RoysPlayThing 0 #1 April 28, 2004 Okay, so I just would like to know from some people... Is it all pride inside someone not to come clean with their real feelings about someone else that they are attracted to, or that they really love? .. Is it the fear of another rejection, Fear of it not working out, Fear of what others will think?... Or is it just plain stupidity? shouldn't we be with someone we want and long for? Or should people just settle for second choice? And isn't it wrong for the one you feel is second choice? Do you think that it is fair to them? So my question is Why do you lie to yourself, and then make it worse by lying to an inocent "second choice"? .... Wouldn't you feel better about yourself to make it all "right" and be honest all the way around? If you don't know what I am talking about... Then you are not in this situation... But if you do (and you know who you are) ... then why do you hide behind your pride? Why do you not take the chances with love, when you take chances everyday with everything else?? Just curious.. P.S. Because of the large amounts of PM's... I have to edit to say that this has nothing to do with me and chopchop.... lol _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piisfish 135 #2 April 28, 2004 what happened ??scissors beat paper, paper beat rock, rock beat wingsuit - KarlM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casie 0 #3 April 28, 2004 ...........afraid of rejection, it's sad but soooo very true. i hear ya & know exactly what you're talking about, sometimes i get sooo mad at myself for not being honest with me, but right now my number one priority is geared toward getting my dream job i just applied for last week...........i gotta pay the bills somehow~Porn Kitty WARNING: Goldschlager causes extreme emotional outbursts! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #4 April 28, 2004 Quotewhat happened ?? Nothing happen to me.... if thats what you are asking... (not that I know of yet anyway) ... hehe .... But some of these situations are around me, and I was curious to know peeps reasons for not coming clean and living their life happily by taking chances with love... when we seem to be so brave to take chances with life in everything else. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
genoyamamoto 0 #5 April 28, 2004 Fear of rejection, fear of it not working out, fear of what others will think, stupidity... Yes we should be with someone we want and long for. edited: but what if they don't want us? Gotta go... plaything needs to spank me Feel the hate... Photos here Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wlie 0 #6 April 28, 2004 My answer to that... Well U2's Pride (In the name of love) comes to mindMy other ride is the relative wind. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #7 April 28, 2004 QuoteFear of rejection, fear of it not working out, fear of what others will think, stupidity... Yes we should be with someone we want and long for. Geno, It's okay... REALLY... I'm sure that Roy has similar feeling for you. Take the plunge, confess your undying love for him. It'll be ok, REALLY.....I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. eat sushi, get smoochieTTK#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #8 April 28, 2004 No lummy, you're wrong. Shannon & Geno are secretly dating, but Geno wants to date Iwana. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
genoyamamoto 0 #9 April 28, 2004 I wasn't really thinking of him but I hear he has a thing for guys with green and yellow jumpsuits. Gotta go... plaything needs to spank me Feel the hate... Photos here Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #10 April 28, 2004 Okay... well I confess... I have done this also, but I am just a whimp.... and I'm sure it has been done to me. I would much rather a guy tell me and leave me ... and go after his dream, than to be in a relationship with someone that feels I am his consolation prize.... And I am not the kind of girl to look back... I would walk forward and find "the one" _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #11 April 28, 2004 Wow Lany, you brought the computer in the tub with ya? ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #12 April 28, 2004 QuoteOr should people just settle for second choice? And isn't it wrong for the one you feel is second choice? Love is not everyone's top priority....or even in the top 5. Whoever they would be with would be "second choice." If love is a priority, and they're with a "second choice," that just makes them stupid.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #13 April 28, 2004 QuoteWow Lany, you brought the computer in the tub with ya? Yeah! I have lots of talents people don't know about. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #14 April 28, 2004 QuoteNo lummy, you're wrong. Shannon & Geno are secretly dating, but Geno wants to date Iwana. Hmmmm well that would explain some things then. For example, why the two of them were pricing matching jump suits and rigs. Geno wants Iwana? Well, Donald dumped her a while ago for Marla, so I guess she's available. QuoteI wasn't really thinking of him but I hear he has a thing for guys with green and yellow jumpsuits. don't forget the purple. and I hear Green n yellow makes your bootay look tighterI promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. eat sushi, get smoochieTTK#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #15 April 28, 2004 You have your opinions.... But I was looking for answers to the ones that wanted to respond to the questions at hand. Thanks anyway._______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
genoyamamoto 0 #16 April 28, 2004 QuoteNo lummy, you're wrong. Shannon & Geno are secretly dating, but Geno wants to date Iwana. LOL yeah it was like so secret that I didn't even know about it. No wonder it was going so smoothly. Gotta go... plaything needs to spank me Feel the hate... Photos here Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyyhi 0 #17 April 28, 2004 Lany, this is a good question. Most of us have been in a situation where we loved someone but were unable to speak to that love or something (some unknown force) held us back from pursuing that love. Fear. . .yes, Pride. . .yes, all those emotions play on you. And of course then we question whether our feelings are valid or not. Its normal to have these fears. But it really is just as nuts to settle for a second choice. Only when your love becomes your first choice is it worth staying together over.________________________________________ Take risks not to escape life… but to prevent life from escaping. ~ A bumper sticker at the DZ FGF #6 Darcy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #18 April 28, 2004 QuoteIs it the fear of another rejection, Fear of it not working out, Fear of what others will think? I think it is out of respect for my values. I am taken and they know they it wouldn't do any good. Unless they can pack and cook... then I'll think about it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
