure feel like I've been punched in the stomach? she's getting married on saturday.... i hear you, brother. Landing without injury is not necessarily evidence that you didn't fuck up... it just means you got away with it this time Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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