sartre 0 #1 July 20, 2006 A couple of recent threads got me to wondering.... Say you're married to the person you consider to be your "soulmate". "The One". You're happy with the current state of your relationship. You've got the nice house, the cars, the kids, the pets. One day your spouse tells you he/she is no longer in love with you. But they are willing to stay since you guys get along for the most part, and it would tear so many things apart to split up. They are willing to live a facade until the kids go off to college. What do you think you would do? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StreetScooby 5 #2 July 20, 2006 That's a hard question. Is she looking to fuck other people in the meantime?We are all engines of karma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #3 July 20, 2006 Try to fuck the wife ? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #4 July 20, 2006 Hmmm....let's say he/she promises to be faithful. (But not necessarily to continue to have sex with you). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StreetScooby 5 #5 July 20, 2006 Quote Hmmm....let's say he/she promises to be faithful. (But not necessarily to continue to have sex with you). This sounds nonlinear. Nonlinear can be bad. Not even hand jobs?We are all engines of karma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #6 July 20, 2006 Oh like a normal marriage. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #7 July 20, 2006 Not a road to go down. I know somebody in a loveless situation. Has been making excuses for why they are still together and is basically miserable and the situation is very uncomfortable for family and friends. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #8 July 20, 2006 Oh geez, you think of way too many options. Hand jobs are negotiable. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #9 July 20, 2006 QuoteHmmm....let's say he/she promises to be faithful. (But not necessarily to continue to have sex with you). Sounds like an open marriage would be a better option. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 6 #10 July 20, 2006 First...dig a deep well in the basement.... ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #11 July 20, 2006 But the question is, what would you do? What would you want if put in the situation? Stay with someone who doesn't love you, but you love and don't want to lose? Or give them their freedom to leave because being with someone who doesn't love you is too much to take? Or look at it as a sacrifice for the sake of the kids, providing you can continue to be friendly and respectful towards each other. I think I'm the one way overthinking this now! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MF42 0 #12 July 20, 2006 Never been married, so it's really a theoretical exercise... After the initial pain, I'd realize that her plan to stay together for at least a couple years gives us time to work on the marriage, find out what she thinks went wrong, determine whether or not the problem is something that can be fixed. I'd try to get her to talk about her perceptions, find out how they differ from mine, and use that as a starting point to form a plan for repairing the marriage. On the other hand, if the loss of her love was due to her falling in love with someone else, if she had actively cheated on me, then it's time to divorce even though it'll be damaging to everybody involved. Matt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
soulshine 0 #13 July 20, 2006 I would leave. I would not spend my time, energy, and love on someone that was not willing to do the same for me. I would rather be alone than married and living a lie. Bombing for peace is like fucking for virginity! ~DEVIOUS BEEF~~FGF #69~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladydyver 0 #14 July 20, 2006 If i were in the situation I would "cut away." But, thats just me.DPH # 2 "I am not sure what you are suppose to do with that, but I don't think it is suppose to flop around like that." ~Skootz~ I have a strong regard for the rules.......doc! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StreetScooby 5 #15 July 20, 2006 Quote what would you do? Me? I'd live in a tent and teach AFF, preferably to aggressive young city women with money. Can't get blood from a stone (...or something like that )We are all engines of karma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 6 #16 July 20, 2006 QuoteQuote what would you do? Me? I'd live in a tent and teach AFF, preferably to aggressive young city women with money. *** Ding Ding Ding...no more calls please! WE HAVE W I N N E R ! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StreetScooby 5 #17 July 20, 2006 SHHHUUUUHHH!!!!We are all engines of karma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #18 July 20, 2006 Love (to me) means doing what makes the other person happy. Even if what they want to be happy means not you, sometimes you have to let them go. Staying together for the sake of the kids is a bullshit reason. Kids are better off with two happy parents in separate houses than two miserable, bitter, angry ones in one. Being "friends" in this scenario is destined to fail badly.Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #19 July 20, 2006 If you cant be with the one you love.......love the one you're with. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StreetScooby 5 #20 July 20, 2006 Quote Staying together for the sake of the kids is a bullshit reason. Kids are better off with two happy parents in separate houses than two miserable, bitter, angry ones in one. Being "friends" in this scenario is destined to fail badly. Uhm, just out of curiousity? How many kids do you have?We are all engines of karma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 6 #21 July 20, 2006 QuoteQuote Staying together for the sake of the kids is a bullshit reason. Kids are better off with two happy parents in separate houses than two miserable, bitter, angry ones in one. Being "friends" in this scenario is destined to fail badly. Uhm, just out of curiousity? How many kids do you have? *** How many ya NEED?! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #22 July 20, 2006 You are full of snappy one liners tonight!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StreetScooby 5 #23 July 20, 2006 Quote How many ya NEED?! True. My point was, once you reach a point where you have kids with your partner, that's a big step. So, get through the hall sex phase (...pass each other in the hall, one says Fuck You, the other says FUCK YOU), and move back towards hand jobs. Actually, I can't imagine leaving my kids. If my wife ever did do that to me, I would absolutely live in a tent and teach AFF. And never look back.We are all engines of karma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MF42 0 #24 July 20, 2006 I'm frankly shocked that nobody else has said they'd even consider trying to find out what the problem is and fix it. I was engaged to a woman who decided she didn't want to marry me anymore. I didn't just say, "Oh? Well, that's that, I suppose. Bye." I talked to her, tried to find out why she called it off, sought counseling. Why would you give up so easily? Matt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #25 July 20, 2006 QuoteQuote Staying together for the sake of the kids is a bullshit reason. Kids are better off with two happy parents in separate houses than two miserable, bitter, angry ones in one. Being "friends" in this scenario is destined to fail badly. Uhm, just out of curiousity? How many kids do you have? 0, and don't want any, but I am very familiar with this situation. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
