CANCER SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!

[airfury17 0]

Well. Today has been my worst dream come true. On my 8th birthday my father Don Vogel lost his battle with Cancer. I am now 18 years old and it has taken a huge part from me. My family has gotten very close due to the death of my father. My mom has done an amazing job at raising myself and my sister Sara (21).
Yesterday my mom went to the hospital to get blood work done. She has been very ill lately. Yesterday they noticed something was very very wrong and kept her for the night. Now today I called to check in, I Doctor picked up her cell phone and said." Things are not good here" Your mother has a problem with her blood. We are now changing her blood and giving her new fresh blood. But there is a possibility she might have Cancer so we are not really sure. We have been running tests all day on her. Thats when I broke down. Hasnt Cancer fucked with my family enough. Why cant it leave us alone. I am away at school 1000 miles away and feel hopless. I thought i would turn to my skydiving freinds. Does anyone have similar stories. Is anyone as pissed and fed up with this Cancer Crap.
There was also talk about Results not coming back till Monday. WHAT THE HELL. waiting rips at me! why would it take till monday to know? Also talk of surgury on tuesday. I really dont know. Just wanted to get support and people who have experienced a loss in their lives and let me know what I can do.

Thanks for your help
-jeff-

[Michele 1]

Jeff, I have no words of solace...just know you, your Mom, and your sister will be in my prayers and that if there's anything I can do, all you need to do is ask.

You're right; cancer sucks, and waiting sucks. My love to all of you.

Ciels-
Michele

~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek
While our hearts lie bleeding?~

[eyesonthesky 0]

I have to agree with you that cancer sucks. I work at our local cancer centre performing radiation treatments and as a result have seen more sad stories than I could ever recount...at the same time, I have seen some tremendous responses to treatment and even a few "miracles".
I pray that you and your family won't have to deal with this terrible disease again.
Remember to take care of yourself so that you have the strength to help out your mom, regardless of what the diagnosis is.

[wmw999 2,382]

There's absolutely nothing fair about it. Nothing. My mother died of it, as did her twin, her older sister, and both of her parents. I'm just hoping I take after my father .

But right now your mother wants to be healthy, and to know that you can give her some strength back. Not that you have to give up school or anything, but just knowing that her son is happy, or knows how to make himself happy, and shares that happiness with her will give her more strength than you can imagine.

I'm a mom, and, well, that's what I'd want. Frequent calls, letting me talk, telling me about what cool is going on in your life. Knowing that you have a good life, and love me enough to want to share it with me.

You and your family have my prayers.

Wendy W.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

[sundevil777 102]

Prayers are with you

People are sick and tired of being told that ordinary and decent people are fed up in this country with being sick and tired. I’m certainly not, and I’m sick and tired of being told that I am

[TheAnvil 0]

Cancer is an uncaring, unfeeling, and definitely unfair killer, my friend. So sorry to hear about that. Runs in my family and scares the shit out of me. Everytime we lose someone it seems to get harder and not easier. Raw tomatos, garlic, brocolli, and olive oil are staples in the Vinny-diet (even more so than tequila). Since it runs in your family, I'd suggest you eat them regularly as well and sure as hell don't do anything stupid like smoke cigarettes. The best thing you can do for your Mom right now is love and pray for her. Hopefully the docs are wrong, it's not cancer, and your Mom will recover soon.

Hope things work out well.

Vibes,

Vinny the Anvil
Post Traumatic Didn't Make The Lakers Syndrome is REAL
JACKASS POWER!!!!!!

[mdrejhon 8]

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Well. Today has been my worst dream come true. On my 8th birthday my father Don Vogel lost his battle with Cancer.

Damn...

I don't know what to say. Just be there for your mom even if it is by telephone at times;

I lost an aunt to cancer in 1988. My family cancelled a trip to Florida and Disneyland before she died. We were glad because she deteriorated so quickly, she would have died while we were still on vacation.

It's very sad you have to go through this;

You can count on my support (and a lot of others) at Rainbow Boogie 2006 (if you still plan to come!).

[Muenkel 0]

Having just gone through a cancer scare with my mom, I can relate to how difficult the waiting can be. Fortunately, my mom got the good news that everything was benign. I pray for the same for you.

Your whole family is in my prayers.

Hang in there and if you want to talk, just shoot me a pm.

Chris

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Chris

[airfury17 0]

Just another day here. No news and still waiting for monday for the results. My mom and I keep our sence of humor. I jsut told me mom today. "Mom Your probably like an old car you just need an oil change. In your case a blood change and you will be on your way. I hope this is the news Well thank you for your support. I am glad to hear there are many people like me. I just wish there were more survival stories with this ugly illness. So much death. Also I am planning to have a Tent and station for Cancer donations and Cancer Awarness at the World Freefall Convention. Again thank you for your messages. Hopefully I can see you all somtime this summer. I Talked to my freind Ed....and it just makes me smile to think about how nice people are. I mean often in this world we think about everybody being mean. you know? Honking Horns. Yelling. Being disrespectful. But this just makes me happy because when you are down there will always be people ready to help you out during the hard times.


Blue Skies!

[wmw999 2,382]

There are plenty of stories of people making it through, including here on dz.com. One of my nieces is very likely to turn into one in the very near future. And, well, my mother, while she died of it eventually, had 12 good years and 2 bad ones (one at the beginning, and one at the end). It sucks, but there are a lot of options most of the time, too.

