To all those girls.... {long read, but damn good & true}

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Here's to all those girls who used to be his number one. The ones who waited all night for him to call, only to check the caller ID the next morning and be disappointed. The ones who made it through that bitter break up, dried your own tears, and moved on with your life, only to have him walk back in it months later like nothing ever happened.
Those of you who cried on the first day you talked again because you knew exactly where this phone call was going. The ones who listened to him say, I only want to be your friend, one day, and the next, listened to him say how much he loves and misses you.
We deserve something, and this is our tribute.
Here's to the ones that gave him another chance, hoping that maybe this time, he was different, hoping that maybe people really do change. We listened to our friends tell us that we were stupid for even thinking about giving him another chance, caught shit from our parents, and even snuck around to see him for a while.
We went through the great stage with no fights all over again. We started this out thinking it would be just friends, and ended up falling in love with him again. We wanted nothing more in the world than to hear him tell us he loved us too, that even though things were bad in the past, they would be different this time. And when we finally heard it, it was like we were dreaming. This is for us.
Here's to the ones who believed what he said, sat around all over again waiting for a phone call that might come in a few hours, or a few days. Here's for the tears cried and dried all over again. We wanted so desperately to believe that he was really busy, he couldn't possibly call us at that moment, or even that he fell asleep early. We trained ourselves to believe the lies because we wanted to believe we had found the one for us. We learned to settle for someone who didn't treat us the way we should be treated.
Here's for the ones who did their hair and make up and put on their prettiest earrings, only to hear him say that he couldn't see us today. The ones who never believed it when people told us there might be someone else. We just couldn't believe that he could do this to us again.
This is for those great girls, who loved him more than words can say, and took him back no matter what happened last time because they couldn't bear to look back on their lives one day and wonder "what if".
This is for the ones that held on to something that was never there to begin with. This is for us girls, who somehow managed to get him to forget about her, and get him to tell us that he was in love with us again, only to have him tell us three weeks later that "things were going too fast, he needs time."
Here's to the girls who couldn't cry to their friends because of how stupid they felt.
The ones who held it all in when things came crumbling to pieces again. This is for the ones who couldn't bear to even tell their mom what was going on, for fear of an "I told you so."
The ones that could just tell that they had made a mistake ever allowing him into their hearts, their beds, and their dreams again. We knew that we deserved better the entire time, that we deserved a guy who would call when he said he was going to, one that would come see us whenever he got the chance, one that would really care about us. We just wanted the one that we loved like that.
Here's for the ones that finally realized that he never gave a shit about them. Here's for the time that he broke your heart again.
This is for those days spent trying to hold back the tears, and the tears that turned into anger, then disappointment.
Here's for us girls who finally realized that we deserve better. This is for those confusing days, when you miss him, and want nothing more than to hear his voice, or feel his arms around your waist. Stay strong, and remember that relationships are like broken glass, sometimes it's better to leave it alone rather than try to put the pieces back together and get hurt. Remember the times you cried, and how long it took you to even be able to look at another guy like that.
When "your song" comes on the radio, turn the station. When the day comes that he realizes what a mistake he made and tries calling, turn your phone off. When he tries coming to your house, don't answer the door.
Think of the broken promises, and the lies, the manipulation and the tears, the wasted moments and staying up all night wondering where the hell he was. Think of how your heart used to jump when your phone would vibrate in the middle of the night, and how it fell to your stomach when you saw it wasn't him, and realized that once again, he hadn't called when he said he was going to.
One day, you'll find a guy who's worth all the tears, but he won't make you cry. You may think that you'll never care about someone like you did that guy that you always ran back to, but you will. It's gonna hurt like hell, and it's going to need time to heal, but the point is, it will heal eventually!!!!

[cocheese 0]

And here is to the guys who experienced much of the same stuff from her.

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I have NEVER done any of those things to anyone.

[mnealtx 0]

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I have NEVER done any of those things to anyone.

He wasn't saying you had - just showing there's another side to that coin, that's all.

Mike
I love you, Shannon and Jim.
POPS 9708 , SCR 14706

[cocheese 0]

nor have I.

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I know there is, and Im sorry cocheese, I wasnt implying that you were implying... Im just tired of having my heart broken time and time again... as are the good men in the world Im sure....

