windcatcher 0 #51 March 7, 2012 Well as a Christian I believe God forgives us and gives us a new slate, when we give our lives to Him. I'm able to forgive myself believing a loving God has forgiven me first :) Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 622 #52 March 7, 2012 Why you gotta shit that crap out into the bonfire? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
killler 2 #53 March 7, 2012 There is a book that was given to me by a fellow vet that really helped me.... Further Down the Road less Traveled.... One simple line changed my outlook on forgiving those that wronged me... " we forgive them, To set us free.... " Now I'm not saying it's easy to do, But as long as you refuse to forgive them, you are doomed to let them live in your head and heart .... We forgive them so that we may move on in life.... killler... edit to add.... I don't believe in any god or higher power.... my life is worth no more or less then any other life be it man or mouse..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #54 March 7, 2012 Quote Why you gotta shit that crap out into the bonfire? Because he asked for valid suggestions and it has worked for many people. Understanding human depravity can help you understand why we do the things we do, and allows us the ability to see not only why we should forgive, but how to forgive. Shah also alluded to religion when he said he was thinking about going to "a house of warship." Funny you didn't mention anything about his little bash against religion...Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 622 #55 March 7, 2012 I've made the decision to stop replying to trolls that's why. No matter. This IS bonfire. It's religion free here. Make yourself comfy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #56 March 7, 2012 killler Thank you, I will take this to heart. I may have to learn to forgive to be free to forgive myself. Thank youLife through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #57 March 7, 2012 Quotekilller Thank you, I will take this to heart. I may have to learn to forgive to be free to forgive myself. Thank you Sometimes I don't know if you're serious or just trolling or wtf...but this is good. I'm just hoping you'll see that if you forgive her, then you really don't have to forgive yourself...if all you've done is give your heart to this woman, then I think it's ridiculous to forgive yourself for being generous. By doing that you're basically telling yourself to be a selfish asshole and will never give another woman a chance to appreciate that generosity and rock your world...Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #58 March 7, 2012 Coreece, When I troll it's obvious and is designed to get lots of hits. Haven't done that since...god...last year when I had a thread titled "I like to watch dwarf porn". This one is sincere I am in a bit of a pickle and as much as it will pain me to do so I may have to forgive the person who wronged me and betrayed my trust. I have no idea how or even if it's possible but I have no choice and I have to do it. I may be a prisoner of my financial situation W/R to my condo but at least I don't have to be a prisoner of in my mind and of my hate. Again everyone thank you. I promise I will get better and will be back trolling with wonderful thread like Dr. Shah and fat engineering chick jokes.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sxc 0 #59 March 7, 2012 Just yesterday I read an article about leadership skills you can learn from Captain Kirk. It was entertaining but had some good points in it. Here is one that stuck with me and you might find useful. There comes a time in your life when following your passion isn't viable anymore. When that happens, no matter how painful it is, you need to blow up the "Enterprise". That is, change what isn't working and embark on a new path. even if it means having to live on a Klingon ship for a while. Not forgiving her is not working for you. Being bitter and angry is no longer viable. Change something. Blow up the Enterprise. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 6 #60 March 7, 2012 Change something. Blow up the Enterprise. Burn The Ships...http://successsecretsatkempskorner.blogspot.com/2007/09/burn-ships.html When there is no going back, failure is not an option! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gonzalesna 0 #61 March 7, 2012 Quote I've made the decision to stop replying to trolls that's why. No matter. This IS bonfire. It's religion free here. Make yourself comfy. Budda would not be pleased to hear such blasphemies.Some people refrain from beating a dead horse. Personally, I find a myriad of entertainment value when beating it until it becomes a horse-smoothie. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterrig 1 #62 March 7, 2012 I believe, just about everyone does or has done something they are not at all proud of. We put it in the backs of our minds and move-on. As it happens, that 'thing' rears it's ugly head and we shove it back where it was. Like Airtwardo said... 'It's the past' you just have to leave it there and see to it you don't repeat whatever it was. That's how we learn, by our mistakes. It's how we handle things from then on that matters. Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gonzalesna 0 #63 March 7, 2012 I live my life by 1 rule... Fuck it or Fuck it. I like to leave myself options. Some people refrain from beating a dead horse. Personally, I find a myriad of entertainment value when beating it until it becomes a horse-smoothie. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #64 March 7, 2012 Quote Change something. Blow up the Enterprise. What a great idea! I'll blow up the condo! I wonder if the banks are ok with that? SXC, where is that article? Sounds like a fun read? Can you please link it?Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gonzalesna 0 #65 March 7, 2012 Quote Quote Change something. Blow up the Enterprise. What a great idea! I'll blow up the condo! I wonder if the banks are ok with that? SXC, where is that article? Sounds like a fun read? Can you please link it? Hi, yes, FBI? Yeah, I'd like to report a persian guy that calls himself Shah talking about blowing up some condo...Some people refrain from beating a dead horse. Personally, I find a myriad of entertainment value when beating it until it becomes a horse-smoothie. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #66 March 7, 2012 Gentleman of Iranian origin - threatens to blow something up .... More at Ten (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #67 March 7, 2012 Quote Quote Quote Change something. Blow up the Enterprise. What a great idea! I'll blow up the condo! I wonder if the banks are ok with that? SXC, where is that article? Sounds like a fun read? Can you please link it? Hi, yes, FBI? Yeah, I'd like to report a persian guy that calls himself Shah talking about blowing up some condo... Ha ha! Funny part...if you knew the field I worked in and what I was very good at....the FBI would be on me like white on rice! But yeah, i wish i could in effect walk away from my enterprise.... I think I will just have to forgive her first and do my time and then walk. Really guys I mean it! Thank you!Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #68 March 7, 2012 Bollocks you beat me (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gonzalesna 0 #69 March 7, 2012 Quote Bollocks you beat me Shhh... later. Not in front of the children. Leave the kinky stuff for behind closed doors.Some people refrain from beating a dead horse. Personally, I find a myriad of entertainment value when beating it until it becomes a horse-smoothie. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterrig 1 #70 March 7, 2012 Quote I live my life by 1 rule... Fuck it or Fuck it. I like to leave myself options. The 'fuck-it' thing just never worked for me. There are times, I wish I could say that. Options are good! That's one thing about us humans, we can make choices through a thought process Chuck. Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gonzalesna 0 #71 March 7, 2012 here's everyone's answer... http://www.thinkgeek.com/books/humor/8e6c/images/2070/Some people refrain from beating a dead horse. Personally, I find a myriad of entertainment value when beating it until it becomes a horse-smoothie. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterrig 1 #72 March 7, 2012 Quote here's everyone's answer... http://www.thinkgeek.com/books/humor/8e6c/images/2070/ Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ron 7 #73 March 7, 2012 QuoteIf I can't forgive myself maybe I can forget? Well, if you are as smart as you claim to be.... I doubt you will forget before senility kicks in. I'll type this knowing damn good and well you are just going to ignore it.... But hey, I have the time and a keyboard. First, your posts all seem like pity parties..... You always cry about what *happened TO you*... You have to drop that. You give a thinly veiled story about how it is you, but then go on and on about HER being the reason. Fucking stop. As long as you go looking for pity, you will not be able to see anything else. Second you need to realize that EVERYONE has had their heart stomped on by someone. Your situation is nothing special even if you can't see that. One of the best things one of my buddies ever did for me was ask me how old I was when my heart had just been torn out by some woman. When I replied, he told me that if my life was going to be anything like his... that I would fall in love and have my heart ripped out at least three more times by the time I was his age...... Sounds like fucked up 'advice', but it was also true. Third you need to realize that possessions are just crap. Buying more crap will not make you emotionally happy. It is a quick high that fades just as fast as it came and leaves you feeling worse since you 'failed' again. Forth.. We ALL FAIL. Get used to it. Trying means failing at times. I wanted to be a Golden Knight, I didn't make it. I wanted to try out for Airspeed, I didn't make it. I wanted to be a World Champion, sure as hell looks like I didn't make it and turning 40 this year pretty much means my chances are closer to zero than 100. Hell, Thomas Edison failed 6,000 times to make a light bulb. While failing sucks, what matters is if you pick yourself up and start over or you sit and wallow in self pity. Fifth you can only control you and your emotions... You can't control events and you sure as hell can't control other peoples actions (Like I really wish you would read and heed this.... But I can only present it to you)... YOU have to CHOOSE your life. Sixth you might just need professional help.... And even if you don't need it, it is not going to hurt anything. GET SOME. You need to get over your feelings that it is a sign of weakness or that it means you are a failure... Weak people do not do uncomfortable things and winners don't avoid difficult struggles. This is the time for you to decide if you are going to allow yourself to be a pathetic loser that sees himself as the helpless victim about something he claims he can't control.... Or are you going to own your own life? I'd choose to own my life and not be its bitch....... You can too. Even if you don't make it... You can get pretty close if you don't puss out (see attached and link). http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1-6LB5K77X4"No free man shall ever be debarred the use of arms." -- Thomas Jefferson, Thomas Jefferson Papers, 334 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #74 March 7, 2012 Ron Thank you and yes I did read what you wrote and paid attention.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ron 7 #75 March 7, 2012 Quote Ron Thank you and yes I did read what you wrote and paid attention. Don't TELL me you paid attention SHOW me you paid attention. What are you going to do tomorrow that will change your life tomorrow? It does not have to be big, but it needs to be something and it needs to be NOW."No free man shall ever be debarred the use of arms." -- Thomas Jefferson, Thomas Jefferson Papers, 334 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