Wendy W.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

[murrays 0]

Six months ago today my wife was diagnosed with leukemia. It turns your world upside down and inside out. Waiting for results is a terrible thing to go through...sometimes not knowing is worse than knowing what you are up against.

One day at a time...that's all you can do....and sometimes you have to do each day a minute at a time.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Be strong.

--
Murray

"No tyranny is so irksome as petty tyranny: the officious demands of policemen, government clerks, and electromechanical gadgets." - Edward Abbey

[airfury17 0]

Thank you all for Being so Kind. All my best wishes are with you and your Family for those who are living with Cancer in their Family's.

All the best to everyone!

[tustinr 1]

Yeah cancer sucks. Hope all goes well with youyr mom.

As a pathologist I would just like to add that the diagnosis of cancer is not always as straight forward as everyone likes to think considering there are thousands (not an exaggeration) of different types of cancer in the human body. We like to make the correct diagnosis as we know what effect it will have on the patients life (not to mention the family). Thats why it sometimes takes a little time - nowadays we also use all kinds of high tech techniques to determine the specific cell of origin etc which all has a bearing the treatment, prognosis, etc.
These also take time.

So spare a thought for us at coalface. Its not a pleasant job and we feel for every patient we diagnose with the dreaded "C" !

All the best. Take care.
Rich

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Everything that happens to you in life is your teacher. The secret is to learn to sit at the feet of your life and be taught.

[peacefuljeffrey 0]

I'm sorry this happened to you once before with your father, and I'm sorry you're having to face it again with your mom. I wish your whole family well.

You have a lot of friends here who have been through what you're going through, and you have their sympathy. I am among them.

In late 2000, my mom and dad divorced, and Mom moved down here to Florida from New York -- she wanted to start again and was happy to be here. A few months later, on a trip to NY to work on divorce proceedings, she saw a doctor for abdominal discomfort which they thought at first might be a hernia. It turned out to cancer of the colon which had spread to the liver, and it was advanced, and it was terminal.

They gave mom an estimate of 6 months to live, but she died in just over one month. We had time to spend with her, but precious little. I had meant to learn to knit from her teaching me, but we never had time because her decline was so rapid. It was a sad, terrible time for our entire family.

There was one tiny glimmer of happiness in it and that was that when she died, our entire family (Dad, me, and my three siblings) were able to be at her bedside, in her home, with her. That gave us at least some peace. Oh, and Mom had gotten to meet her first granddaughter (she would have three grandchildren now; all girls).

I know she suffered -- I saw and dealt with it firsthand. I take my comfort from believing that every bit of her suffering is gone now and she has peace.

I hope you and your family find yours.

-

-Jeffrey
"With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!"

[MC208B 0]

I hope it all works out okay for you and you Mom.

[Donoff 0]

Airfury, you and your mom will make it! Yes there are bad examples and better ones. My aunt died after battling cancer for 8 years. But my dad (knock on wood) has overcome it! The best thing you can do, judging by my family's experience, is just to be there and to give as much attention as you can. Love and care can save lives!

[godfrog 2]

thursday night my mother passed away after a long battle with lung cancer that was caused by vermiculite (asbestos). cancer is bad enough on its own but when a company denies, lies, and tries to dodge responsibility for knowingly poisoning people is what really burns me. my sincere condolences for you and your mother, I hope that they can help here and if its similar to your fathers maybe you and your sister ought to be checked and start looking for an agent of cause

Experience is a difficult teacher, she gives you the test first and the lesson afterward

[airfury17 0]

Wow....thats some deep stuff right there. Life truely bangs you up. Spits you, chews you..then trys to put you all back together. I feel for those people and I feel for you man. I feel for everybody, Who is in this crazy world with no explanation. we try to make sence out of little or no clues. We try to piece together somthing that our little minds cannot Fathom.

Keep those heads up!

[skymedic 0]

Cancer does suck...that's all there is to it. BUT it is a curable disease if caught early enough. There are many survivors out there...and I am one of them. It's all about prevention and early diagnosis.

be strong...

Marc
otherwise known as Mr.Fallinwoman....

[airfury17 0]

Well my mom just got news she has Cervix Cancer. I believe. She is going in on the 20th to get surgury to get it all out. THey are doing a little radiation today to help her out. She seemed happy and upbeat because the Doctors say it looks hopefull and its not bad

Blue skies everyone!

[murrays 0]

Glad to hear the news is optimistic. It must be a great relief for you.

I just came back from seeing Lance Armstrong who was in our little city (Saskatoon, Saskatchewan - how many of you know where that is? ) giving a speech as a fundraiser for our local hospital foundation. He was great! What an inspiration.

He survived a terrible situation by fighting with everything he had and making sure that he had asked all the questions and was certain that his course of treatment was the best possible option. He related that his first opinion was...."not very good odds. etc," and he didn't like that. He consulted with another Doctor who told him they thought they could win. The difference in attitude was what he wanted to hear and he felt he was then in the right place.

Be strong and never give up the fight!

--
Murray

"No tyranny is so irksome as petty tyranny: the officious demands of policemen, government clerks, and electromechanical gadgets." - Edward Abbey

[Michele 1]

Airfury, that is good (but bad) news. It's a curable cancer, which is good...and she seems to be in good hands, which is better. And she knows she has her family around her to help and love and support and fight right along side...which is best.

She's in my prayers...please let us know how it goes.

Best to you and your Mom...

Ciels-
Michele

~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek
While our hearts lie bleeding?~