[cocheese 0]

I'm sorry your heart was broken. Him Him....

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F**K Him....

[MikeForsythe 0]

Boy am I glad that I am not "HIM"

Time and pressure will always show you who a person really is!

[chaoskitty 0]

I hear ya sister. Never regret loving with your whole heart, even if he didn't. Hang in there for a real man.

[cloudseeker2001 0]

I think this should moved to the womens forum.

"Some call it heavenly in it's brilliance,
others mean and rueful of the western dream"

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I think this should moved to the womens forum.

Yeah I thought about putting it there when I originally posted it...

[Zep 0]

Wow, what a great post, that could only of been written from the heart. The only consolation I have for you is
some guys can feel deeply as well, an our broken hearts hurt just as much.

Gone fishing

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Wow, what a great post, that could only of been written from the heart. The only consolation I have for you is
some guys can feel deeply as well, an our broken hearts hurt just as much.

Thanks I wish I could take credit for writing it, but I can't...however I can relate to every word... as Im sure can a lot of men and women that have read it. I haven't totally given up on love, but I am very discouraged and protecting of myself right now and probably for a long time to come....

[lisamariewillbe 1]

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Here's to all those girls who used to be his number one.

I wouldnt want to be his number one. Ever placed on a pedestal you will get knocked off eventually

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The ones who waited all night for him to call, only to check the caller ID the next morning and be disappointed.

Ive never done this, Id just call myself

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The ones who made it through that bitter break up, dried your own tears, and moved on with your life, only to have him walk back in it months later like nothing ever happened.

Takes two people to have a bitter breakup ... and walking back in her life, well she let him walk back in

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Those of you who cried on the first day you talked again because you knew exactly where this phone call was going

ummmm personally if I knew something was going to be bad Id not let it happen ... esp when its concerning a man

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The ones who listened to him say, I only want to be your friend, one day, and the next, listened to him say how much he loves and misses you.

A women could refuse to put up with that, plus wanting to be a friend and loving and missing a person does all correlate. I have many friends I love and miss. I also love and miss my ex husband who happens to be my friend, and who I happen to be close friends with his current wife.

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We deserve something,

Everyone does

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Here's to the ones that gave him another chance, hoping that maybe this time, he was different, hoping that maybe people really do change

Staying with someone because they may change is a poor reason...

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We listened to our friends tell us that we were stupid for even thinking about giving him another chance, caught shit from our parents, and even snuck around to see him for a while.

Oh this is a highschool boyfriend girlfriend type thing?

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We wanted nothing more in the world than to hear him tell us he loved us too

saying and hearing I love you are not the same as being and giving love, sometimes they go together sometimes not. Its easy to say I love you, its much harder to mean it

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We trained ourselves to believe the lies because we wanted to believe we had found the one for us.

Whos fault is that then? The liar for lying or the reciever because they changed the way they think to compensate for what they knew to be and what they wish it to be?

I had alot more responses but the more I quoted the more cynical I got and thats just not what I want to spend my day feeling.

It takes two to screw up a relationship in almost all cases. It only takes one to be the bigger person and move on. If you look at the world with negative feelings or fear then you will live that. If you look at it as "lesson learned" and grow from it then your in a better place. A sour relationship is not the end of the world, nor should any one person besides a child be placed at the highest most important priorty. Live for yourself and soon a person will love you for yourself.

Good luck and sorry that your heart was broken but its the way of the world. Had I not experienced and given heartbreak I would not be able to appreciate true love and commitment. Its growth and progress.

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

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Here's to all those girls who used to be his number one.

I wouldnt want to be his number one. Ever placed on a pedestal you will get knocked off eventually

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The ones who waited all night for him to call, only to check the caller ID the next morning and be disappointed.

Ive never done this, Id just call myself

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The ones who made it through that bitter break up, dried your own tears, and moved on with your life, only to have him walk back in it months later like nothing ever happened.

Takes two people to have a bitter breakup ... and walking back in her life, well she let him walk back in

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Those of you who cried on the first day you talked again because you knew exactly where this phone call was going

ummmm personally if I knew something was going to be bad Id not let it happen ... esp when its concerning a man

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The ones who listened to him say, I only want to be your friend, one day, and the next, listened to him say how much he loves and misses you.

