fantomas08

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  1. So we are getting together for coffee later this week to catch up. I'm tempted to tell her to get things off my chest, because it's eatin' me up inside. On one hand, that'd make it easier for me. On the other hand, I am happy as hell for her that she's having a baby, and i wouldn't want anything I say to affect that happiness and/or our friendship. Fuck...why does this have to be so hard??
  2. +1 I think it's your turn to fly wingman, isn't it? Let's get this guy back in the air. Good thought...getting up in the air again would be great. Nataly, I'm up for a roadtrip. Shall I pick you up on the way? See - that's the kind of outgoingness that will get you noticed!!! Let me know if/when you're next in London I'll hold you....to that.
  3. +1 I think it's your turn to fly wingman, isn't it? Let's get this guy back in the air. Good thought...getting up in the air again would be great. Nataly, I'm up for a roadtrip. Shall I pick you up on the way?
  4. There isn't anyone you think is hot that you always said you'd "do" if the time/circumstances were different? Well, now's the time!! Go for it. The worst that can happen is she'd say no, right? So what do you say Lucky?
  5. You Rock. Great advice. Thanks. I figured I was going to get flamed for that. Flamed for encouraging promiscuity? It's not promiscuous if it's just one person. Single as in monogamous...or single as in ..ahem..self gratification? Single as in just getting under one person. Don't read into it. It is what it is.
  6. You Rock. Great advice. Thanks. I figured I was going to get flamed for that. Flamed for encouraging promiscuity? It's not promiscuous if it's just one person. Single as in monogamous...or single as in ..ahem..self gratification?
  7. You Rock. Great advice. Thanks. I figured I was going to get flamed for that. Definitely not flamed...just thinking there should be more girls like you. Simplejack, interesting youtube link.
  8. even at the risk of altering or ruining our friendship?
  9. I don't think you're being mean ...just honest But....what's the point of telling her NOW?
  10. That's a lot easier said then done. Do you think she knows how you *really* feel about her?? she might suspect it but doubt she knows how I really feel about her Is she really happy or did they just get married because she's pregnant? happy aboutthe baby but getting married wasn't that important to her.
  11. That's a lot easier said then done. Do you think she knows how you *really* feel about her?? she might suspect it but doubt she knows how I really feel about her
  12. Simple situation really: a female friend I've had feelings for the last 3 years or so, and we've known each other for 9 years. We're the type of friends that know almost everything about each other, can read each other well, will go see each other at 3am is there's an emergency of some sort, etc. She's been with the same guy for about 5 years, and while she's been mostly happy they've had some rocky times on and off. They were not married, just living together. So, because of my developing feelings as of late, I really considered simply...going all out, telling her how I feel, and seeing her reaction (which, had I said something back then, would've been good...and she probably would've been with me now.) Well we haven't spoken at length for the last 3 months simply because we've busy. I'm job searching, and she's going to school and working full time. Other than a quick phone call or text to say hello, neither had time to talk a lot. Today I stop by her work, since she was working, and I simply wanted to see her. I find out that...a. she's 3 months pregnant and b. they went to the town hall and exchanged vows. Maybe it's a childish reaction, but it hurts like all hell, and I'm pretty much heartbroken. I realize that I missed an opportunity to be with a fantastic girl, that is almost every bit like me in what she wants, what she's looking for in a relationship, etc. Had i said something 3 years ago, i guarantee I would've been married to her by now: back then, there was no child in the making, no marriage plans, nothing. The worst part is? This is the second heartbreak of this magnitude for me, and this one hurts even more. The first was years ago when I meant a woman from another country who was here visiting for a bit. Fell in love, feelings were 1000% mutual, she had to leave due to visa issues, found out through a 3rd party that she was engaged to be married. Broke my heart once. This situation? Broke my heart again...even moreso, because I realize what a great fit my friend would be for me, how I would be a great fit for her, and what I missed. This one hurts...a lot. ps. If anyone suspects who I am, i would appreciate not letting the cat out of the bag. I'd also appreciate serious comments rather then wiseass skydiver-typical remarks but i realize that's probably impossible.