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QuoteNearly everyday in 7th grade my bestfriend & I were called down to the office for licks for something we had done the day before. As a kid I would much rather take a spanking than a lecture or ISS or Saturday school or anythng else from parents or school officials. It was quick, only stung for a sec or two and it was over....
If you were misbehaving and called down to the office for licks "nearly every day", it doesn't sound like the spankings were very effective. It sounds like the "lecture or ISS or Saturday school" would have been more effective since you didn't mind the spankings as much.
QuoteChildren need guidance and some discipline. That discipline does not have to be corporal punishment but they MUST be shown where the lines are and taught to behave.
I am not a parent, and this is obviously an emotionally charged issue between them, but I agree with this wholeheartedly.
I think the area where it gets muddled is in the 'being taught how to behave' because that inherently is subjective to the parent's ideas of what acceptable behavior is.
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QuoteChildren need guidance and some discipline. That discipline does not have to be corporal punishment but they MUST be shown where the lines are and taught to behave.
Absolutely.
QuoteIf you talk to most well adjusted, normal successful people and ask them if their parents would have spanked them as a child when necessary, the answers would be an overwhelming yes.
Probably so. And if you talk to most juvenile delinquents, drug addicts, rapists, serial killers, etc., and ask them if they were spanked as a child, the answers would be an overwhelming yes. Basically, (non-abusive) spanking or lack of spanking has little to do with how the child turns out as an adult; it is the general manner in which parents treat their child that has much more effect.
QuoteProbably so. And if you talk to most juvenile delinquents, drug addicts, rapists, serial killers, etc., and ask them if they were spanked as a child, the answers would be on overwhelming yes. Basically, (non-abusive) spanking or lack of spanking has little to do with how the child turns out as an adult; it is the general manner in which parents treat their child that has much more effect.
Agreed. It all boils down to if the parents "Laid Down the Law" when necessary. Just grabbing a belt and expecting that fix every problem is NOT the solution. Parenting is much more complex than that.
I do strongly believe that corporal Punishment has a place in a Parents arsenal. It is most effective when used very sparingly and as a last resort.
Firm strong action when a child is out of line is absolutely necessary. Much can be done with Tone of Voice even for a small child. (Tone, Not Volume. I do not believe that Screaming or Yelling at a Child is ever called for. It simply shows the child that you as a parent have lost control of the situation.)
It is not the Spanking or Lack of Spanking that has the effect on how the child turns out, It is whether or not the parent took the time to let the child know where the boundaries were and that there were Consequences for crossing those boundaries. Spanking a child when absolutely nessacary (Tone, Time out and other methods have failed) is an effective way to do just that.
No need to discipline your children at all. Nothing a little more Ridlin, Prozac or Xanax wont fix.
Seriously, I think the lack of Discipline and Parental Guidance for children today is one the biggest problems we have. I agree that after a certain age, Corporal Punishment has limited benefit but parents trying to negotiate with their children or trying to cuddle their children into behaving is asinine.
It seems every time I go out to a restaurant or shopping mall there kids that their parents just let run wild. These kids are Screaming, Misbehaving and generally have a complete lack of respect for their parents or anyone else for that matter.
Children need guidance and some discipline. That discipline does not have to be corporal punishment but they MUST be shown where the lines are and taught to behave.
If you talk to most well adjusted, normal successful people and ask them if their parents would have spanked them as a child when necessary, the answers would be an overwhelming yes. The same question to people with emotional and behavioral problems and you will usually find that they came from a single parent household where their parent tried to cuddle them into behaving.
Children will by nature always explore their boundaries. Removing any possible confusion for the child as to where those boundaries are is every parent’s responsibility. For small children a firm swat on the bottom when needed does just that. That is not lazy parenting, It is effective Parenting.
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