wildcard451 0 #1 February 5, 2009 SO, let' say hypothetically that your anniversary and that god awful day known to women as Valentine's day and to men as "Why the fuck am I buying big red hearts and chocolates" Day....just happen to fall within 2-3 days of each other. Is it reasonable to celebrate them as one event all rolled up into one? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #2 February 5, 2009 Yes, but then again I think Valentine's Day is kinda silly anyway and have never exchanged anything more than silly novelty gifts with my S/O (and this year I'm even going to be traveling that weekend without him). We're going out for a nice dinner a couple nights before ... win win so we won't have to deal with the crowds. YMMV and I'm not responsible for any breakups caused by ridiculous clinging to the tradition of a Hallmark holiday. "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #3 February 5, 2009 Depends on how bad you want to stay with her. "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 622 #4 February 5, 2009 What's an anniversary??? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #5 February 5, 2009 We're saving money for our trip to FL so we're keeping VD low key. There is a local Irish pub that I haven't been to in a while - so we're going to go hang out there. I don't see any problem with combining the two... but maybe you should ask her what she thinks... g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #6 February 5, 2009 Yes, and if your woman doesn't agree, she's broken. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildcard451 0 #7 February 5, 2009 Quote I don't see any problem with combining the two... but maybe you should ask her what she thinks... Gia, sweetheart... I know what she thinks. Hence a poll. And calling it and "issue" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #8 February 5, 2009 My anniversary was on Groundhog Day. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #9 February 5, 2009 Quote Quote I don't see any problem with combining the two... but maybe you should ask her what she thinks... Gia, sweetheart... I know what she thinks. Hence a poll. And calling it and "issue" So... she wants both.... Well buy her a card and something sentimental for VD (candles, bubble bath, massage, wine) and take her to dinner for your ann. g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wayneflorida 0 #10 February 5, 2009 Depends whether you want one BJ or two. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #11 February 5, 2009 QuoteSO, let' say hypothetically that your anniversary and that god awful day known to women as Valentine's day and to men as "Why the fuck am I buying big red hearts and chocolates" Day....just happen to fall within 2-3 days of each other. Is it reasonable to celebrate them as one event all rolled up into one? Of course it's reasonable, but when have you ever expected to find that quality in a woman? Shoot a load in her left eye on the one day, her right eye on the next, and sign the card twice. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 24 #12 February 5, 2009 Dave, you are one classy dude.Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
anthonyfellows 0 #13 February 5, 2009 QuoteYes, and if your woman doesn't agree, she's broken. Very well said. No one will be getting any V-Day gifts from me :) ... Ever :PSerious relationships turn into work after a few weeks and I already got a fucking job :) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ H.A.F. = Hard As Fuck ... Goddamn Amateurs Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #14 February 5, 2009 Quote Quote I don't see any problem with combining the two... but maybe you should ask her what she thinks... Gia, sweetheart... I know what she thinks. Hence a poll. And calling it and "issue" I call that unreasonable and high maintenance. Cut away. I think it ridiculous to expect someone to buy stuff when it is trible priced. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vskydiver 0 #15 February 5, 2009 I think you and your partner should both be on the same page whatever you do. Talk to her about it and go with her wishes. Personally I feel Valentine's Day is a made up consumer thing that I'm not buying. I celebrate Valentine's Day every day with JohnMitchell and I don't need someone to tell me when to buy him chocolate. But then I don't mind if we celebrate our anniversary at the DZ and then go out to Burger King later either. Just spending time with each other is special and means more to me than flowers, diamonds or heart shaped chocolate boxes. You can never get that TIME back, you can always buy chocolate later. I can do without those "things", I can't do without him. That's just my thoughts on the "V Day" and anniversaries. Celebrating our 25th anniversary in June! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 1 #16 February 5, 2009 I am one to not believe in some of these goofy "Hallmark Holidays" yes I know the true hallmark holiday is Sweetest day, but frankly Valentines day is another way to sell stuff. I do not mind if someone wants to celebrate both, but as with anything I just dont expect it. If I had an anniversary that landed around it I would actually be bummed. To much other crap, I would rather celebrate before or after to stay away from the hoopla. Having silly expectations leads to pointless heartbreak! I would much rather have someone do random acts of kindness through out the year. She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #17 February 5, 2009 Quote I think you and your partner should both be on the same page whatever you do. Talk to her about it and go with her wishes. Personally I feel Valentine's Day is a made up consumer thing that I'm not buying. I celebrate Valentine's Day every day with JohnMitchell and I don't need someone to tell me when to buy him chocolate. But then I don't mind if we celebrate our anniversary at the DZ and then go out to Burger King later either. Just spending time with each other is special and means more to me than flowers, diamonds or heart shaped chocolate boxes. You can never get that TIME back, you can always buy chocolate later. I can do without those "things", I can't do without him. That's just my thoughts on the "V Day" and anniversaries. Celebrating our 25th anniversary in June! Exactly what Valinda said. PERFECT!!!! Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #18 February 5, 2009 Quote Dave, you are one classy dude. Likewise Remi. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futuredivot 0 #19 February 5, 2009 Our anniversary is 3 WEEKS before Christmas and the wife gets one gift. If she agreed to get married that close to VDay, she should have known.You are only as strong as the prey you devour Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #20 February 5, 2009 Quote We're saving money for our trip to FL so we're keeping VD low key.... I'd think you'd want to keep VD low key regardless of where you're going...just thinkin'. My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #21 February 5, 2009 Quote Quote We're saving money for our trip to FL so we're keeping VD low key.... I'd think you'd want to keep VD low key regardless of where you're going...just thinkin'. LOL g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #22 February 5, 2009 The best reasonable expectation that you can ever have is that things will work out equally. The hope is that your SO will treat you as well as you treat them. (I don't know if the divorce rate reflects that.) You should send flowers, with a nice card, to their work place so that there is public recognition. Make them a nice dinner. Buy some chocolate. If anyone thinks that doing something small, or spending $50, is too much to do something nice for their SO, then they shouldn't be surprised if life is fair. I also suggest being nice every day, even if it is just a kind word. Then, other events will pale in value. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladydyver 0 #23 February 5, 2009 Doc and I got married on the 16th in mexico....so we celebrate on valentines' day. makes it easy for him to remember and we just keep the one date to celebrate....but this is something we agreed upon prior to setting the wedding date.DPH # 2 "I am not sure what you are suppose to do with that, but I don't think it is suppose to flop around like that." ~Skootz~ I have a strong regard for the rules.......doc! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladydyver 0 #24 February 5, 2009 Quote Quote SO, let' say hypothetically that your anniversary and that god awful day known to women as Valentine's day and to men as "Why the fuck am I buying big red hearts and chocolates" Day....just happen to fall within 2-3 days of each other. Is it reasonable to celebrate them as one event all rolled up into one? Of course it's reasonable, but when have you ever expected to find that quality in a woman? Shoot a load in her left eye on the one day, her right eye on the next, and sign the card twice. Blues, Dave Thats it Todak! Aspirin for you if you ever get a kidney stone DPH # 2 "I am not sure what you are suppose to do with that, but I don't think it is suppose to flop around like that." ~Skootz~ I have a strong regard for the rules.......doc! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caress 0 #25 February 5, 2009 In this economy that is a big yes! Be up front about it to her though and make it clear for goodness sake. Plan it together. Then it is no big deal. Things are only complicated if you make them that way.-Caress I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
