happythoughts 0 #1 June 14, 2007 What is the definition for that? Three friends, "We'd like you to stop doing meth." Your SO, "It's skydiving or us." "All you spend your money on is partying and motorcycles." What is the dividing line on this stuff? "If you want me in your life, I want you to..." "If you want me in your life, you'd better..." "It's better for you..." (according to them) When is it compromise? When is it control? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #2 June 14, 2007 Personally, I don't deliver an ultimatum unless I'm 100% ready to carry through. I would never ask someone to give up something like skydiving, or whatever passion they have. That passion for that thing is part of what makes that person who they are, and it's not right of me to want to take it away from them. When it comes down to them doing something that is harming them, and affecting the quality of their life and mine (and my daughter's), then I believe in giving someone a chance to make it right, but then I am willing to move on if it doesn't happen. (And I have). I don't consider that controlling, but maybe some do. I just consider it taking care of myself. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Krip 2 #3 June 14, 2007 Give up meth? Non negotiable goota give it up SO skydiving or us: depends on the SO, lots of stuff to do besides jumping. good SO might be hard to find Spending money?depends who money it is, if your poolers or splitters. Just my opinion and don't mean squat Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #4 June 14, 2007 When it's best for THEM, it's control. When it's best for YOU, it's still fucked up. My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
