grasshoppergirl

There's a VAST gap between BDSM and 'vanilla'.

Heh! Nicely done. I've never been great at dealing with office douchebags/bullshit spreaders/and/or political yes men, but have learned that it's the ones who can deal with the bullshit and get away unscathed that get ahead.

^^ This. Agreed. Great post :)

I ADORE this advice :) popjumper popjumper: ex BF was 3.5 yr relationship 8 years after he died. In discussing previous relationships/history with ex BF, I told him about my past. I don't think I (or he) feel like I made him out to be a "hero" (even though he was the best person I think I'll ever know) or made him feel like he had something to "live up" to. Each person/relationship is different and I know that you can't "change" anyone nor should you try to. I think the ex BF was insecure about himself (and maybe my reluctance to commit) so my past relationship was 'convenient' to point to. I echo your wishes that I find a 'more mature guy' in the future because I'm at the point in my life where I know who I am, I like who I am, and I know what I want. I really hope to find someone who knows who he is, likes himself and knows what he wants. It certainly makes life a lot easier. Does that answer your questions? ;-) Incidentally, I wore it yesterday but not today and I was in someone's office earlier and she said 'so what's up with the bling I saw yesterday?'. LOL. Funnily enough, I got a message last night from a friend here on dz who wanted to know if I was ok... (he assumed I was upset I guess when he saw my post) so just to clarify, this was really just a matter of curiosity for me. I thought the ring was in a safety deposit box but I found it Monday while going through stuff at home. There's tons of great people here so I figured I'd post.*** Posting a pic here for TriGirl. Shortly after he died, I was going to either give to his family (wasn't practical since fam is so small) or sell and donate money to charity in his name but friends convinced me to wait on it.

Thanks for the input. I knew I'd get some good responses. Re: the lying thing, I meant like 'it's a family ring' or something like that but yeah, that's still lying. Jimmy, thanks... I hadn't thought about selling it for gear (something he totally would have supported) but I hadn't thought about selling period, so that was an interesting development :) I don't know that I'd want to get it re-set etc. since it is what it is, but I definitely wouldn't wear it on my left ring finger. So yeah, in response to jumpwally, he died in '95 and it sucks but it's the past and I've dealt with it. I hadn't even thought about it in quite some time, but I've been on an organizational kick and have been going through every room in the house, and I went through my jewelry box and some stuff I had tucked away. It seemed like such a shame to not put it on and let it sparkle a bit :) Granted, I fully admit that I over-think things but, initially didn't want to wear it because I was suspicious folks might think it was an inheritance (my mom passed away suddenly two years ago and we haven't done anything about her jewelry etc. and I know people are wondering... nosy bastards). Then I realized that most people here where I'm living (and have only lived for 4 years) don't even know much about my past so I didn't want to answer a bunch of questions. Then I laughed at myself and realized that's why I tucked it away in the first place! That's when I created the poll. HAHA! Seriously though, appreciate the input.

I haven't worn it in over 15 years so it feels weird. It seems a shame to keep it in a drawer. My ex bf used to tell me when we fought, that he could never live up to 'him' (referring to the person who gave me the ring) so in a way it feels strange to wear it (as if I'm proving my ex right; which I don't think is the case). Thx.

Good point! All she said was... ... it could be a pic of the girl(s) next to her! Heh! Well, there's a hint in the pic (necklace I always wear) plus, I think there may be one or two DZ'rs that can confirm those are indeed mine And lucky me gets to touch them all the time.

Word! So glad it's over.

Happy New Year! I took a sec during my workout this am to snap a pic. My way of sending good vibes :-)

Heh! Where was my gift wrapped squeak?

I can personally attest that Ski knows his shit when it comes to this topic :) Listen to him!

In the interest of encouraging more new submissions, I'm sharing on behalf of someone who is fit to be shared. Bonus for getting it up before Sandy strikes. (TWSS)

Today was a shit storm at work with 3 different things blowing up since 2:00 pm. Guess how I'm ending the day before I log out? I came back to admire the new submission. Thanks generous one :)

There goes my ability to concentrate at work. Yes please.

Check pic now... I had to resize which took awhile because I'm doing too many things at once!

Did anyone else notice this on the cover? Heh... it's their own version of Name that Rack! I'm tempted to submit a pic. Maybe wildcard451 can use his mad photog skills to get some good artistic shots. edited because attachment was too big (TWSS).

I knew what you meant and I know you were angry when you posted that but still, a good point to make. We're (women) definitely not all the same though. Personally, I need my space and would see a separation by distance to be unfortunate but it allows both people to continue to grow and provides opportunities for fun trips. We might be perfect for each other; some of my serious relationships haven't worked out because I DIDN'T want to be together constantly!

Strange you posted this am, I was actually thinking about you and wondering how things were going. Sorry there isn't a better update. Hang in there.

Some of the little R/C helicopters are very easy to fly, and are designed to be flown indoors. There are R/C blimps (helium) that are a blast too. It lets the winner drive the entire office crazy, which gives the others a lot of motivation to win. That's exactly what I was thinking. I'm leaning towards Helicopter. kasch no new boob picture because it wasn't your idea!

How DARE he try to have sex again with the same women they both just f*cked. Sheesh! What's wrong with people?

So along the lines of the awesome grenade launcher, (thanks kasch, I need to get one of those for myself) what do you think about a sweet remote control car or plane or something as the "trophy". I'd like people to be psyched to have it and to show people, and fun toys fit that bill much more than a trophy trophy right?

Nope, but I'm about to be an uncle! Congrats! I love being an Aunt :)

Although in most cases being naked will help you get added to the mix a little quicker. So that's the trick huh? Nudity... who would have thought?

I actually got a notice on Skype that it was his birthday (including year). It's pretty easy to get lots of birthday wishes when you're fishing! Plus, since his age is on there, I guess we kind of feel like he needs a part with cake, funny hats, and a pony. ... but he's so old I'm afraid he's going to start molding soon... he wouldn't even come out with us last night to karaoke because it was "too late". I'm sure that's just what he told you... he probably just had better plans