true love: question for men

[skymama 35]

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Don't listen to Angelfish. She has never known true love.

Hmmm...you just registered and that's your first post? You must be a bitter ex-boyfriend.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[BounceBoy 0]

No, I just didn't see how anyone could compare someone who cares about another to a stalker.

[RkyMtnHigh 0]

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If I found someone who could love and want just me, I would never even consider
having sex with or being with another man for the rest of my life.

But is there really such a man out there? Are there men that actually agree?
Or does a majority disagree?

Your perfect match is out there. Be patient. I promise it'll be worth the waitFor so many years, I've been trying to force a square peg in a round hole and it just doesn't work and leads to so much heartache.
He'll appear when you're not looking for him and he'll love you unconditionally.

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[kbordson 8]

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Your perfect match is out there. Be patient. I promise it'll be worth the waitFor so many years, I've been trying to force a square peg in a round hole and it just doesn't work and leads to so much heartache.
He'll appear when you're not looking for him and he'll love you unconditionally.

As mentioned in my earlier post - I believe in true love
Totally agree with RMH.... he's out there. And in time, hopefully antifnsocial will find him. I usta be one to give it lip service... "True Love".... Fairy taie beliefs, oh yeah - it exists, blah blah blah.
Until it really hit me (and then you know that whatever you were feeling before is nothing in comparision)

I don't know if it's phermones, spiritual, true anam cara, or what... but when the connection is made, it is truly like no other relationship. Those stupid sappy movies (City of Angels, Meet Joe Black, Jerry McQuire.... ) make more sense. And you realize that it's bigger than you... whatever time you get with him is worth giving it all up for- and it's not a pathologic diagnosis sort of thing... it's a realization that the connection is more important than the petty things of everyday life. That despite leaving the toilet seat up or not putting the dirty clothes in the hamper or whatever little battles, that the RELATIONSHIP goes way beyond the daily things, even way beyond life as we might understand it....

But then this thread was started to ask the guys, and although several had made comments about long term relationships and successful marraiges - it doesn't really answer the question on TRUE LOVE.... do you feel this too? Or is it just some estrogen associated state of psychosis?

[HUSHPUPPY 0]

But is there really such a man out there? Are there men that actually agree?
Or does a majority disagree?

[mouth 0]

I couldn't help but laugh at reading this since a girlfriend and I were talking about the same thing over a bottle or two of wine last night. She has found her husband's online personal ad (he gave her his email password to check his mail) after 15 years of marriage and is devistated.

I seems it all comes down to communication and trust.

Do you talk about what you want? I know even as talkative as I am I sometimes find it hard to ASK for something in a relationship I guess because I don't want my SO to feel obligated to do something... I'd rather them just do it because they want to. I think being thoughtful is something that a guy either is or he isn't. I think communication has to be a key factor in any relationship so I keep working on that one.

Trust is the second big key for me. Can I trust you? Can you trust me? If you want to be with me then show it. If you are actively looking elsewhere I'd rather you just out and say "hey, I'm not happy with this" and tell me WHY. If we can't resolve it then time to move on but at least we will have tried to work through it rather than quitting.

This bring up the question of is "Personal ads" or "porn sites" or "dinner with a friend" or "casual sex" breaking trust? I guess we all have to figure out what we are willing to tolerate.

I think men and women are both capable of being honest and faithful if they CHOOSE to be that way. Life is full of choices.

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Hot Mama
At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit.

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[f1freak 0]

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I couldn't help but laugh at reading this since a girlfriend and I were talking about the same thing over a bottle or two of wine last night. She has found her husband's online personal ad (he gave her his email password to check his mail) after 15 years of marriage and is devistated.

I seems it all comes down to communication and trust.

Do you talk about what you want? I know even as talkative as I am I sometimes find it hard to ASK for something in a relationship I guess because I don't want my SO to feel obligated to do something... I'd rather them just do it because they want to. I think being thoughtful is something that a guy either is or he isn't. I think communication has to be a key factor in any relationship so I keep working on that one.

Trust is the second big key for me. Can I trust you? Can you trust me? If you want to be with me then show it. If you are actively looking elsewhere I'd rather you just out and say "hey, I'm not happy with this" and tell me WHY. If we can't resolve it then time to move on but at least we will have tried to work through it rather than quitting.

This bring up the question of is "Personal ads" or "porn sites" or "dinner with a friend" or "casual sex" breaking trust? I guess we all have to figure out what we are willing to tolerate.

I think men and women are both capable of being honest and faithful if they CHOOSE to be that way. Life is full of choices.

I was going to just try to take the best points from your post...
But is's just right on.....
It's all about the communication, and trust. not being afraid to let the other know when something bug's you....
we are all human, and i know for sure i'm not perfect, and I need to be told sometimes when something bothers you so i can either do something about it or let you know that I'm not willing to change that.....
I wish i were a psychic, (i'd have my own 900 number....) but i'm not....
Trust is another thing, I am no saint.... i have lied to many times..... I think a lot of why people lie while in relationships is because they dont truly trust the other person to accept their shortcomings or imperfections.... i'll be the first to raise my hand and say that i'm so guilty of that. this is all about breaking down the walls that we build around us so we dont get "hurt"..... but the thing is, while the wall's are up they also keep you from seeing what is really going on out there..... Untill you can are willing to turn "me" into "we" and risk the chance of being truly hurt.... I don't think you can find true love..... but hey..... this is all a work in progress for me, i'll test the theory someday.,......
ok, enough serious stuff for me......

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[VanillaSkyGirl 6]

LMAO!!!

God, that was funny...

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[Angelfish 0]

I always knew sisters are the most optimistic when it comes to love and the thought of the "Perfect Man."

That pic was absolutely funny!!! Good find. ROFL!!

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[Snowwhite 0]

I have a niece who is cute, petite, funny, smart. She only dates losers. When a really nice guy asks her out, she finds a million things wrong with him. Stupid things, like 'his nose is too pointy'. But when the stalker/sadistic nutcase invites her out, she falls head over heals. What is with that?

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[airtwardo 6]

The PERFECT man!!!

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[Smeger 0]

Join the club, we got T-shirts.

[Angelfish 0]

There ya go... He IS well-rounded!!!! What more can a woman want?

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[JoeyRamone 0]

Hell yes, not to be a jerk but i think that is a stupid question. You must be hanging with a bunch of jerks. A lot of good men out in the world, just do not look too hard and he will come to you.