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  1. So we are getting together for coffee later this week to catch up. I'm tempted to tell her to get things off my chest, because it's eatin' me up inside. On one hand, that'd make it easier for me. On the other hand, I am happy as hell for her that she's having a baby, and i wouldn't want anything I say to affect that happiness and/or our friendship.

    Fuck...why does this have to be so hard??

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    . Get over it and maybe be a bit more aggressive the next time you see an opportunity.

    +1

    I think it's your turn to fly wingman, isn't it?;) Let's get this guy back in the air.B|


    Good thought...getting up in the air again would be great. ;)

    Nataly, I'm up for a roadtrip. Shall I pick you up on the way? ;)



    :o:$:$ See - that's the kind of outgoingness that will get you noticed!!! Let me know if/when you're next in London ;)


    I'll hold you....to that. :P

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    . Get over it and maybe be a bit more aggressive the next time you see an opportunity.

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    I think it's your turn to fly wingman, isn't it?;) Let's get this guy back in the air.B|


    Good thought...getting up in the air again would be great. ;)

    Nataly, I'm up for a roadtrip. Shall I pick you up on the way? ;)

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    Single as in just getting under one person. Don't read into it. It is what it is. :)



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    Oh i got it...but it's easier said then done, once again. ;)



    There isn't anyone you think is hot that you always said you'd "do" if the time/circumstances were different? Well, now's the time!! Go for it. The worst that can happen is she'd say no, right?


    So what do you say Lucky?

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    I found the best way to "get over" them was to "get under someone else".

    Worked like a freakin' charm - the sexy times were great. :)

    You Rock.;) Great advice.

    Thanks. I figured I was going to get flamed for that. :D


    Flamed for encouraging promiscuity? :o


    It's not promiscuous if it's just one person.

    Single as in monogamous...or single as in ..ahem..self gratification? :D

    Single as in just getting under one person. Don't read into it. It is what it is. :)

    Oh i got it...but it's easier said then done, once again. ;)

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    I found the best way to "get over" them was to "get under someone else".

    Worked like a freakin' charm - the sexy times were great. :)

    You Rock.;) Great advice.

    Thanks. I figured I was going to get flamed for that. :D


    Flamed for encouraging promiscuity? :o

    It's not promiscuous if it's just one person.
    Single as in monogamous...or single as in ..ahem..self gratification? :D

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    I found the best way to "get over" them was to "get under someone else".

    Worked like a freakin' charm - the sexy times were great. :)

    You Rock.;) Great advice.


    Thanks. I figured I was going to get flamed for that. :D


    Definitely not flamed...just thinking there should be more girls like you. :)

    Simplejack, interesting youtube link. ;)

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    The point would be you can move on and heal. You will never get to that point unless you face your feelings and get them out in the open. How else are you going to give all of your heart the someone else when the time comes.



    even at the risk of altering or ruining our friendship?

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    I am sorry you are going through this and you will think I am mean but damn dude, move on!

    Stop whining about a girl you never had anything with besides a friendship. Be a man for once and tell her how you feel. Sometimes feelings are not mutual, sometimes they are. I can tell you, you will not get anywhere by posting about this here.



    I don't think you're being mean ...just honest


    But....what's the point of telling her NOW?

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    Live on and remain friends, things happen.



    That's a lot easier said then done.



    Do you think she knows how you *really* feel about her??



    she might suspect it but doubt she knows how I really feel about her



    Is she really happy or did they just get married because she's pregnant?


    happy aboutthe baby but getting married wasn't that important to her.

  13. Simple situation really: a female friend I've had feelings for the last 3 years or so, and we've known each other for 9 years. We're the type of friends that know almost everything about each other, can read each other well, will go see each other at 3am is there's an emergency of some sort, etc.

    She's been with the same guy for about 5 years, and while she's been mostly happy they've had some rocky times on and off. They were not married, just living together. So, because of my developing feelings as of late, I really considered simply...going all out, telling her how I feel, and seeing her reaction (which, had I said something back then, would've been good...and she probably would've been with me now.)

    Well we haven't spoken at length for the last 3 months simply because we've busy. I'm job searching, and she's going to school and working full time. Other than a quick phone call or text to say hello, neither had time to talk a lot. Today I stop by her work, since she was working, and I simply wanted to see her. I find out that...a. she's 3 months pregnant and b. they went to the town hall and exchanged vows.

    Maybe it's a childish reaction, but it hurts like all hell, and I'm pretty much heartbroken. I realize that I missed an opportunity to be with a fantastic girl, that is almost every bit like me in what she wants, what she's looking for in a relationship, etc. Had i said something 3 years ago, i guarantee I would've been married to her by now: back then, there was no child in the making, no marriage plans, nothing.

    The worst part is? This is the second heartbreak of this magnitude for me, and this one hurts even more. The first was years ago when I meant a woman from another country who was here visiting for a bit. Fell in love, feelings were 1000% mutual, she had to leave due to visa issues, found out through a 3rd party that she was engaged to be married. Broke my heart once.

    This situation? Broke my heart again...even moreso, because I realize what a great fit my friend would be for me, how I would be a great fit for her, and what I missed.

    This one hurts...a lot.

    [:/]


    ps. If anyone suspects who I am, i would appreciate not letting the cat out of the bag. I'd also appreciate serious comments rather then wiseass skydiver-typical remarks :P but i realize that's probably impossible.