A women could refuse to put up with that, plus wanting to be a friend and loving and missing a person does all correlate. I have many friends I love and miss. I also love and miss my ex husband who happens to be my friend, and who I happen to be close friends with his current wife.

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We deserve something,

Everyone does

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Here's to the ones that gave him another chance, hoping that maybe this time, he was different, hoping that maybe people really do change

Staying with someone because they may change is a poor reason...

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We listened to our friends tell us that we were stupid for even thinking about giving him another chance, caught shit from our parents, and even snuck around to see him for a while.

Oh this is a highschool boyfriend girlfriend type thing?

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We wanted nothing more in the world than to hear him tell us he loved us too

saying and hearing I love you are not the same as being and giving love, sometimes they go together sometimes not. Its easy to say I love you, its much harder to mean it

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We trained ourselves to believe the lies because we wanted to believe we had found the one for us.

Whos fault is that then? The liar for lying or the reciever because they changed the way they think to compensate for what they knew to be and what they wish it to be?

I had alot more responses but the more I quoted the more cynical I got and thats just not what I want to spend my day feeling.

It takes two to screw up a relationship in almost all cases. It only takes one to be the bigger person and move on. If you look at the world with negative feelings or fear then you will live that. If you look at it as "lesson learned" and grow from it then your in a better place. A sour relationship is not the end of the world, nor should any one person besides a child be placed at the highest most important priorty. Live for yourself and soon a person will love you for yourself.

Good luck and sorry that your heart was broken but its the way of the world. Had I not experienced and given heartbreak I would not be able to appreciate true love and commitment. Its growth and progress.

Good insights... thanks for sharing... I relate to it mostly becuase when I took my marriage vows it was for good... " For better or worse, til death do us part"... I meant it, and I also believe whole heartedly in forgiveness... Sure on a boyfriend / girlfriend level a lot if not most of these feelings can be avoided, unfortunately most often times they are not. However, I believe when you marry someone, you shouldn't be so quick to throw in the towel, no one ever said it would be easy and as a human we all make mistakes. I know I live in a glass house, so I choose to not throw stones.... I only posted this b/c I know a lot of people (men & women can relate). Secretly, deep down most of us want the same thing, to love and be love, to respect and be respected, to want and be wanted... so why do we continue to hurt and be hurt by those we love???

[lisamariewillbe 1]

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" For better or worse, til death do us part"... I meant it, and I also believe whole heartedly in forgiveness...

Thats a good quality, now a days its not always how it works. Then again I have always been somewhat cyncial ... even in highschool id get the "Ill always love you" bit and think ...well ya, until you dont. Its part of me and how I think.

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However, I believe when you marry someone, you shouldn't be so quick to throw in the towel, no one ever said it would be easy and as a human we all make mistakes. I know I live in a glass house, so I choose to not throw stones.... I only posted this b/c I know a lot of people (men & women can relate). Secretly, deep down most of us want the same thing, to love and be love, to respect and be respected, to want and be wanted... so why do we continue to hurt and be hurt by those we love???

I agree, giving up a marriage should not be easy. Its very nice to be loved, I appreciate that I am in that position. Im grateful that I have children to love unconditionally and a husband I look at and know respects me first , loves me second. On the other side, I have hurt and been hurt in past relationships and it sucked at the time, but in the end it was the path that brought me to this life I now have. Its hard to see what the future will be but if you live well, love well, and often , then you will find that when its right.

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

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My only comment here is that a real friend (or mother, sister, etc.) would be there for you when it fell apart and wouldn't make you feel stupid or say "I told you so!" even if she (or he) did indeed tell you so! I hope you have someone like that in your life- we all should.

[llkenziell 0]

That post couldn't have come at a better time.

"Living like fallen angels who lost their halos" - Unknown Prophets

-Love Life-

[apollard24 0]

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That post couldn't have come at a better time.

I was thinking the same exact thing right now.

Breathe out so I can breathe you in...

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That post couldn't have come at a better time.

I was thinking the same exact thing right now.

Im glad I posted it then... HUGZZ to you both... Lord, knows I need them too....

[turtlespeed 212]

And here is to beer!

Cuz it doesn't ever get mad at you when you bring another beer home with you, and will even be happy to see you having both beers at the same time.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
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