galvar2439 0 #1 December 21, 2007 I have been thinking ( Iknow its dangerous) about people and if they can really change if they were jerks, assholes, or just plain mean. What if someone is unfaithful? I mean i know i have changed over the years, when i was a younger man i was a real piece of work, alot of success early was the worst thing that could have happened to me as far as who i was. I am very different in the way i approach situations and much more patient! Never thought i would be a skydiver ( that skydiver part is still under construction). But sometimes my thoughts are just the same as they were back then. Am i still an asshole? Sometimes i wonder.So i just broke up with this woman who wasn't even my girlfriend! Hellfish #782, POPS #10664 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #2 December 21, 2007 People can change but they have to want to. If they do, it may be hard, but it can be done. The fact you realize you were slipping is a good sign. If they don't want to change, you can't make them. Period. You may be able to convince them to want to change though. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Broke 0 #3 December 21, 2007 If everyone you meet is an asshole then yes you are an asshole. As far as the unfaithful thing goes for some people I hope notDivot your source for all things Hillbilly. Anvil Brother 84 SCR 14192 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 622 #4 December 21, 2007 for proper consideration this may need to be moved to the women only forum. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #5 December 21, 2007 Once an asshole, always an asshole. Most people don't change much over the years. And if they did, fuck em, they were assholes in the past. Life is to short not to spend time with those who were never assholes to begin with. Hey asshole.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
galvar2439 0 #6 December 21, 2007 Dude, i have to buy you a beer someday. If we have enough beers we can be assholes with an excuseSo i just broke up with this woman who wasn't even my girlfriend! Hellfish #782, POPS #10664 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Krip 2 #7 December 21, 2007 WHAT One Jump Wonder Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #8 December 21, 2007 yes people can change. When I got married, I was very trusting, very marriage, wife minded, mother minded. The only thing that is still the same there is my kids are still the center of my world and the most important people in my life. As for everything else, I trust NO ONE, until they prove in length they can be trusted. I have MAJOR committment issues and am in it only for me. (used to be I took everyone else into consideration first, and put myself last in everything). I really doubt if I will ever overcome my trust or committment issues.... and I can attribute it 100% to my soon to be ex husband... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sharimcm 0 #9 December 21, 2007 People do change. I used to be sweet and innocent, got married, then divorced. Now I'm a cynical, bitter, and cold-hearted bitch... But, it's all good. I have my circle of friends that will still put up with me. side note - I do collections at work, so I kind of hard to have a cold heart. You purchase it, you pay for it regardless of whatever is going on in your life. "I had a dude tip his black cowboy hat to me after I provided him with a condom outside my hotel room at 3-something in the morning." -myself Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
grannyinthesky 0 #10 December 21, 2007 Yes, people can change, but change doesn't happen overnight. You know, that 2 steps forward, one step backwards. When you're not acting on those thoughts you don't like, you're making progress."safety first... and What the hell..... safety second, Too!!! " ~~jmy POPS #10490 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NtheSeaOrSky 0 #11 December 21, 2007 Quote Yes, people can change, but change doesn't happen overnight. You know, that 2 steps forward, one step backwards. When you're not acting on those thoughts you don't like, you're making progress. I like this answer Life is not fair and there are no guarantees... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #12 December 21, 2007 Quote I used to be sweet and innocent, got married, then divorced. Now I'm a cynical, bitter, and cold-hearted bitch... The funny part is that many of the people reading that will assume you are joking!Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #13 December 21, 2007 Quote Quote I used to be sweet and innocent, got married, then divorced. Now I'm a cynical, bitter, and cold-hearted bitch... The funny part is that many of the people reading that will assume you are joking!Walt Kinda like if I said I used to be shy and quiet. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #14 December 21, 2007 Sure people change. I use to be a nice guy that wanted to get along with everyone. Look at me now. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Beerlight 0 #15 December 21, 2007 Sure they can change. I've found that as I grow older, all the BS crap I used to do as taken a backseat to being a better person. As for trusting someone. I trust first, then if someone screws me, then I put them into "that" category...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 212 #16 December 21, 2007 Quote Kinda like if I said I used to be shy and quiet. I still am.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BelskyBlueEyes 0 #17 December 21, 2007 Pretty much I feel what is in your heart will never change. People with cold hearts will probably always hang on to that in one way or another. I suppose some people may change when something very drastic happens, like they almost die, or lose someone very close to them. All I know is life is too short, learn to be the best person you can be all the time. Be gracious, life is precious. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #18 December 21, 2007 Quote People do change. I used to be sweet and innocent, got married, then divorced. Now I'm a cynical, bitter, and cold-hearted bitch. But you still like your booty calls, dontcha? "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladydyver 0 #19 December 21, 2007 Quote yes people can change. When I got married, I was very trusting, very marriage, wife minded, mother minded. The only thing that is still the same there is my kids are still the center of my world and the most important people in my life. As for everything else, I trust NO ONE, until they prove in length they can be trusted. I have MAJOR committment issues and am in it only for me. (used to be I took everyone else into consideration first, and put myself last in everything). I really doubt if I will ever overcome my trust or committment issues.... and I can attribute it 100% to my soon to be ex husband... Been there done that. Glad I am where I am now - life experiences change you sometimes it is a good thing....sometimes not so good.DPH # 2 "I am not sure what you are suppose to do with that, but I don't think it is suppose to flop around like that." ~Skootz~ I have a strong regard for the rules.......doc! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sharimcm 0 #20 December 21, 2007 Quote Quote People do change. I used to be sweet and innocent, got married, then divorced. Now I'm a cynical, bitter, and cold-hearted bitch. But you still like your booty calls, dontcha? Uh, yeah... I kind of like the fact that I can get up and leave right afterwards and not have to lay there and cuddle. "I had a dude tip his black cowboy hat to me after I provided him with a condom outside my hotel room at 3-something in the morning." -myself Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #21 December 21, 2007 Quote Uh, yeah... I kind of like the fact that I can get up and leave right afterwards and not have to lay there and cuddle. Will you be my new hero!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
galvar2439 0 #22 December 21, 2007 WWWOOOOOO, i hope you get over that anger soon,So i just broke up with this woman who wasn't even my girlfriend! Hellfish #782, POPS #10664 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
