Radiance

Well, I guess I'd be within my rights to do so, as he hasn't made any commitments to me. It's "one day at a time", as he is wont to say. But I am not actively looking for something "better". As I say, what we have is nice. I think, with Valentine's Day and all, I just got a little stupid. He told me yesterday about a mutual friend who'd just met a woman and was sure he was "madly in love" with her. I guess I was having a feel sorry for me moment, which is really stupid, since I know what a good thing I have. Tonight a friend asked me, "What if you met someone who did fall madly in love with you and wanted you to marry him?" I had to respond that we'd have to split up, because that's not anything I'm looking for. So then I have to ask myself, is there really a problem here? We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

She's older than me, taller than me, and married. And she disapproves of skydiving. But I'd be happy to give you her number if you're still interested.

What? What about the sea shells?!!!!!!! We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

Good point. But remember, I am a girl. That's always a danger...am I more interested in "winning him over" than I am in figuring out whether or not I want to win him over? Good food for thought. We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

Well, that's a very distinct possibility. Which is perhaps why I think it works so well that we spend such a limited amount of time together. We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

Absolutely nothing. Really. My favorite reply so far! We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

I know from your posts that that's not true. As for having my mind made up, I truly don't. I'm not unhappy in the situation. And it is more than just sex. I was/am just curious though, to understand the guys' take on the whole situation. Doesn't mean I'll run out and do anything about it, but I already know what my girlfriends would say. I wanted boy advice from a boy. However, I do appreciate very much what you women have to say as well. Please feel free to comment.

What do you mean, "too"? I don't make him sammiches. He makes me sammiches. Then I reward him with crazy sex. It's a win/win for me. We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

When I asked him if he'd freak out if I told him I loved him, he said, "well, yes, kind of." I've told him a couple of times, "Well, I don't care if you're freaked out, I do love you." He'll hug me and say, "I'm ok with that." I know the solution. Jump more often. That ALWAYS works. We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

We've both been around the block a few times I NEVER want to get married. Been there, done that, wasn't particularly good at it, don't want a do-over. EVER. You're right, we both have the perfect arrangement, in that we are compatible emotionally, intellectually, sexually, and are on the same page as to both liking our together time as well as our apart time. I don't feel the need to call him several times a day, nor vice versa. I do have it pretty good. That's why I can't figure out why I'm getting hung up on the L thing. Perhaps Im just envious of those who "have it all"- I have a couple of girlfriends who's SO's are obviously so in love with them. That would be nice. And my question is, am I cheating myself out of finding that, or am I foolish to give up the great thing I already have? Hell, I'd date him just cause he's so good in bed, even if I didn't feel the way I do about him. Now THAT'S a guy's view point for sure! We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

He's 45, I'm not that far behind. So, when you did fall in love with someone, how long had you dated before you came to the realization? We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

If you are thinking about your options just because he has not said the words “ I love you” I have a feeling you might not know what love is your self. (Sorry if that sounds harsh) No I'm not offended, you may very well be right. I begin to wonder if I ever really have been "in love" or am even capable of it. Well, maybe HE'S more in tune with his emotions than I am with mine. Seems like I'm getting hung up on three little words that, you're right, wouldn't change anything. We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

I know, huh!!!! That's why I'm asking you guys for your input. Which works for me just fine. Actually, he makes the sammiches, I don't cook. Maybe that's my problem, huh? . Yes. Besides . . . Who says he doesn't? Well, he says he doesn't. I'm simply taking his word for it. Maybe the answer is he should lie, say "I love you", and change nothing else. I'd be happy then. We women are just so freaking dumb about these things. Or should I say maybe I am...I shouldn't generalize.

Oh boy, here I go. I hope this isn't the useless noise Sangiro is asking us to refrain from. And I really hope I don't get completely skewered. But I find myself a little confused about the workings of the male mind, and I'd like to hear some of the guys' viewpoints for clarification. So..... I have been dating someone exclusively for around 6 months. Neither of us wants to pursue marriage, or living together. We see each other 2-3 times a week, sometimes just a quick lunch during the week, and generally more time together on the weekend. I am very happy with the amount of time we spend together. I am happy with the relationship, in general. Now here comes the "but".....I feel like I love him. Not in the "oh, I want more of your time and attention, maybe we can make plans for the future" sense, but just that, as a person, I love him and respect him and value him. He, on the other hand, says he would be "freaked out" if I told him I loved him. Even though I've explained that I love him, but I am not looking to change our relationship in any way. He tells me he "cares deeply" for me, and often will say, "one of the things I love about you is...." Here's my confusion. I don't want "more", but shouldn't he be able to know by now whether or not I'm someone he loves? Or does he have a completely different sense of what saying, "I love you" might entail? It was his idea to be exclusive, and I'm wondering, am I doing myself a disservice? Should I be keeping all of my options open because maybe there is someone out there who would "love" me? I'm sounding crazy here, I know. I want to be loved, but I want to remain very independent. I don't want marriage,or even to have to see someone every day. What I have is a pretty perfect fit right now, so am I silly to be getting hung up on the fact that he doesn't love me? Guys, what the hell goes on inside those heads of yours? Or do I just need to SIUCC and get over semantics? We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

Well, popularity contest was certainly never the intent of this thread. I don't know anyone here, and no one knows me, so I'm definately not a member of the crowd. I just thought this was a great opportunity to spread some positive opinions around, as we have the other kind in abundant supply (as we do throughout life in general). Someone did once tell me that there's no way to post anything on here without offending someone. I do apologize if I have done so here.

Pardon me for stealing the idea from the women's forum, but I thought it might be nice to make it a bit more global. Who do appreciate here on dz.com? Let's hear about the people you love on dz.com. Has someone gone out of their way to do you a favor? Lend a hand or an ear? Spoken up on your behalf? I know there are a ton of really good hearted people around, and I for one just want to say "Thank You" for the positive energy you create.

http://www.clipaday.com/videos/luckiest-pilot-ever We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

LOL!!! I've seen it before, but it still made me burst out laughing. Thanks for the smiles.

I am so happy for mother's day!! It gives me a chance to really focus on the fact that I love my kids and I love being a mother. It's the greatest thing I've done with my life.

In honour of Mother's Day, I thought it might be nice to share what sage/funny/silly advice your mother gave you growing up. My mom once told me to wear my ugly panties on a date if I wanted to make sure I wasn't tempted to sleep with a guy. My mom's one of those blunt types!! What kind of advice stuck with you? We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

** bump** Any great day stories? Anyone? Buelher? We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

That's the spirit! And by focusing on making it great, you'll pass that spirit on to others without even trying. Let us know how it goes!!

Wow! You're not kidding!

So did you do it? Did you go out and make it a great day? Come on, no matter what happened, I KNOW you can find good stuff....so let's hear about it. I was able to get all my work done today, so I can skydive tomorrow!! How awesome is that? We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. -- John Fitzgerald Kennedy.

Go out and make it that way!!