I'm sorry if your relationship didn't work Sandi, Nataly, ManagingPrime and everyone ... but it seems to me the general attitude is a bit on the pessimistic side. I think it's a problem of our culture, we grow up and we can learn amazingly complicated skills and knowledge (my work routinely involves discussion on things that defy any common sense conception) and yet little do we learn about ourselves.
Even if we grow up with a smart and loving family and friends (far from granted), we acquire a little wisdom on ourselves and others but no extensive knowledge, nothing comparable to scientific knowledge.
And yet why do we take that for granted? it's just our culture, because our psychological sciences are generally imprecise and not accessible to common people, we grow up with this idea.
If all our relationship never last, what's the common factor? well, it's me. I haven't changed much my behaviour or what I expect, and why should I, that's me, my identity. But is it true?
in my experience, the secret to finding happiness in relationships or in life, is very simple but not easy: to put some scientific order in our mind and heart, and I don't mean to become cold and analytical, but to balance enthusiasm with detachment, to be kind and selfless, flexible and caring to everyone, but strong and immovable when principles are at stake. glimmering light