Brains 2 #1 June 3, 2004 Ok, so i am an idiot. There is this girl that i really would like to know better. I see her almost daily in a semi-working type relationship (she works at my bank) Would it be better to ask her to lunch, or to dinner. Assuming i work up the nerve to actually ask. Girls, does it matter, would you prefer one over the other?? Signed, scared and confused. Never look down on someone, unless they are going down on you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #2 June 3, 2004 neither. ask her for coffee. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #3 June 3, 2004 I think I would prefer dinner, because at lunch I always need to de-stress, and a first date is not the way to do that. But there is the nice, non-committal feeling to lunch that can help if she scares easily. Play it by ear . . . Eh, just ask her if she'd like to come by your place after work, where you'll be waiting, stark-naked and wearing a big red bow. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chopchop 0 #4 June 3, 2004 Ask her for a drink after work.. that way it can lead into dinner if things are going well.. but make sure she is not dating anyone first.. chopchop gotta go... Plaything needs a spanking.. Lotsa Pictures Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 212 #5 June 3, 2004 Quoteneither. ask her for coffee. Get outta my head! Jeff - i was just going to PM this top you - but Nighty already said it. It's non confrontational - quick, inexpensive, but can last as long as is comfortable.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
seekfun 0 #6 June 3, 2004 Brains, Ask her to dinner. And, make it Italian or Mexican food. Why? Well, because it's impossible to eat either while completely maintaining your dignity. You're either going to splash sauce all over yourself or send bits of taco shell flying. In this way, you get the whole embarassment thing out of the way and are able to be yourselves more easily. Of course, a good messy Gyro works, too. - topher "...there is a there out there..." - Tom Robbins Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 212 #7 June 3, 2004 Quote Eh, just ask her if she'd like to come by your place after work, where you'll be waiting, stark-naked and wearing a big red bow. Red - That's Third Place - right? I'll have a Blue one on.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brains 2 #8 June 3, 2004 QuoteAsk her for a drink after work.. that way it can lead into dinner if things are going well.. but make sure she is not dating anyone first.. Good thought Roy but i don't know if she drinks or not. Come to think of it, i'm not sure she is old enough to drink kidding. Kris and Clint, no coffee shops around here, not close anyway that we could go to. Never look down on someone, unless they are going down on you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 212 #9 June 3, 2004 OK - so bring some with you. It's harder to say no when confronted by someone that brings you gifts. Expecially harmless ones.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chopchop 0 #10 June 3, 2004 Well.. another good reason to ask her for a drink.. Gotta make sure she'll fit in at the dz.. Not drinking would nip that in the bud.. chopchop gotta go... Plaything needs a spanking.. Lotsa Pictures Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
seekfun 0 #11 June 3, 2004 Quote but make sure she is not dating anyone first.. - chopchop Brains, It doesn't matter if she's dating anyone right now or not. If you find a girl interesting, cute, etc., then ask her out. When someone expresses interest in a person, it is generally a flattering thing - if it's kept in control. So, whether she's dating someone or not, you could make her day. And, whether she's dating someone or not, she could still say, "you betcha big fella". Go for it! But still, make it Italian or Mexican food... topher note - chopchop put that up there for a reason..."...there is a there out there..." - Tom Robbins Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #12 June 3, 2004 Ask her to the DZ! .. and wear that tight black tshirt you wore on saturday.. she'll be goin woooowooo!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brains 2 #13 June 3, 2004 Quote.. and wear that tight black tshirt you wore on saturday.. she'll be goin woooowooo!!!! Can't wear that to work, besides that was just for you. Thanks for the advice all. I will let you all know how it goes. As for the dz thing, not sure about that, sometimes it is nice to have a life away from that place. Never look down on someone, unless they are going down on you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 212 #14 June 3, 2004 Quote As for the dz thing, not sure about that, sometimes it is nice to have a life away from that place. BLASPHEMY!!!!I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Katzeye 0 #15 June 3, 2004 My $0.02 Either are appropriate depending on the "level" you want to get to know her better. Lunch is much less serious than Dinner and could be construed as a "working" thing. Is a chicken omelette redundant? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
racer42 0 #16 June 3, 2004 No coffee shops!?!?!?!?!? That's what you get for living outside the LOOP. I can't imagine you being nervous about asking her out??? On the other hand, it does explain why you're always groping me at the dropzone.L.A.S.T. #24 Co-Founder Biscuit Brothers Freefly Team Electric Toaster #3 Co-Founder Team Non Sequitor Co-Founder Team Happy Sock Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #17 June 3, 2004 Did you check for a wedding ring yet?! Chat her up, ask her what she's doing this weekend. Then move in for the kill. You won't have any trouble. You're a charmer. Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #18 June 3, 2004 QuoteThat's what you get for living outside the LOOP. Oh my God. I totally miss you. Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #19 June 3, 2004 Quote Can't wear that to work, besides that was just for you. Well then.. glad I noticed! QuoteAs for the dz thing, not sure about that, sometimes it is nice to have a life away from that place. Thats why you go to other dz's .. duh. I haven't been to my home dz in a month.. and wont be there for three more weeks. They've probably forgotten all about me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
racer42 0 #20 June 3, 2004 Heya Kid. Haven't seen you in ages. Hope you are all better now.L.A.S.T. #24 Co-Founder Biscuit Brothers Freefly Team Electric Toaster #3 Co-Founder Team Non Sequitor Co-Founder Team Happy Sock Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #21 June 3, 2004 My ass is still a little numb, but otherwise I'm good!Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diablopilot 2 #22 June 3, 2004 Quote- but Nighty already said it. Nighty?---------------------------------------------- You're not as good as you think you are. Seriously. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
alanab 0 #23 June 3, 2004 neither, ask me out nstead! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #24 June 3, 2004 QuoteQuote Eh, just ask her if she'd like to come by your place after work, where you'll be waiting, stark-naked and wearing a big red bow. Red - That's Third Place - right? I'll have a Blue one on. ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gawain 0 #25 June 3, 2004 Quoteneither. ask her for coffee. Yeah, I was about to say that too. A good icebreaker is "Coffee and Dessert", espeically if you know a nice place serves both. So I try and I scream and I beg and I sigh Just to prove I'm alive, and it's alright 'Cause tonight there's a way I'll make light of my treacherous life Make light! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites