Ashtanga 0 #1 July 22, 2005 I have a serious crush on a lady that works for the same corporation I do. Although at another office location in the same city I live in. I have heard from sources that she is single and I would love to take her to dinner but I can't work up the nerve to call her. I am thinking of sending her flowers with a note that says something like ... I would like to get to know you better. Call me if your interested. Include my phone number. Do you think this is coming across strong or is this alright to do? Thanks for any replies. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Buried 0 #2 July 22, 2005 since when to ladies like flowers? I'd say.. save some money and just talk with her Where is my fizzy-lifting drink? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #3 July 22, 2005 I would just call her. Spit it out man! The flowers would be pretty cool though. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #4 July 22, 2005 I'd say that's a hair too strong. Especially since everyone would ask her where the flowers came from, and she'd have to tell them. I always get embarassed when I get flowers at work, although I appreciate the sentiment. I agree with Zach. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #5 July 22, 2005 Have you talked to her before? Does she know who you are? Flowers may be a little too much right off the bat. I know if I got flowers from some random guy, I would be flattered, but in the back of my mind it would also freak me out a little. That's really putting yourself out there on the line right up front. If you start it out that way and say she is into you, do you feel like you would continually have to keep topping what you've done before? I truly think flowers are for when you are already intimate with someone and it's a special way to let them know that you are thinking about them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ashtanga 0 #6 July 22, 2005 QuoteHave you talked to her before? Does she know who you are? We have met. We were in a meeting together yesterday and talked. I get all nervous around her and I can't even remember my name let alone ask her out. This is how I know I really like her. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 35 #7 July 22, 2005 I'd skip the flowers and just call her. Ask her out for a drink and then if it is going well it can lead to dinner. If it isn't going well, you can always skip out before dinner time. That way you don't spend 3 hours trying to come up with witty and interesting things to say if it isn't going well and you save a little money too!She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sharimcm 0 #8 July 22, 2005 No flowers right now. Maybe ask her for informal lunch. That's what my buddy did... He's now married to her. "I had a dude tip his black cowboy hat to me after I provided him with a condom outside my hotel room at 3-something in the morning." -myself Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rebecca 0 #9 July 22, 2005 Ditto. Flowers rock after about the second date, especially if you've figured out what she likes. If you're already on comfortable speaking terms, I'd say go with the phone call. Be careful about just springing it on her - not everyone handles cold-calls well. Warm up with a little flirting to gague her reaction. If there's a bar or coffee shop near her office, say something to the effect of: "I'm going to be in that area - if you're free after work, I think it would be fun to grab a drink together." This doesn't put her in a spot. An after-work drink is casual enough, but if it goes well, you can always proceed with dinner. If no sparks, there's also no lost face and no weirdness. you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #10 July 22, 2005 Yes, I agree with Andrea, just call her and ask her out after work for drinks. That way you know right off if she's interested and you've saved your money if she's not!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ashtanga 0 #11 July 22, 2005 I am all about spoiling the ones I like with flowers, etc. I know she knows me and I was just thinking that this would be a way to tell her I LIKE YOU. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rebecca 0 #12 July 22, 2005 Great minds... I thought my reply was getting in right behind Kelly's! you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Buried 0 #13 July 22, 2005 QuoteAsk her out for a drink and that's the ticket - after work drinks or coffee. good call Where is my fizzy-lifting drink? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bbarnhouse 0 #14 July 22, 2005 QuoteI am all about spoiling the ones I like with flowers B2 looks around...well I don't see any flowers! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #15 July 22, 2005 That's really sweet and all, but let's make sure that the feeling is mutual and that she LIKES YOU TOO before putting yourself out there on the line or she is feeling obligated to go out with you because you bought her flowers... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 35 #16 July 22, 2005 QuoteI am all about spoiling the ones I like with flowers, etc. I know she knows me and I was just thinking that this would be a way to tell her I LIKE YOU. That's great, just spoil her after you've gone out a couple of times. Sometimes too much too soon is a little creepy. All the women are telling you not to send them yet. Listen to us! She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ashtanga 0 #17 July 22, 2005 QuoteB2 looks around...well I don't see any flowers! Betsy, I use to just hump your leg to show you I liked you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #18 July 22, 2005 QuoteI know she knows me and I was just thinking that this would be a way to tell her I LIKE YOU. I hate to be anything resembling a "rules" girl, but this is not necessarily a good thing/idea/practice. Be a bit more mysterious. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rebecca 0 #19 July 22, 2005 QuoteI am all about spoiling the ones I like with flowers, etc. I know she knows me and I was just thinking that this would be a way to tell her I LIKE YOU. It's an incredibly sweet thought, with incredibly sweet and straightforward intentions. If you're not SURE she'll love it though, wait until you are. Some women have different feelings and attitudes about flowers. If you can't stand it and you simply MUST give her petals, I'd say wait at least until the first formal date. you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ashtanga 0 #20 July 22, 2005 QuoteAll the women are telling you not to send them yet. Listen to us! Ok, Mama. Mom's knows best. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bbarnhouse 0 #21 July 22, 2005 QuoteBetsy, I use to just hump your leg to show you I liked you I know! Just like a Louisiana Leg Hound...once they start, it's just best to let 'em finish! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airgirl24 0 #22 July 22, 2005 how bout just sending one flower....not a rose, but something simple yet sweet like a tulip, carnation, or a lilly....and you could say something like "a beautiful boquet has to start with one simple flower"...and maybe just ask her to coffee first. you can be suprisingly sweet with out being overbearing....its not hard to do. and ladies do love flowers....*i favor white carnations lol they may have given me life but skydiving gives me breath ..katie.. http://community.webshots.com/user/goalie85 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ashtanga 0 #23 July 22, 2005 I wasn't going to send roses. Just a basket. edited just because... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #24 July 22, 2005 Too cutesy. That looks like a V-Day gift from an established BF to me. I mean, don't get me wrong - it's adorable. Just not appropriate. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterrig 1 #25 July 22, 2005 QuoteQuoteBetsy, I use to just hump your leg to show you I liked you I know! Just like a Louisiana Leg Hound...once they start, it's just best to let 'em finish! ______________________________ Also, faking an orgasm, adds a nice touch! Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
